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Dr. Pain
08-25-2002, 05:22 PM
Now what I'm really trying to say and can't in poll choices, is NOT ONLY how important is sex/love making to a relationship, but also how important is the "Quality" and "Quantity?"

An example range would be "Incredible Sex"....but with the "Queen Bitch of the Universe"..can't stand each other two minutes out of bed....to.....

........Mediocre Sex with someone you adore, love and the "other" aspects of your realtionship are of greater quality!

or I guess to "really bad sex".....because?

So, how "Important is Sex?

DP


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bigss75
08-25-2002, 05:30 PM
I could find or pay for a girl to have sex with but not many will put up with your shit 24/7. Also some hot girls they would be good lays but again I couldnt stand some of them if they were annoying

Prince
08-25-2002, 06:28 PM
the actual act of sex (intercourse) is a small part of a relationship. If it is very important in a relationship then I would say there is a lot lacking in other areas of that relationship.

for females I would say that intimacy is extremely important, not necessarily the act of sex.

Mudge
08-25-2002, 07:21 PM
I prefer to be with someone that I generally don't think about sexually that much, I don't dig fat chicks or etc, and I always go out with what I consider to be good looking women, but I need someone that is my best friend, where sexual relations are secondary and just a BONUS on top of an already awesome package deal.

LAM
08-25-2002, 09:49 PM
I had to vote #5. I'm still happily single and have no problems in that dept. but I've seen more marriages come to an end for financial reasons and sexual incompatibilities...

Dr. Pain
08-26-2002, 06:00 AM
More views? :D

DP

david
08-26-2002, 08:24 AM
I choose # 4 because the fact that when we find our lovers/partners/mate, we are enslaved in mating! Without it or negligence towards it sometimes often leads to jumping ships as we commonly see with others in this world.

ponyboy
08-26-2002, 10:58 AM
I picked number 4 as well, simply because I believe to have a good relationship you have to connect on all four levels: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

With any of these parts missing it can be difficult to maintain things, as I have learned from experience.

Plus, being connected with someone on all levels makes each of them that much better...sex is always better when you are actually making love rather than just f**king. Your whole body and mind gets into it and it makes it really great, rather than just doing the 20 Pump Dump (which can have its merits as well).

ZECH
09-06-2002, 06:51 PM
I picked #4 also!! Why do you think people cheat?? Not happy with sex at home!! Lots of people fall into this one!! But I think it can be worked on. PB and DJ gave good answers!

dino
09-06-2002, 08:48 PM
I picked # 3...

I think it is important, but not everything in a relationship. Sex can be worked at. But if there are more important qualities missing from the relationship, then they may be harder to work at. For example TRUST.....With trust, your partner may be willing to try new things in the bedroom, but without it the sex becomes the same...
You need communication in a relationship. IF you don't have that, and you are not comfortable with your partner, then how do you tell them what you like, and dislike about sex.

Anyway, I'm gonna ramble on forever. But sex is important, because you need to be attracted to your mate, but it is not everything in a relationship......

Fit Freak
09-07-2002, 03:58 AM
I'd say a toss-up b/w #2 and #3. it's important to have the attraction, however, I want my g/f to be my best friend. Based on that, sex...or great sex (even better) is more of a bonus.

EarWax
09-12-2002, 03:51 PM
The Tent Pole

Joe woke up one morning and looked for his wife, but his wife wasn't there. She had awakened and was preparing breakfast in the kitchen. Joe was afraid he might spoil 'the moment' by getting up, so he called his little boy and sent this note to his wife:

THE TENT POLE IS UP,
THE CANVAS IS SPREAD,
TO HELL WITH BREAKFAST,
COME BACK TO BED.

The wife answered the note and sent it back by the boy. It read:

TAKE THE TENT POLE DOWN
PUT THE CANVAS AWAY
THE MONKEY IS BLEEDING
NO CIRCUS TODAY.

So he sent another note down. It read:

THE TENT POLE'S STILL UP
AND THE CANVAS STILL SPREAD
SO DROP WHAT YOU'RE DOING
AND COME GIVE ME SOME HEAD

To which she replied:

I'M SURE THAT YOUR POLE'S
THE BEST IN THE LAND
BUT I'M BUSY RIGHT NOW
SO DO IT BY HAND!

Anon.

cornfed
09-20-2002, 11:06 AM
Bottom line, it shouldn't have to be important. If you took it out of the equation, what do you have left? Not much? Then is it really a relationship or is it a long term booty call? If gratification is the most important thing or even a necessity, then think about further down the road... children :D ... there's what? at least 3months of no sex even possible, much less other forms of intimacy that the mate may not be up to or feel like.

Having said that... I'm not revealing my vote :p

Dr. Pain
09-20-2002, 03:44 PM
For the record Cornfed.....

you have sex up till the last moment..trying to "break the water" and dent the kids head (don't worry, they're soft and can take it") :D

Then back in the saddle ASAP! Maybe 10 days 2 weeks! :D

(Damn that was too fucking long)


DP

cornfed
09-26-2002, 02:19 PM
Ummm... but how many times does it get into... "you think I'm fat, don't you?" "is that all you can think about?" "what if something happenned?" "I'm not in the mood" :scratch:

nikegurl
09-26-2002, 02:31 PM
Call me crazy....I want it all. The best friend thing, the person who knows you best and loves you still, you maybe want to choke eachother on occassion (but you don't).....AND great sex.

It isn't everything but it's a very important something. By itself it wouldn't be worth sticking around long term. But without it....

I said #4. :love:

Muscle_Girl
09-26-2002, 03:56 PM
#5 for me.

Sex is portrayed in so many different ways.

There is intimacy which is considered on so many levels, from as little as talking and listening to actually starting a family through love making, and then there are "mistakes." (or stuff that has not really been planned)

Sex can be kissing, cuddling, fondling, actual foreplay, or intercourse. All are needed within a relationship, without would be nothing!

We all need someone to want us in atleast one way, and if it's more than one then you feel more wanted or needed. It's the way we play our lives and if we were to live without love or intimacy what is the point in living at all?

BigAL
10-05-2002, 10:52 AM
First and foremost, the woman has to be financially well off and intelligent, sex and looks comes second.

cornfed
10-07-2002, 07:14 PM
Originally posted by BigAL
First and foremost, the woman has to be financially well off and intelligent, sex and looks comes second.
Amen to that, brother. :D
:thumb:

Dero
10-07-2002, 07:17 PM
OMG,is that really you???
You little innocent blondy!!!!!
Where have ya been hiding????


How goes it Cornfed????

cornfed
10-07-2002, 07:35 PM
It goes... just been busy or quiet...I know, no gasping at that... but I've been here. Just not whorin' it up as much. I'm on my way offline, but how're you, bud?

Dr. Pain
10-07-2002, 07:50 PM
You guys must really think SEX is important...cuz you are FUCKIN' UP my thread! :D :laugh: :lol:


DP

buff_tat2d_chic
10-07-2002, 07:52 PM
I voted for #5. There was a time...a few years back that I would have said that sex wasn't much of a relationship or could be worked out...BUT the closer I get to my middle thirties the more I think sex is VERY important.
I used to hear when I was younger that I would hit my peak in my mid 30's...I thought, yea right!

DAMN!! I am 32 and sex is ALL good! :dance:

Dr. Pain
10-07-2002, 07:56 PM
Originally posted by newly_buff
I voted for #5. There was a time...a few years back that I would have said that sex wasn't much of a relationship or could be worked out...BUT the closer I get to my middle thirties the more I think sex is VERY important.
I used to hear when I was younger that I would hit my peak in my mid 30's...I thought, yea right!

DAMN!! I am 32 and sex is ALL good! :dance:

A few more years and "All Sex is good!" :D :p


DP

Dero
10-07-2002, 07:59 PM
Originally posted by Dr. Pain
You guys must really think SEX is important...cuz you are FUCKIN' UP my thread! :D :laugh: :lol:


DP
DP,sex is like a well balance diet,it has it's place and time...
Right now I'm saying HI to a buddy of mine!!!
You mind?????
:p
Cornfed,I'm doing fine,was wondering where you had been,good to hear you're OK:thumb: :thumb:

Now DP,that was the time for socializing...
NOW!!!
IT"S SEX TIME!!!!
:D
Sorry...I lost it for a sec...OF COURSE SEX IS IMPORTANT!!!!!!
:thumb:

Dero
10-07-2002, 08:00 PM
Originally posted by Dr. Pain


A few more years and "All Sex is good!" :D :p


DP

What you there DP?:rolleyes: :p

buff_tat2d_chic
10-07-2002, 08:02 PM
Originally posted by Dr. Pain


A few more years and "All Sex is good!" :D :p


DP

Bummer! What did ya wanna go and tell me that for?
:( Now what do I have to look forward to???

LMFAO!! ALL GOOD!! :thumb:

Dr. Pain
10-07-2002, 08:07 PM
Originally posted by newly_buff


:( Now what do I have to look forward to???




LOTS AND LOTS OF SEX!

DP

buff_tat2d_chic
10-07-2002, 08:17 PM
Originally posted by Dr. Pain


A few more years and "All Sex is good!" :D :p


DP

:yell: Where the fuck did my post go?!?!?!?! I already replied to this...hmmmm.

Am I going to have to post it all over again?!?!?! :yell:

buff_tat2d_chic
10-07-2002, 08:19 PM
Originally posted by newly_buff


:yell: Where the fuck did my post go?!?!?!?! I already replied to this...hmmmm.

Am I going to have to post it all over again?!?!?! :yell:

Well damn!! now it is there....WTF???

ok, I give up.:headbang:

buff_tat2d_chic
10-07-2002, 08:21 PM
:haha: :haha:

I think I am finally learning how to be a post whore! lmao

Dero
10-08-2002, 03:39 PM
Should maybe try it in the "post whore threads"
Hi DP,just saying HI...:hello:

Trap-isaurus
10-08-2002, 06:15 PM
How Big of a role does ex play in a relationship?

When we (men) are single and on the hunt a few of the lines we use to have sex, "It's okay baby I just want to cuddle" or "Not until you're ready, it's not that important to me" or "If you think we should wait, then I do to" ...... Lies Lies Lies, sex is of course a big part of the begginning of a relationship, see we chased and hopefully caught a women in order to have sex with her.

From there on it's a matter of a continous string of lies to have sex as often as we can(I.E "I really want to see sweet november with you"=Bend over, or "You really look great"=Bend over, or "Those pants don't make you look fat"=Bend over, or "Oooh an opera I'm so excited"=Bend over, ) so most men will tell you no it's not that big a deal, what you should be hearing is "Bend Over!!!!"


I speak mainly for myself and a few close friends outside the intranet :D

Dero
10-08-2002, 07:20 PM
Two person involved in a relationship have to learn to be friends to each other,first!!!
If they cannot be friends and the relationship is souly based on sex,it (the relationship )will only last as long as the sexual action is good.

A relationship has to be based on :

-FRIENDSHIP
-Trust
-Compation
-Understanding
-Love

-BUTT NOT JUST SEX!!!

If it's just sex you want,get yourself a male/female hooker.

Xcuse the blatantness butt,that's the way it has to be...
In My Humble Opinion...

:)

Trap-isaurus
10-10-2002, 01:56 PM
Originally posted by Dero
Two person involved in a relationship have to learn to be friends to each other,first!!!
If they cannot be friends and the relationship is souly based on sex,it (the relationship )will only last as long as the sexual action is good.

A relationship has to be based on :

-FRIENDSHIP
-Trust
-Compation
-Understanding
-Love

-BUTT NOT JUST SEX!!!

If it's just sex you want,get yourself a male/female hooker.

Xcuse the blatantness butt,that's the way it has to be...
In My Humble Opinion...

:)

I refer to my post above dero's ...... he must not be getting any!!!


:p:D

urso8up
11-09-2002, 04:25 AM
Sex is not very important in a realationship I say the communitcation and openness is more important because with out that you have nothing

Duncan
11-19-2002, 10:39 AM
I chose Other because I think the real question we need to be asking ourselves is what kind of a role do relationships have in sex, not vice versa.

GFR
06-04-2005, 08:30 PM
90% of the time I would rather f--k her than talk to her so I say sex is 90% of the relationship..yes I'm bitter and don't believe in love anymore.

god hand
06-05-2005, 07:37 PM
90% of the time I would rather f--k her than talk to her so I say sex is 90% of the relationship..yes I'm bitter and don't believe in love anymore.
Ouch! I do believe in love, but like everything else, nothing lasts forever. :(

Little Wing
06-06-2005, 05:55 AM
i am a very sexual person but sex isn't everything if i had to choose between love and sex i'd choose love. luckily i don't. i would not stay with a man who took his pleasure and neglected mine but i would stay with a man who loved me and i loved who could not have sex. it's complicated like people are.

Prince
06-15-2005, 09:47 PM
if i had to choose between love and sex i'd choose love.

wouldn't every female?

Jeeper
12-01-2005, 06:53 PM
Sex is very important if you have a bad sex life. If your sex life is good to great then it really isnt important.

SuperFlex
12-01-2005, 07:19 PM
the actual act of sex (intercourse) is a small part of a relationship. If it is very important in a relationship then I would say there is a lot lacking in other areas of that relationship.

for females I would say that intimacy is extremely important, not necessarily the act of sex.
Dude she's cheating on you...:p

GFR
12-01-2005, 11:06 PM
Dude she's cheating on you...:p
Rob, SuperFlex has crossed the line





Ban him!!!!

Little Wing
12-20-2005, 05:49 PM
wouldn't every female?

you are a lucky man if the women you have known made you believe this. i have seen too many women throw away marriages for flings to believe it.

The Monkey Man
01-03-2006, 05:44 PM
I have seen too many women throw away marriages for flings to believe it.

I have seen too many couples throw away lives without flings :cheeky:

BritChick
02-09-2006, 06:47 AM
Sex is very important if you have a bad sex life. If your sex life is good to great then it really isnt important.

Uh huh, and for everyone that says it's not that important and if it were missing it wouldn't be an issue they probably haven't experienced it missing in a relationship.
Everyone has a different interpretation of a bad sex life.
It's not everything in a relationship but it is a BIG part of a it.
With all life's stresses and bs, when that side of the relationship starts to fail it can have an impact on the way you view all the other 'little' grievances you have.
It's all connected, it's important to a relationship for the intimacy, for the physical and emotional connection and yes to quell those primal sexual urges -hell we're still animals after all!
It's a complicated issue - if you are lacking in that department in your relationship then you start doing a lot of evaluating as to the reasons why, loss of desire, loss of libido, medical problems, sexual problems, then you start to analyze the whole 'what to do' about it issues, is it fixable, does the other person want to fix it, how much effort are they willing to put in, if it's not important to them why not, what will you do if it doesn't change... for all of you that say it's not important - if it meant you would have to remain celibate for the rest of your life could you or would you be prepared to??? :hmmm:
Then comes the lofty decision of whether to leave an otherwise good relationship or cheat, often neither option is a good option.
Physical urges can be pretty compounding and most of us weren't destined for a life of celibacy. :shrug:
Oh and for those of you that think women only need it to feel loved and for the intimacy and not for the act of sex that's a TOTAL load of bunk imo.! :p
Good grief have women really had you that hoodwinked?! :laugh:

Steele20
03-21-2006, 09:21 AM
my girlfriend is pre-marital ='( oh well.

cornfed
06-07-2013, 10:41 PM
Resurrecting an old thread. Every relationship has a multitude of facets, but regardless of statistics or "x per week"... etc (in any facet), It all comes down to the goal/purpose of a relationship and the way that the motivation effects the truth value of aforementioned act/interaction.

BTW, looking back on old threads and posts is hugely entertaining and enlightening on what remains true and that which evolves, for better or worse :thinking:

theCaptn'
06-08-2013, 05:14 AM
Dude you're the resurrection! This is from 2002! :lol:

KILLEROFSAINTS
06-08-2013, 05:15 AM
without sex you are just friends

cornfed
06-08-2013, 06:30 AM
Dude you're the resurrection! This is from 2002! :lol:
No doubt, LOL... Time flies, new handles arise and yet topics of threads seem to remain consistent... That being said, Yes. I'm an ancient Fart.:hiya:

heavyiron
06-09-2013, 04:20 PM
Sex is critical in any healthy serious relationship.

theCaptn'
06-09-2013, 04:33 PM
Sex is critical in any healthy serious relationship.

And unhealthy ones alike!

castlehill
06-17-2013, 07:49 PM
Maybe it's my drive but if I was in a relationship without sex I would find it somewhere else. Baring medical reasons, why would there not be sex? To me it is not simply about the act of sex but the passion and intimacy, that is what I think about as my escape from stress. I want to be with her! With that said, there has to be a lot more than sex though! If she is not my best friend it won't last, but if she is extremely hot and rocks in bed I will try for a while lol.