ARGH parents!

leg_press · 08-14-2006, 07:38 AM

After all the trouble I have had getting six meals a day down me, my Mum sat me down and talked to me over the weekend and said that she's worried I am going to be obese if I keep eating six meals a day. I have told her until I am blue in the face that i'm only halving my usual meals and gave her some info that I had found online but she wont have it.

Do you guys have any information you could attach or links that will help my case?

TJ Cline · 08-14-2006, 07:39 AM

You're 21.....move out of Mums house.

**IainDaniel** · 08-14-2006, 08:35 AM

Keep being consistent with educating your parents about nutrition. It is amazing how ignorant the world is about eating habits. Does she have a reason to think you will be obese?

and to go along with Foreman, pay for your own bills or move to your own place... that way you can live under your own rules.

leg_press · 08-14-2006, 11:10 AM

She just thinks more food = more weigh. The prices for rental would mean I didnt have money to train or eat, or I would have moved out a year or so ago

**IainDaniel** · 08-14-2006, 11:12 AM

so if you ate three meals with a shitload of Cals she would be fine with that. compared to 6 meals with decent cals and macro breakdown?

Again. Keep trying to educate her.

PWGriffin · 08-14-2006, 12:48 PM

I'm totally picturing the angry fat kid on atkins in the new version of "the bad news bears"

cpush · 08-14-2006, 02:48 PM

yeah my mom doesnt believe i get enough variety in my diet. to her, variety = different flavors of cereal, hamburger helper, pizza, sloppy joes, chips, bagels...

if I'm ever sick or not feeling well she blames it on my diet.
I just ignore her.

BraveUlysses · 08-14-2006, 02:54 PM

Information that can help your case? Youre 21! You can do whatever the fuck you want...

**IainDaniel** · 08-14-2006, 03:08 PM

Information that will damper his case. He lives with mommy and daddy. So he lives by there rules.

**Gazhole** · 08-14-2006, 03:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cpush

yeah my mom doesnt believe i get enough variety in my diet. to her, variety = different flavors of cereal, hamburger helper, pizza, sloppy joes, chips, bagels...

if I'm ever sick or not feeling well she blames it on my diet.
I just ignore her.

Sometimes thats the best way.

Martinogdenbsx · 08-14-2006, 03:37 PM

tell her to speak to my mum,i eat 6 meals a day i was fat and now my mum thinks im on steroids because i have changed my body so dramatically

r0dxx · 08-14-2006, 04:07 PM

lol sounds like my mom

"You eat way too much tuna"
"How can you eat soo much oatmeal"
"Why cant you eat like a normal person"
"Your always eating"
"Your way too strict"
"It's not healthy to have such low bodyfat" - lmao
"Your getting too cut"
"You are eating too much protein"
"You need to have more variety in your diet"
"You drink too much water, thats not good"

I hear this stuff on a daily basis.

leg_press · 08-15-2006, 09:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IainDaniel

Information that will damper his case. He lives with mommy and daddy. So he lives by there rules. 'Daddy' moved to the US last Oct to set up home with a waitress from Tenessee who he met on his holidays there, he even bought a freakin home while he was on holiday!

'Daddy' moved to the US last Oct to set up home with a waitress from Tenessee who he met on his holiday there, he even bought a freakin home while he was on holiday!

leg_press · 08-15-2006, 09:33 AM

Now thats out in the open Mums calmed down abit now, she was wound up as she couldnt fit her eggs butter in the fridge for her cake making.

shiznit2169 · 08-15-2006, 09:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by r0dxx

lol sounds like my mom

"You eat way too much tuna"
"How can you eat soo much oatmeal"
"Why cant you eat like a normal person"
"Your always eating"
"Your way too strict"
"It's not healthy to have such low bodyfat" - lmao
"Your getting too cut"
"You are eating too much protein"
"You need to have more variety in your diet"
"You drink too much water, thats not good"

I hear this stuff on a daily basis.

I get those too (in bold)

Trouble · 08-15-2006, 05:02 PM

Sorry to hear of your trevails, Leg_Press; I think Mum is a bit stressed still over the bad business with your Dad. Do you help pay for your food? She might be looking at it from a cost standpoint (it IS more expensive than conventional diets), but more likely, its her way of trying to be the good parent.

Make sure she understands that you are investing in your health, through careful dieting, training, and sleep. You might talk to her about trying your angle - improving her own diet and adding regular exercise to help her cope with the increased stress load she faces. The improvement in self esteem and confidence alone is worth the initial struggle to adopt new lifestyle habits.

Get her involved in healthy exercise and eating, and you may find you and your Mum being much more tolerant and supportive of one another.

GoalGetter · 08-15-2006, 05:06 PM

So different for a cuban girl who is dieting - when i was cutting last year my parents, who were notorious for overfeeding their kids all sorts of processed crap and fried cuban food, would say, "you look like you have AIDS! My god! Please eat something! Here, have some more..."

Funny thing was that I was eating tons of food, but all of it healthy, lots of it various shades of green, and none of it fried or covered in sugar. I was at like 14% bf, about 102 pounds, and looked AWESOME. Only my parents thought there was something wrong with that. It was as frustrating to me as your situation seems to be for you because they just didn't understand.

Just keep doing what you're doing, let your results speak for themselves as they start to show. She will get it eventually.

On a more personal note: that sucks about your dad. Shows how unpredictable life really is. I hope your mom is doing ok. It must have been really rough for her.
-----

edit: ALso, EXCELLENT advice by Trouble above.

08-14-2006, 07:38 AM	#1
leg_press Starting a fresh Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: England United Kingdom Posts: 1,138 Photos: 4	ARGH parents! After all the trouble I have had getting six meals a day down me, my Mum sat me down and talked to me over the weekend and said that she's worried I am going to be obese if I keep eating six meals a day. I have told her until I am blue in the face that i'm only halving my usual meals and gave her some info that I had found online but she wont have it. Do you guys have any information you could attach or links that will help my case?
	"Lift big, eat big, rest big" "Rome wasnt built in a day" "Go heavy or go home."

08-14-2006, 07:39 AM	#2
TJ Cline Member Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 12,544	You're 21.....move out of Mums house.
TJ Cline Member Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 12,544

08-14-2006, 08:35 AM	#3
IainDaniel My Role Model Moderator Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 15,612	Keep being consistent with educating your parents about nutrition. It is amazing how ignorant the world is about eating habits. Does she have a reason to think you will be obese? and to go along with Foreman, pay for your own bills or move to your own place... that way you can live under your own rules.
	Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it. Michael Jordan

08-14-2006, 11:10 AM	#4
leg_press Starting a fresh Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: England United Kingdom Posts: 1,138 Photos: 4	She just thinks more food = more weigh. The prices for rental would mean I didnt have money to train or eat, or I would have moved out a year or so ago
	"Lift big, eat big, rest big" "Rome wasnt built in a day" "Go heavy or go home."

08-14-2006, 11:12 AM	#5
IainDaniel My Role Model Moderator Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 15,612	so if you ate three meals with a shitload of Cals she would be fine with that. compared to 6 meals with decent cals and macro breakdown? Again. Keep trying to educate her.
	Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it. Michael Jordan

08-14-2006, 02:48 PM	#7
cpush Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 206	yeah my mom doesnt believe i get enough variety in my diet. to her, variety = different flavors of cereal, hamburger helper, pizza, sloppy joes, chips, bagels... if I'm ever sick or not feeling well she blames it on my diet. I just ignore her.
cpush Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 206

08-14-2006, 02:54 PM	#8
BraveUlysses Blue note boy. Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Antigua Posts: 84 Photos: 3	Information that can help your case? Youre 21! You can do whatever the fuck you want...
	The Dude abides.

08-14-2006, 03:08 PM	#9
IainDaniel My Role Model Moderator Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 15,612	Information that will damper his case. He lives with mommy and daddy. So he lives by there rules.
	Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it. Michael Jordan

08-14-2006, 03:37 PM	#11
Martinogdenbsx Dedicated to one thing!!! Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: UK Posts: 1,149	tell her to speak to my mum,i eat 6 meals a day i was fat and now my mum thinks im on steroids because i have changed my body so dramatically

08-14-2006, 04:07 PM	#12
r0dxx Registered User Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 584	lol sounds like my mom "You eat way too much tuna" "How can you eat soo much oatmeal" "Why cant you eat like a normal person" "Your always eating" "Your way too strict" "It's not healthy to have such low bodyfat" - lmao "Your getting too cut" "You are eating too much protein" "You need to have more variety in your diet" "You drink too much water, thats not good" I hear this stuff on a daily basis.
r0dxx Registered User Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 584

08-15-2006, 09:33 AM	#14
leg_press Starting a fresh Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: England United Kingdom Posts: 1,138 Photos: 4	Now thats out in the open Mums calmed down abit now, she was wound up as she couldnt fit her eggs butter in the fridge for her cake making.
	"Lift big, eat big, rest big" "Rome wasnt built in a day" "Go heavy or go home."

08-15-2006, 05:02 PM	#16
Trouble Anti-mediocrity Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: On Loan From A Distant Star System Posts: 2,080 Photos: 2	Sorry to hear of your trevails, Leg_Press; I think Mum is a bit stressed still over the bad business with your Dad. Do you help pay for your food? She might be looking at it from a cost standpoint (it IS more expensive than conventional diets), but more likely, its her way of trying to be the good parent. Make sure she understands that you are investing in your health, through careful dieting, training, and sleep. You might talk to her about trying your angle - improving her own diet and adding regular exercise to help her cope with the increased stress load she faces. The improvement in self esteem and confidence alone is worth the initial struggle to adopt new lifestyle habits. Get her involved in healthy exercise and eating, and you may find you and your Mum being much more tolerant and supportive of one another.

08-15-2006, 05:06 PM	#17
GoalGetter is still around... Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Arizona Posts: 6,097	So different for a cuban girl who is dieting - when i was cutting last year my parents, who were notorious for overfeeding their kids all sorts of processed crap and fried cuban food, would say, "you look like you have AIDS! My god! Please eat something! Here, have some more..." Funny thing was that I was eating tons of food, but all of it healthy, lots of it various shades of green, and none of it fried or covered in sugar. I was at like 14% bf, about 102 pounds, and looked AWESOME. Only my parents thought there was something wrong with that. It was as frustrating to me as your situation seems to be for you because they just didn't understand. Just keep doing what you're doing, let your results speak for themselves as they start to show. She will get it eventually. On a more personal note: that sucks about your dad. Shows how unpredictable life really is. I hope your mom is doing ok. It must have been really rough for her. ----- edit: ALso, EXCELLENT advice by Trouble above.

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