I'm very glad to see you watching your diet and lifting weights - so few women know to do this.
Now - I've walked down this road and I've summarized how I did it. Have a peek at my blog and see what parts might help you.
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What part in particular would you like help with? Your training needs some work - you are doing everything in very high rep ranges and there are far more effective ways to train.
Read the blog link - start at the top and work your way down. Let me know what I can do to help.