Thread: Why do girls like assholes and standoff'ish guys better than funnay and outgoing boy?

Originally Posted by minimal

Discusss.

They don't you are wrong

They need something to fix

Eventually those females give up but by that time all the good guys are off the market. Then they bitch about how all men are assholes.

In my experience, 90% of the time it all comes back to Daddy issues. Seems the majority of women want to date a guy like Daddy, or get Daddy's attention by pissing him off.

A lot of women have Fathers that are either assholes, or, they believe dating an asshole will piss daddy off.

In addition, part of it, I'm sure, is a lot of guys who are nice and considerate come off as pussies. Women want to date men. Not a throw towel.

Originally Posted by theCaptn'

They don't you are wrong

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So being polite, considerate and respectful is not masculine?

i think bio chem is one of the best men on IM and i don't think he ever would be a standoffish asshole to a woman. it takes a lot more manliness to be a good guy than it does to be an asshole.

^ you act like you can read people on the internet. No one knows anyone. Let alone an internet persona you interact with from time to time.

My advice to any younger cats is, change for no bitch. If youre a moody prick, dont turn into an upbeat douchebag just to sync with her. Theres only so long you'll keep that up and the contrast back to assholishness will be stark and alarming to her. I know its cliche but be yourself. And to discuss....the guy becomes the asshole as the relationship progresses. Shes already attached at that point and doesnt want to "break up", so the shitty attitude on his side persists and worsens.

Originally Posted by SFW

^ you act like you can read people on the internet.

if someone has talked about their values etc and been consistent for years you can get a very solid idea who they are even online. there are a few people on here i do not think would be much different to talk to in person and yes i've met imers in real life and they have been who i thought they were from our online discussions. it's the internet not fairy tales r us. some people are sincere online.

Youre either naive or arrogant to believe that you can know people online. Good judge of character vs. Imaginary perceptions of someone = two diff things

Originally Posted by SFW

Youre either naive or arrogant to believe that you can know people online. Good judge of character vs. Imaginary perceptions of someone = two diff things

um as i said i have met people after getting to know them online and was not much surprised. the only thing way unexpected was the voice. i do know people though who have really been fucked over thinking they knew people who were creating a fake persona online. need to use your head and keep in mind till you meet a person could be fos. sometimes they aren't though. i'd be willing to bet you biochem is who he says he is. he's not some moral less asshole masquerading online as a man who cares whether he really is a good man or a bad one. i've not met him in person but i bet he's a good guy.

Originally Posted by SFW

My advice to any younger cats is, change for no bitch. If youre a moody prick, dont turn into an upbeat douchebag just to sync with her.

That's terrible advice. Here is a better one, stop being an asshole and work on some real character that doesn't derive from insecurity and lack of self-worth.

you forgot good looks.. think about it. Nice guy, ugly? or asshole/standoffish, good looking?

There are plenty of factors that are not mentioned, but you are wrong..

In years gone past I tested this theory. Honestly. Just to see what the facts were. I started dating a girl, treated her like fucking gold. Held her up on a pedistal and she walked all over me. It got bad and in the end I couldnt believe I let myself secum to that.

I dated some others who I acted like they didnt matter. I did what I want and did it when I wanted. If I showed her some attention she just ate it up. If I included her in something I was doing, well fuck I was the king. In the end of those ones, I couldnt believe aa girl would let some one run over her like that. It actually repulsed me.

Fast forward to the wife, well we're married and I will leave it like that, LOL.

Originally Posted by red rocket

Fast forward to the wife, well we're married and I will leave it like that, LOL.

so how are you with your wife? are you more like a nice guy or more like a king?

Well started out as the nice guy, got walked all over. Went throught the bullshit of the shift in power.

Now its kinda a give and take, I give she takes, lol.

Nah, its work on both ends all the time.

Originally Posted by SFW

Youre either naive or arrogant to believe that you can know people online. Good judge of character vs. Imaginary perceptions of someone = two diff things

What are you talking about? It is arrogant and naive to believe you can know anyone. Most people can't even muster the courage to get to know themselves.

I agree with LW that when someone has been consistent on their core beliefs and ideas for well over 8 years now on line that you could make an assumption about that person and probably be in the same ball park as making an assumption about a friend in your real life.

The heart of IM consist of a community of people who have known each other for a very long time. The rest of the 20 to 30 other regular posters consist of corndog shitheads who pretend to be Johnny big dick football hero and 70ish IQ lunatics who think IM is their own personal political blog.

Originally Posted by SFW

You're either naive or arrogant to believe that you can know people online. Good judge of character vs. Imaginary perceptions of someone = two diff things

I disagree with that.

Why do girls like assholes and standoff'ish guys better than funnay and outgoing boy?

I think that's a false dichotomy. Funny outgoing guys can be real assholes and standoffish toward certain people.

I suppose it comes down to how much self esteem they have. And how young they are. When I was younger I was so into the challenge but as I grew up and matured it is not about the challenge it is about the connection.

I love guys who make me laugh. I hate ASSHOLES

its the assholes who are the outgoing ones

A woman told me once that she goes after those sort of guys (rsoles) so she can try & " conquer them with her love"!!!!blurghhhhh

Originally Posted by theCaptn'

They don't you are wrong

+1

some go after that but the majority of girls i think go after "normal" guys. I also think guys that feel that women only go after a-holes are too nice and too giving (and yes there is such a thing) and have low self esteem that is noticible and therefore a turn off.

no one wants to be treated like sht

I would pick funny over asshole any day. We do like nice guys, but we don't like guys that will let us walk all over them either. Wooped! There has to be a happy medium. I think that goes for both sexes.

Originally Posted by Gena Marie

I would pick funny over asshole any day. We do like nice guys, but we don't like guys that will let us walk all over them either. Wooped! There has to be a happy medium. I think that goes for both sexes.

that must mean that I am a funny guy!

Yes baby, you are very funny, and very rarely an asshole, well to me anyway

Originally Posted by Prince

that must mean that I am a funny guy!

Yes baby, you are very funny, and very rarely an asshole, well to me anyway

Funny guys almost always get laid more then ass holes. I have a ugly ass cousin who is shit in your pants on the spot funny and he get laid by good 8/10 often. Nice guys do usually finish last so if your a nice guy reading this good luck.

I think its neither. It how fat your wallet is. My exwife told me she would want to get back together if I started making more money. She fukin told me that! w/e bitch keep step'n