Concern about partner's dietary... issue.

BlueCorsair · 09-04-2009, 02:03 AM

EDIT:

Feedback sooner than I thought, and considered. Ramblings tend to be my way of things, and it's good to air things to keep my head clear. Want to provide the most supportive environment that I can, and I think I have the tack on that now. In the end, it's more about my role than anything else, and I want it to be the right one.

Much appreciation as usual for the sound advice from someone who isn't personally involved!

**Built** · 09-04-2009, 02:29 AM

You have to back off.

Seriously.

You cannot do anything to make this change. She has to come to it herself, and she's clearly feeling judged and deprived.

Regarding "unhealthy", who the hell cares? I eat whatever I want if it fits my macros. And sometimes, even if it doesn't.

It's her body. She has to feel comfortable in it, and ideally, around you.

Have a think on something for a moment: think of something about yourself you'd like to change. Have you given it a go at any point in your life? Hard, isn't it, and it's YOU you want to change, and you WANT to change.

Now consider the utter futility of trying to change someone else.

Drop it, now, completely and forever. Or be prepared to deal with the increasing distance that will happen between the two of you over time.

Your call.

09-04-2009, 02:03 AM	#1
BlueCorsair The Blue Corsair Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC, Canada Posts: 308 Photos: 4	Concern about partner's dietary... issue. EDIT: Feedback sooner than I thought, and considered. Ramblings tend to be my way of things, and it's good to air things to keep my head clear. Want to provide the most supportive environment that I can, and I think I have the tack on that now. In the end, it's more about my role than anything else, and I want it to be the right one. Much appreciation as usual for the sound advice from someone who isn't personally involved! "Associate yourself with men of good character, if you esteem your own reputation. For 'tis better to be alone, than in bad company." - George Washington Last edited by BlueCorsair : 09-04-2009 at 02:38 AM.

09-04-2009, 02:29 AM	#2
Built Bioidentical Bodybuilder Super Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: . Posts: 6,113	You have to back off. Seriously. You cannot do anything to make this change. She has to come to it herself, and she's clearly feeling judged and deprived. Regarding "unhealthy", who the hell cares? I eat whatever I want if it fits my macros. And sometimes, even if it doesn't. It's her body. She has to feel comfortable in it, and ideally, around you. Have a think on something for a moment: think of something about yourself you'd like to change. Have you given it a go at any point in your life? Hard, isn't it, and it's YOU you want to change, and you WANT to change. Now consider the utter futility of trying to change someone else. Drop it, now, completely and forever. Or be prepared to deal with the increasing distance that will happen between the two of you over time. Your call. Wondering where to start? Confused? This will get you started. Daredevils are Shredded Find out why... (Now you can find out why... in Hebrew!) UD2.Built - My UD2.0 setup.

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