Originally Posted by
Mudge
Sometimes lifes best lessons are the most painful, i.e. maybe he needs to fight on his own? But, that may take years to bear fruit, as making $10 an hour might work for a few years, so who knows how long it will take until he decides that isn't enough to keep him happy... and then he might feel its too late or embarrassing to go back to school, there are numerous possibilities.
You might, hopefully, get some excellent feedback. But nobody here knows him like you two do, and that makes it tougher (I think anyway). It sounds like something in the form of a cut off etc, if he is living on his own then he has it on easy street, I had to stay home while in school.
As an example most people who inherit lots of money, piss it away and sometimes kill themselves with it. Those who do the best in life are those who fight for it, so maybe all you can do is remind him how important it is, he isn't probably going to be happy making $30-$50k a year when he is trying to raise a family 10-15 years from now, but only HE can decide to be a success.
FWIW, Tony Robbins also says that pain is the best teacher. I think it makes sense on a very low, fundamental level. Many of us don't learn well on easy street.
I love quotes...
"Spoon feeding in the long run teaches us nothing but the shape of the spoon" - E. M. Forster
"People's behavior makes sense if you think about it in terms of their goals, needs, and motives." - Thomas Mann
"You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself." - Galielo Galilei
Only he can make himself get up, and walk through that door.
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