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Orgasm - Who's responsible?


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Posted by: mmafiter

I was thinking, we all know there are many women out there who don't achieve regular orgasm's during sex. My question is this; Who's responsibility is it to ensure the female achieves orgasm?

I think it's the woman's responsibility. If a woman is too timid or repusled to manually stimulate herself to orgasm, how can that be the man's fault? I couldn't handle being with a woman who didn't tell me what she wanted sexually. How am I supposed to know what gets you off, if YOU don't even know? There's nothing worse than playing the guessing game.

As a guy, I wouldn't let that slide. If I wasn't achieving orgasm, I'd certainly let my wife know about it, and at the very least manually stimulate myself during sex to achieve orgasm.



Posted by: MJ23

MMA.. They say Marriage is about communicating and listening to the wife in order to avoid guessing, I say FUQ that

Heavy weight bout is about Three minutes.. Shit Mike Tyson knocked some of his opponents in less than that. So I say you either catch up within that three minute time span, get yourself off manually while I am resting

or wait for the next round , whenever that comes



Posted by: Pumpin' Iron

Maybe you should bring that woman over here to a real man, mmafiter.



Posted by: mmafiter

Quote:
Originally posted by Pumpin' Iron
Maybe you should bring that woman over here to a real man, mmafiter.
There are no problems with me satisfying MY woman. I have no illusions that she orgasms everytime, but I refuse to feel guilty about it. But, I'm pretty sure w8's toes curl 80% of the time in the bedroom....or bathroom, kitchen, living room....etc.

Now, maybe you should pull up your pants and step away from the computer. Just cause you can masturbate to pictures of unattainable women like a champ, doesn't mean you're ready to take on the big dogs.



Posted by: Pianomahnn

Quote:
Originally posted by mmafiter
As a guy, I wouldn't let that slide. If I wasn't achieving orgasm, I'd certainly let my wife know about it, and at the very least manually stimulate myself during sex to achieve orgasm.
If you have to let your wife know you're not having an orgasm, there are some serious perception problems going on. . .a man's orgasm is as plain as day.

It's a combination, really. If it were a single person's job to ensure their orgasm, it wouldn't be sex, it would be masturbation. With that in mind, the person intending to achieve orgasm needs to take control and make sure it's going the way it should. Allowing someone hump and pump to no avail is evil, so very, very evil.



Posted by: DFINEST

Quote:
Originally posted by mmafiter

Now, maybe you should pull up your pants and step away from the computer. Just cause you can masturbate to pictures of unattainable women like a champ, doesn't mean you're ready to take on the big dogs.


*************************************

Once a task you first begun,
Never finished until it’s done,
Be the labor great or small,
Do it well or not at all!
- Big Mama



Posted by: CaptainDeadlift

Quote:
Originally posted by Pumpin' Iron
Maybe you should bring that woman over here to a real man, mmafiter.
That is one hell of a first post, dude. Nice first impression -- NOT.



Posted by: buff_tat2d_chick

Yes. A woman or man is responsible ultimately for her/his pleasure. If you don't know your own body...how can anyone else? Sometime vocalizing that is the problem...something you have to work on. It took me several years of marriage to get there...BUT I MADE IT!!



Posted by: naturaltan

I agree with buff, but I voted for the second choice with the thoughts that I make sure that some way, shape or form she's satisfied - because it's been said, men can get off pretty easy - or I can ..

I also agree with ... piano ... the person intending to achieve orgasm needs to take control and make sure it's going the way it should



Posted by: mmafiter

Quote:
Originally posted by Pianomahnn
If you have to let your wife know you're not having an orgasm, there are some serious perception problems going on. . .a man's orgasm is as plain as day.
I'm saying it's a differerent mindset for men. Women tend to be brought up thinking they need to be demure, polite creatures that please others. This type of thinking sets them up to be unsatisfied in the bedroom, and then be too shy to fix the problem for fear of hurting thier partners feelings.

A guy will say "Do this. Go slower. Put your leg here." whatever. Btw, ejaculation doesn't equate to orgasm. There's a difference.



Posted by: naturaltan

Quote:
Originally posted by mmafiter
Women tend to be brought up thinking they need to be demure, polite creatures that please others.
:lol ... Mrs. NT must have missed that class ... ... One might think she is a director the way things go in the bedroom sometimes.

But you are correct, I think most women might be brought up that way ... which is a shame, because the beauty of women in the bedroom is when they are enjoying orgasms!!



Posted by: craig777

Quote:
Women tend to be brought up thinking they need to be demure, polite creatures that please others.
I agree my wife missed this class also



Posted by: mmafiter

Quote:
Originally posted by naturaltan
:lol ... Mrs. NT must have missed that class ... ... One might think she is a director the way things go in the bedroom sometimes.

But you are correct, I think most women might be brought up that way ... which is a shame, because the beauty of women in the bedroom is when they are enjoying orgasms!!
You're a lucky guy there NT.

And I agree, there's nothing better than when women are satisfied in the bedroom. Very, very sexy.



Posted by: buff_tat2d_chick

NT!! I love the new avey!!



Posted by: naturaltan

... that was us in Hedo

thanks



Posted by: Pianomahnn

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Originally posted by mmafiter Btw, ejaculation doesn't equate to orgasm. There's a difference.
I'm soooooooooooo missing out on something here.

I've been walking down the street and all of a sudden busted a nut, with no feeling. *scratches head*

Seriously. . .what?



Posted by: Pitboss

Who or what?? If it's what that then would be my tongue. I've made oral sex a hobby



Posted by: mmafiter

Quote:
Originally posted by Pianomahnn
I'm soooooooooooo missing out on something here.

I've been walking down the street and all of a sudden busted a nut, with no feeling. *scratches head*

Seriously. . .what?
Sometimes when men have sex they have an orgasm (where the feeliing is very intense and deep), and other times they just ejaculate.

You still ejaculate in both scenarios, the difference is in the intensity of pleasure. I've felt the difference many times.



Posted by: buff_tat2d_chick

Quote:
Originally posted by mmafiter
Sometimes when men have sex they have an orgasm (where the feeliing is very intense and deep), and ...

...the difference is in the intensity of pleasure. I've felt the difference many times.
Its the same way with womens' orgasms, too. Some days its like "oh fuck! where did that come from" and other days its like "why did I bother?"



Posted by: Pianomahnn

Quote:
Originally posted by mmafiter
Sometimes when men have sex they have an orgasm (where the feeliing is very intense and deep), and other times they just ejaculate.

You still ejaculate in both scenarios, the difference is in the intensity of pleasure. I've felt the difference many times.
Oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

I know what you're saying now. For a while there I was imagining this magical spoogeless orgrasm, and thought to myself, "Condom free now, baby!!!"

Oh well. . .latex4lyfe!



Posted by: katie64

I agree with Buff and NT, women need to control what they want, unless it's WILD SEX, then it's inevitable, the only question is how many times..............



Posted by: david

I choose the first two! Why would a man not want his woman to have an orgasm? I personally would rather time hers with mine and "Come together..... right now"

Actually, I'd rather her have many orgasms throughout the night!!! Why? BC/ if you do that, you'll always have a special invitation or phone calls for quite some time.



Posted by: Crono1000

i heard a comedian this weekend say when a woman can't orgasm it's the guy's fault. But when he can't get an erection it's off to the doctor!



Posted by: david

It's the truth too, Cronno! So when will you see the Doctor??



Posted by: DFINEST

Quote:
Originally posted by david
It's the truth too, Cronno! So when will you see the Doctor??


Make her "cum" and
you'll ALWAYS have an open invitation
to "come" whenever you want

*************************************

Once a task you first begun,
Never finished until it’s done,
Be the labor great or small,
Do it well or not at all!
- Big Mama



Posted by: david

Harem?



Posted by: katie64

I am responsible, especially when I'm alone.....................



Posted by: david

Quote:
Originally posted by katie64
I am responsible, especially when I'm alone.....................

Good one, Katie!

PS. Nice Avi!



Posted by: katie64

Quote:
Originally posted by david
Good one, Katie!

PS. Nice Avi!
Thanks honey....I still think I look like crap............



Posted by: david

Send me the bigger size!!!! I want it!!!




please?



pretty please!



Posted by: david

oh yeah, I DON't think you look like crap.



Posted by: BabsieGirl

Just when you think you've seen it all.........you come across a thread like this!



Posted by: Vieope

Quote:
Originally posted by BabsieGirl
Just when you think you've seen it all.........you come across a thread like this!
I must wonder what word you typed in the search engine.



Posted by: myCATpowerlifts

lol



Posted by: rockgazer69

If a guy clearly has only his own pleasure in mind let the jerk go frustrate someone else but you gotta be woman enough to let him know what you want and where you want it. And guy's go nuts when you're secure and naughty enough to look em in the eyes and let em know how to drive you.



Posted by: ALBOB

Quote:
Originally posted by mmafiter Just cause you can masturbate to pictures of unattainable women like a champ, doesn't mean you're ready to take on the big dogs.
I need some help from a Canuk here, sometimes my Canadian-to-English translator doesn't quite detect all the nuances between the two languages. Anyway, in the above post, did mmafiter call w8lifter a big dog???



Posted by: gr81

Quote:
Originally posted by rockgazer69
If a guy clearly has only his own pleasure in mind let the jerk go frustrate someone else but you gotta be woman enough to let him know what you want and where you want it. And guy's go nuts when you're secure and naughty enough to look em in the eyes and let em know how to drive you.

damm , I like this girl right here! mmmhhhmm... Thats right baby, point out the spots that you want me to hit girl, fucc yeah. keep doing your thang rockgazer..



Posted by: Nuclear Blast

Holy guggul sterols Batman!! What a post!!!



Posted by: kvyd

Quote:
Originally Posted by Nuclear Blast
Holy guggul sterols Batman!! What a post!!!


lmao thats pretty gay



Posted by: BoneCrusher

My experience is that I need to make a good first impression. Those times when I didn't usually got me "Hi, I'm sorry I can't take your call right now please leave a message ... beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep". I feel if I am ever going to get a 'lil honey again then there's got to be fireworks and earthquakes. For that reason I take charge and make the world shake THE FIRST time. You ladies know what I am talking about too. If the new guy you're with tonight is selfish in bed, there is no chance later.

It's nice when a woman says "yeah like that ... ohh ohh ohh" but that is not a first time sentance we guys get to hear much. The "ohhh ohhh ohh" part is normal, but you ladies are mostly not gonna tell a dude the "yeah like that" part at first. We get to learn about you by the braille method. But that's OK ... I love to learn!

After a couple of dates I feel it's all about making each other's world rock. If not, then my answering machine gets used. After all a guy can only help create the moment, the ladie has gotta live in it.



Posted by: djrx06

Quote:
Originally Posted by rockgazer69
If a guy clearly has only his own pleasure in mind let the jerk go frustrate someone else but you gotta be woman enough to let him know what you want and where you want it. And guy's go nuts when you're secure and naughty enough to look em in the eyes and let em know how to drive you.

Show me a guy that only has his pleasure in mind and I'll show you a fucking idiot!!!!!!

Personally, I like to do whatever it takes so the woman is practically begging for more. Listen to her because she will end up telling you what she wants and that will get her off even more.

Nothing like a little hard work and a talented trio comprised of c*ck, tongue, and hands!!!!!



Posted by: CowPimp

You better work on your technique if your woman isn't having enough orgasms. Period. Ask her what she likes.



Posted by: gr81

Quote:
You better work on your technique if your woman isn't having enough orgasms.
well, not necessarily man. although I agree that most guys don't know what they are doing, a large percentage of women, especially at younger ages don't have orgasms. that number decreases with age, but its true and not necessarily the guys fault in all cases. It isn't so mechanical with women, its more emotionally based and I bet that factors in there.



Posted by: gococksDJS

My girl Wristina never complains and we dont have to cuddle afterwards!



Posted by: min0 lee

MaxMirkin



Posted by: BoneCrusher

Quote:
Originally Posted by min0 lee
Nahhhh. Robert is min0 lee.



Posted by: min0 lee

Quote:
Originally Posted by BoneCrusher
Nahhhh. Robert is min0 lee.




Posted by: cman

Quote:
Originally Posted by rockgazer69
If a guy clearly has only his own pleasure in mind let the jerk go frustrate someone else but you gotta be woman enough to let him know what you want and where you want it. And guy's go nuts when you're secure and naughty enough to look em in the eyes and let em know how to drive you.




Posted by: Newt

I don't even worry about me, I know I'll get mine! If she gets hers it is always better for everyone.



Posted by: TrojanMan60563

I put its up a womem to have the orgasm...I think its up to the man to do what he can in order to help her obtain the orgasm, but sometimes its a lost cause. Some women just can't do it. If the women is not mentally prepared to have an orgasm then I don't think it will happen so matter what the guy does.



Posted by: Luke9583

I honestly get just as much satisfaction out of making a woman cum, is I get from cummin' myself



Posted by: rockgazer69

Quote:
Originally Posted by Luke9583
I honestly get just as much satisfaction out of making a woman cum, is I get from cummin' myself

i live in the wrong place



Posted by: gr81

Quote:
I honestly get just as much satisfaction out of making a woman cum, is I get from cummin' myself
yup, thats what the sexual experience is all about I think



Posted by: Luke9583

Quote:
Originally Posted by gr81
yup, thats what the sexual experience is all about I think

I get a kick out of seeing that porn where the dudes' just bagging away doggy style (and his hands are a mile away from her). I get a kick out of watching her pretend to be enjoying it. That must be miserable And than you've got the alpha males that want you to think that's the "manly" thing to do



Posted by: rockgazer69

i hate porn where the girl is getting no clitoral stimulation at all n is doing all kinds of grunting and moaning . it's so fake. all she is thinking is hurry the hell up.... does all this moanin get you off? i hope the hell so... gimme my check.... not sexy at all n teaches men who watch this crap nothing about making a woman happy.



Posted by: Luke9583

Quote:
Originally Posted by rockgazer69
i hate porn where the girl is getting no clitoral stimulation at all n is doing all kinds of grunting and moaning . it's so fake. all she is thinking is hurry the hell up....

it makes me sad I wish I could help



Posted by: Maynard Keenan

make sure she cums first



Posted by: gr81

Quote:
i hate porn where the girl is getting no clitoral stimulation at all n is doing all kinds of grunting and moaning . it's so fake. all she is thinking is hurry the hell up.... does all this moanin get you off? i hope the hell so... gimme my check.... not sexy at all n teaches men who watch this crap nothing about making a woman happy.
I totally agree RG. its funny b/c when I was younger I used to be into that type of porn where the guy juts is humpin and pumpin, whem bam thankya maam and all that. now that I am older though I really like the lebian porn (if its doen right) b/c they are slower and more sensual and in tune with the female body, they actually look like they are enjoying it and the whole nine. thats hot



Posted by: JOHNYORK

i bought this babby straight caaassshhhhh



Posted by: JOHNYORK

when ure having sex ure not supposed to be thinking oo i hope im pleasing her when u bebop just rocksteady n if she dont like it who cares...



Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by BoneCrusher
Nahhhh. Robert is min0 lee.
Quote:
Originally Posted by min0 lee






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