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Posted by: burstinginside

ok i need some serious help here guys
my boyfriend and i have been having sex for quite a while and well he comes waaaay too quickly

like 2 mins into the whole thing and he dosnt know how to do foreplay!!! how to i teach the poor guy and stop him from comming too quickly with out embarresing him its becomming a big issue into our realationship its in neep of MAJOUR help

Posted by: overthepond

He is stupid. He needs to be coached. You need to have patience and instruct him. Whatever he is doing tell him what you want him to do or not do, guide him with your hand and voice if need be. Let him know what spots on your body are sensitive, the spots he should caress and kiss. Even better, masturbate while he watches to show him exactly how you like it.

As to him being a prejack....do a search on google for it, all sorts of sites will give you good medically sound advice.

I also recommend getting the 'Guide to Getting it On' and making your man read it, or read it together. It is terribly useful.

Posted by: SPIKE1257

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Originally Posted by overthepond

Even better, masturbate while he watches to show him exactly how you like it.

Posted by: rockgazer69

you need to be talking to him not us. i'm sure it's not the way he wants things to go either. i dated a guy like that once. he always got me off before he got started. sounds to me your guy needs some detailed instructions on how to get you off.

Posted by: burstinginside

i try to show him how to do it but it dosnt get thu to him that chicks take longer then what guys do its not justwam bam thankyou mam

and it gets really frustrating to the stage where i go off at him and tell him to forget about it im younger then him with alot more experience... hes a virgin which dosnt help either

Posted by: burstinginside

i think my og gets off on his teddy bear that i had to give up more then i do

Posted by: rockgazer69

next time tell him this way... "if i don't get off too this time there is absolutely no reason for me to continue having sex with you and i assure you i will not. either we both enjoy it this time or it is the last time. and furthermore this little discussion remains in effect as long as we are together." then prove you mean it.

Posted by: rockgazer69

if he refuses to abide by this then he really does not give a rat's ass if you are enjoying the sex and he needs his ass kicked to the curb n you are a fool if you don't do it.

Posted by: cappo5150

Do you love him? Why let this ruin your relationship? Eventually he will learn how to control himself. Have him give you oral so that you get off first, then he can do his 2min of pleasure.

Posted by: burstinginside

ive tried your tips but it jst isnt working he nderstands that i need sexusl plesure just not him... toay he ripped me open..talk aout ouuuuuuuuuuch... except it was more of the lines of u fuc*ing idiot i dont know what to do anymore

Posted by: ALBOB

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Originally Posted by burstinginside

ive tried your tips but it jst isnt working he nderstands that i need sexusl plesure just not him... toay he ripped me open..talk aout ouuuuuuuuuuch... except it was more of the lines of u fuc*ing idiot i dont know what to do anymore

I was going to try to give you advice on how to help him out.................right up until I read this post. You need to dump his ass and you need to do it NOW. If he's that inconsiderate, won't listen to a single word you say and goes so far as to hurt/injur you, you need to get the Hell away from him and do it FAST. He's a selfish/stupid piece of shit that needs to grow up. He may, or may not, ever do that. Do you want to be the one who suffers patiently for months, maybe years, for him to MAYBE do that? Nope. Like RG69 said, kick his sorry ass to the curb NOW!!!

Posted by: perfecto

haha if hes a dickhead you need to barr him and tell him how shit of a root her is and tell him he cums too quickly and really hurt his ego. and thennnnn buzz me up and i will come pleasure you. ohhh yeasssss

Posted by: burstinginside

lol thnx perfecto

but ill be rite

i love him he sex is jst really really really bad, and hes shorter then me 2 bad points but the rest of him is just absolutely perfect... god damn i hate being 6ft tall and being a chick

Posted by: min0 lee

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Originally Posted by burstinginside

lol thnx perfecto

but ill be rite

i love him he sex is jst really really really bad, and hes shorter then me 2 bad points but the rest of him is just absolutely perfect... god damn i hate being 6ft tall and being a chick

Damn your tall. What do you see in this midget?

Posted by: ericnb_98

Have you tried being on top. Or have him J/O first so it will take longer the second time. Or have him go down on you before he takes his pants off. Or you can watch porn together and try to repeat the scenes you like to teach him. If he cares about you, he should be will to try almost anything to make it enjoyable for you.

Wow six feet

Posted by: burstinginside

well im always on top, thats how i like it im in control, he dosnt stuff up and im a bit of a dom

which is how i like it, what am i to do

Posted by: ALBOB

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Originally Posted by burstinginside

well im always on top, thats how i like it im in control, he dosnt stuff up and im a bit of a dom

which is how i like it, what am i to do

Ditch his sorry ass and move to Las Vegas. I'm 6'1".

Posted by: cappo5150

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Originally Posted by ALBOB

I'm 61.

He meant to say thats his age.

Posted by: burstinginside

lol cappo dont be so harsh on him :P or ill get my handcuffs ot chain u and whip re sorry ass

Posted by: ALBOB

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Originally Posted by burstinginside

lol cappo dont be so harsh on him :P or ill get my handcuffs ot chain u and whip re sorry ass

Hey! I volunteered first.

Posted by: ponyboy

Here's a simple formula:

1 guy who doesn't care about your pleasure + 1 guy who obviously has no idea what he's doing = 2 ass cheeks out the door. Dump this loser.

Posted by: craig777

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Originally Posted by burstinginside

ooooh, ooooh, ooooh in my best Arnold Horshack voice. I know the answer to this one.

Get away from him, it won't get better, it only gets worse no matter how hard you try to make him happy. He isn't going to change. Trust me

Posted by: JJJ

Cookies might distract him, making him last longer.

Posted by: John H.

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Originally Posted by burstinginside

ok i need some serious help here guys
my boyfriend and i have been having sex for quite a while and well he comes waaaay too quickly

Hi Bursting,

TELL HIM - in such a way that he will LISTEN to you BECAUSE you care about him - and you - and want things to BE BETTER FOR BOTH OF YOU!!!

And then, study some Sex Education manuals - see www.goofyfootpress.com for one GUIDE TO GETTING IT ON which comes to mind right now.

He needs - and you too - to LEARN about foreplay. And how to "restrain" - HOLD BACK. I would first say people should LEARN how to HONESTLY massage your partner BEFORE you have ANY sex. It is like "introducing yourself" even if you already "know" the person. And it is a way of "asking for permission" to continue on. TAKE TIME with this - it is called FORE PLAY for a reason. You may even have to "teach" HIM how WITHOUT having him KNOW YOU are "teaching him". Cause him to BE AWARE of HIS TOTAL BODY and have him become aware of yours TOO. LEARN AND BE CAREFUL AND CARING.

Knowing someone, caring about them honestly, having relationships with people, having sex with people - ALL are a way of getting to KNOW others and they you. PAY ATTENTION - EACH PERSON. LISTEN to responses - whether they are audible, physical, emotional, spiritual, etc. - PAY ATTENTION. "LISTEN" CAREFULLY!!!! "HEAR" CAREFULLY!!!!

Take Care, John H.

Posted by: min0 lee

Nice link John H.

Posted by: burstinginside

lol albob :P yeah real good site no good tips either :P:P:P:P

Posted by: John H.

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Originally Posted by min0 lee

Nice link John H.

Hi minO,

I HAVE had people "introduce themselves" to me that way - and just "look" real "carefully" too. "Speaking" to others has many variations - trouble is many do not learn how to "listen"...

That book: GUIDE TO GETTING IT ON, has a lot of good information and is in its fourth edition I think. It is used in some colleges as a textbook.

Take Care, John H.

Posted by: perfecto

that is the stupidest link ive ever seen. "how to cover up hickies", "oral sex during mensturation" and "blowjobs without swallowing"?

wat the fuck is all that about

Posted by: Flex

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Originally Posted by rockgazer69

next time tell him this way... "if i don't get off too this time there is absolutely no reason for me to continue having sex with you and i assure you i will not. either we both enjoy it this time or it is the last time. and furthermore this little discussion remains in effect as long as we are together." then prove you mean it.

that's real good advice.
Get rid of the guy over something so ridiculous and fixable as that.

Posted by: gr81

listen, heres what you need to do girl. Its not his fault if he busts early, it IS his fault if he is not gonna work with you and try everything he can to better himself. If he is unwilling to do what he needs to do and listen to your needs then dumb the prick. He needs to empty the chamber before he gets in the game, maybe twice even. and More importantly he needs to get downtown and start learning how to eat that pussy right. I bet if he logged in 25 minutes down there and 2 pumpin away it wouldn't so much matter, right? Bottom line, if he is getting mad at you when you bring it up then he is a piece of shit and you don't need an intimate relationship with a guy like that. There are plenty of guys that would love to hear about what a girl needs down in the sac, ya dig! I love it when a girl tells you what she wants and needs done, how she likes it.. mmmhhmmm

Posted by: John H.

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Originally Posted by perfecto

that is the stupidest link ive ever seen. "how to cover up hickies", "oral sex during mensturation" and "blowjobs without swallowing"?

wat the fuck is all that about

Hi Perfecto,

I am not sure I understand what you are saying. Are you talking to me? Are you referring to the site I posted?

Take Care, John H.

Posted by: John H.

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Originally Posted by gr81

listen, heres what you need to do girl. Its not his fault if he busts early, it IS his fault if he is not gonna work with you and try everything he can to better himself. If he is unwilling to do what he needs to do and listen to your needs then dumb the prick. He needs to empty the chamber before he gets in the game, maybe twice even. and More importantly he needs to get downtown and start learning how to eat that pussy right. I bet if he logged in 25 minutes down there and 2 pumpin away it wouldn't so much matter, right? Bottom line, if he is getting mad at you when you bring it up then he is a piece of shit and you don't need an intimate relationship with a guy like that. There are plenty of guys that would love to hear about what a girl needs down in the sac, ya dig! I love it when a girl tells you what she wants and needs done, how she likes it.. mmmhhmmm

Hi Gr,

There are a lot of people who are one-sided and think only of themselves.

To truly work it should work for both - or all, depending on each person's "interests"...

Take Care, John H.

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