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Posted by: Purdue Power

At what point would you consider yourself to be cheating on your significant other??? Assuming that you are in a serious, monogamous relationship.

Posted by: Du

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Originally Posted by Purdue Power

At what point would you consider it to be cheating on your significant other??? Assuming that you are in a serious, monogamous relationship

Are we talking about you? Or the girl? Because it is a different standard....

Posted by: bulletproof1

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Originally Posted by Purdue Power

At what point would you consider it to be cheating on your significant other??? Assuming that you are in a serious, monogamous relationship

when you get caught

Posted by: goandykid

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Originally Posted by bulletproof1

when you get caught

Posted by: Jenny

When you're doing something you wouldn't do if your significant other was standing behind you watching...

Posted by: The Monkey Man

How do you find out if your Girlfriend is a lesbian???

Posted by: Jenny

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

How do you find out if your Girlfriend is a lesbian???

Maybe you need to ask her and trust that she's telling the truth..

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by Jenny

Maybe you need to ask her and trust that she's telling the truth..

You have to check her tounge???

Posted by: BritChick

If you ever have to ask this question of yourself then you probably already know the answer!

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by BritChick

If you ever have to ask this question of yourself then you probably already know the answer!

Aw, you guys suck!!!!

I can't believe no will be reeled in by that one!?!

Posted by: The Monkey Man

How do you find out if your girlfriend is a Lesbian?...

You have to check her tounge...

If you find it inside a woman's vagina...
chances are...

...she's a Lesbian.

Posted by: bio-chem

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Originally Posted by Jenny

When you're doing something you wouldn't do if your significant other was standing behind you watching...

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by bio-chem

You better log off, or you'll be late for choir practice

Posted by: Purdue Power

Well, would you consider mild flirting to be cheating? I wouldn't do that with my girlfriend standing behind my back, but I really don't think it is cheating.

Posted by: bio-chem

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

You better log off, or you'll be late for choir practice

whats your definition of committed? if you would get upset if she is doing something, what makes it ok for you to do it?

what a joke to have a double standard. i dont consider mild flirting a problem. even if she did it in front of me i would know she is still coming home with me. you better log off, you will be late for your swingers convention.

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by bio-chem

you better log off, you will be late for your swingers convention.

Oh Shit!

Posted by: Little Wing

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Originally Posted by Jenny

When you're doing something you wouldn't do if your significant other was standing behind you watching...

good answer.

Posted by: irontime

Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Would I be pissed off if my girlfriend was cuddling with some guy? Hell ya I would be, so I better not do it either....with a chick, (just cause I know you assholes would've jumped all over that one

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Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by irontime

Would I be pissed off if my girlfriend was cuddling with some guy? Hell ya I would be, so I better not do it either....with a chick

Sounds a little neurotic to me!?

Confidence low?

Posted by: irontime

Not low at all. she feels the same way. I have no issues with her dancing with other guys or hanging out with them. She even plays goalie for men's hockey teams sometimes and it doesn't bother me.

But anything that is intimate would bother me. If people want to do that with others then they should stay single until it is out of their system and they are ready to commit to one person.

How would you feel if your wife was on a couch and cuddling with some other guy?

Posted by: Island Roots

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Originally Posted by irontime

How would you feel if your wife was on a couch and cuddling with some other guy?

Great.

Posted by: Flex

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Originally Posted by irontime

How would you feel if your wife was on a couch and cuddling with some other guy?

As soon as I saw her on that couch, she'd be cuddling with a corpse.

You guys all know what is "too far". A little flirting or whatever is not cheating, but once you go out with that new person or have any kind of intimate contact (i'm not talking about a hug, i'm talking a kiss), then it's def. cheating.

Posted by: TJ Cline

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Originally Posted by Flex

I just don't get the logic that the other guy is the bad guy ( "she'd be cuddling with a corpse"). F_that, she is the whore not him, dump the slut and move on. As men we need to focus our disgust on the proper person

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by irontime

How would you feel if your wife was on a couch and cuddling with some other guy?

Depends on the guy!?!?

If it's some total creep whom I didn't know

But, if it was one of my close friends, and I knew what was going on from the beginning?

Who cares?

I might even consider a swap, if discrete and agreed upon by all?
(I don't practice this... but, who knows)

It reaches a turning point, when either party is dishonest with the other
and doing things behind the scenes.

But in this area, I agree with Foreman... It's curb kicking time

Posted by: Purdue Power

Yes, I agree that if you aren't able to stay faithful in a committed relationship, then you aren't ready for one...whether you are 19 or 49. If you want to play around, by all means, play around. Just don't do it at the expense of the feelings of someone who truly cares about you.

Posted by: Dale Mabry

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Originally Posted by irontime

How would you feel if your wife was on a couch and cuddling with some other guy?

Relieved that I could get out of it now. Marriage that is.

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

Relieved that I could get out of it now. Marriage that is.

Snap some pictures and take them to court

Here's you in sergio in the hall...
Here's you and sergio in the pool...

This one I don't get... Here's you... here's Sergio
Hey what's with the midget!?

Posted by: Flex

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

Depends on the guy!?!?

But, if it was one of my close friends, and I knew what was going on from the beginning?

Who cares?

I HOPE you were joking

Posted by: Flex

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

Oops, I left out a tad.

I'd make her watch me kill him, right before I killed her....

"Fear of death is worse than death itself"

Posted by: Little Wing

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

Snap some pictures and take them to court

Here's you in sergio in the hall...
Here's you and sergio in the pool...

This one I don't get... Here's you... here's Sergio
Hey what's with the midget!?

Posted by: Little Wing

um stupid question but wouldn't it hurt you to cheat? break something inside you? ruin everything even if the other person didn't know? sometimes it seems like nobody values the right things anymore.

Posted by: Purdue Power

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Originally Posted by rockgazer69

um stupid question but wouldn't it hurt you to cheat? break something inside you? ruin everything even if the other person didn't know? sometimes it seems like nobody values the right things anymore.

Exactly...
I found out the hard way that I can't cheat on my girlfriend. I know that I didn't have the heart to do anything with a girl that I have been studying with. Despite the fact that the girl knows that I have a gf and my gf would never find out, I just can't bring myself to do it. I really don't think that I am cut out for a committed relationship just yet. I really need to experience the rest of college to the fullest.

My last post was pretty much to myself I think.

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by rockgazer69

um stupid question but wouldn't it hurt you to cheat? break something inside you? ruin everything even if the other person didn't know? sometimes it seems like nobody values the right things anymore.

Yes RG, but it's OK to cheat w/me (only me)

Posted by: Little Wing

it's not okay to cheat. not only do you dishonor your partner but yourself as well... plus not enough people take into consideration that we are teaching our children how to live with every decision we make.
i think it is sexy as hell to completely belong to one man and have him know that beyond all doubt

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by rockgazer69

it's not okay to cheat. not only do you dishonor your partner but yourself as well... plus not enough people take into consideration that we are teaching our children how to live with every decision we make.
i think it is sexy as hell to completely belong to one man and have him know that beyond all doubt

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Posted by: irontime

While we are on the topic, I can't believe what I passed up a few weeks ago.
Me and my buddy went to a sports bar for a few, then this GORGEOUS hottie comes roller blading in wearing a tight two piece spandex suit that showed off her tight body which complimented the beautiful face very nicelly. My first thought was "Damn, what I would do to her" and then, she sat next to me

She tried jumping in our conversation, and asking me what I was doing tonight and I couldn't believe that the first thing out of my mouth was "Going home to my fiancee"

If you told me I would be saying this to her a few years ago I'd say you were fucked in the head

Posted by: Little Wing

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

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lol.

Posted by: TriZZle305

im single.. but when i was in a relationship, i used to go out w/ other girls..

i dont believe its cheating til you kiss the other girls

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by TriZZle305

i dont believe its cheating til you kiss the other girls

Does this kissing take place, Before...

...Or After, the orgy?

Posted by: Purdue Power

Well, I suppose since I spawned this thread, I should share my own personal reasons for starting it. But I won't...for now anyways.

Posted by: bullet 29

are any of the choices truly "not cheating" seriously?? i just turned single but, my girl on a date with with someone "physical or not" tells me im not doing something right and we need to iether part ways or take a little vacation and chat!

Posted by: gr81

I think jenny said it best, but honestly most people from my experience are only as faithful as their options..lol. I personally don't see the piont in cheating, I mean if you want to date more than one person than why not just tell your GF/BF that and if thats not what their down for then you two aren't right. being honest saves yourself of alot of useless drama for gods sake, and feelings don't get hurt as often

Posted by: irontime

^ Well it's not that I want to date other women, I just think it would be kinda cool if she took some of her friends home from her all female hockey team.

Posted by: YourallIwant

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Originally Posted by TriZZle305

im single.. but when i was in a relationship, i used to go out w/ other girls..

i dont believe its cheating til you kiss the other girls

agreed

Posted by: Little Wing

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Originally Posted by TriZZle305

im single.. but when i was in a relationship, i used to go out w/ other girls..

i dont believe its cheating til you kiss the other girls

maybe that's why you are single now romeo.

Posted by: Little Wing

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Originally Posted by YourallIwant

agreed

omg. where's Lucifer?

Posted by: ALIENEGYPT

Truth always becomes clear...eventually...Although some would argue-
If consequences dictate, our course of actions then it, doesn't matter what's right,
It's only wrong if you get caught...
In my case---I caught her!

Posted by: Randy

I never believed in cheating.
I definately would never want to find any girl that I am with to have cheated on me. So I guess in light of that, I would not cheat on her. Why introduce pain like that into your relationship. If you have the urge to cheat then the person you're with doesn't mean much to you.

Now if seeing other people is a mutual thing and you both agree to that then that's a different story. I guess communication is the key in these cases.

But to answer the question.... what point is cheating? Well anytime you do anything to violate your partners trust. I would say that pretty much sums it up.

Posted by: stonev16

i think its cheating as soon as u take playing with someone other then your girlfriend to far.....like if you are just playing around with another girl its ok but if u get flirty and start smackin other girls ass's n stuff/talking to them in a way ur bf/gf wouldnt like its cheating....if the relationship isnt serious n u know it wont last long then who cares go ahead n mess with other girls but when u really care ab your gf/bf then u should respect them.

Posted by: Cowbell

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Hell ya I would be, so I better not do it either....with a chick, (just cause I know you assholes would've jumped all over that one)

Damn iron, ruined my whole day right there

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I might even consider a swap, if discrete and agreed upon by all?
(I don't practice this... but, who knows)

Monkey, I will swap you in a second...my old lady is running low and air and I think she has a few leaks

Posted by: Cowbell

Simple fact....its not cheating if you rub peanut butter on your balls and let your dog lick it off because its YOUR dog!!!

Posted by: Cowbell

seriously though....what if you were single, but someone who was involved came on to YOU. And you kindly take her offer...is that cheating? Because you are not involved...and on the other hand would your opinion change if you didn't know she was involved?

Posted by: Ranma

all of the above i would say.

Posted by: Ranma

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Originally Posted by Cowbell

Simple fact....its not cheating if you rub peanut butter on your balls and let your dog lick it off because its YOUR dog!!!

Posted by: Mudge

Cheating in the heart, is cheating is it not?

I know most people here are not religious, but Matthew 5:28 says it well:

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But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Posted by: Ranma

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Originally Posted by Mudge

Cheating in the heart, is cheating is it not?

I know most people here are not religious, but Matthew 5:28 says it well:

I have a girl friend of 1 year, but i had a past serious relationship as well. I still have feelings for her when i talk to her, but i do not reveal them. I would not consider this cheating because do not act on these thoughts/feeling.. nor can i help that these feelings still linger.

Posted by: Cowbell

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Originally Posted by Mudge

Cheating in the heart, is cheating is it not?

I know most people here are not religious, but Matthew 5:28 says it well:

There is just no pleasing some people.....I can never win with you can I!? All I did was look and you have been all over me about that ever since....LET IT GO. Why cant you just forgive me?

Posted by: DICE

...when you get caught. By the way, just cause you cheat doesn't mean you don't love the one your with, we are still just animals. People generally hate my point of view on this one but let er rip. Hopefully it gets into why it's ok for a guy to cheat, or be a slut, but not a girl. Then I can share even more of my opinion, and give everyone my long thought out answer.......NOW ....GO.

Posted by: Cowbell

Cheating...even if you dont get caught....is still cheating. Yes, I agree with you that we as humans are still animals but the only difference between humans and animals is a conscience. If you dont feel bad for cheating then I would not be proud of that. If you dont care about someone enough not to cheat on them then you should not be in a relationship with them to begin with.

Posted by: DICE

So true.

Posted by: naturaltan

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

Does this kissing take place, Before...

...Or After, the orgy?

in my experience ... I mean, my friend told me it's during

Posted by: crazy_enough

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Originally Posted by Mudge

Cheating in the heart, is cheating is it not?

I know most people here are not religious, but Matthew 5:28 says it well:

Oddly enough, this religious mumbojumbo sums it up for me!!!!

I mean, the instant that one CONSIDERS acts that would betray the trust established in a monogamous relationship, I beleive that it is cheating...

Im not saying that looking at a hot girl is cheating, but as soon as u are envisioning(sp?) a "relationship"(flirting, kissing, fucking etc...) that you would keep secret from your steady lover, I think it's cheating...

Posted by: bio-chem

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Originally Posted by crazy_enough

i love the fact you wrote hot girl. we will always agree on at least that.

Posted by: MyK

when you have a ring on your finger!

Posted by: Purdue Power

When I first made this thread, I was trying to legitamize in my mind what I had done with another girl while I had a gf. In my summer classes, my study buddy was, to a T, everything that I look for physically in a girl. Long dark hair, dark eyes, dark complected, Italian, amazing ass....everything. I ended up spending the night with her a couple of time and cuddling with her. The first night, we never even kissed...just spooned and slept together. I felt bad enough then, but I knew that my relationship with my gf was going to end when she got back to school from the summer. The second night that I stayed over, we were making out something fierce(it all started with a massage...it always does). Once she finally confirmed that I did have a gf, she told me that she didn't want to take it much farther than what we had done. At that point, I definately felt that I had cheated. And if she didn't have the "morals" that she does, I am sure that it would have gone quite a bit further.

Well, that is my story. I still want to get on that girl though. And what is rough is that we are in the same major and the same pre-professional organization and we are going to Miami over Christmas break for a national conference. I am with a new girl now and she has a bf now, so hopefully we will be able to keep our hands off of each other. Not likely.....but what happens in Miami stays in Miami, right?

Posted by: gococksDJS

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Originally Posted by Purdue Power

When I first made this thread, I was trying to legitamize in my mind what I had done with another girl while I had a gf. In my summer classes, my study buddy was, to a T, everything that I look for physically in a girl. Long dark hair, dark eyes, dark complected, Italian, amazing ass....everything. I ended up spending the night with her a couple of time and cuddling with her. The first night, we never even kissed...just spooned and slept together. I felt bad enough then, but I knew that my relationship with my gf was going to end when she got back to school from the summer. The second night that I stayed over, we were making out something fierce(it all started with a massage...it always does). Once she finally confirmed that I did have a gf, she told me that she didn't want to take it much farther than what we had done. At that point, I definately felt that I had cheated. And if she didn't have the "morals" that she does, I am sure that it would have gone quite a bit further.

Well, that is my story. I still want to get on that girl though. And what is rough is that we are in the same major and the same pre-professional organization and we are going to Miami over Christmas break for a national conference. I am with a new girl now and she has a bf now, so hopefully we will be able to keep our hands off of each other. Not likely.....but what happens in Miami stays in Miami, right?

Bro the only way to legitimize your cheating is with practice. If you are feeling bad about kissing, you need to cheat more. I dated this one girl for 2 years and cheated on her with 8 girls. One girl I cheated on her with was a self-proclaimed virgin who let me put it in her pooper and when I was done pounding on her asshole I felt so bad I couldn't sleep for 2 days. I had blown in her ass when she told me not to, and I know that shit leaked out while she was walking back to her apartment.

Posted by: PreMier

Going out on a date(no physical contact)

I would be PISSED if some girl I was in a monagamous relationship with went out on a date. Fuck.. I would never do that.

Posted by: Pepper

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

I completely agree. The dude may not even know she is married. the anger should be directed at the one who is betraying you.

Posted by: Burner02

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

Snap some pictures and take them to court

Here's you in sergio in the hall...
Here's you and sergio in the pool...

This one I don't get... Here's you... here's Sergio
Hey what's with the midget!?

Rodney Dangerfield; Back to School- great movie!

Posted by: lioness

This thread is bringing out the worst in people...

and...

the best.

Posted by: musclepump

Like my Grandfather used to say, "It ain't cheating if you ain't married."

Posted by: SuppAddict

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Originally Posted by musclepump

Like my Grandfather used to say, "It ain't cheating if you ain't married."

Exactly! who cares about a gf. What she doesn't know, won't hurt her, and if she finds out, i'll find someone else. I never spend an entire weekend with my girl. Just 1 day (friday or sat.) and the other day i'm with another girl.

Posted by: Steele20

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Originally Posted by SuppAddict

Sure you are...

Posted by: Little Wing

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Originally Posted by SuppAddict

hopefully you will end up with someone just like you

Posted by: SuppAddict

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

hopefully you will end up with someone just like you

Well i'm not married so why should i be tied down to 1 girl. we go on dates, have sex, the usual stuff. if i go to a party without her, and i have a chance to hook up, why can't i? its not cheating if you aren't married. my girl doesn't like going to parties so i go with my friends and try to hook up for the night. nothing wrong with that.

Posted by: joesmooth20

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Originally Posted by SuppAddict

your also 18 and you shouldn't be tied down. Let 4-5 yrs go by before you get into anything serious. O yeah when your out doing that crap at parties, I'll be at your house banging your girl and not pulling out either.

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