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Posted by: MuscleM4n

can anybody give me any tips on reading body language when chatting to girls?

I only know two points :

1) if they play with their hair means they like you.

2) if they raise their eye brows briefly when meeting you means their interested in talking.

As you see i am young and lack experience with the mysteriousness of the opposite sex so help a guy out - thanks

Posted by: MyK

http://www.fastseduction.com/

read this and use it!

Posted by: MyK

Reading body language

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Doesn't matter whether she is interested in you, you'll make her interested eventually anyway

But look for these signs to show you whether you're already making progress

It's also fun to look for these signs as a by-stander, either in everyday situations or for example in a bar - when the guy earnestly believes he is being sooo smooth but the woman he is talking to isn't displaying any of the signs presented below, you can't help but have a chuckle about it

Her lips:

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.
Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.
She wets her lips, some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower lip, while others run the tongue around the entire lip area.
She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
She protrudes her lips and thrust her breasts forward.
Her eyes:

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.
She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact.
She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.
Her hair:

She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion.
She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders.
Her clothing:

If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.
The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.
She is fixing, patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.
While she is seated:

She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.
She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
She is sitting with her legs open.
She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.
Her legs are rubbing against each other.
Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.
Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.
Her hands:

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.
She rubs her wrists up and down.
She sits with one hand touching one of her breasts.
She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way

She is fondling keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with toys or other things on the table.
She plays with her jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you (in case you already haven't started kino yourself, dumbass

.
She is pretending to look at her watch as you pass her.
Her voice

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.
She laughs in unison with you.
In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.
Micellaneous:

She mirrors your body language and body positions.
Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.
She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.
She leans over and speaks into her friend's ear, just like in junior high school.
She is standing with her head cocked slightly at an angle, one foot behind the other, hips slightly thrust forward.
At a party - every once in a while she seems to appear out of nowhere in your vicinity and if you move to another spot, soon she appears out of nowhere again, you catch her glancing in your general direction (actually, glancing at YOU dummy!

, she bumps into you… accidentally, touches you… accidentally etc

When talking to a girl, these are some of the more important signs to watch for:

Can you keep conversation going with her?
Does she react well to kino?
Does she touch you?
Does she laugh?
Now I don't have to explain what the answer "yes" to these questions means, do I

From "Sweep women off their feet...": "All these signs usually tell you that the girl is captivated by your charms. But before you get there, chances are that her body language changes as the discussion progresses. Make sure that you watch her closely and as soon as you get a sign that should be an indication that you are on the right track, keep going in that direction. If the opposite happens, just change the subject and see what happens."

The really gorgeous and beautiful girls however very seldom get around to displaying the signs of interest described above. They simply don't have to, as they are used to getting some attention already long before that. With such girls you have to be on a lookout for the initial and thus much more subtle signs of interest. One example of this would be a gorgeous girl simply looking at your face. Obviously people tend to look at what or whom they like to look at. But whereas an average girl first just looks at your face and then progresses into the more overt signs of interest described above, looking at your face from time to time might be the only sign of interest you'll ever get from the most beautiful of girls.

So if you think you're not getting any signs of interest from beautiful girls - you are, but you just can't see them well enough yet.

Don Steele: "Here are signs of interest sent from across the room. Most are applicable to both sexes. The sequence of the list approximates the courtship sequence.

I'M INTERESTED
Sidelong glance(s)

Looks at you a few times

Holds your gaze briefly

Downcast eyes, then away

Posture changes to alert

Preens, adjusts hair, attire

Turns body toward you

Tilts head

Narrows eyes slightly

Smiles

Matches your posture

Eyes sparkle

Licks her lips

Thrusts breasts
DON'T BOTHER ME
Never sneaks a peek

Fleeting eye contact

Looks away quickly

Looks away, eyes level

Posture unchanged

Does no preening

Turns body away

Head remains vertical

Eyes remain normal

Neutral, polite face

Posture unchanged

Normal or dull eyes

Keeps mouth closed

Sags to de-emphasize breasts

In Summary. Frequency of eye contact, the more the better. Amount of time she, or he, holds your gaze, the longer the better. How she breaks off eye contact, down before away is great! Shine of the eyes, the brighter the better. Direction of body, toward you, good, away, bad. Overall posture, erect and alert are good. Tilt of head, vertical is bad, increased tilt is great. Where the drink is held, high in front as a barrier, that's bad. Hand activity, clenched, squeezing or pinching is bad, open, caressing or stroking is great.

Most of us are slightly afraid as well as somewhat excited in settings where social interaction is expected and required. So, most people do not sit or stand in an open posture. But, during courtship, the more open the other person's posture is, the more open that person is to you and your advances. And, the more open you are, the more likely the other person is to open up to you. First Conversation Signals. Men, pay attention to all the ways she communicates during the first few minutes as you talk with her.

KEEP TALKING
Alert, energetic

Pupils dilated

Gradually opens posture

Lowers drink

Touches self gently

Caresses objects

Crosses and uncrosses legs

Flashes of palm

Crossed legs steady

Dangles shoe on toe

Hands never touch face

Touches you any reason

Feet firmly on floor

Loosens anything

Leans forward

Steady hands, feet
MOVE ON
Tense, restless

Normal or small pupils

Posture remains closed

Keeps drink high

Grips or pinches self

Squeezes, taps objects

Legs remain crossed

Back of hand gestures

Swings crossed legs

Keeps shoe on

Touches face

Never touches you

Feet on edges or toes

Tightens anything

Leans away

Tapping, drumming

In social settings, most of us start out in a closed, defensive posture because we're a bit apprehensive. A closed posture feels safe. When the person you are talking with shifts to a more open posture, it signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally, opening up to you and what you have to offer.

It takes courage to open up to the other person. If you go first, she, or he, will usually follow your move from closed to slightly more open. Open up in, slow, gradual shifts of posture.

Posted by: MuscleM4n

interesting read learnt a few things!

What does kino mean?

Posted by: gococksDJS

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Originally Posted by MuscleM4n

interesting read learnt a few things!

What does kino mean?

it means she wants it in the butt...

Posted by: MuscleM4n

"does she react well to butt sex?"

maybe not

Posted by: MyK

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Originally Posted by MuscleM4n

interesting read learnt a few things!

What does kino mean?

kinothetics, basically touching. always touch girls when you meet them, just on the arm. it does alot psychologically. once you know them, hug them when you see them, take their arm when you walk.

Posted by: MyK

here, read this

Posted by: MyK

Kinesthetics (aka kino) - have kino with your female friends/acquaintances

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Psychological studies show that casual touching during a friendly conversation causes people to remember the conversation more fondly after the fact.

The combination of kino with social proof is dynamite. Touch one girl and the other girls seeing this think its normal or even "good" to be touchy-feely with you

. Now you can quite naturally move on to touching those other girls and so forth

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ASF: "It's quite simple - hug them, touch their hand sporadically and in A NON THREATENING WAY, that is, not like the desperate pervert we all are

So the idea is, you hide completely the interest you might have AND at the same time you act really touchy/huggish. The problem is - you have to start this early in the "friend" relationship, it has to seem natural, or otherwise she'll wonder "what the fuck is he doing lately?"

Once you've developed that kind of flirtatious friendship, it's easy to spawn other such 'friendships' with other women: they will see you being close to another woman, and I think the key here is that, it probably does not trigger as much jealousy as it makes them (the "new" ones) feel comfortable -- they see another woman being touched by you in a non-threatening way, and, blam, social-proof, it becomes a 'proof' to them that it's normal for you to touch them in turn... "

ASF: "Ok, I use this all the time now. TOUCH HER!!! It doesn't matter if you just met her. Hold her hand, rub her arm, her elbow her back, her shoulders, her hair, her face. TOUCH HER !!!"

ASF:
1. PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
2. PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
3. One more time: PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU !!! If you do this you will be able to better gauge if you have the appropriate rapport to invite a kiss. If her body seems to respond to the non-sexual touching then get gradually more sexual. For women some areas of the body outside of the primary erogenous zones are intimate: Palms, inside the elbow, ear lobes, cheeks, the hips were the waist meets the hips, between the fingers....
4. Last thing: PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!

Do the things that lovers do - brush off "something" that's stuck in her hair, gently stroke her cheek pretending to wipe off an eyelash etc. These are the types of things lovers do and by doing them, you will make her feel (doesn't even matter if only subconsciously) like you were her lover. Plus you'll get "innocent" yet pleasurable kino

Kino as soon as you meet a girl. Meeting someone for the first time is an excellent chance for starting kino - shaking hands when exchanging names is a tradition of many cultures and cultures. But make sure you hold on to her hand longer than expected, long enough for you to enjoy it and her to notice, if not you enjoying it but at least you not letting go as quickly as people usually do.

When meeting girls you already know, shaking hands might seem strange, so giving some sort of a hug is the way to go. You don't need to fall all over her to give her a hug (which depending on the situation might even make you look like a fool or a pervert or make her embarrassed instead of having her enjoy it too

, a hug can also be putting your arm around her waist or shoulders when standing to her left or right and pulling her closer for a moment, or taking her hand for a moment (but not shaking it), or her elbow, or arm etc. Daniel, ASF: "KINO on the arm/hand as soon as you say hi to show her you are a sexual being."

Set the mood of the date from the start. When going on a date/get-together, establish the mood immediately. You can of course change the mood from "polite and calm" to "warm and friendly" to "aroused and sweaty" during the course of the meeting, but why go the hard way, if you can jump right into "warm and friendly" or beyond in the first place. It is best to have acting enthusiastic upon meeting the girl to have agreed upon previously (most probably when you set up a meeting on the phone, see Refining the close in Closing for more information). But even without that, you can be all smiles when you meet her, give her a big hug right away, try to take and hold her hand all the way to whereever it is that you'll be going and watch her change from slightly nervous to happy, smiling, starry-eyed and glowing all over

And remember - enthusiasm is contageous

Foot-flirting. You've all seen it done in the movies

The foot looses the shoe and the woman is stroking the man with her bare foot or vice versa. Corny you say

? A cliche maybe

? Try it and then see what you think

am, ASF: "[in response to "you can't kino sitting across the table"] Actually, you _can_ kino when you are sitting across from the target. Just use your feet! Of course this requires a small table, but this also helps to set up an intimate atmoshpere (remember candles etc.). Touch her feet "occasionally" with your own under the table, say something like "tee hee, you are foot-flirtin' with me?" in a joking way. Look her deepely in the eyes while doing this, and continue using your feet. Do it the right way and at the right time with a chick in the right mood, and voila! You can actually proceed to rubbing each other's crotches with your toes under the table, then say "my bed is that way" and BANG! You're IN!"

"Can't hear you

". LordGaeden, ASF: "Try this: If she says something, lean forward as if you aren't hearing her very well, and touch her (arm or back). Then lean back again and answer. Are there any easy clues as to when is the right time to go kino? The clue is when it's possible (ie, she's within in range)".

Kino is the difference between getting and not getting the girl. It is the saving grace of even the otherwise doomed "nice guy" approach. And in some instances, being the "nice guy" together with using kino can even be quite effective. Here's why: the success of kino depends on whether the girl perceives you and your touch as a threat to her or not. You can be a rough and tough guy (I try to avoid the word "jerk" as it is not really quite reprsesentative of what the opposite of "nice guy" actually is) and still have the girl feel you are not a threat to her speficically, thus initiating kino will be easy. A nice guy usually just has an easier time having girls feel he is not a threat to them. Usually though, that is also his undoing, as he is consequently perceived as weak, neutral and non-sexual, all of which are major turn-offs for girls. But here is where the saving grace of kino steps in. You are safe, so touching and hugging with you is... well, also safe. However, before she knows it - touching and hugging with you moves from feeling pretty good to quite exciting to really electrifying until all that good, safe and friendly physical contact with you is going to make her wonder: "If it feels so good just to touch with him, why on earth not do more? I wonder what that would be like?". Which is not to say that being the "nice guy" is the way to go. This was simply meant to illustrate the strength of kinesthetics - it even works for the "nice guy"

So remember - kino really is the difference between getting and not getting the girl.

The protective gesture. Maxim (http://maximmag.com): “In a crowded bar, if people are walking by and pushing you, there’s a way a guy can put his arm around you—not actually touching you, but behind your back so he’s sort of keeping you from getting shoved. A man doesn’t need to pick a fight with some guy who accidentally steps on my toes, but it’s nice if he’s protective. —Kris, 27, Los Angeles”

Posted by: min0 lee

so thats Myk's secret to getting laid with over 400 women.

Posted by: MyK

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Originally Posted by min0 lee

so thats Myk's secret to getting laid with over 400 women.

I havent slept with that many, thats a running joke!! hahaha

Posted by: min0 lee

Damn, you disappointed me like Paliermo did.

You were my idol.

Posted by: MyK

Quote:

Originally Posted by min0 lee

Damn, you disappointed me like Paliermo did.

You were my idol.

I run with an aggressive group of guys, we live in a university/party city and we turned getting laid into a sport!

Posted by: Chain Link

That guide called me a loser

Posted by: MyK

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chain Link

That guide called me a loser

pwned

Posted by: gococksDJS

Quote:

Originally Posted by MuscleM4n

"does she react well to butt sex?"

maybe not

Here's how you find this one out. Just put her in the dog and go to town, then pull out and slip it in the back door, if you think she's about to get mad, quickly say "Oops" but if she doesn't then your golden.

Posted by: min0 lee

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Originally Posted by Chain Link

That guide called me a loser

Posted by: talkbodylanguage

Everyone is making sense here...

Please check this site, it talks about signs that someone is interested in you! ^_^

talk.superbodylanguage.com/community-question-of-the-week/what-the-top-3-signs-someone-is-romantically-interested-in-you/

Posted by: maniclion

Quote:

Originally Posted by talkbodylanguage

Everyone is making sense here...

Please check this site, it talks about signs that someone is interested in you! ^_^

talk.superbodylanguage.com/community-question-of-the-week/what-the-top-3-signs-someone-is-romantically-interested-in-you/

HOLY CRAP, what a coincidence, your name is talkbodylanguage, the thread is about body language and your posting spam about Super Body Language.....what are the chances of that happening??????

PS:Note the body language at the end of that ^^^^

Posted by: Zaphod

It's fine and dandy knowing what each action supposedly means. The trick is to be able to read and recognize all of that while still talking and keeping her interested.

Posted by: Dark Geared God

Quote:

Originally Posted by maniclion

HOLY CRAP, what a coincidence, your name is talkbodylanguage, the thread is about body language and your posting spam about Super Body Language.....what are the chances of that happening??????

PS:Note the body language at the end of that ^^^^

Posted by: DiGiTaL

fastseduction sucks man...

There's a lot of good books on bodylanguage.

Posted by: Little Wing

someone said MyK died. i really don't think so because he loves this kind of stuff and the new MyK was verrry interested in the origins of emotions book.

Posted by: ROID

you are all gay. stop wasting your time.

Posted by: MyK

Quote:

Originally Posted by Little Wing

someone said MyK died. i really don't think so because he loves this kind of stuff and the new MyK was verrry interested in the origins of emotions book.

I wouldn't say I loved it, I was just interested in learning all I could about meeting women back then...

Posted by: Little Wing

Quote:

Originally Posted by MyK 3.0

I wouldn't say I loved it, I was just interested in learning all I could about meeting women back then...

i'm glad you're not dead.

so you were into meeting women back then...

what're you into now?

sorry, couldn't resist.

Posted by: maniclion

Quote:

Originally Posted by Little Wing

i'm glad you're not dead.

so you were into meeting women back then...

what're you into now?

No he was into learning about meeting women....
Now he is into actually trying to meet them, but he is still too shy....

Posted by: Little Wing

i see.

Posted by: MyK

lol!! no I always had a little game in me, I just wanted to be better...

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