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Posted by: Powerlifter_123

Well I'm 16 years old and I just started seeing this girl just recently, and she seems really nice. It's just like when were together, nothing else matters. We can just hold hands, cuddle, kiss and talk. She's told me that she loves me, and I feel the same way about her. I know you guys are probably like, this guys only 16 years old and it's just a crush and he’ll get over it, and probably think I'm just wasting your time, but I'm not. You see, I've only had one serious relationship up to now and it lasted about nine months. She's only had one serious relationship and it almost lasted 2 years. The thing Is that I'm a virgin, and I was talking to a friend of mine last night and he told me that her ex-boyfriend had told everyone that he had slept with her after they broke up. I didn't know about this and I've just been going crazy. I mean I just can't think of her and help but knowing that this other guy got the best of her. I actually know the guy and we used talk, because I used to workout after school at the weight room with his older brother, and he’s the type of guy I can just see taking advantage of her. The thing is I don't know if he was just talking or if it really happened. I mean her and me seem really close. The day we started being boyfriend and girlfriend I could hold her hand and hug her and walk her to all her classes and we would skip classes so we could just spend time together hold each other sitting on a bench. Then after a few days we already kissed. I Mean if we got that close after only a week, imagine what they did over the course of those almost 2 years. Anyways, I don't know how to talk to her about it. What should I tell her, should I tell her how I really feel? Should I even ask? Should I forget what my friend told me? I'll just be straight out, I feel really bad because I can really see this relationship going somewhere, and I just know that’s heading in the direction of us having sex, but I feel horrible because when I think of us and how much we love each other and us being together, I can't but help thinking of how much more special it would be if our first time was together. I just want to know how to bring up the subject or find out the truth. I was thinking of just casually bringing up her old boyfriend, then asking how far they got, but didn’t really know what to do. If she wasn't a virgin should I even think anything about it? I mean, maybe I'm just being weird and overprotective and paranoid. I just feel straight out bad that I know this now that I've got to really know her and not before we started going out. At least it would have been out of the way and in the past. In fact I just wish I would have known period, or that she would have told me herself. I guess I just hated hearing it from my friend. I'm sorry if some of this doesn't make sense but I'm just trying to get this down as fast as possible so I can get some help.


Posted by: nsimmons

jesus.....youre in for some schoolin

dont worry about it, you'll end up hating her guts in the end anyway, stick it in her butt before then.


Posted by: tucker01

Bang her and all her friends.


Posted by: Rocco32

Holy crap is this pathetic. I hope you don't plan on staying around on here...you'll never live down your first post.

I wonder how many other message boards you've posted this


Posted by: Jodi

Tom Lykas is an ass!

Ugghhh!!!!

First of all, it's none of your damn business if she has had sex already or not. She may have felt the way you feel for her now, with her boyfriend so with mutual consent, they had sex. No matter what age you are, if you start out a relationship thinking how many partners has he/she had, what did they do, did she ever have a one night stand etc.... you are going to drive yourself crazy and set yourself up for failed relationships. Always keep in mind that they may have been someone else before and as you get older, you can be certain there was someone else before you.

Stop setting yourself up for failure. Continue with your relationship, enjoy your time together and when you are ready to have sex then go for it. Don't rush things, let it just happen as it's meant to be. If afterwards, you want to discuss it, then start by telling her this was your first time or tell her that before hand so she knows. If you do it right and you don't pressure, pass judgement or make her feel guilty, you will get the answer you are looking for.


Posted by: NeilPearson

First of all, you might think this relationship is going somewhere but it isn't. Relationships at 16 just don't. Guys often have a delusion that their relationships at 16 are going to last forever. They think they are going to go to college with this girl, then get married and at 80 die in each others arms. Guys are stupid at this age. Girls generally are more realistic and don't have this same delusion. I would bet that she doesn't think this relationship is as serious as you believe it is.

Second, who cares if she is a virgin. Don't ask. Don't think about. Don't talk about it. She most likely isn't a virgin. Also as you get older, you are probably not going to be meeting virgins. Virginity is overrated and caring about it is silly.

I have been married for 8 years. When I met my wife she was 26 and out of college. She had worked on a cruise ship for 2 years. I never, ever asked her about her past boyfriends or her single days on the cruise ship. I don't want to know. Also I don't want to tell her about all the girls that came before her. She also has never asked.

It is better if pasts are left in the past. It doesn't matter. It isn't going to change now... just don't worry about it.

He got the best of her??? lol... don't be a loser. That isn't the best of her. If you have her heart now, that is the best of her.

Getting serious with a girl at 16 is just setting yourself up for a heart break. If and when she decides to move on, you will be crushed if you let yourself get too serious.

You should be out dating as many girls as you can. Bang a lot of them. Lower your standards and bang the ugly girls too. Because guess what, in 25 years you will look back at all the geeky nerdy girls and realize at that age most of them had smoking hot bodies and they were easy targets that you missed out on. You will be kicking yourself in the ass that you passed up on all these easy opportunities. Bang them all, don't talk about it to your friends and you will continue to get lots of opportunities.


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
Tom Lykas is an ass!



Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by NeilPearson
First of all, you might think this relationship is going somewhere but it isn't. Relationships at 16 just don't. Guys often have a delusion that their relationships at 16 are going to last forever. They think they are going to go to college with this girl, then get married and at 80 die in each others arms. Guys are stupid at this age. Girls generally are more realistic and don't have this same delusion. I would bet that she doesn't think this relationship is as serious as you believe it is.

Second, who cares if she is a virgin. Don't ask. Don't think about. Don't talk about it. She most likely isn't a virgin. Also as you get older, you are probably not going to be meeting virgins. Virginity is overrated and caring about it is silly.

I have been married for 8 years. When I met my wife she was 26 and out of college. She had worked on a cruise ship for 2 years. I never, ever asked her about her past boyfriends or her single days on the cruise ship. I don't want to know. Also I don't want to tell her about all the girls that came before her. She also has never asked.

It is better if pasts are left in the past. It doesn't matter. It isn't going to change now... just don't worry about it.

He got the best of her??? lol... don't be a loser. That isn't the best of her. If you have her heart now, that is the best of her.

Getting serious with a girl at 16 is just setting yourself up for a heart break. If and when she decides to move on, you will be crushed if you let yourself get too serious.

You should be out dating as many girls as you can. Bang a lot of them. Lower your standards and bang the ugly girls too. Because guess what, in 25 years you will look back at all the geeky nerdy girls and realize at that age most of them had smoking hot bodies and they were easy targets that you missed out on. You will be kicking yourself in the ass that you passed up on all these easy opportunities. Bang them all, don't talk about it to your friends and you will continue to get lots of opportunities.
Best advice I have ever read here!


Posted by: tucker01

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules
Best advice I have ever read here!



Posted by: AnnaDTX

hmmmmm the relationship could go somewhere??? i met my bf when i was 14 and we stayed together for 10 years . . . but we are no longer together, we grew apart and i became boy-crazy!!!


Posted by: P-funk

two words:

POOP SHOOT.


Posted by: kicka19

kill yourself


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by AnnaDTX
hmmmmm the relationship could go somewhere??? i met my bf when i was 14 and we stayed together for 10 years . . . but we are no longer together, we grew apart and i became boy-crazy!!!
Translaston: Most virgins are future whores.


Posted by: hardasnails1973

Make sure shes a good girls and swallows LOL Yep as you get older you look back saying "Where were these chicks when I was a teenager" LOL They were there all the time just to shy to go get some. So enjoy your self and spread your oats my boy. Other wards 5 years down the road you be like "i should have fucked her when I had the chance"


Posted by: JordanMang

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
Tom Lykas is an ass!

Ugghhh!!!!

First of all, it's none of your damn business if she has had sex already or not. She may have felt the way you feel for her now, with her boyfriend so with mutual consent, they had sex. No matter what age you are, if you start out a relationship thinking how many partners has he/she had, what did they do, did she ever have a one night stand etc.... you are going to drive yourself crazy and set yourself up for failed relationships. Always keep in mind that they may have been someone else before and as you get older, you can be certain there was someone else before you.

Stop setting yourself up for failure. Continue with your relationship, enjoy your time together and when you are ready to have sex then go for it. Don't rush things, let it just happen as it's meant to be. If afterwards, you want to discuss it, then start by telling her this was your first time or tell her that before hand so she knows. If you do it right and you don't pressure, pass judgement or make her feel guilty, you will get the answer you are looking for.
Worst advice ever. Why would he want to have sex with a girl and then ask her if she was a virgin before hand ( there's a chance he'll know half-way through anyway ), and besides that defeats the whole purpose of knowing. He's already had sex with her, and it's pointless whether she'd had sex beforehand or not. If I were you, I'd just ask her. I'm not very shy or subtle; so it doesn't seem like a big deal to me. If you're that close just ask her, and if she gets offended explain the situation.


Posted by: Jodi

Hmmm.....worst advice eh - from an oh so experienced 16 year old.

The point is that you shouldn't ask her..........PERIOD!


Posted by: thefutureisnow

Fuck her, if she doesn't bleed she wasn't a virgin. Easiest way to get the truth.


Posted by: JordanMang

Actually, I do have some experience in this field ( maybe more then you ). Considering we're the same age, and I've actually had interaction with the people of our age group coupled with the fact that times DO change ( it's been a while since you were 16 ) and the influences facing us ( the youth of today ) I gave him what is probably a more informed bit of advice.



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Originally Posted by thefutureisnow
Fuck her, if she doesn't bleed she wasn't a virgin. Easiest way to get the truth.

And this is a false statement. Lots of girls don't bleed the first time.


Posted by: Jodi

Same age? Kid, I am more than twice your age


Posted by: JordanMang

Exactly which is why I was refering to Powerlifter when talking about being the same age. The advice you gave him ( while noble ) is completely out-dated. Do you have any idea of the kind of advice they give teens today ( in school for that matter ). It's the complete opposite of what you suggested. I think you're just a bit old-fashioned in this area.


Posted by: Rocco32

Quote:
Originally Posted by JordanMang
Actually, I do have some experience in this field ( maybe more then you ). Considering we're the same age, and I've actually had interaction with the people of our age group coupled with the fact that times DO change ( it's been a while since you were 16 ) and the influences facing us ( the youth of today ) I gave him what is probably a more informed bit of advice.
Oh please teach us mighty 16 year old!!!!


Posted by: JordanMang

I'm sorry you have no idea what you're talking about. I can actually relate to the problem at hand and offer far better advice then "If you do have sex you can ask her afterwards if she has before." Any guy who puts the chance of his girlfriend being offended by asking if she is a virgin before his life and his dick is a moron. I know 0 girls from the "worst" to the "best" who would be offended by this question at all. In this day and age I'd rather be safe then sorry, and if his girlfriend can't understand that well then he's better off without.


Posted by: BigPapaPump68

Quote:
Originally Posted by thefutureisnow
Fuck her, if she doesn't bleed she wasn't a virgin. Easiest way to get the truth.
Great post. Hes not lieing either, listen to his advice.


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by thefutureisnow
Fuck her, if she doesn't bleed she wasn't a virgin. Easiest way to get the truth.
Sounds like you will make a great husband and father some day


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by JordanMang
I'm sorry you have no idea what you're talking about. I can actually relate to the problem at hand and offer far better advice then "If you do have sex you can ask her afterwards if she has before." Any guy who puts the chance of his girlfriend being offended by asking if she is a virgin before his life and his dick is a moron. I know 0 girls from the "worst" to the "best" who would be offended by this question at all. In this day and age I'd rather be safe then sorry, and if his girlfriend can't understand that well then he's better off without.
First of all, you should be using a condom and that doesn't matter what age you are. Who gives a shit if she's had sex with anyone else before? The point is that you shouldn't be asking her at all. It's none of your business, end of story. And yes, it would be offensive as a teenager to be asked that.

Use a condom and deal with it. Realize, that past the age of 18, you will probably never find a virgin.


Posted by: A7X

If you guys do really have somthing special she'd tell you wouldnt she? i mean you should be able to talk to eachother about everything. im 16 and i had the same problem. my girlfriend already lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend and she told me as soon as we started doing anything sexual with eachother. i understood but it didnt bother me cos my girlfriend kept saying how he could never compare to me


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by A7X
If you guys do really have somthing special she'd tell you wouldnt she? i mean you should be able to talk to eachother about everything. im 16 and i had the same problem. my girlfriend already lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend and she told me as soon as we started doing anything sexual with eachother. i understood but it didnt bother me cos my girlfriend kept saying how he could never compare to me
What she was saying to you was he was so much bigger and better than you she felt sorry for you


Posted by: PreMier

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
First of all, you should be using a condom and that doesn't matter what age you are. Who gives a shit if she's had sex with anyone else before? The point is that you shouldn't be asking her at all. It's none of your business, end of story. And yes, it would be offensive as a teenager to be asked that.

Use a condom and deal with it. Realize, that past the age of 18, you will probably never find a virgin.

Unless you live in Utah. Then every girl that isnt married is a virgin


Posted by: JordanMang

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
First of all, you should be using a condom and that doesn't matter what age you are. Who gives a shit if she's had sex with anyone else before? The point is that you shouldn't be asking her at all. It's none of your business, end of story. And yes, it would be offensive as a teenager to be asked that.

Use a condom and deal with it. Realize, that past the age of 18, you will probably never find a virgin.
If you're going to engage in sexual activities with your girl friend, but you're not close enough to ask if she's a virgin then something is wrong. You're wrong. It is you're business. If you're having sex ( protected or not ) it is completely you're business - it's this type of ignorance that has lead us to where we are today.


Posted by: kicka19

Quote:
Originally Posted by JordanMang
If you're going to engage in sexual activities with your girl friend, but you're not close enough to ask if she's a virgin then something is wrong. You're wrong. It is you're business. If you're having sex ( protected or not ) it is completely you're business - it's this type of ignorance that has lead us to where we are today.
your 16, you dont know what yesterday was like


Posted by: BoneCrusher

The biggest question that comes to my mind in this thread is why you care if she has or hasn't had sex. You must have some underlying bad feelings about females your age that are not virgins. Why? Sex is fun, natural, and healthy at your age. You ARE on the youngish side of the sexual exploration age curve and so is she ... but you are still both within the normal ages for sexual activity in American culture.

I ask you again WHY you feel there is something _______ (insert your unhappy feeling there) about her not being a virgin? What ever your negative feelings are about her sexual experiences they are your feelings caused by something within your own set of experiences in life. Don't judge her based on your ideas of how you think she should conduct her self sexually before you became involved with her. She is a female willing to give you a part of herself ... accept that gift, give the same to her that she gives you, and go with it.

She absolutely will not be your last sexual experience, so when the next female comes along will that next female have the right to judge you based on your status as a virgin? Would you want her to even think that way? Would you respect a woman who judged you based on whether you were a virgin?


Posted by: shiznit2169

Even if she consents, do not get caught or it will be statutory rape


Posted by: JordanMang

Quote:
Originally Posted by kicka19
your 16, you dont know what yesterday was like

And you don't know what today is like obviously. Stop with the ignorant post.


Posted by: maxpro2

Don't be a fool, wrap your tool.


Posted by: thefutureisnow

Quote:
Originally Posted by A7X
If you guys do really have somthing special she'd tell you wouldnt she? i mean you should be able to talk to eachother about everything. im 16 and i had the same problem. my girlfriend already lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend and she told me as soon as we started doing anything sexual with eachother. i understood but it didnt bother me cos my girlfriend kept saying how he could never compare to me
And you believed her. What is she gonna say "He had a massive cock".


Posted by: thefutureisnow

Quote:
Originally Posted by shiznit2169
Even if she consents, do not get caught or it will be statutory rape
Funny how its always the guys that get in trouble for that. Like the girls didn't take part in the act.


Posted by: MCx2

Quote:
Originally Posted by ForemanRules
Translaston: Most virgins are future whores.




Posted by: ZECH

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
Realize, that past the age of 18, you will probably never find a virgin.
I think that is pushing it!


Posted by: Northernlights8

Well if shes a virgin, i wouldnt wrap it. You dont have STD's and just pull out before you let it rip. BUt most likely shes going to tell you to wear one and youll listen.

Other than that as soon as your done with this girl and highschool you are going to want to stay away from the virgins. Dont ask me why now. Youll understand in a few years.


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by Northernlights8
Well if shes a virgin, i wouldnt wrap it. You dont have STD's and just pull out before you let it rip.
Solid advice


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by dg806
I think that is pushing it!
How so? The average age for children/teenagers to lose their virginity is 12 So given that, no, I don't think that was pushing it at all.


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by Northernlights8
Well if shes a virgin, i wouldnt wrap it. You dont have STD's and just pull out before you let it rip. BUt most likely shes going to tell you to wear one and youll listen.
That is the dumbest post yet! WTF?

1. She could be lying
2. You can still get her pregnant even if you don't ejaculate inside of her.

You can't possibly be that stupid can you?


Posted by: Northernlights8

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
That is the dumbest post yet! WTF?

1. She could be lying
2. You can still get her pregnant even if you don't ejaculate inside of her.

You can't possibly be that stupid can you?

well then ive been luky when i was younger, but if you too scared to do that maybe he should hit it when shes on her period.


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
How so? The average age for children/teenagers to lose their virginity is 12 So given that, no, I don't think that was pushing it at all.
It is not 12, that data is wacked.


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by ForemanRules
It is not 12, that data is wacked.
My bad, typo. I meant to say 14. FOURTEEN!!


Posted by: ZECH

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
How so? The average age for children/teenagers to lose their virginity is 12 So given that, no, I don't think that was pushing it at all.
That is what I meant...............it is younger.


Posted by: Jodi

Oh You were saying even at 18 you won't find a virgin anymore. You are probably right.


Posted by: Dale Mabry

Who the fuck would want a virgin, they don't know what the fuck they are doing. That's like going to a dr that never went to medical school.


Posted by: BoneCrusher

Quote:
Originally Posted by Dale
Who the fuck would want a virgin, they don't know what the fuck they are doing. That's like going to a dr that never went to medical school.
Or having sex with me ... here's my video.


Posted by: juggernaut

wash yourself with gasoline and dry off with a match. Dont post something as gay as this ever again.


Posted by: MyK

Quote:
Originally Posted by Dale Mabry
Who the fuck would want a virgin, they don't know what the fuck they are doing. That's like going to a dr that never went to medical school.
I agree 100% I've popped 5 cherries and they all sucked!


Posted by: juggernaut

^^^take it easy ron jeremy.


Posted by: SportinStyle

Honestly brother, be happy if she's not a virgin; someones gotta show your dumbass what to do. I just mean keep on track man, obviously if you kissed her after only a week, you're bound to hit that sometime this decade.


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by SportinStyle
Honestly brother, be happy if she's not a virgin; someones gotta show your dumbass what to do. I just mean keep on track man, obviously if you kissed her after only a week, you're bound to hit that sometime this decade.
Great advice and insight


Posted by: DOMS

Who the hell wants a virgin? I've had one. It's like necrophilia, only a little warmer and she calls you the next day.


Posted by: SportinStyle

I'm not EXACTLY sure, but does ForemanRules have me stoned off my ass as his avatar?

If so.. I'm not too sure what to say about that.


Posted by: TJ Cline

I just like your style


Posted by: LexusGS

damn you wrote alot


Posted by: mustangdan

DUDE! JUST ASK HER! if she is then she will probably laugh giggle a bit and turn red cuz she'll be all embarassed. if she's not then she'll say no and be like "get real whos a virgin these days". .... JUST ASK HER.


Posted by: clemson357

Quote:
Originally Posted by Rocco32
Holy crap is this pathetic. I hope you don't plan on staying around on here...you'll never live down your first post.

I wonder how many other message boards you've posted this
Whats more pathetic, a 16 year old kid who asks a question about girls, or a grown man making fun of a 16 year old kid....


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by clemson357
Whats more pathetic, a 16 year old kid who doesn't know shit about girls, or a grown man making fun of a 16 year old kid....
You


Posted by: clemson357

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
Tom Lykas is an ass!

Ugghhh!!!!

First of all, it's none of your damn business if she has had sex already or not.....
I must say, this too is bullshit. The only girls I know who would make this proposition are girls that have slept around and have good reason to be embarrassed about their number. If you don't want to know, that is one thing. But saying it is none of your partners business is complete bullshit.


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by clemson357
I must say, this too is bullshit. The only girls I know who would make this proposition are girls that have slept around and have good reason to be embarrassed about their number. If you don't want to know, that is one thing. But saying it is none of your partners business is complete bullshit.
For some men and women this may be the case but for many it's a just personal thing........nobody wants to talk about their previous sex life with their SO and if they do, then they are sick.

You need to think like a women here for moment..............asking a girl this question is going to imply that you think that she did sleep around. So a harmless question, turns into accusation in her mind. Think from a womens perspective and maybe you can see where I'm coming from.


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
For some men and women this may be the case but for many it's a just personal thing........nobody wants to talk about their previous sex life with their SO and if they do, then they are sick.

You need to think like a women here for moment..............asking a girl this question is going to imply that you think that she did sleep around. So a harmless question, turns into accusation in her mind. Think from a womens perspective and maybe you can see where I'm coming from.
I would hope that if two people are close enough to exchange body fluids they are close enough to talk openly and honestly to eachother.


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by ForemanRules
I would hope that if two people are close enough to exchange body fluids they are close enough to talk openly and honestly to eachother.
I would TOTALLY agree with you on that Foreman! I'm just trying to offer a different opinion here.

I would never ask and it would be up to them to initiate the conversation, but that's just me.


Posted by: clemson357

Everyone sleeps around, the question is to what extent did you sleep around. If you are so ashamed that a question turns into an accusation, perhaps you shouldn't get angry at the person asking the question but instead ask yourself why you do things you are ashamed of. The fact of the matter is it is relevant to judging someone's character, their self-respect, whether they're likely to be promiscous in the future, and whether you even want to be with them. I wouldn't want to sleep with someone who fucks everything that comes along.

Bottom line, if I am going to be in a comitted relationship, I want to know a ball park figure. I also want to know if she has ever cheated before. I also want to know what contacts she has with her ex's. People talk about "setting yourself up for failure" by asking that question, I think you are setting yourself up for failure if you don't. You are going to find yourself broken hearted because your girl screwed around on you, when you wouldn't have gotten attached in the first place if you had known she had slept with 15 people at the age of 20, she cheated on every boyfriend she ever had, and she still has a thing for her ex.


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by clemson357
Everyone sleeps around, the question is to what extent did you sleep around. If you are so ashamed that a question turns into an accusation, perhaps you shouldn't get angry at the person asking the question but instead ask yourself why you do things you are ashamed of. The fact of the matter is it is relevant to judging someone's character, their self-respect, whether they're likely to be promiscous in the future, and whether you even want to be with them. I wouldn't want to sleep with someone who fucks everything that comes along.
woh woh woh, I don't think you want to accuse me here but it sounds like you are and I don't like it. I don't sleep around! When I was single, hell I WISH I DID sleep around a bit. Might have helped with the sexual frustration Most people have had a few flings here and there but being with the same guy (marriage) for over 1/3 of my life put me out of the "norm". It also made me sexually shy after my divorce for a few years. Anyway, I don't owe an explanation for why I said what I said, but yeah, if a guy came out and asked me how many people I've been with without prior discussion of both our past experiences then yes, I would be offended. I would think he would too if I asked him. There is a way to approach it but asking out of the blue for curiousity sake is not the way to do it.

Quote:
Bottom line, if I am going to be in a comitted relationship, I want to know a ball park figure. I also want to know if she has ever cheated before. I also want to know what contacts she has with her ex's. People talk about "setting yourself up for failure" by asking that question, I think you are setting yourself up for failure if you don't. You are going to find yourself broken hearted because your girl screwed around on you, when you wouldn't have gotten attached in the first place if you had known she had slept with 15 people at the age of 20, she cheated on every boyfriend she ever had, and she still has a thing for her ex.
I can't help but laugh and maybe you are just young but hell, I'd have dumped you on the spot if you asked me all that.


Posted by: JordanMang

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
woh woh woh, I don't think you want to accuse me here but it sounds like you are and I don't like it. I don't sleep around! When I was single, hell I WISH I DID sleep around a bit. Might have helped with the sexual frustration Most people have had a few flings here and there but being with the same guy (marriage) for over 1/3 of my life put me out of the "norm". It also made me sexually shy after my divorce for a few years. Anyway, I don't owe an explanation for why I said what I said, but yeah, if a guy came out and asked me how many people I've been with without prior discussion of both our past experiences then yes, I would be offended. I would think he would too if I asked him. There is a way to approach it but asking out of the blue for curiousity sake is not the way to do it.


I can't help but laugh and maybe you are just young but hell, I'd have dumped you on the spot if you asked me all that.

Maybe that's why you've spent 1/3'rd of your life with the same man. You're a prune.


Posted by: Jodi

Quote:
Originally Posted by JordanMang
Maybe that's why you've spent 1/3'rd of your life with the same man. You're a prune.
Listen you little puke, you have no fucking clue and I'm divorced for 4 years now.

Next time you want to comment on my personal life, PM me so that I can tear you a new asshole! In the meantime, STFU and don't EVER comment on anything in my personal life again!

Wow, not many people have truly pissed me off and other than 1 other person on this forum, you are now the second. You better watch yourself because if I see one rule broken by you, you are fucking gone for good.

GROW UP!


Posted by: DOMS

Prune?


Posted by: TJ Cline

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
I would TOTALLY agree with you on that Foreman! I'm just trying to offer a different opinion here.

I would never ask and it would be up to them to initiate the conversation, but that's just me.
The older I get the less I want to know about a womans past.


Posted by: JordanMang

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
Listen you little puke, you have no fucking clue and I'm divorced for 4 years now.

Next time you want to comment on my personal life, PM me so that I can tear you a new asshole! In the meantime, STFU and don't EVER comment on anything in my personal life again!

Wow, not many people have truly pissed me off and other than 1 other person on this forum, you are now the second. You better watch yourself because if I see one rule broken by you, you are fucking gone for good.

GROW UP!
Little puke? You're so old fashioned you must be reading yesterdays newspaper. Stop with the threats. You're flaming me isn't appreciated. You profiled me before I ever said anything about you.


Posted by: Jodi

I really wanted to call you a few other choice words but felt it was inappropriate and THEN that would be considered flaming. What I said above was far from a flame and if you think that's a threat then so be it but then it's a threat for every person on this board. Abide by the rules and don't give me a reason to ban you. I can't say that I won't have a big grin slapped across my face though when I see that you have broken a rule because that banning stick will come out faster than you can say goodbye.

Old fashioned? Me? and who has profiled who! Me old fashioned. If you only knew how funny that was as I am one of the most open minded person there is. I have morals and standards that I choose to live my life by but none of them are old fashioned.


Posted by: Pepper

Calling Jodi "old fashioned" is hilarious.


Posted by: JordanMang

Believe me, I could careless if you were to ban me. God forbid I be banned from a BB forum. The world would end.


Posted by: Northernlights8

lol what is yalls problem. Jordan why did you ever comment to a lady on here (admin) i belive and relate this thread to that. You should stick to this thread topic and not get off topic and just laugh or give advice to this kid.

On the other hand i thinks tis fucking funny that some freshmen comes to a BB forum to ask if he should ask his gf if she is a virgin. holy shit man, that is either a joke or this is for real. But i already gave my o2 cents, as

he should just fuck her without a condom. No worries for stds, and just pull out before he shoots his load (lets hope he knows the feeling before the load comes instead of being too late) if that happens he should be beatin with a pussy stick.


Posted by: clemson357

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
I can't help but laugh and maybe you are just young but hell, I'd have dumped you on the spot if you asked me all that.
I am 23, is that young? I have been more successful with relationships than almost anyone else I know.

I guess the difference is that I want to actually know the person I am involved with, you just want to settle with someone and never have to talk about your past. Everyone has regrets, and maybe you don't regret anything about you past sex life, but either way I have no patience for dirty secrets in a relationship.


Posted by: myCATpowerlifts

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jodi
Listen you little puke, you have no fucking clue and I'm divorced for 4 years now.

Next time you want to comment on my personal life, PM me so that I can tear you a new asshole! In the meantime, STFU and don't EVER comment on anything in my personal life again!

Wow, not many people have truly pissed me off and other than 1 other person on this forum, you are now the second. You better watch yourself because if I see one rule broken by you, you are fucking gone for good.

GROW UP!
You can now consider this your first and ONLY warning!


Posted by: NeilPearson






Posted by: MyK

Quote:
Originally Posted by NeilPearson


he said "give it", not "take it" !!!!!


Posted by: NeilPearson

Quote:
Originally Posted by MyK
he said "give it", not "take it" !!!!!
I'm not sure it matters


Posted by: myCATpowerlifts

Quote:
Originally Posted by NeilPearson


Sorry, no cigar.


Posted by: crazy_enough

Quote:
Originally Posted by JordanMang
If you're going to engage in sexual activities with your girl friend, but you're not close enough to ask if she's a virgin then something is wrong. You're wrong. It is you're business. If you're having sex ( protected or not ) it is completely you're business - it's this type of ignorance that has lead us to where we are today.
Oddly, I think thisk kid, who is younger than my brother and less than twice my kids age is one smart cookie..ABOUT THIS SEX TOPIC He also took this reaaaal personal! lol

I too beleive that previous sexual activity is open for discussion ESPECIALLY at that age, since many engage in risky sexual behaviours, by their own will, will some persuasion, first boozenights or whatever, whether it be having several partners, unprotected sex, drug use, etc.

Hold up tho, Im not saying all teens are careless whores junkies and not all older peeps are acting intelligently, but I can attest that my generation, versus my wife's, who's 11 yrs older, has increased its knowledge and care for these issues and education, being open minded and communication has lots to do it with...

I wouldnt ask for juicy details, just knowing whether or not she's had sex and it was protected and safe is sufficient.


Posted by: BigPapaPump68

Quote:
Originally Posted by Northernlights8
well then ive been luky when i was younger, but if you too scared to do that maybe he should hit it when shes on her period.
A girl can still get pregnant on her period.


Posted by: Burner02

Quote:
Originally Posted by ForemanRules
The older I get the less I want to know about a womans past.
Andrew Dice Clay to guy in Audience: "hey man, your girl is pretty hot. Is she...good in bed?

Guy: Yeah...
ADC: How do you think she got that way???





Posted by: JordanMang

Quote:
Originally Posted by crazy_enough
Oddly, I think thisk kid, who is younger than my brother and less than twice my kids age is one smart cookie..ABOUT THIS SEX TOPIC He also took this reaaaal personal! lol

I too beleive that previous sexual activity is open for discussion ESPECIALLY at that age, since many engage in risky sexual behaviours, by their own will, will some persuasion, first boozenights or whatever, whether it be having several partners, unprotected sex, drug use, etc.

Hold up tho, Im not saying all teens are careless whores junkies and not all older peeps are acting intelligently, but I can attest that my generation, versus my wife's, who's 11 yrs older, has increased its knowledge and care for these issues and education, being open minded and communication has lots to do it with...

I wouldnt ask for juicy details, just knowing whether or not she's had sex and it was protected and safe is sufficient.
Thank you.


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