I think it wherrre the growth should happen is why it's probably not such a bad thing
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I don't think that it's about having more hormones when we're older so much as being hornier ( or potenntially) and enjoying it more because we've figured out what to dooo with those hormones!!
On the track of the NLP suggestion and needing to sdrink or use something just to be able to socialise with a fml who you might want to sleep with and getting sweats and anxiety and crazy thoughts and so on just meeting girls and thiis
" If a girl is nervous in bed she's got both self esteem issues and a bad lover."
I've done a few of those NLP programmes myself. Anthony Robbins is quite kick as* at reeally changing a person's life by changing the language a person uses to communicate with themselves and also helps people to identyify what it is they're actually saaying to themselves in there and recongising the patterns and outcomes of those conversations and the behaviours stemming from them with the idea that it's supposed to help us understand what it is we want and what to say to ourselves to start doing what we need to to acheive that one ideal end picture.
Just really quickly, I think that the reason people get so nervous, over and above the stuff that other people have been saying is allso responsible for it, at our most primal level of conciousness we know that the idea of that contact is to procreate and as humans find a life partner.
That is scary as f*ck, because that invloves finding a lifestyle in a partner that will not only not comprimise what we have alreeady acheived, but then to keep being able to acheive the things that we know deep in the recesses of our heads to be the type of life we would ideally want to create without loosing the people we 've come to want to sleep with and have around and or maybe make a life with .. and then if that's not bad enough, our partners , to bee sincerely attractive, need to be respected by us. The more we acheive, the harder it is to find someone to think of as equal and therefore now knowing what to do with our hormones, and haaving those hormones and knowing what to do them, and recognising how much better sex is and can be and woould be in the hands of a partner who we can be into like thaat and vice versa as a long term thing.. makes it f*cking scary!.. at least that's what makes mee not want to talk to men anyway.. especially when they're hot I might want to sleep with them anyway.
I am a seriously hard person to be equal to! i'm smart healthy aand I want to make money and train alot and raise kids to have certain privildges and knowledge and and i 'm sure that miight end up well worth it , but it's often a really long hard b.s. slog to do all the things in life that organises a person to even bee in a situation where they are really set up long term to be a partners equal...
It doesn't really happen very often that partners don't eirger make a pact to bach or single it out forever or bail and run off with someone else before the other person has a chance to bee the other side of the equality thing so failing thaat, alot of people seem to find that if they take a younger partner or an older one, or a richer one or a poorer one or a less snart one or whathave you, then there's a whole difference in acceptance of thaat one is subordinate and the other has more power and it's good never mention it can be any different again bewcause we don't believe you scenario and that's just what people seem to go with instead of knowing that if they doo create the picture that when it's ready, the partner will appear.. and if the partner has alreaady appeared and isn't ready him or herself at the time then if they f*ck off to go gett ready having now met you and cared enough to want to and know what to, which is pretty bleeding huge anyway, then if you 're still available when they have had a chance to come through on that.. then you just are and so are they and it's set up for forever thereafter sweet like that!. It might take up to 10 yrs to do that sh*t from the time you both meet . .. but it has gott to be better than 70 where we never have that at all.
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that's why it's hard to wait and stay on track about it when easy comprimised prospects cross your path and thaat's why it's hard to want to put anyone through that and have a relationship that means anything..or even pick anyone up without having them or you get hurt.
Laugh at me here if you like, but while ii am getting into a place where Ii am ready to be the other side of that equation, or waiting reeeeally patiently for someone ellse to come through on theeir part, rarely to ever even givving most men a shot in between , even at a one night stand, I just figure that masturbation onn the reason I am or something about the picture i'm doing it for is enough to get me through and even most of the time trurns me on more as beeing soo much better than either selling out by being bought or hooking up with someone I already consider .. subordinate forr the easy prey that that would either make me or them and end up both being less turned on and satisfied later with whatever that would mean .. and do be surprised at what that subordinance can look like in age- finances and asthetics.
I believe I knoww the difference in quality and life and sex will be better as a result of having donne that or finding someone I might wannt to do that with ..again ..much more .. daily and erm.. christ daily sounds pretty sweet actually
.. giveortake ..that I guess I'm pretty good with it. and know that If I ever wannt to bail and sell out.. then that option is probably always going to be there too.
Sorry for the long post. I'm only likely to share that with you once and I could be wrong, but that's what i think on it anyway
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Blooming tianshi Lotus.
Originally Posted by Jodi
You are kidding right?
), so why dont men do it more often? Ok fine, why cant women break things down in black and white, simplify things, and rationalize a decision within seconds? Sure seems easy to us...
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It's about respect and not taking people for granted. I learned to cook because my dad could not to anything but make toast and I did not want to be that lame, I wanted to be able to take care of myself without having to rely on someone else. I can remember my dad had to take care of us kids once because my mom had some kind of emergency so he had to feed us something and I shit you not her gave us bread and water in a bowl! He is afraid of the kitchen, still Expects my mom to serve him his food. The only thing he does domestically is iron his shirts everything else my mom does for him- he's the biggest baby I know. I swore to myself that I would never be like him- and I am nothing like him. Rant over. 
being a chambermaid is easy, i did it in vegas. the money is great, you're done by 2 usually, and it's very stress free. after i came back to maine, before college, i worked at a place called the cleaning witch. i liked getting paired with the men there because they were usually faster and we'd get done earlier. 
