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Posted by: AKIRA

God Dammit

Ive had this since my 3rd girlfriend. Sometimes, I cant get it up! Not to save my fucking life! Blow jobs usually work, but enough is enough...heres my lil story..

Over the Christmas Vacation, I met up with an old flame that I used to have sex with 7 years ago. Even back then, (I was 20 she was 16), I had a hard time getting hard. She really though I wasnt attracted to her. In any case, when she sucked me off, I was ok.

However, we met again and she looked better than before! We got drunk at her house and...nope, there was no luck fucking that night, but in the morning, I was

No blowjob needed!

Then there was the last night I was in town, I was back to square fucking one! A blowjob did the trick, but in the morning, I tried thinking happy thoughts, get half, hard then it went away.

She really thinks I am not attracted to her.

But this has happened before! Theres nothing physically wrong with me. I can get hard with pornos instantly and you can set your clock to one almost every morning (not the one in the 2nd half of the story though

)

When this happens, physically, I have a warm feeling on the back of my head and the pit of my stomach. It actually hurts a lil bit sometimes and creates pressure. Almost like it sucks the blood from my dick, back into the torso. This physical change serves as a major distraction and boom, I am flacid.

Methods to counter act it?

-Breathing, relaxing, concentrate on sex thoughts..temporary though

-Blowjobs. They do the trick, but even though its bliss, it shouldnt be NEEDED.

-Alcohol. Yeah, it does work sometimes and at others, it makes it worse, e.g. "whiskey dick"

Since ive had experience with anxiety before, I know that the first question on the path to health is to ask 'what was I thinking before these physical changes occur?' Really, I am thinking "please dont happen again."

Now, if I had a girlfriend, its usually never a problem, but I like this girl..a LOT. I consider her "the one that got away," so its not just some bang.

HOWEVER..

It happens with "Bangs" and sometimes it doesnt...

Guys...I seriously need some spiritual healing. Ive taken pills too and theyve helped, but again, I shouldnt need them.

If anyone and I mean ANYONE has had this shit happen as much as it has happened to me and has cured (or almost) it, please tell me how.

Thanks and have fun with the embarrassment!

Posted by: NordicNacho

go down on her if you really like her and just try to gey her off. Its one of those things where the more you think about it the more problems you'll have and the less fun sex will be.

google that shit too

but number one is relax its not big deal if you can't get it up that the tude you need.

Posted by: KelJu

Do you have health insurance? Please see a doctor dude, problems in that area can make intimacy impossible. The problem could be physical or psychological. I would get checked out.

Posted by: Doublebase

Maybe you are jerking off to much? Stop masturbating for a few days and see if that helps.

Posted by: fufu

I am assuming it is all mental. I think you are overthinking things surrounding the sexual experience and that is causing your body not to act in natural fashion. Have you tried any kind of meditation? Relaxation is key!

Do you smoke weed? Get high!

Posted by: KelJu

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Originally Posted by fufu

I am assuming it is all mental. I think you are overthinking things surrounding the sexual experience and that is causing your body not to act in natural fashion. Have you tried any kind of meditation? Relaxation is key!

Do you smoke weed? Get high!

Excellent advice! Getting high relaxes me and increases sexual stimulation 3 fold.

Posted by: Dale Mabry

You need to turn that old pussy into new pussy...

I just wanted to say that.

Posted by: shiznit2169

Stop drinking alcohol and drink more water. Also, don't masturbate for a while and you really need to be mentally focused. Just breathe, relax and think about good images that helps you get aroused.

Posted by: Dale Mabry

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Originally Posted by shiznit2169

Stop drinking alcohol and drink more water. Also, don't masturbate for a while and you really need to be mentally focused. Just breathe, relax and think about good images that helps you get aroused.

Is this what Belicheck tells the Pats before every game?

Posted by: shiznit2169

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Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

Is this what Belicheck tells the Pats before every game?

Precisely. Why do you think Brady poses in a fur jacket and a cowboy hat while holding a goat? If those two plus a degrading scene in "Brokeback Mountain" are his positive images that helps him go 16-0 and win the SB this year and shatter all kinds of records, then so be it.

As for Belichick, he always has his humble pie.

Posted by: goob

I think you hit the nail on the head from square one. It's in the head. Reading between the lines, being an old flame you have pride at stake. Subconciously you wanted to show her that you had become a better man since last time (knowledge+techinique etc....inclusive of the 'problems since last time'). - Time has the effect of amplifying things for some reason, sometimes.

Sounds like your putting a shit load of subconcious pressure on yourself.
Pressure (in some ways) = limp dick. (Doubly since you had this before....- maybe not with her - but I bet its the ones you were 'into to ')

Because you like her a 'LOT', you're fucking yourself up by setting standards for yourself you would'nt normally if it was just a run of the mill pick up.

Basically dude, it's mental.

Posted by: AKIRA

It IS mental. Whenever I have a chance to fuck someone I am not very into, I have zero problems getting hard. But...why fuck a girl youre not in to? (rhetorical question there..)

I seriously do need to relax, but I really dont know how. I know how to fight off a panic attack pretty well and even fight off a temper that might result is ruining everyones good time, but this shit sucks. Its like if I take the time to relax, that relaxation time throws me off of the idea that there is a hot naked girl on top of my limp, jello filled cock.

I take it this hasnt happened to any one on here huh.

Posted by: fufu

Same reason people have problems approaching very attractive women while ineracting with less attractive women is easy and attracting them is even easier, almost unwanted at times.

It is probably worrying about wanting to prove yourself and measure up, no pun intended. You just have to find a more suitable mental context between you too for yourself.

Posted by: KelJu

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

I take it this hasnt happened to any one on here huh.

No dude, the reason I have maintained a serious tone throughout this thread is because it has happened to me before. The very first time I had sex my shit went limp. I had built it up in my head how sex was the "be all end all" of existence. I wanted to be the best lover ever. The pressure I put on myself destroyed the experience.

My first girlfriend was fine ass hell, too. That made matters worse. If the problem is in your head, then conventional medicines is probably the wrong course of action. You need to work on your head a little bit, no pun intended. I'm gonna send you soem stuff that might help.

Posted by: AKIRA

I am glad I am not alone, but I know some people back home that have this happen to them. They are still in the same boat as me even now.

I cant understand how certain hornball guys can fuck easily all the time with random women. I can SOMETIMES, but...well you know my story.

Truth is, and its no surprise, I am a horn ball! I cant stop looking at girls at work and at school. This might be where this shit stems from, but honestly, I like looking.

Ill look into KelJus site after the UFC, but damn...I hope I didnt 'blow it' with this girl when I go back.

Posted by: min0 lee

I think the root of your problem is that eveytime you look into your girlfriends face this is what you see....

Posted by: HialeahChico305

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

but damn...I hope I didnt 'blow it' with this girl when I go back.

girls are not dumb, she must suspect something is goin on........IMO its better for her to think that your problem occured because your not 100 percent into her then for her to think you have a problem getting it up, either way if you can't satisfy her sooner or later she will look for someone that can, no matter how much she likes you. thats just how it goes. I've had your problem happen to me once and it was because I was putting to much preassure on myself because I really liked the girl. I have an idea of how your feeling after a experience like that because I've been there too. It's all mental when you think about it, just have fun and stop overthinking it.

Posted by: HialeahChico305

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Originally Posted by min0 lee

I think the root of your problem is that eveytime you look into your girlfriends face this is what you see....

who the hell is that? that his girl?

Posted by: AKIRA

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Originally Posted by HialeahChico305

Ive had this problem aroudn the first time I fucked her (I was 18-19). I know what it is...it IS mental. I just dont know HOW to over come it! She is not the only one its happened with either.

It just truly sucks that it happens with a girl that is HOT and that I have fucked more than once and yet, I am still having this problem.

Truth is, I like this girl intensely. She is the "one that got away." We never truly dated cuz she was a fucking nut case, but this girl can look bad in so many ways and I dont care, I am simply that much satisfied with her.

Now...you see the pressure? I feel this naturally and I believe she does feel the same way or doesnt cuz of defensive issues. Bottom line, the girl is a nut! However, if this girl comes and goes, someone else will enter the SAME scenario, so I must use this as a template for recovery.

God damn, this feels so silly, but I know my story will help others..

Posted by: HialeahChico305

Im guessing the first time your problem occurred has had an effect on you and its always in the back of your mind......Because I know it was in the back of mine after It happend to me but I learned to over come it. I have the best sex when I dont put pressure on myself and just have fun. after a couple of good sexual experiences I feel like Im on a row and my self esteem goes through the roof..I guess just think about the good times that you have and put behind the bad ones......If you get fustrated your just gonna make it worse. All I can say dude I feel your pain,but you gotta take control. I would really take Keljus advice and seek some help. This isn't about the girl anymore its about you.

Posted by: HialeahChico305

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

Bottom line, the girl is a nut! However, if this girl comes and goes, someone else will enter the SAME scenario, so I must use this as a template for recovery.

God damn, this feels so silly, but I know my story will help others..

and when you say a nut do you mean she craves sex 24-7? like a nympho? because those types of females are hard to tame........it's not safe to fall in love with those, eventually you will get your feelings hurt. so I wouln't get too attached.even if you give them good dick after a while they will cheat on you behind your back. you gotta have your game on top to satisfy them. dont show any weakness and make a quick recovery...hope all goes well.

Posted by: AKIRA

No shes a nut cuz...well, shes just got issues.

In any case, since I have zero shit to do today, I will go to Kelju's site today while I unpack my things.

Oh and to answer your question, yes, ever since the first time this happened, it has never been forgotten.

A few mental attacks I keep inflicting on myself are thoughts of "it shouldnt be like this."

But fuck it, Ill see what I can do from here on out and report in when things get better.

Posted by: Gazhole

Seriously, the cliche is right - it DOES happen to everybody. Dont sweat it.

It can be a number of things, usually mental like youve said already - you just overthink it and it doesnt work, or can be overtiredness, or the dreaded whiskey dick etc.

You just have to put the thoughts out of your head, otherwise itll just end up like a feedback loop where you fail so you cant get it up so you fail again so you cant get it up etc etc.

Just concentrate on the moment and how good it is. Perhaps get her off first through other methods to take that pressure off, plus that gives you points with her anyway, haha.

Having been there myself i hope it works out for you man

Posted by: A Black Guy

Don't worry. The short guy with the mustache from the party had the same thing happen with her.

Posted by: PreMier

i had it happen before. i like older women.. like 33-40ish (im 25). so sometimes i think about the dudes they might have been with and wonder if i will 'perform' alright. its only happened once or twice, my problem comes with getting off. sometimes i dont cum, and trust me thats as bad as not getting hard because they think its them lol

i think you just need to relax(like everyone says) and also stop looking at porn. seriously, when you look at porn you get de sensatised(sp) and it will be harder to get an erection.

Posted by: A Black Guy

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Originally Posted by PreMier

i think you just need to relax(like everyone says) and also stop looking at porn. seriously, when you look at porn you get de sensatised(sp) and it will be harder to get an erection.

wat?

Posted by: ReproMan

If it wasn't for porno, I'd never get a boner.

Posted by: PreMier

yea i said it stop looking at porn so much. if you need a bj to get hard(unless your watching porn) there is a problem.

Posted by: min0 lee

Maybe your on the wrong team?

Posted by: AKIRA

Thanks min0.

No, thank you ABG!

Thats kinda true with the porn. Because of all the shit Ive seen in porn, I need more shit to get me excited cuz..well, Ive seen it already.

Then again..I can get hard with an older lady the moment I get in her bed. Shit, she can be in the bathroom taking a shit and ill be hard in the bed...then again, I dont CARE.

I have been watching KelJus stuff and am almost done with just the first vid and I can see myself in most of the scenarios theyve listed.

For instance, in the vid they talk about living in the past/future and not in the present. If I did, I might be able to pay attention to the scents, the licks, the sucks, and finally the fucks, rather than...will she want me tomorrow.

Man, I sound like a emotional fucking cripple.

Posted by: Crono1000

oh man, how did I miss this thread

Now I can't wait till I see you walking around the streets of campus

It sounds like you got some solid advice though. Don't jerk it so much, are you sure you're attracted to her, and are you sure you're attracted to chicks. I'm not doubting you or anything, just throwing the idea out there.

I have a similar story I guess. I once knew a chick who was smoking hot but I could never crank one out to her without trying way too hard than I should have (crank one out solo mind you, I'm in a relationship and have no plans to mess that up). It was all so strange cuz she was like perfect, and I'd get so mad at my dick for not cooperating. It's gotta be mental man.

Posted by: AKIRA

This girl is really fucking hot..and she looked her hottest on our last night together.

I was continuing to think about it...I did end up fucking her..twice, so I am not in that bad of a boat. However, the blowjob necessity is still there. Then AGAIN, I didnt need it the FIRST of the two times..

I wanted to fuck her again in the morning, but she was asleep. I wanted to touch her and, well, kiss her, but I didnt feel like fondling her and I couldnt kiss her cuz of morning breath. I was half hard almost the entire time...I suppose her not being in the mood turned me off(?)

Posted by: A Black Guy

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

I didnt feel like fondling her

Unacceptable.

Posted by: FitnessRubber

I've never had this problem myself, but I've heard that guys who work out a lot are more susceptible to this problem than guys who don't. Maybe you spend too much time pumping iron.

Posted by: KelJu

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Originally Posted by FitnessRubber

I've never had this problem myself, but I've heard that guys who work out a lot are more susceptible to this problem than guys who don't. Maybe you spend too much time pumping iron.

I would love to hear your source on this? Did you hear this one hanging around the cracker barrel?

Posted by: HialeahChico305

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Originally Posted by FitnessRubber

I've never had this problem myself, but I've heard that guys who work out a lot are more susceptible to this problem than guys who don't. Maybe you spend too much time pumping iron.

actually after a good work out I feel like fucking anything that walks on two legs ( anything without a tail in the front that is). I tought working out actually boosts you self esteem and gives you better performance in bed.

Posted by: KelJu

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Originally Posted by HialeahChico305

There is science that backs up everything you were saying. I just felt like being a smart ass. Anyway, the comment the guy made is typically made by people who are jealous of others who have worked hard in the gym and look good.

Posted by: AKIRA

Yeah after I work out I am hornier than usual and I know why.
Guess I shoulda worked out huh?

Posted by: HialeahChico305

yea either that or rigth after you wake up......her morning breath might turn ya off though so try to avoid toungue wrestling lol

Posted by: evanps

Congratulations, you've conditioned yourself to have a limp dick. It worked for you one time and now, whether you consciously see it or not, you think you need it every time to get hard for this girl. Couple that with the stress this is causing and you've got quite a nasty little cycle goin there. I say stop lettin her blow you unless you're already hard and fuck her as often as you can. The more you're doin it without your BJ crutch the better it'll get.

That said I'll tell you why I believe this. I dated a girl in high school whom I had very little chance to bone in private so we had to sneak around her house and do so. I swear to you I got to the point where I didn't even wanna tough her unless someone else was around. Took me forever to develop any kind of desire for her when we were alone. Very weird what your mind can do.

Posted by: A Black Guy

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Originally Posted by HialeahChico305

yea either that or rigth after you wake up......her morning breath might turn ya off though so try to avoid toungue wrestling lol

I don't think he can use this as an excuse after the Alicia story.

Posted by: ReproMan

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

I don't think he can use this as an excuse after the Alicia story.

Posted by: AKIRA

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

I don't think he can use this as an excuse after the Alicia story.

I was already in her when I noticed her breath...then the next day I coudlnt get it up for the same reason...oh and I had the hang over of the century.

Posted by: A Black Guy

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

I was already in her when I noticed her breath.

Classic.

Posted by: Burner02

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

I was already in her when I noticed her breath...then the next day I coudlnt get it up for the same reason...oh and I had the hang over of the century.

dang, that's when you flip her and rear mount! Do we have to coach ya on all things????

Posted by: maniclion

It's your ego, the disillusionment of your sexual self is dominating your will to bring pleasure to anothers life. Don't force any demands on your monument or it will not function properly, let the primal animalistic urges bring the uprising.....also look into tantric instruction, one of my exes were into that and she taught me a lot about sexuality....

Posted by: Mista

This has happened to me and im only 21.

It started being drunk every time I met a chick, and thought that was the problem, then after that happening a few times and talking to friends I convinced myself something was wrong.

I went to the doctors and she was pretty sure it was in my head but wanted to do blood tests. I hate needles and convinced her to give me a sample cialis just so I could get it up before I went away. It worked, I got it up. Then again when I was away no worries.

Now im back and seeing a girl that knows the right things to do I have had no problems. I think the key for me was to have the confidence it could happen.

Posted by: AKIRA

I dont understand your very last line..

Posted by: Mista

"Now im back and seeing a girl that knows the right things to do I have had no problems. I think the key for me was to have the confidence it could happen."

I went to the docs before my holiday now i'm home again. The girl knows the right things to do to turn me on. Once I knew I could get it up, it didn't seem to be a problem.

Understand?

Posted by: AKIRA

Ahhh. See, when I have a girlfriend...Ill eventually have sex with HER numerous times, so the anxiety is non-existent.

Kinda like being dragged out to the dance floor. For the first couple of minutes, youre stiff as a board, but after a while, you loosen up cuz you realize its not a big deal and nobody will make fun of you. (well, if youre within a crowd)

Posted by: A Black Guy

I wish dancing was as easy as getting hard...

Posted by: ReproMan

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

I wish dancing was as easy as getting hard...

Too bad he can't do that either.

Posted by: A Black Guy

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Originally Posted by ReproMan

Too bad he can't do that either.

Well it's a damn good thing he can sing....wait...

Posted by: Burner02

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

Ahhh. See, when I have a girlfriend...Ill eventually have sex with HER numerous times, so the anxiety is non-existent.

Kinda like being dragged out to the dance floor. For the first couple of minutes, youre stiff as a board, but after a while, you loosen up cuz you realize its not a big deal and nobody will make fun of you. (well, if youre within a crowd)

actually...when was a bouncer in a night club...we'd see the guys who really couldn't dance...and make fun of them...
sorry...well, there's hope: You can join a planet fitness and at least won't be judged there...

Posted by: A Black Guy

What about never getting all the way hard during oral?

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

Maybe you are gay? Ever tried to see if you have that problem with a male?

j/k

I would go with eat some pussy...more foreplay. It sound to me unless you leave out a lot of details you do nothing to get her excited...its just about you getting hard or getting head? I personally get more turned on my pleasing the girl I'm with...and nothing helps you get more relaxed then eating her pussy and making her cum all before the sex starts. That takes ALL the pressure off the situation when you know you've finished the job before you ever got started. In her book you are the man, and you should be relaxed and ready to bone after that.

I've only had that issue when I am not really digging the girl I'm fucking, or I've already came and the interest isn't enough to make the effort for round two. I don't really have issues with round one unless I prolong it too much and lose the feeling. Then its like starting over from the beginning of round two.

Posted by: AKIRA

The first night, I did eat her out! She doesnt seem to respond to it...(?) She said she never has. She said only she can get herself off. Not a very good pep talk before the big game, actually.

I figured some people would come to that dance analogy like lambs to a slaughter....never thought it would be a home skillet though.

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

Well maybe her lack of being responsive turns you off without you realizing it. You try things and fail and that isn't good. Some women don't cum easy or at all. Find you a girl that is wild in bed and knows her body. Sounds to me she either A. doesn't know how to relax and enjoy a man touching her body, or B. She has trained herself through masterbation to only cum when she does a certain thing. This is a crazy example...but lets just say for shits and giggles you rubbed your prostate while you jerked off all the time...and got used to that being how you cum....then a girl comes along and doesn't touch you in th way you like...you too would probably have trouble cumming. So anyways point is that she might have trained herself to cum alone..or could be self issues where she cannot relax enough to enjoy herself.

Posted by: A Black Guy

fuck, motherfuck, shit.

that is all...

Posted by: crazy_enough

Wow I cant imagine having this problem!!!

I do empathize with u poor fellas...But have to say that Im very glad that when I need for my "shit" to get hard, I simply take it out of the bedside table and strap it on

Posted by: KelJu

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Originally Posted by crazy_enough

Wow I cant imagine having this problem!!!

I do empathize with u poor fellas...But have to say that Im very glad that when I need for my "shit" to get hard, I simply take it out of the bedside table and strap it on

I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body. I'm jealous. I think it would be cool to have my own boobs to play with when I get bored.

Posted by: crazy_enough

Oddly, I dont play with my boobs when I get bored

Posted by: KelJu

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Originally Posted by crazy_enough

Oddly, I dont play with my boobs when I get bored

Posted by: AKIRA

Guess who got laid a few nights ago?

I actually didnt need shit this time..!

However..

The girl was so wet (or loose), that I didnt even know I was fucking anything but a warm cup of coffee about 50 strokes in, so...I lost it.

Yeah.

Naturally, we stopped..for a while.

I was half hard pretty much the entire time after I lost it, but I got to thinking... If I had grabbed the base of my shaft, it would force the rest of the blood to make the end half of my dick hard, yes?

So I tried it and it worked! Kind of a pathetic way to get shit restarted, but she didnt mind cuz after I was back in, the rest of my dick grew and I was not longer hung like a stack of dimes.

Whats weird is, I hadnt jerked off in a while before this (prolly helped), but when I came I didnt feel SHIT. Seriously, it sucked..bad. It was a lot too. God dammit. This has happened before and when it has happened, I was drunk 100% of the time, so I know this is certainly not helping.

Whats even more weird is that I mustve used up all my hormones cuz I wasnt horny again until yesterday morning.

Not my best triumph, but its progress. Anything worse than a failure is a bother to not even try.

Posted by: fufu

go Akira!

Posted by: Crono1000

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Originally Posted by AKIRA

Guess who got laid a few nights ago?

I actually didnt need shit this time..!

However..

The girl was so wet (or loose), that I didnt even know I was fucking anything but a warm cup of coffee about 50 strokes in, so...I lost it.

I'm not sure if I should congratulate you or say I'm sorry for you

Posted by: A Black Guy

Time to get a cock ring or something?

Posted by: NaturalMuscle

I have been there before to dude with some girls it just doesnt want to get up and it F*cking sucks!!!!!

I have found something that works really well and thats the pill Maxidus its worked wonders for me but like you said I shouldnt need it im only 22 yrs old

But it is all in your head so try to talk to yourself positively and dont think about it ( I know its hard Ive been there but you gotta do it)

Well thats my 2 Cents hope you get better bro!

Natural muscle

Posted by: AKIRA

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

Time to get a cock ring or something?

Possibly. Hah.

Hmmm you stayed home tonight?

Posted by: A Black Guy

Something going down on Sunday nights now?

Posted by: HialeahChico305

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Originally Posted by A Black Guy

Something going down on Sunday nights now?

church ?

Posted by: captaincaberman

Maybe you have too much going on. I mean maybe you have too many hobbies or your job is too stressful and you have a lot of stuff on your mind?

Posted by: AKIRA

Well, I did put it in my journal, but Ill put it here also.

Last night, after doing a high intensity, low volume deadlift night, I went home and awaited company. The moment we got naked I was hard. No BJs, no alcohol, just plain hormones. Mightve been cuz my heart was pumping more blood than on a regular day in that direction, but it was fantastic. Felt 'normal.'

I also didnt feel nervous, so perhaps it was from the endorphin rush.

Ive had sex with her before, but I was drunk and we still had problems. I was nervous that night too. The following sex night was a no go, less alcohol, but I just wasnt in the mood. We were laughing about other shit too much, I just couldnt get into it.

Posted by: Dareiko

It would be far better if you consult your docyor .Tell him about your problem In my opinion this is not a psycho problem . You need physical treatment . I am sure after taking medical treatment you will be all right .

Posted by: AKIRA

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Originally Posted by Dareiko

It would be far better if you consult your docyor .Tell him about your problem In my opinion this is not a psycho problem . You need physical treatment . I am sure after taking medical treatment you will be all right .

If I can get an erection in the morning, there is nothing physically wrong with me.

UPDATE!!

During a wedding this past weekend, I ended up fucking the maid of honor. 4 times. Not one single problem.

However, in this trip, I thought about screwing my ex, but shes been acting awkward. In a nut shell, I dont know how she feels...and thats the killer.

When I thought about every girl that Ive had this problem with, I had doubts about their feelings for me. Boom, theres the corelation. (sp?)

Still wish I didnt care though..

Posted by: chiquita6683

way to go babe.
was your ex at the wedding?
Anybody that stays with you despite your problem shows they really care about you and sex isnt that big of deal. Think, why is your ex your ex? Did your ex stay w you after you had your problem?

Posted by: AKIRA

I never had this problem when I was with her. But when we talk here and there, she isnt the same person. I mean, there are excuses, but those are for the birds.

Last night we came onto each other and everything was fine. But if we were to hook up when she was acting weird, no, I prolly wouldnt be able to get it up.

The maid of honor was someone new. I never felt insecure so no hard on problems.

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