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Posted by: iMan323

I have been hitting the gym and following my workouts religiously, but I've been having a lot of trouble staying with my diet lately. All sorts of shit has come up to throw me off. Let me give you a break down of what happened.

Thursday night; i'm getting some trouble with my plumbing. can't use water to either wash dishes or cook anything. Did my best to stick with the plan using some precooked food that I had, but still ended up buying a meal with an unknown amount of micronutrients... bought halal lamb+brown rice out on the corner.

Friday night, still didnt' get the plumbing fixed, so ended up buying another unplanned meal. At night I went to a lounge had a couple of whiskey's on the rocks, nothing crazy.

Saturday night, went out hunting for girls, and made a mistake of going with a buddy of mine. By the time I met him, he was already drunk. I couldn't just dump him. So we ended up going to a fucking japanese restaurants, him being drunk he couldn't stop ordering sake, I ate and drank more then I intended to.

Sunday; my plumbing still didn't get fixed, I ran out to get myself a roast beef sandwich and some muscle milk, then I had to get driven to Ikea, and that shit turned out to be a 6 hour ordeal. then I had to go to my mom's house, she fed me, but my diet was in the pooper.

Today, the plumbing is finally working well, I'm going to hit the gym and stay with my diet, but at the end of the night I have to go to my grandparents and they will be forcing me to stuff my face.

Like wtf. It seems unless you live in total isolation, things and circumstances just come up to throw you off your track. I'm very dedicated to sticking with my plan right now, so this bothers me a great deal. How do you deal with circumstances and ppl like that? I really just want to follow my freaking diet. How do you dedicated ppl do it?

Posted by: IainDaniel

Sounds like a good chunk of needing to take responsibility for your actions.

If you want to be something different then you need to limit these actions. Now I am not saying to completely segregate yourself from this. But you need to find a limit.

My goal is to stay pretty strict during the week, while weekends I can let loose a little bit, indulging in a few drinks or whatnot. But again it all comes down to what you expect to accomplish and having a realistic vision of your goals and how to achieve them.

Posted by: Prince

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Originally Posted by iMan323

Like wtf. It seems unless you live in total isolation, things and circumstances just come up to throw you off your track. I'm very dedicated to sticking with my plan right now, so this bothers me a great deal. How do you deal with circumstances and ppl like that? I really just want to follow my freaking diet. How do you dedicated ppl do it?

it can be difficult, but you have to plan ahead for unforeseen circumstances.

Posted by: fufu

The plumbing was shitty, sorry to hear that. However, the rest is yourself messing up your diet, not others. Just how it is, that is one of the toughest parts of dieting, dealing with others when out. Don't let others control what you want to do.

Posted by: danzik17

Just need to say no sometimes. I get asked to go out for lunch a lot, and I say no constantly in order to maintain my diet.

If I do go out, I still eat my normal meal beforehand, and while I'm at the restaurant I'll only order a house salad, no dressing, and water.

You don't need water for everything though. Chicken, tuna, steak, fruit, veggies, nuts, etc. Lots of options.

Posted by: Smoo_lord

Dude, I can relate. I basically had to stop hanging round with a group of people cause all we would do was party up hard.

Drinking for like 12 hr sessions and shit. Was great fun, but hurting progress to hell. So I decided to sort of avoid them for a bit.

Took up another job and shit, so I had less free time to do things like that. But everyones different I Guess. I didnt have the willpower to go out with them and just stick to drinking water and that, so I avoided that situation completely.

Posted by: FitnessRubber

Planning ahead: it's all about planning ahead. You might have to say no, or you may just need to realize that you're in control. If you eat the wrong foods or go past your limit, make up for it the next day.

Seriously, it's not about other people screwing things up or even about situations that just suck - those are all going to happen: you can't control that stuff, you can only control you.

Posted by: Biggly

I can certainly relate, the last week or so has been similar for me. Had to go to wifey's cousin's wedding overseas, away for 5 days and various unknown foreign foods etc. 2 days after getting back, off again for 2 days and nights, though at least managed to get in some cardio as the hotel has some treadmills.

Finally, thank the lord, I get back, catch up on some work, sort my diet, all ready for a decent workout and... develop a stinking cold and chesty cough.

Arse.

It's easy to say "take control" but in reality it tends to mean "offend the feck out of your family and friends by refusing invitations or being a party pooper if you DO turn up".

I think the difference this time to last time when I coped better was then it was obvious I was bodybuilding. Being somewhat sheepish at having let myself slip over the last year or so I don't speak out enough and let people take liberties. Thing is they don't intend to or mean to mess you up, they're just treating you normally, even if the "normal" is the last thing you want.

Thanks for your post, if only as you've clarified what I need to do myself, which is return to the "Because I'm a bloody bodybuilder, alright?" attitude.

Don't be shy or apologetic about it. By all means turn up and don't eat, or eat lentils or something just to nibble but make it very clear that you're not just "on a diet" but have a very specific training and nutrition program. I recall a time last year when someone was trying to get me to eat something on the basis that it was "not too spicey". My response was "I don't care about the spice, I'm just not hungry right now". He kept on so I asked him:

"OK then, what are the macronutrients and calories of this dish?"

*blank stare"

"Well if you don't know what it is, and I don't know what it is, it's probably best I don't eat it then, or it'll mess up my nutrition program."

Give that kind of response a few times and make it clear you take this stuff seriously and you'll find people will respect that, know in advance not to shove crappy junk in your direction etc.

It's tough when you first start out and don't look anything like a bodybuilder to explain you're on a bodybuilding diet. Easy to be sheepish and keep quiet, while if you're already Mr Freaky people are more likely to ask you what you choose to eat than shove crap on your plate and tell you what you should be eating.

So rule #1 - grow big muscles and look like a bodybuilder.

Rule #2 - don't be bashful about being a bodybuilder, even if you don't look like one yet.

Rule #3 - if 1 and 2 don't work, start nagging THEM about what they should eat. Point out what's wrong with their diet, keep asking if they've started exercising yet. Think of it as a pre-emptive strike!

B.

Posted by: iMan323

Well, I come from an ethnic background as well, and my protests over not wanting to eat something when with my family are usually met with "you're not fat, why don't you want to eat this?".

Or..

"I spent 3 hours cooking this meal why did only eat so little?" Then they try to guilt trip the shit out of me. I shave my head, but here's what I think ---->

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