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Posted by: workhard1

So I started having sex with this new girl. However, the first time we were about to actually have sex she whispered in to my ear "Not to scare you or anything, but this is my first time". We have now attempted to have sex 3 times, but I just don't fit inside of her, she is just too tight. So what the heck can I do about this? It hurts us both when we try to have sex

Posted by: RasPlasch

Finger bang her for awhile. That should loosen her up. Or just use lube? lol.

Posted by: chobby192

Get her drunk.

Posted by: Crono1000

if this problem is happening it most likely means that either she's not lubed up enough (not enough foreplay, she's nervous, etc.) or you're a walking penis with a person attached to it. In other words, if a vagina can stretch to the point that a baby can come out of it then it can fit in a penis up to the size of a watermelon.

Posted by: Moondogg

Buy a small dildo, use that to help loosen her up, then youll be good to go.

Posted by: sendit08

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Originally Posted by Crono1000

In other words, if a vagina can stretch to the point that a baby can come out of it then it can fit in a penis up to the size of a watermelon.

Its going to come down to two things...
1. Lubrication
2. Relaxation
*** Take it easy buddy... leave the jackhammer out of it for a while!!

Posted by: KelJu

I may be wrong, but this just comes out sounding like a "hey, I have a giant cock" thread.

Posted by: sendit08

yes obvious brag thread...
but just incase this guy actually does have a girl that wants to screw him
for her sake, the slower the better!

Posted by: Built

I'll suggest it - muscle relaxant? Something with an analgesic in it might make it a little less painful.

Also, make sure the room is warm and she's really relaxed. Get her off before you get started so she's all happy and riding the oxytocin wave.

Posted by: KelJu

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Originally Posted by Built

I'll suggest it - muscle relaxant? Something with an analgesic in it might make it a little less painful.

Also, make sure the room is warm and she's really relaxed. Get her off before you get started so she's all happy and riding the oxytocin wave.

I need to get me some oxytocin that isn't the friendship and brotherly love kind.

Posted by: workhard1

This was not meant to be a bragging thread... I will be the first to stand up and say I am pretty sure I have about the average sized penis. It actually seems like a problem. There is plenty of foreplay too, and I wait until I can tell that there is enough liquid down there for me to penetrate (she is the virgin not me....). I just think she is afraid it will hurt so she gets nervous pretty quick and seems to dry up fairly quick once I am no longer going down on her.

Posted by: sendit08

Ill give you a secret recipe...

KY + THC

Posted by: workhard1

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Originally Posted by sendit08

Ill give you a secret recipe...

KY + THC

I could use some KY, but do you think it would make her feel odd about the sex since she is so new to it and all? I actually like this girl and can see myself wanting to date her for a while, so I don't want to freak her out ha

Posted by: Built

Put the KY on you.

What are you using for birth control?

Posted by: sendit08

or just buy extra lubed condoms

Posted by: workhard1

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Originally Posted by Built

Put the KY on you.

What are you using for birth control?

We are actually using two contraceptive methods. She is on Yaz (I think that is some form of birth control) but I have noticed from talking to her that she is not religious about taking it, for example last night she forgot it and just said "oh well I will take it tomorrow" since I am in college, I am not looking to take any risks, so we also use a condom (although I would rather not). I am pretty sure she would notice if I put the KY even on myself and I don't want her to feel awkward and ask what I am doing

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

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Originally Posted by workhard1

Yaz is good stuff...some of my ex's were on that and really liked it...low side effects etc...

You should use a rubber until you both get tested but hell yeah it feels way better without it.

I think you breaking out some ASTROGLIDE would not make her uncomfortable. It would show you care for her comfort. It will avoid the dry issues for sure.

I would stop worrying about this and have like a nice dinner take her home and say watch a movie....get frisky and just go with it. Don't make the putting it in thing a production, or make it seems like the foreplay is leading up to the big penetration. She will get wet and if you just take slow short strokes your little man will start sliding in...before you know it you'll be in there up to your balls in tight virgin cooter loving life.

I think the key is to take the away the build up leading to the penetration and she will stay relaxed.

Posted by: chobby192

If it doesn't fit, then, maybe she is not right size for you. Why not find your own size?

Posted by: Built

Birth control pills lower endogenous testosterone to post-menopausal levels. In light of this, it should come as no surprise that she may have a hard time lubricating. I couldn't believe what a difference testosterone made until I went on (testosterone) HRT. The difference was profound.

Posted by: chobby192

Why is everyone encouraging him to punish this poor woman? Why not let go and find her own size?

Posted by: Built

Why do you think her being able to have a normal sexual relationship with her boyfriend is punishment?

Posted by: chobby192

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Originally Posted by Built

Why do you think her being able to have a normal sexual relationship with her boyfriend is punishment?

If it doesn't fit, then must be of wrong size. Why tear her apart when she has option to choose a smaller size.

Posted by: Built

1. He doesn't think he's all that big.
2. A baby can pass through there. No matter how big any man is, he's never THAT big.

She'll manage.

Posted by: chobby192

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Originally Posted by Built

1
She'll manage.

Yeah right.. easy for you to say since you are not the one who will go through that pain.

Posted by: Built

You figure I'm still a virgin, chobby?

Posted by: chobby192

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Originally Posted by Built

You figure I'm still a virgin, chobby?

Posted by: Built

LOL - sometimes a girl's just gotta learn to stretch it out a little. Happens to the luckiest of us - she'll get used to it.

Posted by: Prince

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Originally Posted by Crono1000

if this problem is happening it most likely means that either she's not lubed up enough (not enough foreplay, she's nervous, etc.) or you're a walking penis with a person attached to it. In other words, if a vagina can stretch to the point that a baby can come out of it then it can fit in a penis up to the size of a watermelon.

yup.

Posted by: min0 lee

Sand your penis down to size.

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

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Originally Posted by chobby192

If it doesn't fit, then must be of wrong size. Why tear her apart when she has option to choose a smaller size.

Sounds like you run into a lot girls that have already been upsized too much for you huh?

Dude it goes back to normal after sex, and this isn't a matter of it being too large or her being too small. This is about he being a virgin and nervous, and this guy not sure how to handle it. I don't think his intentions are to put her in pain.

Posted by: Rubes11

get her wet as you can then see if it works bud thats all i can really say it happend to me before and thats all i did and it worked...kinda still a tight fit but it works

Posted by: Little Wing

Hymenectomy

A Hymenectomy (hymenotomy) is a minor medical procedure involving the surgical removal or opening of the hymen. It is done to treat imperforate hymen or other situations where the hymen is unusually thick or rigid in order to allow normal menstruation or sexual intercourse.

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Posted by: IronAddict

Posted by: Little Wing

it's very rare but occasionally a hymen is too strong to tear sufficiently through normal methods.

Posted by: sexy_animal

Happened to me before.

Lube is the answer.

Posted by: nkira

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Originally Posted by min0 lee

Sand your penis down to size.

Ouch...

Posted by: Built

I had this weird dream a long time ago where I shortened hubby's, and immediately worried I might have lopped off too much because it didn't look right afterward and I thought he might notice. (I know, right, like if I only took a little bit off the end he wouldn't notice... )

No we weren't fighting at the time.

Posted by: workhard1

All this advice has been great. I will let you all know if success has been achieved on Saturday morning.

Posted by: Little Wing

Quote:

Originally Posted by Built

I had this weird dream a long time ago where I shortened hubby's, and immediately worried I might have lopped off too much because it didn't look right afterward and I thought he might notice. (I know, right, like if I only took a little bit off the end he wouldn't notice... )

No we weren't fighting at the time.

oh man

Posted by: Built

I swear, it was disturbing.

Posted by: Little Wing

especially the worried he'd notice part i bet.

Posted by: The Monkey Man

Seriously...

If she isn't dying to have you inside her by the time
you get only half way through foreplay...

Youre doing it wrong

Posted by: Built

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

especially the worried he'd notice part i bet.

Oh, it was such a weird dream. I mean shit, of ALL the things I could dream about...

Posted by: PainandGain

Don't make such a fucking science of it.
Just use your hands and mouth until necessary.
It's her first time, don't rush her. Let it happen as naturally as possible.

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

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Originally Posted by Built

Oh, it was such a weird dream. I mean shit, of ALL the things I could dream about...

Its your subconsionce thoughts coming out in your sleep. In the back of your mind your cervix is crying for help

Posted by: Built

LOL - I know, right?

I just told hubby it's because he's too big...

Posted by: wallen

just ram it in, Sure it will hurt her but what ever doesnt kill us only makes us stronger, she will hurt for a while but it will heal and next time it should fit, unless you have a cock like a beer can

Posted by: workhard1

1. I am not making a science of it. I always make she is PLENTY good and wet before I actually attempt to have sexual intercourse! But she is afraid of it hurting so she dried up quickly when I go for it. I will try the lube out.

2. I cannot just RAM it in there. It hurts me too, hell, I would not be surprised it it hurts me more than her. envision a pencil and a pencil sharpener that is not big enough for it. The pencil will break first if you are shoving it into a slot too small

Posted by: Built

Ease it in, and you simply have to accept that you ARE going to hurt her. She'll get over it.

Take a viagra so you stay hard, and cover your boy with lube.

Posted by: soxmuscle

Unless your cock is horse-like, there's no way it "just doesn't fit."

Also, like Monkey Man said, if she's not begging for you to stick it in during foreplay, you need to shore up those skills before crossing home plate.

Nothing is worse than a deadfish in bed.

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

Seriously squeeze the base of your back and push...if she is wet it shouldn't hurt you at all unless its bending...hence the squeezing your shaft while entering. Get it going with short strokes until it opens up.

Obviously she is tight and never been fucked....so its going to hurt more then it feels good her first time. The sooner you both grasp that the better your sex life will be.

Posted by: Lacey12

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Originally Posted by chobby192

Get her drunk.

haha

Posted by: DiGiTaL

Ship her over for the weekend i'll fix your problem

i remember a girls virginity i was taking. i was fingering her hardcore and making out and she said "i dont think im ready..lets wait" and i started moving my fingers faster and deeper and she screamed "oh for fuck sakes just fuck me already" and then she made these noises:

OOOOHHHHH
AAAAAAAAAHh
WOOOOAAAAHH
UGH UGH UGH UGH
AAAAAAAAAAAAA
MOORRREEEEE
YEEEEESSSSS

i wonder what they mean...

Posted by: Fezz

I've wondered EXACTLY the same thing as you Digital, fuck.. if we only knew.

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

haha thats great!....in your late 20's the only way to get NBF'd pussy is to become a child molester or start hanging out at very serious churches or plantation.

Posted by: Built

Quote:

Originally Posted by DiGiTaL

Ship her over for the weekend i'll fix your problem

It means Vanna bought a shitload of vowels...

Posted by: OuiSwim

Quote:

Originally Posted by chobby192

If it doesn't fit, then, maybe she is not right size for you. Why not find your own size?

Omg wow. Haha.

Posted by: highpockets

Hey maybe this is why Workhard1 hasn't updated his 1-Andro Rx log. He's hopelessly stuck inside his girlfriend in the backseat somewhere? Hurry go get a bucket of cold water!!!!

Posted by: TrojanMan60563

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Originally Posted by highpockets

Hey maybe this is why Workhard1 hasn't updated his 1-Andro Rx log. He's hopelessly stuck inside his girlfriend in the backseat somewhere? Hurry go get a bucket of cold water!!!!

trying to seperate them like dogs huh? I wish I could get stuck!

Posted by: micus

let her go ontop and lower herself as its comfortable, the only v-card i took i had to wait atleast over half an hour to get it all the way in. happened tho, g/l

Posted by: martialartguy

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Originally Posted by TrojanMan60563

Sounds like you run into a lot girls that have already been upsized too much for you huh?

Yeah, I agree...take it slow, make her understand that it is ok that you two aren't doing it and play other ways (oral and hands). When she is comfortable, and lube is there, you should be ok. I am above average in size, so I know about these things.

Posted by: rahaas

try the other hole...

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