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Posted by: maxpro2

Hey so it has been a while since I have had sex and I will most likely be having it this weekend.

The past few times I have tried I have felt under pressure and the erection did not come naturally and a few times I didn't even have sex because of this--quite embarassing!

So my question is this: what is the best way to prepare your body for sex so that you can get an erection on demand and have sex with no difficulties?

Specifically, I am wondering:
-Exercise the day of? If so, weights, cardio, or both?
-What kinds of meals should I be eating the day of?
-Any supplements to be taken the day of?
-Any other tips or suggestions?

I know this question may seem funny (gay) to you, but I figure if I can do all the right things leading up to having sex and put my body in the best position to have it, then I will have less stress concerning performance issues.

I know ED is not my problem because I can get erections just fine by myself and upon waking up.

Your input is appreciated! Help me get laid!

Posted by: IronAddict

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Originally Posted by maxpro2

Hey so it has been a while since I have had sex and I will most likely be having it this weekend.

The past few times I have tried I have felt under pressure and the erection did not come naturally and a few times I didn't even have sex because of this--quite embarassing!

So my question is this: what is the best way to prepare your body for sex so that you can get an erection on demand and have sex with no difficulties?

Specifically, I am wondering:
-Exercise the day of? If so, weights, cardio, or both?
-What kinds of meals should I be eating the day of?
-Any supplements to be taken the day of?
-Any other tips or suggestions?

I know this question may seem funny (gay) to you, but I figure if I can do all the right things leading up to having sex and put my body in the best position to have it, then I will have less stress concerning performance issues.

I know ED is not my problem because I can get erections just fine by myself and upon waking up.

Your input is appreciated! Help me get laid!

First off, you're putting way too much pressure on yourself. Just do your normal everyday stuff.

It helps if you are into the girl you wish to be amorous with. Just go out and have some fun, and let things take care of themselves.

Posted by: maxpro2

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Originally Posted by IronAddict

I know what you are saying, but the "don't worry about it and see how it goes" approach has not worked in the past

Posted by: IronAddict

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Originally Posted by maxpro2

I know what you are saying, but the "don't worry about it and see how it goes" approach has not worked in the past

How are your feelings for this woman, and how old are you?

Did you not get an erection with this woman before, or was it with someone else?

Did you consume alcohol, or any drugs before this happened?

Honestly, the only thing I can tell you is, to just try not to think about the act before it happens.

What would happen if she were to give you a hand getting it up, either with her hand, or her mouth?

Posted by: maxpro2

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Originally Posted by IronAddict

It has happened a few times with this woman and other women.

Sometimes alcohol, other times no alcohol.

If she gave a hand/mouth, that works, but by the time I get the condom on the chance is gone.

Surely there must be some good combination of food, workout, supplements, etc that will put you in the best position possible for sex?

Posted by: sendit08

do you have trouble getting things going on your own?
How old are you?

Posted by: maxpro2

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Originally Posted by sendit08

do you have trouble getting things going on your own?
How old are you?

No. Almost 26.

Posted by: sendit08

Assuming that you are not on any medication
IMO there are three things you can try

1. Take about one week off drinking (this can have a profound effect)
2. let it build up for a week or so
3. go in for a check up and ask your doc about it. (you can do this first but your doc will tell you to do the first two)

Posted by: IronAddict

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Originally Posted by maxpro2

Yes, you can go with the meds. created for this exact purpose, but you're still very young, I would suggest you go the holistic route, try these:

Nutrition

Vitamin C (250 to 500 mg one to two times per day) supports vascular integrity.
Vitamin E (400 IU per day), B6 (50 to 100 mg per day), and zinc (30 mg per day) to support hormone production.
Magnesium (200 mg twice a day) supports hormone production.
B-complex (50 to 100 mg per day) helps reduce stress.

Herbs

Herbs may be used as dried extracts (capsules, powders, teas), glycerites (glycerine extracts), or tinctures (alcohol extracts). Unless otherwise indicated, teas should be made with 1 tsp. herb per cup of hot water. Steep covered 5 to 10 minutes for leaf or flowers, and 10 to 20 minutes for roots.

For sexual dysfunction related to poor circulation:

Ginkgo (Ginkgo biloba, 50 to 100 mg per day) increases peripheral circulation and may improve sexual function.
Hawthorn (Crataegus monogyna), rosemary (Rosmarinus officinalis), ginger root (Zingiber officinalis), and prickly ash bark (Xanthoxylum clava-herculis) are circulatory stimulants. Use singly or in combination, 3 cups of tea per day or 20 to 30 drops tincture three times per day.
Yohimbe bark (Pausinystalia yohimbe) can be used for sexual dysfunction, under the supervision of your provider.
For sexual dysfunction secondary to hormonal imbalance:

Chaste tree (Vitex agnus cactus) helps normalize pituitary function but must be taken long term (12 to 18 months) for effectiveness.
Saw palmetto (Serenoa repens) may help hormone balance.
Damiana (Turnera diffusa) may support testosterone levels. It also tones the central nervous system and may help relieve anxiety.
Milk thistle (Silybum marianum), dandelion root (Taraxacum officinale), and vervain (Verbena officinalis) support the liver and may help restore hormone ratios. Use equal parts in a tea (1 cup before meals), or tincture (15 to 20 drops before meals).
For sexual dysfunction associated with depression or anxiety:

St. John's wort (Hypericum perforatum), kava kava (Piper methysticum), skullcap (Scutellaria lateriflora), lemon balm (Melissa officinalis), passionflower (Passiflora incarnata), and gotu kola (Centella asiatica). Combine equal parts in a tea (1 cup twice a day) or tincture (20 to 30 drops twice a day). May take six weeks for results.

Posted by: FishOrCutBait

Stop jerking off so much, also.

And dont think about it, your thoughts have more influence over your performance than you think.

Posted by: DiGiTaL

Lol I used to get something similar.

Just stop trying to get so nervous, keep your cool. Nervousness was my problem.

Posted by: Hoglander

At 26 I was worried It would end to soon so I beat off or have sex with a previous girlfriend that was still in to me. I found that talking to another girl about upcoming sex was the best therapy. Maybe you could talk to one of your new partners friends about how you feel/fears? that would be the next best thing, IMHO. IMHO, that would set you up to have sex with the girl you talked to about upcoming sex if things went wrong.

Posted by: PreMier

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Posted by: PreMier

relax when ya go do it lol

Posted by: JP16

ok! im telling you go pick up some GINKO BILABOA from GNC it will fix you right up!

Posted by: Little Wing

it helps if you're not hitting on some fucking reclusive virgin on the internet too.

just saying.

Posted by: The Monkey Man

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

it helps if you're not hitting on some fucking reclusive virgin on the internet too.

just saying.

DAMN!

Oh baby, just move to somewhere sunny where the boys take care of their bodies.

Sunny, because the sun vitamins improve the libido,
plus usually (not always) if its tight, it can move for action!

Posted by: Little Wing

today was an great day in maine. i went for a ride to the coast and ate fried clams

they've just been allowed back on the menu after a red tide thing.

a warm sunny day,miles of green and blue with douglas fir scented air in a nice little mustang convertible. problem is it's the first nice day in sooooo long. maine weather has sucked ass lately. i really would love to move someplace else. i loved vegas, arizona is beautiful, new mexico....

Posted by: Hoglander

Here in the Northwest firs reach the sky and clams abound in such mass they practically fall on your plate fried.

If it's not hot near the coast you're two hours drive from the desert if you like.

Here red tide is babes on the rag. Hand and blow jobs abound at these times.

Water skiing, snow skiing, hiking, fishing, hunting, mountain biking, MMA, fucking, higher eduction, blow jobs, etc. abound.

P.S. Don't forget to beat off before you fuck a new chick.. like I wrote before. Also, I suggest women read a romance novel before they get it with a new guy.

; )

Posted by: Little Wing

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Originally Posted by Hoglander

Here in the Northwest firs reach the sky and clams abound in such mass they practically fall on your plate fried.

If it's not hot near the coast you're two hours drive from the desert if you like.

Here red tide is babes on the rag. Hand and blow jobs abound at these times.

Water skiing, snow skiing, hiking, fishing, hunting, mountain biking, MMA, fucking, higher eduction, blow jobs, etc. abound.

P.S. Don't forget to beat off before you fuck a new chick.. like I wrote before. Also, I suggest women read a romance novel before they get it with a new guy.

; )

i always thought romance novels were dumb then i found the only good one. there were vikings.

horny vikings...

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