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12-12-2003, 12:58 PM
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Fighting Endometriosis
Join Date: Sep 2003
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did i miss something????
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Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS |
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12-12-2003, 02:32 PM
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Fighting Endometriosis
Join Date: Sep 2003
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Well...hugs and kisses to the both of ya ladies........
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Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS |
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12-12-2003, 02:35 PM
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Trying to Survive
Join Date: Jun 2003
Location: Oregon
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You are very lucky babs you have a hubby that totally suppoerts you. I am more worried about mine thinking me hiring a trainer taakes money away from money I could use to visit to him.
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Good things come to those who wait........
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12-12-2003, 04:03 PM
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I think fade running around playing paintball every weekend is silly, but I love him and it's something he enjoys and wants to do so I support him. |
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12-12-2003, 04:15 PM
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Fighting Endometriosis
Join Date: Sep 2003
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 Remember, just because you're married doesn't mean your husband can or should be controlling of you. In the beginning, my husband and I FOUGHT ALL THE TIME over me and the gym...I'm very bull headed and so is he. My life is mine, and his life is his, was the way I thought of our marriage. Yes, couples need to discuss or analyse their financial status before making a commitment that binds your income. If hiring a trainer will harm you both financially, then I can see where he is coming from. However, this is where sacrifices come into play. Either on your side (since this is your decision) or both (if he will support you). K. When I started out, my husband was not supportive at all. We nearly got a divorce because of my training habits. We went through counseling and still, would butt heads. If I were trying to get into shape for someone else or my husband, I would've quit. I was doing this for me! I was setting a role model for my children, I was setting a good example of what one can do with spare time, what one could achieve with hard work and dedication. Needless to say, what I do in life isn't for anyone else, (and I don't need anyones approval) it's for me because, if you end up doing things to satisfy another, your attempted "goal" will shatter and you wasted time and or money. What I'm trying to say is.........In time, he will change his mind. Mine did! Another bit to my story is: My husband has a hobby. (fishing) He had this hobby before we met.........I had my Gym hobby before we met and during........HE LOVES FISHING....CAN MAKE A WEEKEND OUT OF IT........I love the gym, etc........he wanted me to quite the gym, but he wouldn't quit fishing.......this made me hold to my guns even more.....Basically...my husband has no choice and, if he doesn't like it...he knows where the front door is......You don't marry a person to change them.......... divorce is soon to happen. |
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Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS |
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12-12-2003, 04:20 PM
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Trying to Survive
Join Date: Jun 2003
Location: Oregon
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Oh thanks you guys, I guess I need to get over the fact that I need his approval. I know he will be supportive but he is sooooooo overprotective about money because with school, I have just a little bit of room to play, but like you I was doing this before I met him and I need him to understand that I want to do this. Oh you guys are awesome, man this has been such a rough day.
 Oh well, off to the gym to work off some negative energy. that is for everyone |
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Good things come to those who wait........
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12-12-2003, 04:21 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: LA, CA
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great post babs! i agree with all you said except it's possible he WON'T change his mind. (glad yours came around though)
i was with my bf for 7 years and my eating habits used to really upset him (lots of fights) and if there was something he had in mind for us to do together that would involve me missing the gym he'd never understand why i'd usually refuse. sometimes he was a great training partner but my training was a frequent source of problems between us. by the way - i competed before we got together and i'm pretty sure he never would have made it through precontest. depends on the man i guess. some can be your greatest support. some can be not particularly involved and some can make it all much harder. |
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If you want to achieve things that others can't...
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12-12-2003, 04:23 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: LA, CA
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hang in there ss. could be that once he sees it isn't negotiable he'll accept it completely.
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If you want to achieve things that others can't...
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12-12-2003, 04:29 PM
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Fighting Endometriosis
Join Date: Sep 2003
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True...it's also possible he won't change his mind.
I'm sorry to hear about your bf of 7 yrs. That's a long time sweetie. OMG, HOW COULD I FORGET........ We still fight about my eating habits and planning around my gym time.....oh and training for my competition WAS A NIGHTMARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know how we pulled through that bitching fiasco.......... I had attitude from hell.....cranky..........it was pretty pretty bad. I even got into arguments with my trainer!!!! You final comment.....so true. |
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Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS |
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12-12-2003, 04:32 PM
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Fighting Endometriosis
Join Date: Sep 2003
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Oh...another thing I did.......
I'm the bread winner in the house and personally, I'm fed up with being $$$$$. Result: I have my own checking and he has his...................Oh.....and I also split the bills up... He kept talking about what all we could and couldn't afford and I told him HE WAS NOT going to find a way to weed out my gym and trainer!!!!!!! So, that's what I did.....Now, if he wants to do something, he needs to think twice about it because, it's coming out of his own wallet, not mine!!!!! |
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Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS |
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12-12-2003, 04:54 PM
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Shorty...your money has absolutely nothing to do with him right now...so it shouldnt even cross your mind...you dont live with him and he did not move for you...he did not sacrifice money to come see you last month and so if anyone should give something up its him...i am sorry to say that...you deserve the world hun and you will have it...training makes you happy and helps you deal with stress...i say stick with it and be happy...small changes are good changes and when the time comes to unveil your hard work...then you better believe that Darren will be the first one to say "thats my girl" and then you can say yes and your girl did it all by herself
 I love you hun. |
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....and thats my $.02
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12-12-2003, 05:07 PM
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Fighting Endometriosis
Join Date: Sep 2003
Posts: 7,495
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Can I get a hands up on that one?
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Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF
Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS |
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12-12-2003, 05:10 PM
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Registered User
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: LA, CA
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yep - listen to j'bo.
one thing i learned....if you make too many sacrifices (whether it be your time, your money, your hobbies, your friends, your habits etc) in a relationship it becomes nearly impossible to change the dynamic later on down the road. (listen to j'bo) hope all of you have wonderful weekends. |
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If you want to achieve things that others can't...
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12-12-2003, 10:13 PM
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Catalyst
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Hawaii, selling munitions for the war on EcoTerror
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I have the same problem SS, except in our case it's time that is precious. Linda (my lady) and I work odd hours and don't see each other too often except her 1 or 2 nights off and my occassional day off and of course every night after midnight. I have to squeeze my workouts in where I can and not be so strict on my diet. It works for now, we are both happy and I get to spend more time with her which makes me happier than any lifting session ever could.
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12-12-2003, 10:31 PM
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Trying to Survive
Join Date: Jun 2003
Location: Oregon
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See, I am with you too, I see him once a month if I am lucky, money is never usually the problem to see him, but right now I just don't feel like he appreciattes the money I put out there for him. I pay for his gym meber ship which as of now has cost me about 400 bucks, and tickets to see him cost about 150 to go down there. He is suppossed to pay me back for his gym membership each month and pay for half my ticket to go see him, but we will see if that happens. Oh well, this is why I want to do this for me, this is for me and I have been wanting to do this for 2 years now. I know he will be behind me but I am just so scared to even bring it up, especially since he is not here. Oh well. Time to go sleep and try and become sane.
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Good things come to those who wait........
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12-13-2003, 09:38 PM
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UNLEASH THE BEAST
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Been a long time since I was in here!
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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain...
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12-13-2003, 09:38 PM
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UNLEASH THE BEAST
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How long did you "abuse" steriods for?
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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain...
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12-13-2003, 09:42 PM
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UNLEASH THE BEAST
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Have you ever used adequan?
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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain...
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12-13-2003, 09:46 PM
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Mad As Toast
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Southwest Florida
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I have over abused water.
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The statue of Liberty no longer reads "Bring us your tired, your hungry, your huddled masses..."
Now she's holding a baseball bat and it reads "Bring It On." |
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12-13-2003, 09:46 PM
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Mad As Toast
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Southwest Florida
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I pay for it dearly too
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The statue of Liberty no longer reads "Bring us your tired, your hungry, your huddled masses..."
Now she's holding a baseball bat and it reads "Bring It On." |
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12-13-2003, 09:47 PM
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Mad As Toast
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Southwest Florida
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You see, when you abuse water, things will happen
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The statue of Liberty no longer reads "Bring us your tired, your hungry, your huddled masses..."
Now she's holding a baseball bat and it reads "Bring It On." |
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12-13-2003, 09:47 PM
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UNLEASH THE BEAST
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Water Hee?!?
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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain...
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12-13-2003, 09:47 PM
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Mad As Toast
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Southwest Florida
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You will pee
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The statue of Liberty no longer reads "Bring us your tired, your hungry, your huddled masses..."
Now she's holding a baseball bat and it reads "Bring It On." |
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12-13-2003, 09:47 PM
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UNLEASH THE BEAST
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FS- What happened to you?
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I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its pa |