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**Jodi** · 11-05-2003, 06:50 PM

Thats why you take it slow and go for coffee. Your not "hitting" on her per say. Your making a friendship.

Leslie · 11-05-2003, 06:53 PM

I agrere and disagree with Jodi.

While its cute you dig the chick, you may be risking your professionalism as well as lose a client and future clients.

How long have you guys been training together? For you to ask about this, I doubt very long.

If she feels the same(which is possible cause you are a cutie

) then you have nothing to worry about.

But if she doesn't....and even though she's only a few years older-most stable 29yr old women tend to go for older men as men take longer to mature

No offense, its just true. Keep in mind I said most- not all

She make also think its weird her trainer is asking her to go for coffee, esp if its only been a few sessions and in turn this may make any future training sessions uncomfortable.

My advice would be stick to training together for now. Show her your true colors, get to know her more and then go from there. You need to be more comnfortable around her befor eyou makje any sudden moves

Just my opinion

Leslie · 11-05-2003, 06:55 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Jodi
Thats why you take it slow and go for coffee. Your not "hitting" on her per say. Your making a friendship.

While its not technically "hitting on her", it's showing interest. Might be too much if they have only just begun trianing together. I had a PT ask me to go for coffee and I felt it was not right. It makes the girl think you ask all your pretty clients- even though you may not.

**Jodi** · 11-05-2003, 06:55 PM

Quote:

most stable 29yr old women tend to go for older men as men take longer to mature

Not me!

Oh wait, you said stable.

Actually I find older men boring and all they want is to get married and have kids right away.

I still think a cup of coffee is fine. I went on a date with my first personal trainer.

He was 6 years younger than me

**P-funk** · 11-05-2003, 07:04 PM

I have been trainign her for a while actually (about 3 months). Typically during our saturday session (she is usually my usually last client of the day) she is complainig about how hungry she is and I, ofcourse, am complaining about how hungry I am. She always asks me were I am going to eat and where she should go to eat. I tell her some of the healthy places to eat that are near the gym but have neglected to just say "well I am going here, would you like to join me?" because, like leslie said, I don't want to look "unprofessional" or make it an akward situation. Also, the other day one of the other trainers girl friend was sitting there grilling me about my diet and telling me that I am ridiculously anal. Then my client today, the one I like, was asking me what I had for breakfast. I recited my breakfast to her and she told me that I sounded like a robot and that I should lighten up with my diet and give myself a break. I then said "yeah, this other girl was making fun of me yesterday about that" She then quickly fired back in a somewhat jelous tone saying "wait a minute, what girl is this?"

Leslie · 11-05-2003, 07:10 PM

Hmm...I now see your confusion.
First the hungry complaint may be a hint. Or she just may be hungry.
Second, she must like you- even if its a small amount because women are jealous over other women when it comes to guys we like. And for her to show it...well thats a good sign for you.

Since you have been training her for a while, I;d say this Saturday work her out extra hard so she is hungry

and then when she says I am hungry blah blah blah. You say "Well I am heading over to ________(insert food place nearby here) now cause I am in the mood for a _________(insert food here). You are welcomed to join me, if you want.

Her answer will give you all the answers you need. And being she complained about being hungry- you didnt just come out of the blue and ask her for coffee.

Good Luck

**Jodi** · 11-05-2003, 07:15 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by P-funk
I have been trainign her for a while actually (about 3 months). Typically during our saturday session (she is usually my usually last client of the day) she is complainig about how hungry she is and I, ofcourse, am complaining about how hungry I am. She always asks me were I am going to eat and where she should go to eat. I tell her some of the healthy places to eat that are near the gym but have neglected to just say "well I am going here, would you like to join me?" because, like leslie said, I don't want to look "unprofessional" or make it an akward situation. Also, the other day one of the other trainers girl friend was sitting there grilling me about my diet and telling me that I am ridiculously anal. Then my client today, the one I like, was asking me what I had for breakfast. I recited my breakfast to her and she told me that I sounded like a robot and that I should lighten up with my diet and give myself a break. I then said "yeah, this other girl was making fun of me yesterday about that" She then quickly fired back in a somewhat jelous tone saying "wait a minute, what girl is this?"

Thats definately a girl trying to pass the hint if I've ever seen one.

**Jodi** · 11-05-2003, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Leslie
Hmm...I now see your confusion.
First the hungry complaint may be a hint. Or she just may be hungry.
Second, she must like you- even if its a small amount because women are jealous over other women when it comes to guys we like. And for her to show it...well thats a good sign for you.

Since you have been training her for a while, I;d say this Saturday work her out extra hard so she is hungry

and then when she says I am hungry blah blah blah. You say "Well I am heading over to ________(insert food place nearby here) now cause I am in the mood for a _________(insert food here). You are welcomed to join me, if you want.

Her answer will give you all the answers you need. And being she complained about being hungry- you didnt just come out of the blue and ask her for coffee.

Good Luck

PERFECT Leslie. Its similiar like the coffee idea. Then its not really a "date" but an invitation and the opportunity to get to know each other more.

**P-funk** · 11-05-2003, 07:18 PM

Yeah, that is what I was thinking, she always says she is hungry and asks me were she should go, almost every session.

The only thing that makes me think age may be a problem is because one day last month in between sets she asked, out of the blue "patrick, how old are you?" to which I replied "24". She then said Twenty Four!!!! No way!!" I said "yeah, how the hell old did you think I was?" She said "I always thought you were thirty two." "Thirty two I said?? I look that old?? This is really bad!" She then said "No, I thought thrity two because your shoulders are so big. I can't believe a 24year can have shoulders like that!"

Leslie · 11-05-2003, 07:18 PM

Cool- glad you agree Jodi

Her asking your age is most liekly cause she is interested

Now we expect a full report on Sunday

**P-funk** · 11-05-2003, 07:22 PM

Thanks ladies, i feel extremly honered to get the opinion of two extremly beautiful and intelligent women

Leslie · 11-05-2003, 07:23 PM

Anyitme

I just hope she has no idea about the IM board

**P-funk** · 11-05-2003, 07:25 PM

lol, i hope not.....

**Jodi** · 11-05-2003, 07:25 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by P-funk
Yeah, that is what I was thinking, she always says she is hungry and asks me were she should go, almost every session.

The only thing that makes me think age may be a problem is because one day last month in between sets she asked, out of the blue "patrick, how old are you?" to which I replied "24". She then said Twenty Four!!!! No way!!" I said "yeah, how the hell old did you think I was?" She said "I always thought you were thirty two." "Thirty two I said?? I look that old?? This is really bad!" She then said "No, I thought thrity two because your shoulders are so big. I can't believe a 24year can have shoulders like that!"

See you act older for your age but still a younger guy at heart.

She's still interested.

**Jodi** · 11-05-2003, 07:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by P-funk
Thanks ladies, i feel extremly honered to get the opinion of two extremly beautiful and intelligent women

No problem cutie.

See more than just girls lifting weights we are.

**Jodi** · 11-05-2003, 07:27 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Leslie
Cool- glad you agree Jodi

Her asking your age is most liekly cause she is interested

Now we expect a full report on Sunday

Yes, most definately! We need details boy.

**P-funk** · 11-05-2003, 07:27 PM

Oh shit, I just noticed your location..........I never knew you were a Jersey Girl............I have gotten myself in some trouble with jersey girls in the past

Leslie · 11-05-2003, 07:28 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by P-funk
Oh shit, I just noticed your location..........I never knew you were a Jersey Girl............I have gotten myself in some trouble with jersey girls in the past

Rocco32 · 11-06-2003, 03:41 AM

For the age factor, my wife is 4 1/2 years older than me. It wasn't a problem because she didn't know until we were already pretty close. Good luck P-funk, sometimes I miss those days but I wouldn't trade what I've got for the world!

DaMayor · 11-06-2003, 10:16 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Leslie

I just hope she has no idea about the IM board

Funny, I was thinking the same thing. Although, if she were to stumble across the site, it might prove to be beneficial..

Hey P. , you of all people know that honesty is the best policy. You can maintain your professionalism while being "on the level" with this woman. Just don't approach it as most (steroetypical) guys would, with the "dating game' mentality. Like I've said many times before, the best (romantic) relationships are based on friendship.

Good luck on the bulk, too buddy.

**P-funk** · 11-06-2003, 05:50 PM

thanks for the replies guys.

11/6 leg day (hypertrophy week........8-15rep range)

walking lunges across aerobics room (40 yards)
135lbs (warm up)
185lbs
185lbs

dumbell still leg dead lifts
70x15
70x15
70x10
70x8
50x5 (oops)

front squat (I was trying to give it all I could here but after those walking lunges my legs were fried)
135x8
135x8
135x8

seated leg curl (toes pointed)
140x15
155x12
170x10
170x8

leg extension
plate#10x15
plate#12x12
plate#13x10

seated hip adduction
100x18
100x8
85x10

seated calf raises
3 plates x 15
3 plates x 12
3 plates x 12

45 degree calf raise
220x15
220x12
220x12
220x10

**P-funk** · 11-06-2003, 05:52 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by rock4832
For the age factor, my wife is 4 1/2 years older than me. It wasn't a problem because she didn't know until we were already pretty close. Good luck P-funk, sometimes I miss those days but I wouldn't trade what I've got for the world!

Rock, your married!!! LOL, for some reason I pictured you being a 20 year old kid....lol

Leslie, do you ever come into the city (manhattan that is)?

Leslie · 11-06-2003, 07:41 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by P-funk

Leslie, do you ever come into the city (manhattan that is)?

Of course.

live in Ft Lee, so I have a pretty view of the city from my place

I was just in mid-town before Vegas.

**P-funk** · 11-07-2003, 07:38 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Leslie
Of course.

live in Ft Lee, so I have a pretty view of the city from my place

I was just in mid-town before Vegas.

nice

11/7

Missed workout today

......toaday is shoulder day and I have an enflamed tendon in my right deltoid so I missed today and banged down some anti inflamatories as well as massaged my shoulder a little bit to work the knots out. So tomorrow will bedoulbe duty as i will do shoulders and arms.

Rocco32 · 11-07-2003, 10:15 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by P-funk
Rock, your married!!! LOL, for some reason I pictured you being a 20 year old kid....lol

Leslie, do you ever come into the city (manhattan that is)?

Hey man, just because I act like a 20 year old kid doesn't mean I'm one.

11-05-2003, 06:50 PM	#31
Jodi Super Moderator Super Moderator Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 22,265 Photos: 1	Thats why you take it slow and go for coffee. Your not "hitting" on her per say. Your making a friendship.
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11-05-2003, 06:53 PM	#32
Leslie DOWNSIZING Elite Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jersey Girl Posts: 2,911 Photos: 11	I agrere and disagree with Jodi. While its cute you dig the chick, you may be risking your professionalism as well as lose a client and future clients. How long have you guys been training together? For you to ask about this, I doubt very long. If she feels the same(which is possible cause you are a cutie ) then you have nothing to worry about. But if she doesn't....and even though she's only a few years older-most stable 29yr old women tend to go for older men as men take longer to mature No offense, its just true. Keep in mind I said most- not all She make also think its weird her trainer is asking her to go for coffee, esp if its only been a few sessions and in turn this may make any future training sessions uncomfortable. My advice would be stick to training together for now. Show her your true colors, get to know her more and then go from there. You need to be more comnfortable around her befor eyou makje any sudden moves Just my opinion
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11-05-2003, 07:04 PM	#35
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,426	I have been trainign her for a while actually (about 3 months). Typically during our saturday session (she is usually my usually last client of the day) she is complainig about how hungry she is and I, ofcourse, am complaining about how hungry I am. She always asks me were I am going to eat and where she should go to eat. I tell her some of the healthy places to eat that are near the gym but have neglected to just say "well I am going here, would you like to join me?" because, like leslie said, I don't want to look "unprofessional" or make it an akward situation. Also, the other day one of the other trainers girl friend was sitting there grilling me about my diet and telling me that I am ridiculously anal. Then my client today, the one I like, was asking me what I had for breakfast. I recited my breakfast to her and she told me that I sounded like a robot and that I should lighten up with my diet and give myself a break. I then said "yeah, this other girl was making fun of me yesterday about that" She then quickly fired back in a somewhat jelous tone saying "wait a minute, what girl is this?"
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11-05-2003, 07:10 PM	#36
Leslie DOWNSIZING Elite Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jersey Girl Posts: 2,911 Photos: 11	Hmm...I now see your confusion. First the hungry complaint may be a hint. Or she just may be hungry. Second, she must like you- even if its a small amount because women are jealous over other women when it comes to guys we like. And for her to show it...well thats a good sign for you. Since you have been training her for a while, I;d say this Saturday work her out extra hard so she is hungry and then when she says I am hungry blah blah blah. You say "Well I am heading over to ________(insert food place nearby here) now cause I am in the mood for a _________(insert food here). You are welcomed to join me, if you want. Her answer will give you all the answers you need. And being she complained about being hungry- you didnt just come out of the blue and ask her for coffee. Good Luck
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11-05-2003, 07:18 PM	#39
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,426	Yeah, that is what I was thinking, she always says she is hungry and asks me were she should go, almost every session. The only thing that makes me think age may be a problem is because one day last month in between sets she asked, out of the blue "patrick, how old are you?" to which I replied "24". She then said Twenty Four!!!! No way!!" I said "yeah, how the hell old did you think I was?" She said "I always thought you were thirty two." "Thirty two I said?? I look that old?? This is really bad!" She then said "No, I thought thrity two because your shoulders are so big. I can't believe a 24year can have shoulders like that!"
	http://pwtraining.blogspot.com/.....come and see what is on my mind! http://ivonneberkowitz.blogspot.com/....check out Ivonne's new blog! Optimum Sports Performance "In the beginners mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few." -Buddha's Little Instruction Book

11-05-2003, 07:18 PM	#40
Leslie DOWNSIZING Elite Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jersey Girl Posts: 2,911 Photos: 11	Cool- glad you agree Jodi Her asking your age is most liekly cause she is interested Now we expect a full report on Sunday
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11-05-2003, 07:22 PM	#41
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,426	Thanks ladies, i feel extremly honered to get the opinion of two extremly beautiful and intelligent women
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11-05-2003, 07:23 PM	#42
Leslie DOWNSIZING Elite Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jersey Girl Posts: 2,911 Photos: 11	Anyitme I just hope she has no idea about the IM board
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11-05-2003, 07:25 PM	#43
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,426	lol, i hope not.....
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11-05-2003, 07:27 PM	#47
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,426	Oh shit, I just noticed your location..........I never knew you were a Jersey Girl............I have gotten myself in some trouble with jersey girls in the past
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11-06-2003, 03:41 AM	#49
Rocco32 UNLEASH THE BEAST Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 22,316 Photos: 18	For the age factor, my wife is 4 1/2 years older than me. It wasn't a problem because she didn't know until we were already pretty close. Good luck P-funk, sometimes I miss those days but I wouldn't trade what I've got for the world!
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11-06-2003, 05:50 PM	#51
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,426	thanks for the replies guys. 11/6 leg day (hypertrophy week........8-15rep range) walking lunges across aerobics room (40 yards) 135lbs (warm up) 185lbs 185lbs dumbell still leg dead lifts 70x15 70x15 70x10 70x8 50x5 (oops) front squat (I was trying to give it all I could here but after those walking lunges my legs were fried) 135x8 135x8 135x8 seated leg curl (toes pointed) 140x15 155x12 170x10 170x8 leg extension plate#10x15 plate#12x12 plate#13x10 seated hip adduction 100x18 100x8 85x10 seated calf raises 3 plates x 15 3 plates x 12 3 plates x 12 45 degree calf raise 220x15 220x12 220x12 220x10
	http://pwtraining.blogspot.com/.....come and see what is on my mind! http://ivonneberkowitz.blogspot.com/....check out Ivonne's new blog! Optimum Sports Performance "In the beginners mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few." -Buddha's Little Instruction Book