Wondering What The Future Holds?

**dg806** · 08-03-2004, 01:14 PM

I'm trying. But it's tough, especially when my wife is trying with her lawyer to do other things.

Damien · 08-03-2004, 04:22 PM

Hey DG ...... although I can't relate to everything you have described, I can come pretty close. My wife and I went our separate ways after 19 years. At the time my son was 13 and my daughter 15. I live in Arizona, and as such they do give the men there due. If there isn't a reason a man shouldn't have joint custody, then the court will usually award it.

As for your ex planning all of this stuff. If you can show a pattern prior to her walking out, you can hold her liable for her depleting your accounts, not paying the bills and even cashing in her 401K. The court does not take too kindly to that kind of stuff.

Also, in our situation, I read everything I could, and gained as much knowledge as possible on the subject. It put me back in a position of control, instead of being in reactionary mode. This in itself was very satisfying.

One last thing. My ex also tried to use the kids against me at times. I just kept telling myslef that no matter how much she is pissing me off, it is not worth using the kids as pawns. I am here to tell you that it paid off, and over time the kids saw the difference.

Good luck and keep focused on your kids. No matter what else happens, they are every reason to prevail !!!!

**dg806** · 08-04-2004, 06:34 AM

Well I have no doubts that this was planned for a long time. At least back to early last summer when she put her 401k in a local bank fund. But proving it will be hard.
Found out yesteday from my brother in Oklahoma, that she had called the night before and talked to his wife. She must have a new job and got a $2000 sign on bonus and she said she intended on selling her Explorer which my name is on the title for a car that gets better gas milage. She would not speak to me last night when the kids called, but I called and left a message saying she could not sell it without me signing for the title and that if she did, I wanted half of the money as I paid about 5k for her down payment. Also, I had been after her for almost two weeks to bring the kids last night to the school for open house so the kids could meet their teacher and find their classroom. Of course she did not, but she allowed her sister in law to pick them up at daycare and take them to the school. Not only did she not want to show her face, she did not allow me as the father to do it. That pissed me off bigtime. But I have already sent my lawyer a fax this morning to keep on file to use in court to show as her unwillingness to work with me and put undue stress on the kids.

I'm Trying · 08-04-2004, 07:12 AM

Sorry, I can't remember reading it anywhere but has the divorce been filled yet?? If not file first!!

**dg806** · 08-04-2004, 07:50 AM

no, we have only been seperated for a little over a month. Seems like forever though with her crap. Wish I could go ahead and file.

**dg806** · 08-05-2004, 09:39 AM

Did you know it states in the bible that man must brew the coffee in the morning?
It does..................."HEBREWS".

**dg806** · 08-05-2004, 09:40 AM

Just trying to get a sense of humor back in my life. Haven't had that much lately.

naturaltan · 08-05-2004, 09:42 AM

I'm going to give you that one seeing as how you're overcoming a rough time ... :yikes:

**dg806** · 08-05-2004, 02:16 PM

ok heres a better one NT.................

Little Billy was outside playing at lunch when his father came home for lunch to see billy's mom. He asked her where Billy was and she said outside playing. So they both stripped off all their clothes and got into bed and started to pump and sweat! Well it wasn't but a few minutes that Billy came in and saw them. Well not wanting to admit to anything they were doing was wrong, they kept at it. After about a minute Billy asked his dad if he could get on top for a cowboy ride. Well mom and dad agreed. Well it wasn't long that mom started to moan and arch her back and get wild. Billy yelled "Hold on dad, this is where me and the mailman usually get thrown off!"

PreMier · 08-05-2004, 03:42 PM

Holy shit!

Ironic?

Monolith · 08-05-2004, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by dg806

ok heres a better one NT.................

Little Billy was outside playing at lunch when his father came home for lunch to see billy's mom. He asked her where Billy was and she said outside playing. So they both stripped off all their clothes and got into bed and started to pump and sweat! Well it wasn't but a few minutes that Billy came in and saw them. Well not wanting to admit to anything they were doing was wrong, they kept at it. After about a minute Billy asked his dad if he could get on top for a cowboy ride. Well mom and dad agreed. Well it wasn't long that mom started to moan and arch her back and get wild. Billy yelled "Hold on dad, this is where me and the mailman usually get thrown off!"

Any chance you can get down to Vegas this year? That'd definitely cheer you up.

**dg806** · 08-06-2004, 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Monolith

Any chance you can get down to Vegas this year? That'd definitely cheer you up.

Hmmmmmmmmmm? That depends on Albob!

fantasma62 · 08-06-2004, 12:11 PM

Man, if you can head to Vegas.....I love Vegas.

I live in Miami but I make the trek to Vegas at least once every couple of years.
You'll definitely chill there...unless you've already been there, in which case

**dg806** · 08-11-2004, 11:06 AM

I forgot to mention that I went backpacking last weekend! It was 40 Degrees Friday night and Saturday was awesome with a beautiful sunset. I really needed the time by myself. It was one of the best weekends in a looooong time! The weather was awesome! And the blueberries were ripe

I bet I ate 2 gallons

Monolith · 08-11-2004, 11:53 AM

Nice! I love to go camping/hiking. Almost never get a chance to do it, though.

JerseyDevil · 08-11-2004, 11:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dg806

Little Billy was outside playing at lunch when his father came home for lunch to see billy's mom. He asked her where Billy was and she said outside playing. So they both stripped off all their clothes and got into bed and started to pump and sweat! Well it wasn't but a few minutes that Billy came in and saw them. Well not wanting to admit to anything they were doing was wrong, they kept at it. After about a minute Billy asked his dad if he could get on top for a cowboy ride. Well mom and dad agreed. Well it wasn't long that mom started to moan and arch her back and get wild. Billy yelled "Hold on dad, this is where me and the mailman usually get thrown off!"

That was good!

JerseyDevil · 08-11-2004, 11:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dg806

I forgot to mention that I went backpacking last weekend! It was 40 Degrees Friday night and Saturday was awesome with a beautiful sunset. I really needed the time by myself. It was one of the best weekends in a looooong time! The weather was awesome! And the blueberries were ripe

I bet I ate 2 gallons

Sounds like it was exactly what you needed

.

**dg806** · 08-11-2004, 02:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JerseyDevil

Sounds like it was exactly what you needed

.

Well not exactly what I needed but close

I could have used a LLBBN!

**dg806** · 08-25-2004, 11:45 AM

For once, I'm not stressed out today. I'm listening to some Kenny G..................
Wish I wasn't at work though. I would love to be camping somewhere!

**dg806** · 08-25-2004, 11:46 AM

oh..................I learned to play "Taps" on my Harmonica.

**Jodi** · 08-25-2004, 11:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dg806

For once, I'm not stressed out today. I'm listening to some Kenny G..................
Wish I wasn't at work though. I would love to be camping somewhere!

Glad to hear

Are you taking anything additional vits for stress?

**dg806** · 08-25-2004, 11:58 AM

Nah...............I usually do good with stress anyway. I'm the type that can let something go in one ear and out the other. I usually don't worry about anything, and that always bugged my wife.......lol. And she is even being nicer lately. She must want something? We do have a mediation meeting Sept 2. She must be planning on asking for something? (Mediation is required by NC law for purposes of trying to work out child custody before it goes to court)

**Jodi** · 08-25-2004, 12:05 PM

Lucky you. When I'm stressed I blow up and have a very short temper

I hope the mediation works out. That would be better than having this go on longer than necessary for the kids sake.

fantasma62 · 08-25-2004, 01:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dg806

I forgot to mention that I went backpacking last weekend! It was 40 Degrees Friday night and Saturday was awesome with a beautiful sunset. I really needed the time by myself. It was one of the best weekends in a looooong time! The weather was awesome! And the blueberries were ripe

I bet I ate 2 gallons

Hey Dg, is so good to hear you sound so happy. It must have been a blessing.
In Miami, our beatiful mountains are called buildings

MTN WARRIOR · 08-25-2004, 01:09 PM

Well, you know what they say. Women, cant live with 'em, cant bury out back without a bag of lime and alot of water!!

bludevil · 08-25-2004, 01:37 PM

Just found this journal. DG, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids. I couldn't imagine my wife pulling that crap on me. From your words, you are definately the bigger person in the relationship. Overtime your kids will be very apprecialble of your actions and putting them first. In the long run your wife will get what she deserves (children not respecting her).

By the way, I live in NC also, just went skiing at Badin Lake 2 weeks ago.

**dg806** · 08-25-2004, 02:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bludevil

Just found this journal. DG, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids. I couldn't imagine my wife pulling that crap on me. From your words, you are definately the bigger person in the relationship. Overtime your kids will be very apprecialble of your actions and putting them first. In the long run your wife will get what she deserves (children not respecting her).

By the way, I live in NC also, just went skiing at Badin Lake 2 weeks ago.

Cool! I call it Little Mexico now!

08-03-2004, 01:14 PM	#31
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	I'm trying. But it's tough, especially when my wife is trying with her lawyer to do other things.
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08-03-2004, 04:22 PM	#32
Damien Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Phoenix Posts: 17	Kids & Divorce Hey DG ...... although I can't relate to everything you have described, I can come pretty close. My wife and I went our separate ways after 19 years. At the time my son was 13 and my daughter 15. I live in Arizona, and as such they do give the men there due. If there isn't a reason a man shouldn't have joint custody, then the court will usually award it. As for your ex planning all of this stuff. If you can show a pattern prior to her walking out, you can hold her liable for her depleting your accounts, not paying the bills and even cashing in her 401K. The court does not take too kindly to that kind of stuff. Also, in our situation, I read everything I could, and gained as much knowledge as possible on the subject. It put me back in a position of control, instead of being in reactionary mode. This in itself was very satisfying. One last thing. My ex also tried to use the kids against me at times. I just kept telling myslef that no matter how much she is pissing me off, it is not worth using the kids as pawns. I am here to tell you that it paid off, and over time the kids saw the difference. Good luck and keep focused on your kids. No matter what else happens, they are every reason to prevail !!!!

08-04-2004, 06:34 AM	#33
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	Well I have no doubts that this was planned for a long time. At least back to early last summer when she put her 401k in a local bank fund. But proving it will be hard. Found out yesteday from my brother in Oklahoma, that she had called the night before and talked to his wife. She must have a new job and got a $2000 sign on bonus and she said she intended on selling her Explorer which my name is on the title for a car that gets better gas milage. She would not speak to me last night when the kids called, but I called and left a message saying she could not sell it without me signing for the title and that if she did, I wanted half of the money as I paid about 5k for her down payment. Also, I had been after her for almost two weeks to bring the kids last night to the school for open house so the kids could meet their teacher and find their classroom. Of course she did not, but she allowed her sister in law to pick them up at daycare and take them to the school. Not only did she not want to show her face, she did not allow me as the father to do it. That pissed me off bigtime. But I have already sent my lawyer a fax this morning to keep on file to use in court to show as her unwillingness to work with me and put undue stress on the kids.
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08-04-2004, 07:12 AM	#34
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08-04-2004, 07:50 AM	#35
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	no, we have only been seperated for a little over a month. Seems like forever though with her crap. Wish I could go ahead and file.
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08-05-2004, 09:39 AM	#36
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	Did you know it states in the bible that man must brew the coffee in the morning? It does..................."HEBREWS".
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08-05-2004, 09:40 AM	#37
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	Just trying to get a sense of humor back in my life. Haven't had that much lately.
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08-05-2004, 09:42 AM	#38
naturaltan Going nowhere fast! Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 9,927 Photos: 7	I'm going to give you that one seeing as how you're overcoming a rough time ... :yikes:
	just kick'in it in the ole Charger

08-05-2004, 02:16 PM	#39
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	ok heres a better one NT................. Little Billy was outside playing at lunch when his father came home for lunch to see billy's mom. He asked her where Billy was and she said outside playing. So they both stripped off all their clothes and got into bed and started to pump and sweat! Well it wasn't but a few minutes that Billy came in and saw them. Well not wanting to admit to anything they were doing was wrong, they kept at it. After about a minute Billy asked his dad if he could get on top for a cowboy ride. Well mom and dad agreed. Well it wasn't long that mom started to moan and arch her back and get wild. Billy yelled "Hold on dad, this is where me and the mailman usually get thrown off!"
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08-05-2004, 03:42 PM	#40
PreMier happy sumo Elite Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 21,088 Photos: 2	Holy shit! Ironic?
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08-06-2004, 12:11 PM	#43
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08-11-2004, 11:06 AM	#44
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	I forgot to mention that I went backpacking last weekend! It was 40 Degrees Friday night and Saturday was awesome with a beautiful sunset. I really needed the time by myself. It was one of the best weekends in a looooong time! The weather was awesome! And the blueberries were ripe I bet I ate 2 gallons
	www.sbmuscle.com

08-11-2004, 11:53 AM	#45
Monolith OMGWTFBBQ Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: MA Posts: 4,002	Nice! I love to go camping/hiking. Almost never get a chance to do it, though.
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08-25-2004, 11:45 AM	#49
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	For once, I'm not stressed out today. I'm listening to some Kenny G.................. Wish I wasn't at work though. I would love to be camping somewhere!
	www.sbmuscle.com

08-25-2004, 11:46 AM	#50
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	oh..................I learned to play "Taps" on my Harmonica.
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08-25-2004, 11:58 AM	#52
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	Nah...............I usually do good with stress anyway. I'm the type that can let something go in one ear and out the other. I usually don't worry about anything, and that always bugged my wife.......lol. And she is even being nicer lately. She must want something? We do have a mediation meeting Sept 2. She must be planning on asking for something? (Mediation is required by NC law for purposes of trying to work out child custody before it goes to court)
	www.sbmuscle.com

08-25-2004, 12:05 PM	#53
Jodi Super Moderator Super Moderator Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 22,265 Photos: 1	Lucky you. When I'm stressed I blow up and have a very short temper I hope the mediation works out. That would be better than having this go on longer than necessary for the kids sake.
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08-25-2004, 01:09 PM	#55
MTN WARRIOR HOOAH!!! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: HOOAHVILLE Posts: 604	Well, you know what they say. Women, cant live with 'em, cant bury out back without a bag of lime and alot of water!!
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08-25-2004, 01:37 PM	#56
bludevil To God be the Glory Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: WeightRoom Posts: 1,567 Photos: 25	Just found this journal. DG, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids. I couldn't imagine my wife pulling that crap on me. From your words, you are definately the bigger person in the relationship. Overtime your kids will be very apprecialble of your actions and putting them first. In the long run your wife will get what she deserves (children not respecting her). By the way, I live in NC also, just went skiing at Badin Lake 2 weeks ago.