Wondering What The Future Holds?

**ZECH** · 09-23-2004, 01:34 PM

Haven't updated this lately so I thought I would..........
We did have a mediation meeting on Sept. 2. We couldn't agree on anything at that point so we have another meeting scheduled for Sept. 30. If we don't agree on anything then, it goes to court for a judge to decide. I told her I hope we could agree on something instead of a judge deciding for us and neither one really like it. We really haven't spoken the past month or so. So I'll see what happens. It's going to get to a point though that we both have to give and take. Ex.......Matthew just joined Cub Scouts and he has a meeting tonight @6:30 and I'm suppose to take them back @7:00. I'm going to take them back after the meeting. Then they are suppose to go camping this Saturday and she will have them and I need Matt to take him. And Maddison will need to stay with her until I get back with Matt Sunday. And then she is wanting Maddison for several nights for the upcoming Miss Stanly County practice for the pagent Oct. 2. So this is getting complicated. I'm willing to give if she is if it benefits the kids. I know she doesn't want to see me and vice versa, but weather we like it or not, it's gonna be necessary for us to remain civil and work this out best as can be.

**naturaltan** · 09-23-2004, 01:46 PM

The both of you have to be civil to one another around the kids. Just keep reminding yourself of that ... it's all about the kids now. My suggestion would be not to say anything. Just pick the kids up and drop them off ... letting them know that you love them and they can call you anytime.

**Saturday Fever** · 09-23-2004, 01:53 PM

^^ Golden advice, that.

**fantasma62** · 09-23-2004, 02:06 PM

Man dg,

I was hoping that things were somehow working themselves out.
It's not as easy for both parents to be civil about it at the same time. I believe that dg has been trying to be civil about things, but his ex is simply obstinate about things in the "I am going to screw you over" mode that she is employing now.
I figure that if he is able to keep his sanity (and dg, I pray you do), he'll be the better person in front of the kids. No, that doesn't solve anything, but at least it gives him a peace of mind that his kids will know that their dad is doing the best he can under the situation and tried to do his best so that there would be no permanent damage.
dg. again, I feel badly for you, and the most I can hope for you is that you remain strong and driven.

**ZECH** · 09-24-2004, 05:14 PM

Originally Posted by naturaltan

The both of you have to be civil to one another around the kids. Just keep reminding yourself of that ... it's all about the kids now. My suggestion would be not to say anything. Just pick the kids up and drop them off ... letting them know that you love them and they can call you anytime.

Basically that is what has been going on.
Fanta, no use to feel sorry for me. Even though this situation sucks, I could be a lot worse off. I always try to be positive about things. Actually I like it this way now. Sure there are some things I miss, but alot I don't.
She is letting me have Matt tonight so we can go camping tomorrow. He is looking forward to it.

**ZECH** · 01-01-2006, 09:44 PM

Heres looking to 2006 and seeing that it is alot better than 2005!!

**BoneCrusher** · 01-01-2006, 09:53 PM

Ahhhhhhhmen to that brother.

**P-funk** · 01-02-2006, 12:51 PM

I don't understand why people insist on bumping these old ass threads.

**ZECH** · 01-02-2006, 01:09 PM

Originally Posted by P-funk

I don't understand why people insist on bumping these old ass threads.

**ZECH** · 01-02-2006, 07:46 PM

When you can't find the light, that guides you through a cloudy day, when the stars ain't shining bright, you feel like you lost your way, when the candle that is home burns so very far away, you got to let your soulshine, it's better than sunshine and damn sure better than rain!

**ZECH** · 01-03-2006, 11:44 AM

Had the day off yestersday and you would know it was rainy and messy all day. Slept till 10, got up for two hours and went back to bed and slept till 3. Now today the sun is out. At least I got my Christmas decorations put back up yesterday and the house clean.
3 days and no word. Working on 4.

**ZECH** · 01-04-2006, 08:56 AM

Didn't sleep very much last night. Got up at 3:15 for awhile.
Women.............sheesh!

**ZECH** · 01-05-2006, 11:37 AM

I thought I had seen about everything in life. But boy have I learned a good lesson this past week. Evidently all NJ girls are at the bottom of the foodchain! I can't believe a woman could be so cold.

**PreMier** · 01-10-2006, 10:56 AM

I had an interesting experience with a woman recently(35). She had more underlying issues that the ocean has sunken ships in it.

**oaktownboy** · 01-10-2006, 11:45 AM

how young are your kids Dg, if u don't mind me asking?

**ZECH** · 01-10-2006, 12:36 PM

8 and 10

**Dale Mabry** · 01-10-2006, 08:59 PM

Originally Posted by dg806

When you can't find the light, that guides you through a cloudy day, when the stars ain't shining bright, you feel like you lost your way, when the candle that is home burns so very far away, you got to let your soulshine, it's better than sunshine and damn sure better than rain!

I have the most amazing live acoustic version of this song with Warren Haynes and Tim Reynolds.

**ZECH** · 01-11-2006, 07:28 AM

Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

I have the most amazing live acoustic version of this song with Warren Haynes and Tim Reynolds.

You know the song?? Cool!

**Dale Mabry** · 01-11-2006, 07:43 AM

Of course I do, the Allman's have some good stuff. Jessica is my personal fave.

**ZECH** · 01-11-2006, 09:04 AM

If I didn't know better, I would think you are a southeren boy!

**Dale Mabry** · 01-11-2006, 07:18 PM

No, but I like Southern Rock, my brother used to play it all the time. My home town was a little rednecky too, our senior song was FreeBird.

**ZECH** · 01-19-2006, 11:02 AM

This is a post of mine from the second page of this thread. Funny how I still feel this way, but now it is geared toward another person. Things just don't seem to be working like I want.

"I don't even know at this point if I will ever be able to trust another female. I think I'm gonna call Spanky and join the Weman women haters club!"

**ZECH** · 01-24-2006, 11:32 AM

Things are looking up

**oaktownboy** · 01-24-2006, 03:35 PM

You probably don't need reminding, but whatever you feel towards your wife and women in general cannot compare with what your kids are probably going through. From first hand experience, I know what you are going through..little depression,helplessness, anger, never wanting to trust a woman for the rest of ur life. But you andyour wife will have to coexist if you wnt your children to have a semblance of a normal life. hang in there buddy

**ZECH** · 01-25-2006, 08:47 AM

Well one good thing is I never have to speak to my ex-wife now unless something is wrong with the kids or they need something. I pick them up from afterschool care and I either drop them off or she picks them up. No words exchanged. I can't tell you how nice that is. I do think the new girl I'm talking to has potential. We have alot in common and she seems sweet. The only thing is she lives in NJ. We are talking about meeting next month. We have been talking since right before Thanksgiving. I hope we click.

**oaktownboy** · 01-25-2006, 09:09 PM

good luck bruh..get back on that train

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