Greeky's Big Steps

greekblondechic · 10-07-2004, 10:59 PM

Good night ladies and gentlemen. I made it though a rough night without using food as my crutch and I thought that was worthy of noting.

How do you guys develop a thicker skin and not let people get to you? That is one of my biggest problems other than negative self-talk

PreMier · 10-07-2004, 11:01 PM

If I was closer, I would beat them down for you

Thats what I do for my lil sis anyway lol

BritChick · 10-07-2004, 11:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by greekblondechic

Good night ladies and gentlemen. I made it though a rough night without using food as my crutch and I thought that was worthy of noting.

How do you guys develop a thicker skin and not let people get to you? That is one of my biggest problems other than negative self-talk

Hey Greeky - proud of you for not using food to make you feel better

... you're gonna have to teach me a thing or two, I just had myself a very crappy day too and ate accordingly!

dalila · 10-08-2004, 02:36 AM

Hi GBC, you're doing such a wonderful job with your diet lately, I am really impressed!! The first few weeks are always the hardest, after that when you forget how your fave indulging treats taste, you won't even crave them any more.

As to how do you grow a thicker skin, I am sorry to say you can't. But what you can do, is immediately deal with these comments. Ask yourself, why is this comment getting to me? Am I trying to make everyone like me? The faster you realise that you can't please everyone, and therefore should only please yourself ( as in being the person that makes YOU happy), the sooner you are gonna bounce back.

It used to bug me for days when my mom said something undeserving, or people talked bad about me, now I still get angry or depressed, but 15 min later I am thinking, hell if they think I am like that they don't even know me, so why should I care what people who don't know me talk about me. And in my mom's case, I've given up long ago, I just say to myself, she is oldfashioned, let her be.... and I am fine!

Take care gorgeous!

Jenny · 10-08-2004, 04:36 AM

Hey Greeky, great job not using food to cope.. You've really taken some BIG STEPS lately

I'm sorry you're having troubles getting along with the parents

Has it always been like this? Don't let that be a reason for you to over-eat.. It's not going to help anything. Just think about what they'll say when you're the hottie with a six- pack

We always love you here, and we won't be critical

Let Jill and me be your new parents

BabsieGirl · 10-08-2004, 06:21 AM

MORNINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

Velvet · 10-08-2004, 06:59 AM

Good morning Greeky, way to go on the 'staying outta da ice cream' girl! Wish I was as good as you last night

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 07:02 AM

Aww thanks Premi lol

Britchick I always say there's two kinds of people in this world: The kind that when theyre upset eat, and the kind that don't. I am guessing a majority of thin and or fit people are do-not eaters. Emotional overstarving lol. I dunno, it's almost like, I knew it was only going to numb me for a very short short time and then make me feel ten times worse. I also called a friend, I dunno if that had any effect, probably. I got to cry my heart out to him again (he's practically used to it by now) and it probably helped me deal with it and "get over it" not in the sense of really get over it. But the worst moment past and I was ok. Try doing that Britchick, maybe itll help.

TY dalila, I def think I let what people say get to me tooooo much. but it's hardest not to when its your parents. *sigh* I really should go back to therapy! My therapist said when people say something it bothers me bc of what I take it to imply about me. I think that's true. Ex, if someone yells at me about not having found a good job yet then I assume theyre saying I'm lazy and or stupid and incapable and nobody wants to hire me. I think Greek parents are crazy and you have to be a really strong person to not let it bother you which I obviously am not. My friend says I need the "Greek Parent Filter" = in one ear out the other

TY Jenny, as much as this is going to sound wrong, your posts in my journal remind me I'm doing well even though I don't feel like I am bc you don't really post here much when I'm bad

That's good but I just dunno, I feel I am not trying hard enough. I guess bc I missed the gym two days in a row and bc I eat too much. I will weigh myself in a few days to see where I stand and adjust accordingly tho I guess. I kinda like not measuring my foods

Jilly and you as my parents

Jilly is my twinnie and you are younger than me! But sure, Id love to have you guys as my family. I need the support anywhere I can get it from. And yeah, its always been bad, but it cycles from ok, to not so good, to bad, to really bad. I need to change and not let if affect me the way it does tho. Everytime something happens now its like a volcano errupting from all the stuff thats built up.

Good Morning BabsieWabsie! I am awake since 8 since I had to do something and I am now up, but still need cofffeeee!!!!!!

P.S. Why do I think I am not doing well at all? Have to be positive before I screw it up again. Hate the mirror tho.

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 07:03 AM

Velvet good morning hon, WHAT FLAVOR lol

BabsieGirl · 10-08-2004, 07:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by greekblondechic

Good Morning BabsieWabsie! I am awake since 8 since I had to do something and I am now up, but still need cofffeeee!!!!!!

P.S. Why do I think I am not doing well at all? Have to be positive before I screw it up again. Hate the mirror tho.

Hi chicadooodles

Well get you some COFFEE woman!!!

What do you mean? What do you think you're not doing well at?

YES................BE POSITIVE..

Remember: "Believe in the healing power of POSITIVE thinking "

My dad says this to me all the time.

Mind over matter baby!!

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 07:12 AM

Babsie, I feel like my big steps are really a joke. I feel like I am not trying hard enough at all, especially compared to the other ladies here.

BabsieGirl · 10-08-2004, 07:23 AM

Okay. The ONE thing you SHOULDN'T DO is............compare yourself to other women. Not every woman is the same, holds the same amount of fat, stores it in the rights spots etc....EVERYONE IS DIFFF......DO NOT COMPARE.

I know it's hard not to do...but you have to get over that!! Seriously. You can do it...you already recognise what you need to change...................The biggest part lacking change..........is your way of thinking!

Think positive, be positive.........stay positive.

You're going to do this or I'm gonna kick your lil hiney

Jill · 10-08-2004, 07:32 AM

Thats right-stay positive, you can do it.

You have a huge support system to fall back on here. Thats what we are here for.

Keep it up

Every day you resist the crap, binges etc... the easier it is. Most of the time

ncgirl21 · 10-08-2004, 07:39 AM

Viv- you are doing good hun, just keep your head up

. People are going to upset you everyday for the rest of your life, whether it's your parents, friends, co-workers, strangers, boyfriend, etc. It's just a part of life. My feelings get hurt WAY easy too. I'll cry over anything, I usually take stuff the wrong way and I am an emotional eater, I've just gotten use to controlling that one most of the time. Keep up with your diet and your workouts and before long it's just a part of your life. You don't have to make any person in this world happy but you- so start smiling baby doll- you've got a lot going for you!!

naturaltan · 10-08-2004, 08:19 AM

Greeky ... I'm with Babsie - don't compare yourself to others. You do your thing and give 100% and life will be good. If you don't feel you're giving this your best effort, maybe you're not and could step it up. What you put in is what you get back. The more consistent you are with the diet and gym, the faster you'll achieve your desired results.

Props to you for not going to food ... a few weeks ago you would have had some kind of comfort food to help you through the tough times ... yesterday you didn't

That's a big step for sure. Like you and most know, diet is the biggest part of sculpting our bodies. The less 'junk food' you eat, the better off you are - so no junk last night was a big step.

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 08:24 AM

Thanks everyone. I know I should not compare but it is hard not to Babsie. The problem is I get upset even when I compare to myself a year ago.
Jilly.. I am almost in disbelief that I didnt eat anything to feel better lol
Andrea, I want everyone to like me and thats not possible lol
NT you are soo right!

Think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive

If only my skin was as thick as my skull!

naturaltan · 10-08-2004, 08:30 AM

If I were to compare myself to the monsters here, I'd turn to icecream to.

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 08:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by naturaltan

If I were to compare myself to the monsters here, I'd turn to icecream to.

When I first read that I thought it said, I'd turn INTO ice cream too

naturaltan · 10-08-2004, 08:37 AM

BabsieGirl · 10-08-2004, 08:49 AM

You two are silly

Greeky - You started a new journal. Don't look back at the person you once was.........look at the person you are and want to be. I agree, easier said than done BUT - once you do it and get into a routine, it's smooth sailing

...things are only as hard as YOU make them. We (in general) are our own worst critic!!! Think about it!

Don't look back!!! Don't compare!!! Just do it!

BritChick · 10-08-2004, 09:31 AM

Good morning Greeky.

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 10:47 AM

Babsiegirl, one way I have of making myself feel better is telling myself that some of the weight I gained is muscle

Good morning Britty!

m1 1/2c oats, all bran w lc milk, EW, straws
m2 coffee w milk, baby shrimpies scrambled w 1 egg and 1 ew on 2 lt mg w hot sauce
m3 all bran w lc milk and lf milk, straws
m4
m5

Jill · 10-08-2004, 10:50 AM

Shrimpies and eggies?

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 10:53 AM

I had chocolate eggies this morning.

Shrimpies and eggies is good. High in protein

Jenny · 10-08-2004, 12:41 PM

Viv, you shouldn't compare yourself to others. You need to remember where you've been and work on improving that. You say no to sweets, you don't binge, those are all great things! If you feel like you can work harder, then push yourself up a notch and work harder. But the important thing is that you compare yourself with yourself and not with others. I've done that a lot before too, feeling like I'm sooooo far from perfect and all of that, but then I remember where I was a year ago and I do feel better.
You can do this

You're right, I didn't post much before because I felt that you were self destructive and were hurting yourself. I felt frustrated because there was nothing I could say to help you change. That's the number one thing in behavior change, you have to want it yourself or it won't happen.

Have a great weekend

greekblondechic · 10-08-2004, 12:46 PM

The problem is when I look back to a year ago, I get upset cuz I was in better shape then!

I am still too self-destructive. Right now not as much in my behaviors, but definately in my thoughts.

Jenny · 10-08-2004, 12:55 PM

Well don't compare yourself to what you were a year ago, compare it to your lowest point. Mine was a year ago, that's why I said that. Changing your behaviors is one step, your thoughts is a tough one. I'm still struggling with my self destructive thoughts that tell me I'm not pretty enough, need to work harder and that I'm just not good enough. Keep exploring, read everything you can get your hands on that can benefit you. But most importantly, remember that you are beautiful inside and out

Ms Greek Godess!

10-07-2004, 10:59 PM	#121
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	Good night ladies and gentlemen. I made it though a rough night without using food as my crutch and I thought that was worthy of noting. How do you guys develop a thicker skin and not let people get to you? That is one of my biggest problems other than negative self-talk
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-07-2004, 11:01 PM	#122
PreMier happy sumo Elite Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 21,088 Photos: 2	If I was closer, I would beat them down for you Thats what I do for my lil sis anyway lol
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10-08-2004, 06:21 AM	#126
BabsieGirl Fighting Endometriosis Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 7,495	MORNINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
	Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS

10-08-2004, 07:02 AM	#128
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	Aww thanks Premi lol Britchick I always say there's two kinds of people in this world: The kind that when theyre upset eat, and the kind that don't. I am guessing a majority of thin and or fit people are do-not eaters. Emotional overstarving lol. I dunno, it's almost like, I knew it was only going to numb me for a very short short time and then make me feel ten times worse. I also called a friend, I dunno if that had any effect, probably. I got to cry my heart out to him again (he's practically used to it by now) and it probably helped me deal with it and "get over it" not in the sense of really get over it. But the worst moment past and I was ok. Try doing that Britchick, maybe itll help. TY dalila, I def think I let what people say get to me tooooo much. but it's hardest not to when its your parents. sigh I really should go back to therapy! My therapist said when people say something it bothers me bc of what I take it to imply about me. I think that's true. Ex, if someone yells at me about not having found a good job yet then I assume theyre saying I'm lazy and or stupid and incapable and nobody wants to hire me. I think Greek parents are crazy and you have to be a really strong person to not let it bother you which I obviously am not. My friend says I need the "Greek Parent Filter" = in one ear out the other TY Jenny, as much as this is going to sound wrong, your posts in my journal remind me I'm doing well even though I don't feel like I am bc you don't really post here much when I'm bad That's good but I just dunno, I feel I am not trying hard enough. I guess bc I missed the gym two days in a row and bc I eat too much. I will weigh myself in a few days to see where I stand and adjust accordingly tho I guess. I kinda like not measuring my foods Jilly and you as my parents Jilly is my twinnie and you are younger than me! But sure, Id love to have you guys as my family. I need the support anywhere I can get it from. And yeah, its always been bad, but it cycles from ok, to not so good, to bad, to really bad. I need to change and not let if affect me the way it does tho. Everytime something happens now its like a volcano errupting from all the stuff thats built up. Good Morning BabsieWabsie! I am awake since 8 since I had to do something and I am now up, but still need cofffeeee!!!!!! P.S. Why do I think I am not doing well at all? Have to be positive before I screw it up again. Hate the mirror tho.
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-08-2004, 07:03 AM	#129
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	Velvet good morning hon, WHAT FLAVOR lol
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-08-2004, 02:36 AM	#124
dalila Registered User Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 813 Photos: 4	Hi GBC, you're doing such a wonderful job with your diet lately, I am really impressed!! The first few weeks are always the hardest, after that when you forget how your fave indulging treats taste, you won't even crave them any more. As to how do you grow a thicker skin, I am sorry to say you can't. But what you can do, is immediately deal with these comments. Ask yourself, why is this comment getting to me? Am I trying to make everyone like me? The faster you realise that you can't please everyone, and therefore should only please yourself ( as in being the person that makes YOU happy), the sooner you are gonna bounce back. It used to bug me for days when my mom said something undeserving, or people talked bad about me, now I still get angry or depressed, but 15 min later I am thinking, hell if they think I am like that they don't even know me, so why should I care what people who don't know me talk about me. And in my mom's case, I've given up long ago, I just say to myself, she is oldfashioned, let her be.... and I am fine! Take care gorgeous!

10-08-2004, 04:36 AM	#125
Jenny Senior Member Elite Member Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,728	Hey Greeky, great job not using food to cope.. You've really taken some BIG STEPS lately I'm sorry you're having troubles getting along with the parents Has it always been like this? Don't let that be a reason for you to over-eat.. It's not going to help anything. Just think about what they'll say when you're the hottie with a six- pack We always love you here, and we won't be critical Let Jill and me be your new parents

10-08-2004, 06:59 AM	#127
Velvet Leaning Out Elite Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Ontario Canada Posts: 4,542 Photos: 2	Good morning Greeky, way to go on the 'staying outta da ice cream' girl! Wish I was as good as you last night

10-08-2004, 07:12 AM	#131
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	Babsie, I feel like my big steps are really a joke. I feel like I am not trying hard enough at all, especially compared to the other ladies here.
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-08-2004, 07:23 AM	#132
BabsieGirl Fighting Endometriosis Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 7,495	Okay. The ONE thing you SHOULDN'T DO is............compare yourself to other women. Not every woman is the same, holds the same amount of fat, stores it in the rights spots etc....EVERYONE IS DIFFF......DO NOT COMPARE. I know it's hard not to do...but you have to get over that!! Seriously. You can do it...you already recognise what you need to change...................The biggest part lacking change..........is your way of thinking! Think positive, be positive.........stay positive. You're going to do this or I'm gonna kick your lil hiney
	Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS

10-08-2004, 07:32 AM	#133
Jill Back to reality Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Re-Motivated Posts: 5,861	Thats right-stay positive, you can do it. You have a huge support system to fall back on here. Thats what we are here for. Keep it up Every day you resist the crap, binges etc... the easier it is. Most of the time

10-08-2004, 07:39 AM	#134
ncgirl21 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: North Carolina Posts: 2,134	Viv- you are doing good hun, just keep your head up . People are going to upset you everyday for the rest of your life, whether it's your parents, friends, co-workers, strangers, boyfriend, etc. It's just a part of life. My feelings get hurt WAY easy too. I'll cry over anything, I usually take stuff the wrong way and I am an emotional eater, I've just gotten use to controlling that one most of the time. Keep up with your diet and your workouts and before long it's just a part of your life. You don't have to make any person in this world happy but you- so start smiling baby doll- you've got a lot going for you!!
	http://stephlg.proboards44.com/index.cgi#general

10-08-2004, 08:19 AM	#135
naturaltan Going nowhere fast! Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 9,927 Photos: 7	Greeky ... I'm with Babsie - don't compare yourself to others. You do your thing and give 100% and life will be good. If you don't feel you're giving this your best effort, maybe you're not and could step it up. What you put in is what you get back. The more consistent you are with the diet and gym, the faster you'll achieve your desired results. Props to you for not going to food ... a few weeks ago you would have had some kind of comfort food to help you through the tough times ... yesterday you didn't That's a big step for sure. Like you and most know, diet is the biggest part of sculpting our bodies. The less 'junk food' you eat, the better off you are - so no junk last night was a big step.
	just kick'in it in the ole Charger

10-08-2004, 08:24 AM	#136
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	Thanks everyone. I know I should not compare but it is hard not to Babsie. The problem is I get upset even when I compare to myself a year ago. Jilly.. I am almost in disbelief that I didnt eat anything to feel better lol Andrea, I want everyone to like me and thats not possible lol NT you are soo right! Think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive think positive be positive If only my skin was as thick as my skull!
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-08-2004, 08:30 AM	#137
naturaltan Going nowhere fast! Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 9,927 Photos: 7	If I were to compare myself to the monsters here, I'd turn to icecream to.
	just kick'in it in the ole Charger

10-08-2004, 08:37 AM	#139
naturaltan Going nowhere fast! Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 9,927 Photos: 7
	just kick'in it in the ole Charger

10-08-2004, 08:49 AM	#140
BabsieGirl Fighting Endometriosis Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 7,495	You two are silly Greeky - You started a new journal. Don't look back at the person you once was.........look at the person you are and want to be. I agree, easier said than done BUT - once you do it and get into a routine, it's smooth sailing ...things are only as hard as YOU make them. We (in general) are our own worst critic!!! Think about it! Don't look back!!! Don't compare!!! Just do it!
	Don't hate the player, hate the game!http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/...the%20wave.GIF Before you talk about what you want - appreciate what you have. http://home.earthlink.net/~gwcaton/s...ctures/tmf.jpg A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband. -Honore de Balzac Desire+Consistency='s RESULTS

10-08-2004, 09:31 AM	#141
BritChick Senior Member Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: BC Canada Posts: 5,449 Photos: 7	Good morning Greeky.

10-08-2004, 10:47 AM	#142
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	Babsiegirl, one way I have of making myself feel better is telling myself that some of the weight I gained is muscle Good morning Britty! m1 1/2c oats, all bran w lc milk, EW, straws m2 coffee w milk, baby shrimpies scrambled w 1 egg and 1 ew on 2 lt mg w hot sauce m3 all bran w lc milk and lf milk, straws m4 m5 Last edited by greekblondechic : 10-08-2004 at 12:46 PM.
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-08-2004, 10:50 AM	#143
Jill Back to reality Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Re-Motivated Posts: 5,861	Shrimpies and eggies?

10-08-2004, 10:53 AM	#144
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	I had chocolate eggies this morning. Shrimpies and eggies is good. High in protein
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-08-2004, 12:41 PM	#145
Jenny Senior Member Elite Member Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,728	Viv, you shouldn't compare yourself to others. You need to remember where you've been and work on improving that. You say no to sweets, you don't binge, those are all great things! If you feel like you can work harder, then push yourself up a notch and work harder. But the important thing is that you compare yourself with yourself and not with others. I've done that a lot before too, feeling like I'm sooooo far from perfect and all of that, but then I remember where I was a year ago and I do feel better. You can do this You're right, I didn't post much before because I felt that you were self destructive and were hurting yourself. I felt frustrated because there was nothing I could say to help you change. That's the number one thing in behavior change, you have to want it yourself or it won't happen. Have a great weekend

10-08-2004, 12:46 PM	#146
greekblondechic I'm special :) Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 7,791	The problem is when I look back to a year ago, I get upset cuz I was in better shape then! I am still too self-destructive. Right now not as much in my behaviors, but definately in my thoughts.
	I can do it I WILL be a size 5.

10-08-2004, 12:55 PM	#147
Jenny Senior Member Elite Member Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,728	Well don't compare yourself to what you were a year ago, compare it to your lowest point. Mine was a year ago, that's why I said that. Changing your behaviors is one step, your thoughts is a tough one. I'm still struggling with my self destructive thoughts that tell me I'm not pretty enough, need to work harder and that I'm just not good enough. Keep exploring, read everything you can get your hands on that can benefit you. But most importantly, remember that you are beautiful inside and out Ms Greek Godess!