Thread: Why Men Fake Orgasms

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Why Men Fake Orgasms | Sex and Relationships | AlterNet

Why Men Fake Orgasms
By Elizabeth Black, AlterNet. Posted December 23, 2009.

Many women would be surprised to learn that men often fake orgasms. But why? Our limited, patriarchal view of sexuality, of course.

If you thought that only women faked orgasms, you'd be wrong. Plenty of men fake their way out of the sack. How on earth can a guy even fake an orgasm? What is he going to do, spray dish detergent and try to pass it off as semen? More importantly, why would a man want to pull off this kind of bluff?


Apparently, lots of men fake the Big "O" and some were willing to talk to me about it. I asked men in an online sex forum how many had faked orgasms, and I received some very fascinating – and distressing -- answers. Steve found himself in an awkward position when he bedded a woman to whom he was not very attracted, but he felt the pressure to perform. "I wasn't able to manage to keep it up for long because I really, really wasn't enjoying myself," he wrote. "So as I realized that I was going to be a limp noodle at any moment anyway, I pretended to cum then quickly disposed of the condom.


Definitely not one of my prouder moments." Alex expressed similar sentiments when he admitted his reasons and method for faking. " ... there were a variety of reasons. Most commonly, it was just pure boredom and my attention span with someone had ceased or a very determined girl that wouldn't accept the fact that I just wasn't going to get off at that moment in time." Chris admitted that exhaustion was his reason for faking it. "To be fair, I think each time it was at least the third fuck of the day," he wrote. "And it was nice at first, but after a while I just wanted it over with. I wouldn't dream of doing that now though."


The exact percentage of men who fake orgasms varies depending on the source. The ABC News Primetime Live Poll: The American Sex Survey (2004) reported that eleven percent of men surveyed said they had faked orgasms. A study by Muehlenhard and Shippee of students at the University of Kansas (2009) found that as many as twenty-five percent of men surveyed reported that they faked orgasms on occasion. While there are many ways men who fake orgasms get away with it, the most common way is to use a condom. What will the partner do, inspect the rubber? Another way men fake orgasm is to say they don't make much ejaculate.

When a woman is already wet and slick with her own arousal, she's likely to believe him.

It turns out that men fake orgasms for many of the same reasons women do. The most common reasons for faking orgasms cited by men in that internet sex forum were

(1) not particularly aroused or into their partner,
(2) boring sex,
(3) difficulties holding an erection or coming,
(4) not wanting to disappoint their partner,
(5) performance anxiety
(6) fatigue.
(7) gay, and in the closet

While men's stated reasons for faking orgasms are similar to women's reasons, the question is, why fake an orgasm instead of just saying that you want to stop having sex? What kind of pressures are men under that makes them feel as if they have to fake it?

Alex, Steve, and Chris described a very common pressure men experience: they feel a strong need to perform, and this pressure is based on the influence of porn culture, media, advertising, and magazine articles. Bombarded with pornographic images, commercials touting erection-enhancing drugs like Viagra, and magazine articles about how to keep thrusting until she screams for mercy, men are under a tremendous amount of pressure to come hard, come fast, and give their partners orgasms so intense that plaster falls off the walls.

fixed.

I have but only because I was tired. I need to do more cardio.

Originally Posted by Geared Jesus

Yes ive sadly done this. I made sure she wasnt facing me and i threw a half container of yogurt across her back. I probably should of heated it up first as it was ice cold...and probably shouldnt of let her hear me tearing the plastic safety seal off. I got busted for sure.

You should have shoved her face into the pillow and then dribbled a loogie onto her back, fools them everytime, then when they turn around thinking your finished you fire one off all over her face....

Nope... just let things fall as they should. If it's not doing it for me, I just keep quiet and enjoy as much as possible.

I have been told I am quiet by a couple girls, but I guess that's one of the reasons I'm no longer with them.

I refuse to fake. If I'm feeling my mind wander, I start talking about other women I've been with. Then she'll start talking about how I'm not bringing the house down either. Next thing you know it's a competition,and were trying to f***ing kill each other. Nothing boring about that.

nice post.. never thought abt this

I've had a few drunken sexual encounters where I could feel absolutely nothing but I never faked it, just stopped, turned over and slept.

I didn't cum during my first 2 times having sex. I was with a girl who was normally very attractive, but she made the most ridiculous fuck face.

She refused to turn over and do doggiestyle, so I pretended to cum and rolled off of her. Sad thing is, I think she knew I wasn't completely into it, and she kept asking me to open my eyes.

Combine the fuck faces with the pressure to perform well and I pulled out as soon as I felt that I was starting to go soft.