Thread: cheating on your wife with the gym

I'm guilty as charged. Mine also works out but not to get desirable. Only so she can eat whatever the fuck she wants. Given she only weighs 115 lbs but she was 95 when we met. She won't let me put her on a diet. I've tried. The 20 lbs she has gained in the last few years is all tits and belly fat. No kids either to use as an excuse.

Dude thats a line in the sand your going to have to draw. She can either come to the gym with you or she can shut up. If you give in one inch 4 months in to a marriage wtf kind of demands will she be hitting you with 4years in. Take a stand now bro or it will never stop. tottally my opinion, but I been married 25 years and have seen it all.

Originally Posted by REDDOG309

Dude thats a line in the sand your going to have to draw. She can either come to the gym with you or she can shut up. If you give in one inch 4 months in to a marriage wtf kind of demands will she be hitting you with 4years in. Take a stand now bro or it will never stop. tottally my opinion, but I been married 25 years and have seen it all.

wait til i get home...

- HEY! I'm going to the gym tonight woman

dumb-> - Uhm, your a jerk. why are you leaving me. we need to go grocery shopping and watch house hunters all night on HGTV

- stupid biiiiiiiiiiiiiitch!!!


its not really that bad. but yeah it does piss me off. before her i used gym as a money saving sobriety self better haven. i wasn't out getting drunk, i was getting in shape, and saving money by being there fri and saturdays instead of out at the bars or clubs.

Originally Posted by Work IN Progress

I'm guilty as charged. Mine also works out but not to get desirable. Only so she can eat whatever the fuck she wants. Given she only weighs 115 lbs but she was 95 when we met. She won't let me put her on a diet. I've tried. The 20 lbs she has gained in the last few years is all tits and belly fat. No kids either to use as an excuse.

Holy shit, I must be fat then. I am 126lbs and only 5'2.5" yes I gotta get the .5 in there

Originally Posted by REDDOG309

Dude thats a line in the sand your going to have to draw. She can either come to the gym with you or she can shut up. If you give in one inch 4 months in to a marriage wtf kind of demands will she be hitting you with 4years in. Take a stand now bro or it will never stop. tottally my opinion, but I been married 25 years and have seen it all.

IDK, when I first meet Prince, he was all about his the workouts. His WO came before most everything. We have now been together for almost 17 years. It wasn't always like this, but now I love going to the gym with him. We usually WO together and it's all good. I use to get PO when he would leave, it took time, but over the years, we have grown to like a lot of the same things and have a lot of the same interests. Give it time

I compete in 24 hour mountain bike races and my husband is a body builder, we work it out. We have been married 12 years.


......however, it helps that we put in a 30 grand gym in our house so he doesn't have to leave the house and he is Mr. Mom, who can train while our daugther is in school. I compromise by doing night training rides after 9pm after I do homework with Samantha, and I am used to chronic sleep deprivation due to my schedule. When I dont work on weekends I get up at the crack of dawn and do my usual 3 hour super training rides then get home in time to fix breakfast for my husband and daughter. My daughter is more into tennis and swimming and my husband is glad to chauffer her around for her meets. Unfortunately, I don't get to to many of those.

Originally Posted by Gena Marie

Holy shit, I must be fat then. I am 126lbs and only 5'2.5" yes I gotta get the .5 in there



IDK, when I first meet Prince, he was all about his the workouts. His WO came before most everything. We have now been together for almost 17 years. It wasn't always like this, but now I love going to the gym with him. We usually WO together and it's all good. I use to get PO when he would leave, it took time, but over the years, we have grown to like a lot of the same things and have a lot of the same interests. Give it time

Gena Marie, you are by no means fat, at least that is visible by your avatar, and as well your photos.

I love your story, and hope that the guy that started this thread gets to the page as you and your Prince.

It might make some impact @ first in hitting up the wify to go to gym or to hike or bike or something other than the couch and TV thing, but if you continue your efforts it should indeed pay off.

Originally Posted by bandaidwoman

I compete in 24 hour mountain bike races and my husband is a body builder, we work it out. We have been married 12 years.


......however, it helps that we put in a 30 grand gym in our house so he doesn't have to leave the house and he is Mr. Mom, who can train while our daugther is in school. I compromise by doing night training rides after 9pm after I do homework with Samantha, and I am used to chronic sleep deprivation due to my schedule. When I dont work on weekends I get up at the crack of dawn and do my usual 3 hour super training rides then get home in time to fix breakfast for my husband and daughter. My daughter is more into tennis and swimming and my husband is glad to chauffer her around for her meets. Unfortunately, I don't get to to many of those.

Dang, you go girl, that is awesome.

Originally Posted by Nightowl

Gena Marie, you are by no means fat, at least that is visible by your avatar, and as well your photos.

I love your story, and hope that the guy that started this thread gets to the page as you and your Prince.

It might make some impact @ first in hitting up the wify to go to gym or to hike or bike or something other than the couch and TV thing, but if you continue your efforts it should indeed pay off.

Thanks Nightowl, I know Prince tells me all the time that my weight is due to all my muscle. I use to be a scale freak and have learned to stay far far away.
Great advice, try getting your wify involved with something. Some gyms have classes she might enjoy, step, yoga, dance. You know what she is into, so find something that might interest her to get her foot in the door. Then maybe she will become a fit addict like the most of us
Maybe...

Originally Posted by bandaidwoman

I compete in 24 hour mountain bike races and my husband is a body builder, we work it out. We have been married 12 years.


......however, it helps that we put in a 30 grand gym in our house so he doesn't have to leave the house and he is Mr. Mom, who can train while our daugther is in school. I compromise by doing night training rides after 9pm after I do homework with Samantha, and I am used to chronic sleep deprivation due to my schedule. When I dont work on weekends I get up at the crack of dawn and do my usual 3 hour super training rides then get home in time to fix breakfast for my husband and daughter. My daughter is more into tennis and swimming and my husband is glad to chauffer her around for her meets. Unfortunately, I don't get to to many of those.

Must be some gym if it costs 30k. Could you expand on what kind of equipment you have?

The best solution I've found for this quagmire is to get her to workout with you. I do, & the Administrator of this board does with his wife. There's truth to the saying, that the couple that trains together, stays together.

I've crossed this bridge before. Once upon a time, my job had a gym, which was awesome. Hit that every work day for quite some time. After that, I had to actually go to a gym. Sometimes she would come, sometimes she wouldn't. Either way, its rough, since we share a car. Eventually I relegated my workouts to immediately after work, so we could do shit together at night. My friday\Saturday alcoholism keeps me from the gym on the weekends, but that's not killing me too much.. ontop of that, it looks like I went from 2 jobs down to 1.. its hard to be a chef part time when the roof caves in on the place lol. More gymtime for me!

Longstory short, compromise! Just cause she wants to let herself go, now that you're married, doesn't mean you have to as well.

Try telling her that you're married and you wanna look good and healthy for her, that marriage doesn't excuse sloppy asses

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The first 4 years I would make my gf miserable with my WO and diet, to the point we almost split...then we made sweet hot and heavy make-up sex, but I was a pain in the ass looking back...We couldn't go to just any restaurant, when we went on vacation I needed a separate bag for my supps and our hotel had to have a gym, took her daughter to disney land and I complained the whole time about the shit food they have there...but I think the biggest thing is how desirable you start looking and the woman just wants you all to her self but doesn't realize the hard work and sacrifice that goes into it. It wasn't until she joined a gym and found out how addictive a good workout can be that she knew where I was coming from....

My gf used to get pissed when I would go to the gym without her. Now I get pissed that she wakes us up so that we can go to the gym at 5AM. I'm enjoying working out with her, hopefully she can keep up this lifestyle.

Bitch be trippin if she wont let u go to gym.

I got rid of the last girl I lived with, her skinny fat ass (so not appealing) thought I was working out to get a better looking girl. Can we say insecure, dumb biatch? Yeah I moved on and will find a better woman in every way... if you get crap for working out, tell her that if you want to be alive and healthy for kids she should get her fat, sloppy ass into the gym with you.

Originally Posted by awhites1

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We've only been married 4 months and I've already had to completely change my gym routine b/c of her. I now get up early to do cardio and then weights at lunch b/c she is a phuqin lazy btch who refuses to get off the couch and go work out but complains when i leave her to go do it. i hope she gets fat.

I cheat on my wife with this !
I let her tag along sometimes @ the gym and get her juices flowing watching me pump up !

Originally Posted by Retlaw

I cheat on my wife with this !
I let her tag along sometimes @ the gym and get her juices flowing watching me pump up !

Does that cost extra?

Originally Posted by Gena Marie

Holy shit, I must be fat then. I am 126lbs and only 5'2.5" yes I gotta get the .5 in there

I 'went away' from here when you started visiting many years ago ... and then you were fine - I'm assuming you that much better looking. Prince is a lucky man.

I am truthful to a point. My wife likes to get dolled up, but when she asks which outfit she should put on, I say "I wouldn't choose any of them"

So now she's trying to get on a health kick to lose about 15-20lbs. We'll see how it goes.

Have you tried slapping her around a little? That works very well sometimes and saves you a lot of time from arguing about it.

Another thing you might try is acting like a total asshole, criticizing her at every opportunity, belittling her about her appearance and being a lousy housekeeper, etc., and just being an overall jerk to live with. At some point, she'll be glad for you to go to the gym, just to get your obnoxious ass out of the house.