Thread: women... grrrr!

Maybe you are being too forward? Not sure. I guess I would take you inquiring as sorta egotistical, and wouldn't know how to respond.. thats just me though.

PS, I hope this wasn't meant for the women's forum... fucking guys keep coming there for advice like this, when really its not meant for that.

Think they may be embarrassed ?
I mean put yourself in their shoes ?

You chat up a woman at a bar get her number you go out for a date then she starts quizzing you about what you said ?

Because subtle comments are meant to be just that....Subtle. If someone is complimenting you in a round a bout way - you shouldn't have to flat out ask her to spell it out. You should be confident enough to get it.

Key word: banter. It's playful. Teasing. Do you play or tease (ie flirt) with chicks you don't find attractive? Nobody wants to slow down a playful, fun conversation to explain it in a blow by blow. Kinda takes the sexy intellectual stimulation out of play entirely.

Don't feel stupid - feel confident. Her attention is ON YOU.

Sounds like she was complimenting you. Take it for what it is and don't read too much into it. If you put her on the spot you run the risk of making her uncomfortable.

thanks guys, it's all a game isn't it just like everything else in life. i was married for 22 years and lost my wife last year so although i'm very experienced in one aspect with women on the other hand all this dating stuff is quite new to me and sometimes find it hard to decipher the stuff that isn't being said if you know what i mean.

Originally Posted by niki

Because subtle comments are meant to be just that....Subtle. If someone is complimenting you in a round a bout way - you shouldn't have to flat out ask her to spell it out. You should be confident enough to get it.

Key word: banter. It's playful. Teasing. Do you play or tease (ie flirt) with chicks you don't find attractive? Nobody wants to slow down a playful, fun conversation to explain it in a blow by blow. Kinda takes the sexy intellectual stimulation out of play entirely.

Don't feel stupid - feel confident. Her attention is ON YOU.

Best advice.

Originally Posted by saff

thanks guys, it's all a game isn't it just like everything else in life. i was married for 22 years and lost my wife last year so although i'm very experienced in one aspect with women on the other hand all this dating stuff is quite new to me and sometimes find it hard to decipher the stuff that isn't being said if you know what i mean.

Not sure about playing games, but I never have trouble communicating with women.

you know what, it's more like this;

i'm quite a intuitive person and believe actions speak louder than words. so when i'm talking to a girl, i can sense that she's liking me by the 'energy' she's radiating but the words aren't following the same energy.

sorry if i'm not making sense. maybe the reason is because the sorts of girls i'm meeting aren't that articulate, just like i'm probably not being here, or it could be that they're just being subtle and want me to take the lead. who knows?... it's all good fun though!!

Yes there is definetly good advice and points above.

If she is flirting with you she is attracted, point blank. No need to over think it and run the risk of ruining the fun banter back and forth with being to forward and having her answer questions which intuitively you already know. It at that point sounds like you are trying to feed your ego.

Just go with it, light and breezy and it will all come out in the wash Asking questions is making you sound insecure and un sure which is not an attractive quality and may turn some people off. In the beginnig is suppose to be fun and you are just feeling each other out at that point and not that serious yet.

thanks guys. i've taken all your advice on board... i'm just going to go with the flow! x

Originally Posted by saff

thanks guys. i've taken all your advice on board... i'm just going to go with the flow! x

There you go

Originally Posted by blazeftp

Think they may be embarrassed ?
I mean put yourself in their shoes ?

You chat up a woman at a bar get her number you go out for a date then she starts quizzing you about what you said ?

I agree with, blaze....they are prob really embarrassed that they came out and said that to you (that takes guts for women to do to a guy I bet). If you find any of them attractive, get their number over a drink and pick their brain....if she approached you, she'd DEF be all about spenig more time together.....

Probably thinking "great, this guy is dense" and don't want to waste anymore time...you know if she thinks you don't get her then she thinks maybe the 2 of you aren't meant to be together....

Originally Posted by saff

you know what, it's more like this;

i'm quite a intuitive person and believe actions speak louder than words. so when i'm talking to a girl, i can sense that she's liking me by the 'energy' she's radiating but the words aren't following the same energy.

sorry if i'm not making sense. maybe the reason is because the sorts of girls i'm meeting aren't that articulate, just like i'm probably not being here, or it could be that they're just being subtle and want me to take the lead. who knows?... it's all good fun though!!

WWAAAYYYY too much thinkin my friend. Slow it down, take in the conversation. Save the thinking for later.... Ur logical brain is for working out REAL problems, a line of thinking u adapted during ur marriage. an important skill Buttttt..... Ur not to that point with any woman ur going to meet right now. There aren't any problems yet with these women. They're gonna go on the defensive if they think ur analyzing everything they say already...... If that makes any sense.

thanks guys i get it... see we're all doing it... the over analyzing shit! lol

Originally Posted by saff

a woman today tells me in a round about way that she finds me attractive. me being a neanderthal caveman doesn't register what she's saying straight away. i decide to text her and we get into a banter then i ask her what she meant by some of her comments. she then goes silent... why?

The real answer is... it doesn't matter what women think. If you realized this before hand you would not have ran into this situation to begin with.

Ok seriously, it matters what women think but early on you really are better served by not trying to figure her out. Sweating whether they're into you is a waste of time and usually a self defeating endeavor.