Goodbye Everyone

Leslie · 12-13-2002, 09:00 AM

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to extend my farewell wishes. I will not be posting here any longer. Unfortunately, this site among other things fitness related have caused some friction in my life.
I have decided I need to focus more on the important things in my life before I lose them all.

Its been a blast posting here. All of you have been great. Thanks for all the laughs, ass kickings, advice and motivation. Special thanks to DP and W8 for helping me with my first show. I DO still plan on competing again in some form or another, just not sure what.

I WILL miss you guys!
I hope everyone has a happy holiday season. May the new year bring big muscles!

Goodbye all!

Hugs n Kisses

Rusty · 12-13-2002, 09:02 AM

Damn, and such a fine body......Oh, sorry..........I think you need to rethink what is important to you. I'm a firm believer that YOU are the most important thing for YOU.

kuso · 12-13-2002, 09:03 AM

craig777 · 12-13-2002, 09:07 AM

Take care beautiful, you are a special lady.

You tell your soon to be fiance that if he doesn't treat you like a prize jewel that a whole bunch of bodybuilders are going to come knocking on his door.

Have a wonderful life sweetie.

**I Are Baboon** · 12-13-2002, 09:10 AM

We all hate to see you go, Les. Take care. Try to drop in once in a while to say hi.

naturaltan · 12-13-2002, 09:11 AM

take care!

Good luck with any future contests.

Dr. Pain · 12-13-2002, 09:30 AM

Leslie, thank you...BUTT I'm so NOT liking this. You will be so missed.

Not only are you an incredible person, but you are also a gr8 Asset to this board. Your humor, knowledge, love, contribution.....well....we are truely losing a gr8 member.

Take care....know that we are all here if and when you need us.

Please stop in if life allows from time to time and let us know how you are doing?

DP

Tank316 · 12-13-2002, 09:31 AM

You will be greatly missed here Les, please take care, enjoy the holiday season. Hopefully, someday, you can stop in and say hello.

**Prince** · 12-13-2002, 09:45 AM

You definitely need to keep things in check and focus on family, spouse, etc. But if my wife tried to tell me I need to choose between the internet and her I would have a serious problem with that. Relationships are all about compromise, not control.

Good luck!

**dg806** · 12-13-2002, 09:55 AM

Les, Best of luck!! Like everone here said, you are an asset to this board. I have enjoyed knowing you. But I agree with Prince. Sounds like a control issue and that doesn't sound too good. Make sure it is something you won't regret.

mesomorphin' · 12-13-2002, 10:00 AM

This is a sad development. Sorry to hear about the friction in your life. (Don't they make special lubes for that? Anyway, friction is not always a bad thing. Hell, if it weren't for a little friction -- and a firm grip -- several IM'ers would have no sex life at all!)

Hopefully, things will settle down to the point where you're comfortable coming back. In the meantime, you should consider donating your avatar to one of the deviants on the board, err, I mean to science!

PB&J · 12-13-2002, 10:05 AM

Goodbye, Although I never knew you, I totally understand about the friction that comes with life. Hope you can work it out.

Good luck and God bless always.

naturaltan · 12-13-2002, 10:11 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Prince
You definitely need to keep things in check and focus on family, spouse, etc. But if my wife tried to tell me I need to choose between the internet and her I would have a serious problem with that. Relationships are all about compromise, not control.

Good luck!

Compromise to me means (in regards to spending time with spouse) spending equal time between your spouse and other interests. If you are alloting more time to other interests, then I believe the spouse has the right to voice his/her opinion.

If on the other hand, a spouse/SO gave an ultimatium, then there are bigger issues at stake.

butterfly · 12-13-2002, 10:34 AM

OMG Les... I'm SO going to miss you

I've really enjoyed getting to know you and teaming up against all the local pervs with you always brightens my week!

Remember that I'm here if you need another chickie to gab with. Don't pull a PB and disappear altogether. Try to stop in from time to time to let us know how things are going with you.

You've got a beautiful spirit and I'll miss you!!!

Scotty the Body · 12-13-2002, 10:36 AM

I wish you the best with everything Leslie, I'll mis you here so try to come back every now and then just to say hi if you can.

Dero · 12-13-2002, 10:38 AM

What,Les leaving?????

Les we will missya!!!
I will missya buddy!!!
If it's for the best then let it be.
Happy life

w8lifter · 12-13-2002, 10:40 AM

Well...that fucking sucks!

Take care Les...we'll all miss you

Vai Fan · 12-13-2002, 10:44 AM

Sorry to hear you're leaving. I've enjoyed reading your posts, and I'm truly sorry that in light of this recent event, you didn't win the "biggest jackass" competition.

Best of luck to you.

lina · 12-13-2002, 11:16 AM

LES!!!

Don't leave!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with what Prince and NT said.... it's all about balance, compromise and priorities...

Take a break from posting...we all get bboard burnout once in awhile (except kuso I guess) or need to take time away to focus on other things, i.e. SO, goals, relationships, etc... post less often, but you don't have to leave?

Anyway whatever you decided, you will be missed. I have enjoyed watching your transformation and your fun spirit!

Take care!!!

Hammerlynn · 12-13-2002, 11:21 AM

Leslie take care of yourself! You WILL be missed! Thanks so much for the help that you have given me in the past...I'm back to what you guys told me to do in the first place

Leslie · 12-13-2002, 01:19 PM

Ok, maybe ONE more post

Just to clarify..........

I jsut want to say my boyfriend has NOT given me an ultimatum. This was my choice. I do not think its forever*crosses fingers*, just for a while~like Lina said

.

I have to get my life back in order, on track. I am leaving for Fl for a much needed vacation next week.

Once the dust settles, I hope to be here again. Just not sure when. I WILL be thinking of all of you

Thanks for all the kind words. I sure do feel loved

Goodbye.......again

Twin Peak · 12-13-2002, 01:24 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by w8lifter
Well...that fucking sucks!

Take care Les...we'll all miss you

Couldn't have said it better myself!

bekahleigh23 · 12-13-2002, 02:03 PM

I hope i'm not too late! Goodbye, hope you can come back, have a great well-deserved vacation.

mmafiter · 12-13-2002, 02:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Prince
You definitely need to keep things in check and focus on family, spouse, etc. But if my wife tried to tell me I need to choose between the internet and her I would have a serious problem with that. Relationships are all about compromise, not control.

Good luck!

I'd have to disagree with you here. Just look at the posts on this thread alone where guys have referred to her ass and nude photo's and other sexual innuendo's. As you all know, I have dealt and am still dealing with this issue myself.

What if were the other way around? What if you're spouse/ girlfriend were on here getting proposals and having intimate conversations with another guy? I suspect you guys wouldn't be very happy about it.

I commend her on making her S/O a priority in her life. People think that words don't mean anything, but they do. If my wife were uncomfortable with what I was writing online, I would cease immediately.

I don't think it's a control issue at all. It's a matter of one person not feeling comfortable with this type of behaviour and the spouse/girlfriend deciding that a real relationship is more important than a bunch of horndogs on the internet.

Good luck Leslie, you are a very mature and caring person to take a step back and re-evaluate what's important to you.

**Prince** · 12-13-2002, 03:18 PM

mmalifter, you are turning it into something else.

yes, I agree if a spouse is flirting, having cyber sex, etc., on the net then it would be best that they cut themseves off all together to save their marriage.

however, I do not think that everyone does this or has this problem. I am married, do you ever see me flirting or making any type of posts that are out of line? no

I do not think there is anything that I do or have done on this board or any other that I would have a problem with if my wife read it.

And as far as I know neither does Leslie. She simply stated that she wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend, and I am just saying that you should be allowed to have other interests and hobbies and your spouse should not try and take that away.

mmafiter · 12-13-2002, 03:49 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Prince
mmalifter, you are turning it into something else.

yes, I agree if a spouse is flirting, having cyber sex, etc., on the net then it would be best that they cut themseves off all together to save their marriage.

however, I do not think that everyone does this or has this problem. I am married, do you ever see me flirting or making any type of posts that are out of line? no

I do not think there is anything that I do or have done on this board or any other that I would have a problem with if my wife read it.

And as far as I know neither does Leslie. She simply stated that she wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend, and I am just saying that you should be allowed to have other interests and hobbies and your spouse should not try and take that away.

Oh, I thought you were saying if her boyfriend wants her to stop posting on the board, and if she repects his wish, that she was letting him control her. I must have misunderstood.

And I would agree, YOU don't act innapropriately. I was just using you as an example. I wasn't picking on you, I was trying to make a point. Sorry.

As for Leslie, well I don't really know her story, but if her boyfriend is uncomfortable with what's going on, then I think she's right to take a step back. I don't want to keep using Leslie as an example, cause I really don't know what her situation is, but I have my suspicions and I bet I'm close.

So, let's just say in general, that I understand where a spouse could get upset with the way guys on message boards constantly hit on the women. The guys aren't all to blame though, many of the women are attention seeking and will bask in all that attention to feed thier own ego's.

Imagine you are at a bar and some guy comes up to your wife/girlfriend and says the kind of things that are said on the internet. Wouldn't the person's spouse be pissed off? I know, most of the banter is just idle chat, I bet if these people said these things face to face with a significant other present, there would be some serious fighting going on.

Just something to think about/debate.

12-13-2002, 09:00 AM	#1
Leslie DOWNSIZING Elite Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jersey Girl Posts: 2,911 Photos: 11	Goodbye Everyone Hello everyone, I just wanted to extend my farewell wishes. I will not be posting here any longer. Unfortunately, this site among other things fitness related have caused some friction in my life. I have decided I need to focus more on the important things in my life before I lose them all. Its been a blast posting here. All of you have been great. Thanks for all the laughs, ass kickings, advice and motivation. Special thanks to DP and W8 for helping me with my first show. I DO still plan on competing again in some form or another, just not sure what. I WILL miss you guys! I hope everyone has a happy holiday season. May the new year bring big muscles! Goodbye all! Hugs n Kisses Last edited by Leslie : 12-13-2002 at 09:11 AM.
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12-13-2002, 09:02 AM	#2
Rusty FTW Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: On my Harley Posts: 4,469 Photos: 3	Damn, and such a fine body......Oh, sorry..........I think you need to rethink what is important to you. I'm a firm believer that YOU are the most important thing for YOU.
	~RUSTY~

12-13-2002, 09:11 AM	#6
naturaltan Going nowhere fast! Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 9,927 Photos: 7	take care! Good luck with any future contests.
	just kick'in it in the ole Charger

12-13-2002, 09:30 AM	#7
Dr. Pain Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Get the Duct Tape...I'm Ripped Again! Posts: 11,239	Leslie, thank you...BUTT I'm so NOT liking this. You will be so missed. Not only are you an incredible person, but you are also a gr8 Asset to this board. Your humor, knowledge, love, contribution.....well....we are truely losing a gr8 member. Take care....know that we are all here if and when you need us. Please stop in if life allows from time to time and let us know how you are doing? DP Last edited by Dr. Pain : 12-13-2002 at 02:54 PM.

12-13-2002, 09:31 AM	#8
Tank316 P/RR/Sh Warrior Elite Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Barron,Wi Posts: 4,345 Photos: 8	You will be greatly missed here Les, please take care, enjoy the holiday season. Hopefully, someday, you can stop in and say hello.
	P/RR/Sh Warrior. Epic's new man beast.

12-13-2002, 09:03 AM	#3
kuso Um......get rooted! Elite Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: aka ( o Y o ) Posts: 15,033 Photos: 15

12-13-2002, 09:07 AM	#4
craig777 Senior Member Elite Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: San Antonio TX Posts: 1,961	Take care beautiful, you are a special lady. You tell your soon to be fiance that if he doesn't treat you like a prize jewel that a whole bunch of bodybuilders are going to come knocking on his door. Have a wonderful life sweetie.

12-13-2002, 09:10 AM	#5
I Are Baboon pedal pedal pedal Moderator Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Beerville Posts: 10,916 Photos: 10	We all hate to see you go, Les. Take care. Try to drop in once in a while to say hi.

12-13-2002, 09:45 AM	#9
Prince the one & only Administrator Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Colorado Posts: 33,743 Blog Entries: 25 Photos: 320	You definitely need to keep things in check and focus on family, spouse, etc. But if my wife tried to tell me I need to choose between the internet and her I would have a serious problem with that. Relationships are all about compromise, not control. Good luck!
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12-13-2002, 09:55 AM	#10
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,270	Les, Best of luck!! Like everone here said, you are an asset to this board. I have enjoyed knowing you. But I agree with Prince. Sounds like a control issue and that doesn't sound too good. Make sure it is something you won't regret.
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12-13-2002, 10:00 AM	#11
mesomorphin' Registered User Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: gaithersburg, maryland Posts: 570	This is a sad development. Sorry to hear about the friction in your life. (Don't they make special lubes for that? Anyway, friction is not always a bad thing. Hell, if it weren't for a little friction -- and a firm grip -- several IM'ers would have no sex life at all!) Hopefully, things will settle down to the point where you're comfortable coming back. In the meantime, you should consider donating your avatar to one of the deviants on the board, err, I mean to science!
	There's one way to find out....

12-13-2002, 10:05 AM	#12
PB&J Newbie Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Over there! Posts: 361	Goodbye, Although I never knew you, I totally understand about the friction that comes with life. Hope you can work it out. Good luck and God bless always.

12-13-2002, 10:34 AM	#14
butterfly Senior Member Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 11,526 Photos: 11	OMG Les... I'm SO going to miss you I've really enjoyed getting to know you and teaming up against all the local pervs with you always brightens my week! Remember that I'm here if you need another chickie to gab with. Don't pull a PB and disappear altogether. Try to stop in from time to time to let us know how things are going with you. You've got a beautiful spirit and I'll miss you!!!
	~Ann We must teach our children to dream with their eyes open. -Harry Edwards

12-13-2002, 10:36 AM	#15
Scotty the Body I'm Dead Sexxxxy!! Elite Member Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Canada Posts: 4,970	I wish you the best with everything Leslie, I'll mis you here so try to come back every now and then just to say hi if you can.
	Cool

12-13-2002, 10:38 AM	#16
Dero Registered User Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 10,779 Photos: 6	What,Les leaving????? Les we will missya!!! I will missya buddy!!! If it's for the best then let it be. Happy life
	Senior citizen at work, don't bugg me.

12-13-2002, 10:40 AM	#17
w8lifter Join Date: May 2001 Location: Around..... Posts: 14,964	Well...that fucking sucks! Take care Les...we'll all miss you

12-13-2002, 10:44 AM	#18
Vai Fan Registered User Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: St. Johns, MI USA Posts: 309	Sorry to hear you're leaving. I've enjoyed reading your posts, and I'm truly sorry that in light of this recent event, you didn't win the "biggest jackass" competition. Best of luck to you.
	Those who expect to reap the blessings of freedom must undergo the fatigue of supporting it. Thomas Paine

12-13-2002, 11:16 AM	#19
lina It's a Wonderful Life!!! Elite Member Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Lounging around... Posts: 2,797	LES!!! Don't leave!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I agree with what Prince and NT said.... it's all about balance, compromise and priorities... Take a break from posting...we all get bboard burnout once in awhile (except kuso I guess) or need to take time away to focus on other things, i.e. SO, goals, relationships, etc... post less often, but you don't have to leave? Anyway whatever you decided, you will be missed. I have enjoyed watching your transformation and your fun spirit! Take care!!!

12-13-2002, 11:21 AM	#20
Hammerlynn Former Fat Girl Elite Member Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: NW Indiana Posts: 1,376	Leslie take care of yourself! You WILL be missed! Thanks so much for the help that you have given me in the past...I'm back to what you guys told me to do in the first place
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12-13-2002, 01:19 PM	#21
Leslie DOWNSIZING Elite Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jersey Girl Posts: 2,911 Photos: 11	Ok, maybe ONE more post Just to clarify.......... I jsut want to say my boyfriend has NOT given me an ultimatum. This was my choice. I do not think its forevercrosses fingers, just for a while~like Lina said. I have to get my life back in order, on track. I am leaving for Fl for a much needed vacation next week. Once the dust settles, I hope to be here again. Just not sure when. I WILL be thinking of all of you Thanks for all the kind words. I sure do feel loved Goodbye.......again
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12-13-2002, 02:03 PM	#23
bekahleigh23 Leading a Charmed Life! Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: back to the tundra of WI Posts: 608	I hope i'm not too late! Goodbye, hope you can come back, have a great well-deserved vacation.
	"Our destiny changes with our thoughts; we shall become what we wish to become, do what we wish to do, when our habitual thought corresponds with our desire." -Orison S. Marder-

12-13-2002, 03:18 PM	#25
Prince the one & only Administrator Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Colorado Posts: 33,743 Blog Entries: 25 Photos: 320	mmalifter, you are turning it into something else. yes, I agree if a spouse is flirting, having cyber sex, etc., on the net then it would be best that they cut themseves off all together to save their marriage. however, I do not think that everyone does this or has this problem. I am married, do you ever see me flirting or making any type of posts that are out of line? no I do not think there is anything that I do or have done on this board or any other that I would have a problem with if my wife read it. And as far as I know neither does Leslie. She simply stated that she wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend, and I am just saying that you should be allowed to have other interests and hobbies and your spouse should not try and take that away.
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