Thread: For people over 30... do you have or want children?

I plan to the summer after I turn 30. I just don't want to start over again at 30. My wife feels the same way.
BTW I have a 1 year old now
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Originally Posted by keith1569

I plan to the summer after I turn 30. I just don't want to start over again at 30. My wife feels the same way.
BTW I have a 1 year old now
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Plan to what after summer? vasectomy?

Ya plan to have a vasectomy.

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it's hard enough managing my own life at 37.....add another 18 years of responsibility to that? not for me (by choice anyway....if by accident then i'll step up and man up like i'm supposed to though)

Originally Posted by minimal

I'm 27 and have a son. I'm not married or anything. My son was a mistake but i love him because he has my heavenly blessed genetics.

I'm semi-interested in getting a vasectomy because I feel like one kid is enough for me. Yet, I'm only 27 and not married yet, so I don't want to do anything only to regret later.

Anyone over 30 have any thoughts on this? Have your desires for having children grown or faded over the years?

I had two kids by the time I was 21. They were both accidents. Not mistakes. LOL My wife at the time got her tubes tied cause we figured two was enough and we will never want more. To make a long story short once our kids got around 8 to 10 we wanted another child. Your feelings do and will change especially if you find a women you really love and she wants to have a part of you from her. I would NOT do it at your age.

So you had sex our of wed-lock? Shame. Another reason they need to put birth control in the water.

On a side note, I have 2 kids. I'm 29, married and they were both planned. The way it should be. We plan on trying for a third in a couple years. I work very hard and rarely sit down to take care of myself. My life is now about taking care of others. Can't ask for a more rewarding lifestyle.

38 yrs old, two kids son (8) and daughter (2) both well planned. Nothing in this world is as important to me as my family. I'm prolly going to get a vasectomy, but I'm going to wait a little longer. Never know we may decide to have another one, not likely but....my wife is several years younger than me, 31.

Originally Posted by drivehard18

They were both accidents. Not mistakes.

haha. semantics bruh.

thanks for all your wisdom guys. i really think it will depend on if i find a woman i want to spend rest of my life with later.

Originally Posted by Doublebase

So you had sex our of wed-lock? Shame. Another reason they need to put birth control in the water.

On a side note, I have 2 kids. I'm 29, married and they were both planned. The way it should be. We plan on trying for a third in a couple years. I work very hard and rarely sit down to take care of myself. My life is now about taking care of others. Can't ask for a more rewarding lifestyle.

When in the hell did you get all holy roller on us?


I'm 31 and I'm starting to think about finding the right woman and settling down finally. I don't mean get married necessarily but I wouldn't mind having a kid, or even meeting a single mom with a youngster that I could help raise as my own. I've done a lot of growing and soul-searching over the past year or so and there seems to be a void that all the hobbies in the world can't fill. I also feel I'd be a great parent and I'd be doing a disservice to the world by not raising a child that will be capable of contributing to society in a positive manner. I'm leaning toward adoption though to be honest. Gotta find the right woman first, of course.

I think this is true.

"The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but must live with a character."
~Peter Devries

i had my kids at 30 and 36.

the only men i know close to my age that don't have kids have addiction problems or are big fucking babies. or gay.... ok i know one retarded person too who is a childless older male... just an observation.

maybe it's just me but it seems as you get older childless people have really empty lives without much that really matters going on. and a lot of women decide now to have kids later in life like i did. it's just a personal choice and if you're sure you can meet a woman and tell her there's no possibility of kids...

it's a bitch to reverse a vasectomy and i know a couple who went through this and are still having no luck conceiving. a lot to think about.

funny thing... my kids were more than planned. i told their father the first time that i wanted a girl and i got one. the second time i said, "lets make this one a boy" and had my son... now if you can do that i'll be impressed.

We had our daughter when I was 33. Me and the hubby had about 10 years together before that married, plus another 5 years before that dating. The DH is military, had just completed officer training, and started wondering what we were doing all this work for in our lives (I'd finished my BA and was working). So... we decided not to actively avoid getting pregnant. We moved, got a real small apartment, I was looking for a new job and found out I was 6 weeks along... just as I had decided to stop "not exactly trying".

She's great. I do miss doing what I want when I want but I"m lucky enough that the DH makes enough for me to stay home and mother the kid, but she's 7 now and I need a life back. I'm going back for a master's shortly.

You think you understand when someone says it completely changes your life. But you don't. Really. Would I go back? Sort of. I'd prepare better. Make more money, enough to hire daycare or a nanny so I could have gone back to work sooner. Or been able to afford better hobbies while staying at home mothering.

Originally Posted by minimal

I'm 27 and have a son. I'm not married or anything. My son was a mistake but i love him because he has my heavenly blessed genetics.

I'm semi-interested in getting a vasectomy because I feel like one kid is enough for me. Yet, I'm only 27 and not married yet, so I don't want to do anything only to regret later.

Had my kids at age 24, 27, and 42. I'm 43 now. 1st marriage didn't work out and my current girlfriend is just amazing in every sense of the word. I am glad I did not get the vasectomy that I had planned at mid-30's. Having a baby together just completes our relationship.

My advise to you, wait a few years longer until someone worth while comes along. Once you meet her and the time comes, discuss whether you both want or not want to have kids together. At least you will have that option down the line.

Originally Posted by MCx2

When in the hell did you get all holy roller on us?


I'm 31 and I'm starting to think about finding the right woman and settling down finally. I don't mean get married necessarily but I wouldn't mind having a kid, or even meeting a single mom with a youngster that I could help raise as my own. I've done a lot of growing and soul-searching over the past year or so and there seems to be a void that all the hobbies in the world can't fill. I also feel I'd be a great parent and I'd be doing a disservice to the world by not raising a child that will be capable of contributing to society in a positive manner. I'm leaning toward adoption though to be honest. Gotta find the right woman first, of course.

Why are you leaning more towards adoption versus having a kid of your own with a wife? I'm assuming because you haven't found a wife yet. Or maybe I am wrong.

I'm 69 and have 17 kids that I know of.

I hate all of those little bastards, but have a responsibility to free the world from the Jews

Originally Posted by Doublebase

So you had sex our of wed-lock? Shame. Another reason they need to put birth control in the water.

On a side note, I have 2 kids. I'm 29, married and they were both planned. The way it should be. We plan on trying for a third in a couple years. I work very hard and rarely sit down to take care of myself. My life is now about taking care of others. Can't ask for a more rewarding lifestyle.

Try not to break your arm patting yourself on the back. "The way it should be?" ROFL, I'm not even going there.

Originally Posted by KelJu

Try not to break your arm patting yourself on the back. "The way it should be?" ROFL, I'm not even going there.

You're from Mobile. You have been brain washed by the atmosphere there. Statistically married people have kids that are more productive in society. Unlike random pregnancies.

Originally Posted by theCaptn'

I'm 69 and have 17 kids that I know of.

I hate all of those little bastards, but have a responsibility to free the world from the Jews

I only fuck butt holes ! No need for the snip job, anybody intrested ?

Originally Posted by Doublebase

You're from Mobile. You have been brain washed by the atmosphere there. Statistically married people have kids that are more productive in society. Unlike random pregnancies.

Kids are kids. It is how you raise them make a difference, not how they came in this world.

Originally Posted by Chubby

Kids are kids. It is how you raise them make a difference, not how they came in this world.

Chubby, stfu

Originally Posted by Doublebase

Why are you leaning more towards adoption versus having a kid of your own with a wife? I'm assuming because you haven't found a wife yet. Or maybe I am wrong.

For the same reason I'd go to the Humane Society and rescue a dog the next time I'm in the market for a pet. I mean, that's ideal in my eyes. Or I might meet a great gal that wants to get pregnant and raise her own child, then I'd obviously oblige.

Originally Posted by Little Wing

i had my kids at 30 and 36.

the only men i know close to my age that don't have kids have addiction problems or are big fucking babies. or gay.... ok i know one retarded person too who is a childless older male... just an observation.

maybe it's just me but it seems as you get older childless people have really empty lives without much that really matters going on. and a lot of women decide now to have kids later in life like i did. it's just a personal choice and if you're sure you can meet a woman and tell her there's no possibility of kids...

it's a bitch to reverse a vasectomy and i know a couple who went through this and are still having no luck conceiving. a lot to think about.

funny thing... my kids were more than planned. i told their father the first time that i wanted a girl and i got one. the second time i said, "lets make this one a boy" and had my son... now if you can do that i'll be impressed.

I think it's just the men YOU know. To say that MY life is empty because I don't have kids, that's wacked, I have a family with or w/o a child. My office is packed with pictures of me with my neices and nephews. I never planned on getting married, I liked the single life, so when I met my wife I married her 5 months later, it was the best thing I ever did and it was over 13 years ago.We decided not to have a child because of severe medical risks.The comment seemed to throw all childless people together and sounded like one of the less intelligent people on here saying all blacks are niggers,waps, jews, spics,towel-heads, or the stereo-typical single mom raising multiple children all from different fathers

Originally Posted by MCx2

For the same reason I'd go to the Humane Society and rescue a dog the next time I'm in the market for a pet. I mean, that's ideal in my eyes. Or I might meet a great gal that wants to get pregnant and raise her own child, then I'd obviously oblige.

I hear that. My wife really wants a girl. One of the main reason's we are going to go for a third. I would like to adopt a Chinese girl. Since they have an over abundance over there, especially girls. She won't go for it though. She wants a girl that looks like both of us. Of course there is no guarantee we will have a girl.

Originally Posted by theCaptn'

Chubby, stfu

Originally Posted by Doublebase

I hear that. My wife really wants a girl. One of the main reason's we are going to go for a third. I would like to adopt a Chinese girl. Since they have an over abundance over there, especially girls. She won't go for it though. She wants a girl that looks like both of us. Of course there is no guarantee we will have a girl.

Or that it will look like you.

Originally Posted by ovr40

I think it's just the men YOU know. To say that MY life is empty because I don't have kids, that's wacked, I have a family with or w/o a child. My office is packed with pictures of me with my neices and nephews. I never planned on getting married, I liked the single life, so when I met my wife I married her 5 months later, it was the best thing I ever did and it was over 13 years ago.We decided not to have a child because of severe medical risks.The comment seemed to throw all childless people together and sounded like one of the less intelligent people on here saying all blacks are niggers,waps, jews, spics,towel-heads, or the stereo-typical single mom raising multiple children all from different fathers

i know a few elderly couples who never had children and they all seemed to deeply regret it. one woman talked to me about the heartbreak of it and feeling like her life was pointless after her husband died. that being childless left a deep void in her life she always regretted. she married a man that couldn't have kids and they had a nice life together. close to family they traveled etc but there was heartache of being childless. sorry but from people i know that does exist. i did say my comments on childless men pertained to the men i know that are close to my age and childless. one man close to my age is always going on and on about his nieces and nephews and how great being an uncle is but he doesn't seem to have much going but a bottle most days.

Originally Posted by Doublebase

You're from Mobile. You have been brain washed by the atmosphere there. Statistically married people have kids that are more productive in society. Unlike random pregnancies.

I'm not from Mobile. I moved there in 2000 to go to college. Where I'm from is the fucking bible belt of America: Hick-ville middle Alabama. Divorce wasn't even an option there until maybe 10 years ago. Those people are fucking and making kids like it is going out of style, and 99% of those kids haven't amounted to shit. So what if they are married, it don't stop the kid's eyes from being too close together. I would imagine that Alabama has the lowest divorce rate in America, yet probably rates in the bottom 5 in education and the top 5 in obesity.


What you should say is that you and your wife planned ahead and prepared for the birth of your children, and they will be better off for it. The fact that you and your wife are married is inconsequential. It just so happens that most of the people out there who take parenting seriously, and want children choose to get married because that is the most traditional way to do it.

could just be they're co-dependant and need someone to talk care of to earn their self-worth, or maybe they're clinically depressed, these people ussaully migrate toward each other.I feel bad for them, life is too short.