Thread: divorce question

She has the right to call herself whatever she likes. Who cares what she calls herself anyway?

Yup, you have no say in it.

I don't understand why some women do this.

Especially if she feels it's going to spin you up. Do the brainwork now and disassociate yourself from the thought bro, it don't mean shit to you....

Originally Posted by LAM

I don't understand why some women do this.

me either

Originally Posted by MeatZatk

so my wife and I are splitting up after 7 years of marriage and we have an issue with "naming rights". I would prefer her to not use my last name anymore, she says she wants it even after the process is over. Is this something I should hold strong to or do I have any say in what she goes by?

General rule is that she can keep it... but, just to be sure, what state are you in?

Originally Posted by maxpro2

General rule is that she can keep it... but, just to be sure, what state are you in?

It doesn't matter what state. In the US, a person has a right to be called whatever they wish. She could legally be known as "MeatZatk's Exwife" if she wants to.

So why the breakup?


I'll go ahead and ask the question we all want to know.

I believe some women choose to keep the last name even after divorce because their passports, ssn, credit cards, bank accounts and such are all attached to that name..

Originally Posted by LAM

I don't understand why some women do this.

I have a friend who kept her married name but hyphenated. Greenwood-Cox. She said she kept it because now her name is a big dick joke.

She's pretty awesome.

tell her that since she has your last name she's your bitch forever and she has to abide by your family rules and expectations, including blow jobs on friday's (blowjob fridays) and it doesn't matter who she's with she will always be your bitch because she kept your name, and you will always tell the other man "ya, she wouldn't change her name. I told her to, but she insisted she loved my blowjob fridays and cooking naked then she kisses you"

Originally Posted by LAM

I don't understand why some women do this.

Simple. She prefers his name to hers, it has a better ring, rolls off the tongue, etc.

Originally Posted by LAM

I don't understand why some women do this.

Same here!!!!!

Originally Posted by SloppyJ

So why the breakup?


I'll go ahead and ask the question we all want to know.

lol

My wife was excited to change her last name. But she probably wants to keep your last name so she doesn't have to change passports, credit cards, driver license, etc.

could be because she hopes one day you guys will get back together

let her keep it

Geez, and I thought us women thought about shit too much. You all are looking into this too much.

Originally Posted by Muscle_Girl

Geez, and I thought us women thought about shit too much. You all are looking into this too much.

No y'all do. Don't down play it.

Change your last name and start a fresh new life.

Take it as a compliment. My first wife and I parted ways very amicably, and she kept the name because she liked it. I never thought twice about it. My current wife and I joke about it, because she chose to have her name legally changed to something of her own creation rather than take mine. Never cared about that, either. It's her life, let her have the name that she wants and move on.

Fucking whores!

Maybe your last name is Smith and her maiden name was MacGhilleseatheanaich, and she's like fuck that shit.

If that's the case, hard to blame her.

I think it is funny she wants to keep it but I wouldn't sweat it. The more you linger on it, the more power she gains from it and in reality after marraige isn't it legally hers to keep? Fuck it, I say enforce the blow job Friday rule and see how that goes over!!!!!

Originally Posted by LAM

I don't understand why some women do this.

To fuck with the guy mate and to tell her new b/f that she did that to piss them off

I told her to just keep it (not that I had any say). I have a very unique, well known name in my city. Grandpa was the police chief, dad was a very successful football coach whom got a lot of media attention. I'm really proud of my family name and figure that if she's not in the family, she shouldn't get to keep the name.
So the reason for the breakup goes as this...We've been together for 9 years now, 7th anniversary would've been this labor day weekend. We bought our second home in May of last year and in June, she told me that she wasn't in love with me anymore. We went to councelling for a few months and felt like things were back to normal. I caught her texting a few guys I didn't know (by accident) last December, confronted her about it and she said it was nothing. I couple days later she suggested we try a trial separation because she thought there may be someone out there better for each of us. I moved out a couple weeks later and filed for divorce in May. I figure that if I stay with her, she's gonna pull this shit again in a few years. She really wants to get back together though and hasn't signed the papers yet, but just agreed to the other day. Thankfullly there's no kids involved and I'm still young enough to start over.

very sorry to hear this. best of luck to you, everything will find its way.

Thanks, I was in hell there for a while. Not sleeping, drinking way too much. I know things will get better though.