Need motivation advice.

**ZeroCool** · 11-15-2011, 11:25 PM

I'm 48 years old. I was going to a gym for about a year until my step son and his wife had our first grand children, twin boys. That was a year and a half ago. When I was going to the gym, I lost 60 lbs so now I'm just over weight, not obese. I started going to college a year and a half ago at the age of 47 in hopes of getting a degree so I could get a better job. In June, one week before my twelfth anniversary, my marriage ended. Three weeks to the day after that, I got laid off from my job. This is the first time I haven’t had a job since I was 17. I had dedicated my life to my wife and the only people we hung around with were her family and now, since we broke up, I have no one I can even call friend. Now since my grandsons are my stepson’s children I don’t get to see them anymore since the breakup. I have totally lost who I am and I need to find me again. But now with everything that has happened, I can't seem to do anything. I have a daughter who is 25; she is from my first marriage. My daughter has been coming over about once a week and she actually went into the basement and cleaned off the mountain of stuff that was piled up on my weight bench because I told her I want to start lifting again. I just can't seem to get motivated, it’s not that the desire isn’t there; I just can’t get motivated to actually do anything. When I was eight years old I was in a car accident and I have had two surgeries on my left leg, one when I was ten and one when I was 37, including a total hip replacement with the second surgery, and the right leg is going bad from supporting the left for years. I take eight Percocet a day and still hurt all the time. So cardio is out as far as running or using an elliptical machine. I really would like to get in shape and see if it makes a difference in my pain if nothing else. I am hoping to maybe find someone, someday, that will be the special person in my life, but at my age I don’t know what the odds are. I have had to file for bankruptcy so I’ll have to move once they foreclose on the house. I don’t know where I’ll go from here but I want to stay in this area since my daughter is here. Her mother passed away so we’re all we have now that this marriage has ended. So after all that wining like a big old girl, I am hoping that someone can offer some advice on how to get motivated and actually feel like there’s a reason to do something more that sit here. The only time I even leave the house is to go get food. I have to imagine that with all the people on this site, some of you had to go through some real hell in your life. What did you do to get back in control again?
Thanks in advance

**vancouver** · 11-15-2011, 11:40 PM

Movies; Rocky, Rudy, etc.
Book; Think and Grow Rich.

Join Big Brothers; there's a kid out there who's got it worse than you and his life hasn't even started yet.

I know what it feels like, though my past challenges had to do more with losing a fortune and then building myselft back up. It's tough, you need to set some new goals and just know that as bad a hand you've been dealt, somewhere someone has it much worse, only they don't live in the land of opportunity...

Good Luck!

**ExLe** · 11-16-2011, 01:22 AM

Originally Posted by ZeroCool

I'm 48 years old. I was going to a gym for about a year until my step son and his wife had our first grand children, twin boys. That was a year and a half ago. When I was going to the gym, I lost 60 lbs so now I'm just over weight, not obese. I started going to college a year and a half ago at the age of 47 in hopes of getting a degree so I could get a better job. In June, one week before my twelfth anniversary, my marriage ended. Three weeks to the day after that, I got laid off from my job. This is the first time I haven’t had a job since I was 17. I had dedicated my life to my wife and the only people we hung around with were her family and now, since we broke up, I have no one I can even call friend. Now since my grandsons are my stepson’s children I don’t get to see them anymore since the breakup. I have totally lost who I am and I need to find me again. But now with everything that has happened, I can't seem to do anything. I have a daughter who is 25; she is from my first marriage. My daughter has been coming over about once a week and she actually went into the basement and cleaned off the mountain of stuff that was piled up on my weight bench because I told her I want to start lifting again. I just can't seem to get motivated, it’s not that the desire isn’t there; I just can’t get motivated to actually do anything. When I was eight years old I was in a car accident and I have had two surgeries on my left leg, one when I was ten and one when I was 37, including a total hip replacement with the second surgery, and the right leg is going bad from supporting the left for years. I take eight Percocet a day and still hurt all the time. So cardio is out as far as running or using an elliptical machine. I really would like to get in shape and see if it makes a difference in my pain if nothing else. I am hoping to maybe find someone, someday, that will be the special person in my life, but at my age I don’t know what the odds are. I have had to file for bankruptcy so I’ll have to move once they foreclose on the house. I don’t know where I’ll go from here but I want to stay in this area since my daughter is here. Her mother passed away so we’re all we have now that this marriage has ended. So after all that wining like a big old girl, I am hoping that someone can offer some advice on how to get motivated and actually feel like there’s a reason to do something more that sit here. The only time I even leave the house is to go get food. I have to imagine that with all the people on this site, some of you had to go through some real hell in your life. What did you do to get back in control again?
Thanks in advance

No wonder you don't feel motivated...

I wouldn't want to do much either on 8 percs a day...

Get off the pills bro...

Go to GNC and buy a pre workout with caffeine...

Take it and go work out...

**Vibrant** · 11-16-2011, 07:36 AM

Make some goals. Take each day one at a time. Join some community outreach programs where you help others. Helping others will make you feel better about yourself. Start working out anyway you can.

Best of luck to you.

**Ezskanken** · 11-16-2011, 07:49 AM

I watch this pretty much religiously before I hit the gym. I am in the process of ripping the sound and putting it on a cd, just this on the whole cd so I can listen to it on the way to the gym over and over for that 10 minutes or so. 2:38-3:53 is the part that gets my mind in the right place. Ronnie starts it off with some serious deadlifts with very motivating music in the background, then there comes a fucking bad ass quote while Kevin is posing, and ends with Flex. It gets me where I need to be...

YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

Hope it can help you, even if it's just a little...

**Thee_One** · 11-16-2011, 08:53 AM

Look into these books. They will change your outlook on life QUICK.

A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.
Amazon.com: A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (9780525948025): Eckhart Tolle: Books

Prometheus Rising by Robert Anton Wilson
Amazon.com: Prometheus Rising (9781561840564): Robert Anton Wilson, Israel Regardie: Books

Good luck.

Just remember you are never truly alone.

Post more on here. Start a journal. People will care.

**Curt James** · 11-25-2011, 08:58 PM

Hang in there, man.

For motivation? Check out IronMagazine's Busty and ASS threads.

**Curt James** · 11-25-2011, 09:09 PM

Originally Posted by Ezskanken

I watch this pretty much religiously before I hit the gym. I am in the process of ripping the sound and putting it on a cd, just this on the whole cd so I can listen to it on the way to the gym over and over for that 10 minutes or so. 2:38-3:53 is the part that gets my mind in the right place. Ronnie starts it off with some serious deadlifts with very motivating music in the background, then there comes a fucking bad ass quote while Kevin is posing, and ends with Flex. It gets me where I need to be...

YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

Hope it can help you, even if it's just a little...

Not sure which YouTube you meant, but that link's not the one.

Here's Ronnie doing deads.