Thread: Just got some very sad news.

Originally Posted by GeorgeForemanRules

His life was truly fucked, I don't blame him for what he did, I just never thought he was the type to kill himself. I talked to a few mutual friends today, it made it much better to talk with other people who knew him.

Its the type who you'd expect to do such a thing that almost never do or they only do it half assed because they are using it as a cry for help. Even with those "type" you can't feel responsible. As for the type you wouldn't expect, there is no way to even have the slightest hint because, usually they haven't even seriously thought of it. I know this from my psychology teacher in college who had done a study with survivors and the "non-types" told him it was just a sudden overwhelming compulsion.

So you mourn all you can, but know that unless you are omnipotent it's not your fault or anyone else, not even your friends fault, blame it on our god damned biochemistry for being able to over power our rationality when we need it most...

I can only imagine how you are feeling because we all take on these things in different ways, but we all know it's better to not deal with it in negative ways... When my stepfather was murdered I took my rage out on the weights and when my father died in a work accident I turned to my guitar to channel my sadness and grief... Even to this day I still feel the rage when I lift and the grief when I play and those are like tributes to them...

Im sorry for your loss brother. This is not an easy thing. Stay strong as Im sure your friend would want you to. May He RIP. "Lost Soldier in this battle we call life". You have my sincerest condolences brother. Don't Ever do that to your self. Come around to the boards if you ever feel that way. And let some of the fam on here cheer you up! That goes out to all the brothers.
Stay Strong Brother
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Originally Posted by GeorgeForemanRules

His life was truly fucked, I don't blame him for what he did, I just never thought he was the type to kill himself. I talked to a few mutual friends today, it made it much better to talk with other people who knew him.

Glad to hear you got some solace from meeting with friends. Always a good thing to do in these situations. It is frightening to realize there are often few outward signs and no particular type of person who is at risk for committing suicide. Over 30,000 people do so every year in the U.S. alone. Just being a man increases your risk greatly. More women attempt suicide, but men tend to complete the act far more frequently. Anger and frustration are very understandable reactions. Good to see all the support on here, and I hope you are able to find ways to deal with all the feelings and emotions positively. Suicide is a very difficult way to lose a friend or family member. Hang in there, and I hope it helps that so many people on this site have come out in support of your situation.

It's always hard to understand when you don't know why. But you have to move on knowing it wasn't your fault and you could not have done anything. Sorry for your loss!

I sorry to hear about this and know the feeling . I've known at least 3 former co- workers who took their lives . I attended the funeral of two and pretty morbid feeling . No one ever saw it coming but with one guy I could feel the tension build were he was like a ticking time bomb . The families wouldn't go into detail over the issue and can't blame them . I wish you luck .