Thread: Are you in love????

can it really be that bad? do we hide from situations for fear of confrontation? do we run from problems that seem to hard to deal with? yes

does time heal? well for some it does but is it time that you look for to heal or is it simply time that is wasted when it can be looked at and enjoyed because you learn about how you work and what you like to change about yourself...these are all a matter of how you look at life and its happenings.

does the hurt and pain go away? it is in the moments of your decisions that your destiny is shaped...if you choose to hurt and bury your pain then the pain will always be there...if you grab a hold onto your emotions and experience them fully you will heal.

does one reach the bottom? yes you can...but i know that you are strong enough to realize what is going on and to not go there...catch yourself before you fall so to speak.

can it be one persons fault? never it is never about being someones fault...any situation even brutal things such a affairs etc. are never one persons fault...two people are in the relationship and something happens for someone to do something out of character...if you catch problems and deal with them as they come they never progress into heart aches just minor road bumps.

Is it fair that a child has to decide when to see a parent? yes it is...two parents that stay together because of the child is the worst thing to do...do you want to teach her to live the way you are? to accept some of the things that happen? the question should be do you want your child to grow up and have the relationship that you and your spouse have?

Why does someone grow green with anger? because they fully lose themselves and cannot grab a hold of life anymore...everything turns black and you are no longer able to see the light...you slowly die inside with guilt and anger that comes over you.

Why? what did you do? nothing is ever about one situation but compounded events that lead to unfulfilling lives...it isnt anyones business or place to judge..just to be there to support and love people like you

How does love evolve? evolution is complex and is different in every relationship...love takes on what ever form you mold it into.

Why do we choose someone? i was thinking of this myself one day and am still trying to come up with why i personally choose someone to come into my life...is it based upon previous relatioships or experiences? were you once with someone that loved material things and money was a HUGE priority and now you choose to live and look for money? have you been with someone that left a bad taste in your mouth and now look to someone with complete opposite chararcteristics? still question these things everyday?

Who determines when love is done? the person that is dying and feels that they have a little strength left to rebuild.

The images you feel of being alone are freightening...why? because we fear what we may do by ourselves and what we may discover...do we even like ourselves and they way we work?

Taking on a parents characteristic can be freightening although once you recognize that it is happening you are on your way...now you can slowly start to change your habits and behaviour because you knw exacetly what you do not want to become.

Why do we hide emotions? because they are too hard or seem to unbarable to deal with...the longer we hide the more that we run the harder it is to deal with...stop the cycle now and a new life will begin.

Originally posted by naturaltan
A big thank you to all who have responded to my crazy Friday rant. You people here are some of the best people. I'm not sure what I've done to allow me to have such a great bunch of friends, but I am very thankful.

I am glad you are sounding better!!! Listen NT we ALL know how you feel!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! Remember that!!!