Thread: PARENTS!! How do you feel about you kid drinking?

Ask me in 8 years

I voted againt in every way shape and form. I raise my kids in a very health conscience atmosphere. We eat right, and excercise together and they are only 6years old and 10 years old. Junk food is minimal in my home so alcohol is obviously very limited and almost non existent. I also stress the fact that moderation is the key to a healty lifestyle. If when the time comes and they want to have a beer, I'd allow it as long as like I said, they learn moderation. I can't stand drunks. That only tells me that they have no self control and irresponsible. I've "accidentally over drank in my time and have yet to figure out what positives I'd gained from those experiences. I don't need to get drunk to have a good time. I make my good times sober; that way I can remember them the next day and not have a head ache. So to answer your question, I don't want my kids drinking but if they do, they will do so responsably if I have any say in the matter.

Originally posted by firestorm
I don't want my kids drinking but if they do, they will do so responsably if I have any say in the matter.

In a few years you won't have a say probably. You are right though, the parents need to set the example, not introduce the drugs to their children. what kind of example does that set?

Originally posted by gr81
In a few years you won't have a say probably. You are right though, the parents need to set the example, not introduce the drugs to their children. what kind of example does that set?

Well in a few years,, if I did my job right, I won't have to say anything GR8. So far my kids show outstanding leadership abilities and they are not followers and I know that is half the battle. They have good heads on their shoulders so I'm hoping they stay on the track they are on now and they should be just fine.

good for you fire, that is all you can do. The rest is up to them, and if they take after their father then I am sure they will be a cut above the rest.

Those were very kind words GR8, thank you very much. Means alot coming from someone your age man.

I know you are holdin it down brotha, keepin it real right. ha ha.
See I CAN be a good guy sometimes, just don't tell anyone . Hey good times.

P.S. I did some re-decorating on my sig, what do ya think?

Your such a pisser. Gman,, I'd swear you were black in your 1st life bro. hahahaha and yeeaaaa I like the babes!!!!

My kids see us drink...we are partiers. I want my kids to learn to do it responsibley. We let them drink at special holiday events like New Years, some parties etc... Once in awhile here or there if they ask...not a habit though. I don't think alcohol is wrong at all...its just how people handle it. I have even told my kids if they are somewhere and "choose" to drink that I would rather get my sleeping, grouch ass out of bed to go pick them up rather than them get behind the wheel or in the car with someone who has been drinking...I don't want to have to go ID their bodies.

I know kids will be kids...God knows I did my share of stupid stuff...some included drinking, some not, but I didn't have anyone who talked to me. It was just "NO"...so I didn't it anyway - just very sneaky. I don't want that for my kids.

I talk to my kids regularly about sex...it is an open subject in our house. We preach abstinance BUT I tell my kids that eventually they will have to make some hard decisions that I CAN NOT make for them...period. We discuss emotions and of course the dangers...pregnancy, depression, diseases, death etc... I try to teach good choices....choices that they MUST live with.

We do preach "no" drugs. We discuss the dangers and problems with it. I can only hope they make good decisions. I would say that drugs are probably my biggest fear for my kids....they can fuck your head up and all sense goes out the window.

The best thing we have to combat all of these things....WE TALK....A LOT!!

Good Post Buff. That is an excellent stance on the subject. No Secrets. Trust. My kids are too young to worry about that yet but my stance will be similar. you drink you call me. I'll pick your puke ass up. hahahaha

Originally posted by firestorm
Your such a pisser. Gman,, I'd swear you were black in your 1st life bro. hahahaha and yeeaaaa I like the babes!!!!

A pisser, is that some jersey slang or somethin.
what can I say about the black thang, I got soul, mmmhhhmm. You either got it or you don't right.,

Originally posted by gr81
A pisser, is that some jersey slang or somethin.

a pisser : someone who makes you laugh to where you piss your pants.


what can I say about the black thang, I got soul, mmmhhhmm. You either got it or you don't right.,

I feel ya. hahahaha

I'm with Fire .. when the time comes, in moderation. And as Buff has said, we use each and every time we go out as a lesson she hopefully will learn. Anytime we go out, we cab it - period. It cost us an extra $50 minimum, but it's not much when you consider we're teaching by example and if we do have too much to drive, then we're not going to harm anyone.

Fire ... I wouldn't be too sure about your 10 year old not being older enough. I take the bus and some of the conversation I hear among the junior high kids is scarey. They talk about parties ... drinking ... drugs ...

Originally posted by firestorm
Good Post Buff. That is an excellent stance on the subject. No Secrets. Trust. My kids are too young to worry about that yet but my stance will be similar. you drink you call me. I'll pick your puke ass up. hahahaha

Thanx. I feel really good about it right now, too. My 15 year old daughter tells me about all the sex, drugs, and BS at school. Its nice to know we can work through it. She has been great at making good decisions as well. She know what she wants and stands up for it. The boys her age are really pushing and she tells them...I am not like that and if you don't like it...leave. Then she comes home and tells me about it. And we talk.

Originally posted by naturaltan
Fire ... I wouldn't be too sure about your 10 year old not being older enough. I take the bus and some of the conversation I hear among the junior high kids is scarey. They talk about parties ... drinking ... drugs ...

Yes, you are right NT. I talk with my 8 year old already. My 12 and 13 year old see and hear A LOT already about drugs and sex Its sad they have to grow up so young. We talk a lot so they don't hear BS and believe it. I want them to know whats up...its the best defense.

We live in a small city - 35,000 peeps. We have 1 school district with 1 high school, 1 jr high, and 4 elementaries. 3 years ago we had an 11 year old...yes I said 11, have a baby. She was 10 when she got pregnant Last year we had a 12 year old have a baby.

It NEVER to early to start talking openly with your kids.

Ok, this will probably be considered TOO much information, but its a good example....my 3 year old will go into the bathroom with me - she says "Mommy, you have hair on your tootie(what she call it lol)" so I used that comment to explain that adults get hair there...even boys do when they grow up. She looked at me and said, "I am still a little girl" I told her, yes baby, you are. She listened and was satisified. I didn't have to go any further. As she gets older we will talk more and more about stuff. NONE of my children ever remember have "THE" sex talk. Its much easier for them to discuss sex issues than a lot of kids. We have always talked about it (age appropriate of course). I like my relationship with my kids...its a good one.

it sounds as though you have a very healthy relationship Buff ...

Hey ... btw, Mrs. NT says you can see a pic of her latest piercings if you'd like.

Originally posted by naturaltan
Fire ... I wouldn't be too sure about your 10 year old not being older enough. I take the bus and some of the conversation I hear among the junior high kids is scarey. They talk about parties ... drinking ... drugs ...

yes I know what your saying there NT,, but I drop off and pick up my kids from school. I know all their friends and my house is the local hangout for all of them.. It is not uncommon for us to have 6 kids at my house any given day this past summer. I keep a tight leash on my boys without them knowing there is a leash present. None of the other parents we know would stand for that many kids at their house day in and day out. Therefore, since we accept all of them, they like to hang at our house. I also include myself in their games whatever it may be. my little guy and his friends (and myself) will sit on the floor and play with his action figures or playstation etc. My older boy, his friends and myself will play manhunt at night and so forth. They love the fact that I play with them and their friends say I'm the coolest dad they know. hahahaha

Originally posted by naturaltan
it sounds as though you have a very healthy relationship Buff ...

We do!

Hey ... btw, Mrs. NT says you can see a pic of her latest piercings if you'd like.

I have been waiting oooohhhhhh soooooo patiently Yes, please...I would love to see them

It certainly sounds like you're THE dad .. until you ask my daughter. We just had her 10th bday party and I can't ever remember having 4 of the most polite and fun group of kids ever. It was a sheer delight to take them out.

... but even though you drop them off, pick them up, it's while they're in school that you have to hope that what you've taught them comes into play ... or at least, that's what we're hoping.

Originally posted by naturaltan
it sounds as though you have a very healthy relationship Buff ...

Hey ... btw, Mrs. NT says you can see a pic of her latest piercings if you'd like.

I want to see!!! What did she get pierced? Ear, lip, eyebrow???? Send me the pic!!!

Originally posted by firestorm
yes I know what your saying there NT,, but I drop off and pick up my kids from school. I know all their friends and my house is the local hangout for all of them.. It is not uncommon for us to have 6 kids at my house any given day this past summer. I keep a tight leash on my boys without them knowing there is a leash present. None of the other parents we know would stand for that many kids at their house day in and day out. Therefore, since we accept all of them, they like to hang at our house. I also include myself in their games whatever it may be. my little guy and his friends (and myself) will sit on the floor and play with his action figures or playstation etc. My older boy, his friends and myself will play manhunt at night and so forth. They love the fact that I play with them and their friends say I'm the coolest dad they know. hahahaha

Good start man!! Keep it up...you won't regret it! And remember, no matter how tired or how boring or how many times you may have heard the same story from your kids....listen. When they know you are listening...they will talk.

Originally posted by naturaltan
It certainly sounds like you're THE dad .. until you ask my daughter. We just had her 10th bday party and I can't ever remember having 4 of the most polite and fun group of kids ever. It was a sheer delight to take them out.

... but even though you drop them off, pick them up, it's while they're in school that you have to hope that what you've taught them comes into play ... or at least, that's what we're hoping.

NT, I'm sure your doing a great job yourself so don't worry. As for my kids in school,, you would have to know them and then you would understand.

Originally posted by buff_tat2d_chick
Good start man!! Keep it up...you won't regret it! And remember, no matter how tired or how boring or how many times you may have heard the same story from your kids....listen. When they know you are listening...they will talk.

Oh Buff,,, I'm never bored listening to my kids or playing their games. I look forward to every minute I get with them. I never had that kind of attention as a kid and I don't want that for my boys. Just tonight they called me before they went to bed just to say good night. Not many kids do that on their own.

I'm sure I would ...

Worried ... I guess a little as we don't have control over the how other children are raised. What I am very happy about are the friends she's choosen thus far. All very well mannered and polite. I know that her environment will change drastically when she switches to Jr. High, but we're betting that she will be able to keep it together long enough to survive the crap that goes on daily. As Buff has said, we keep the lines of communication open and I really do try and listen ... because when she has wants to talk I believe it's very important that we don't brush her off. She is part of the family and has good/bad days and wants us to know about either kind - so we listen.

Originally posted by firestorm
What did she get pierced? Ear, lip, eyebrow????

NOT quite!!

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