Thread: college

Get out and try to meet lots of new people...once you do that you'll start to have soo much fun you'll forget all about home

Meeting new people isn't the easiest....try the gym, go to varsity sport games, play intramurals, get a p/t job, etc....before long you'll be fine.

Good luck

IMO try to avoid calling home a lot...in a sense I think you need to experience withdrawl from home before you can move on.

well i moved from Oakland,Ca to Walla Walla,Wa.I mean, that's a huge jump.I don't like the small city.The college is great but I am now realizing that i love cali and don't ever want to leave it again.u dig FF?

Don't worry man.....just give your new environment time.....you'll adjust and eventually find things that you like about it....trust me.

When I went to college I moved from cleveland, oh to boston, MA without knowing anyone. Then after college I moved to New York City, again without knowing anyone else in the city.....It just works out.......just relax.

what do you plan on studying??

history for now

and the gym is closed the first week

this leads to another question.Hwo do you which college is right for you?Right now I am at the point where i move back to cali and attend a college there just so i can be back home. california is great and i've really been questioning myself lately, especially when GR asked me why i was going from cali to washington?

i don't know what the hell to do with my life.But I need answers fast.

Would i be justified in going back home?Would that be wrong?

well now i am raving maybe i'm going insane

Dude, chill out......don't go back home...I know it is hard for you right now but you have to give your new environment a chance.....You are going to meet knew people, make new freinds, learn new things about people outside of the environment you are used to (california) and learn many new things about yourself...Let yourself grow and be young and exeperience as many different places as possible.......California will always be there.......During holiday break, summer break, and after graduation......Don't worry it isn't going anywhere......I often think about how easy it would be to move back to cleveland. But that is not what it is about.....Do things while you are young because once you are older you may not have the same opurtunities......That is why I live in NYC now.......I knew that if I didn't move here right after college I probably never would have....I graduated from college and moved home for the summer and then one day I woke up and told my parents "I am moving to NYC next month"....I just did it for the hell of it and I am glad that I did......Take time and experience life and enjoy yourself because once it is gone you will never get it back.

that's true dawg But Walla Walla is different from Boston, a lot different.Cleveland to Boston is not bad because they are both relatively big cities.Walla Walla is shit.Not a big city at all Nothing compared to Oakland.This rant might sound like i'm disrespecting or whining, or maybe i'm doing both.But right now my comfort zone is shot to hell and I don't know how much longer i can take it.I've cried many times over the past several days.No one seems sad except me.I figure since im the one choosing the college i should be comfortable, correct?

u don't have to answer that one P if u don't want to

Yes, since you are the one chossing the college you should be comfortable....We always want to be comfortable and once something invades that "comfort zone" we freak out, everything goes to shit.....Until we figure out how to make that uncomfortable experience become comfortable......It is just like lifting weight right.......the first time you ever did a bench press or squat they were completly foreign to you right??? But, you kept at it and eventually got very comfortable with the proper movement pattern. Just think of this experience as something that you just need to "get comfortable with". I'm sure you will meet some great people there and eventually find WallaWalla to be an alright place.....Just give it time (just like the bench press and the squat) and eventually you'll come around.

Don't make any decisions while you are freakin' out. That is the worse time to make hasty choices. School just started. It's normal to be acting a little "wierd". I too left a city and went to an ag college in a pretty small town. You'll get the hang of it though. As for finding the purpose for your life....whatever you do, do NOT let your professors try to tell you what it is. This can start a vicious chain of events that you may spend a good part of your life questioning. They can only teach you how to get a job, not get a life.

I traveled Europe for a few years after High School oaktownboy. I HATED it for first few months. REALLY HATED IT!! Missed home and friends and would have done anything to come back. Then it happens all of a sudden, I started to enjoy where I was and what I was doing.

It's a new chapter in your life man, sometimes it's hard to leave what you know and start something new but in time you'll appreciate it!! Now is when life is really starting for you, don't fight it which is what you would be doing by going back home.

i guess what's also unraveling my nerves is living in a dorm. and the gym at our school is closed the first week so i haven't been able to train..i'm starting to realize that Walla Walla, or any other city in any other state for that matter, may not be for me.Cali may be the only option that will satisfy my needs.

when the state u have lived in ur entirely life has everything, u just din't want to leave.

College is less about education and more about starting your own life and becoming independent. I see 3 kinds of patterns from people going to college:
1) Party - time to get away from home and cut lose (most in this class become loosers or subpar in life)
2) Do nothing but study and hide from life (a lot make it in this group but you miss out of a lot of social things - but it will get you through the process)
3) Mostly study but cut lose and do other things 20% of the time (frats, clubs, sports etc.).

I recommend #3. For financial reasons if often makes more sense to stay home and go to an inexpensive junior college for 2 years to get preliminary courses out of the way - all the "bs" stuff like history, humanities, etc. (I am biased here as an engineer/scientist). Then go away for the last 2 years to a real college and get the real 2 years of the education when you are into the meat of the programs.

However, thus said, I think you need to get away from home and have to face living the reality of being on a limited budget and having to make friends to rent rooms, take on odd jobs etc. to get ready for real life.

Good Luck

Don't be a girly boy!! Be a manly man!

oh yeah I really needed to hear that.

alright I'm cool now.I had a long talk with my Dad and I am staying.I had to take care of emotional problems, but I'm over that now.Also, being afraid or scared does not make u less of a man DG.

Dg is just pulling your leg Good to know your Dad could help!

Yeah I'm just picking. I've never been one to be homesick though.
OTB, the real life is getting ready to hit you!!!

once i start lifting again Tuesday I'll be back to normal

I never had this "problem", Oakster. Appreciate what you've got. I went to a state university, lived with mom throughout college, commuted to my classes, and worked several part-time jobs at once to pay for the whole thing. Sure, the home cookin' every night was GREAT, but I never got the full "college experience." The four years will be over in a flash.

so ur saying that going away from home and living on campus is part of the college experience?

Yeah, going away to college and campus life are totally the college experience. Staying at home a going to school is just not the same.....I feel that I grew up a heck of a lot faster going to a college in another state from my home and from anyone that
knew me..............trust me man, you'll adapt.....just give it time.

i hate being patient.