college

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 12:25 PM

I just started college far away from home and i'm feeling really home sick.how did u guys deals with the college experience?

Fit Freak · 08-30-2003, 03:19 PM

Get out and try to meet lots of new people...once you do that you'll start to have soo much fun you'll forget all about home

Meeting new people isn't the easiest....try the gym, go to varsity sport games, play intramurals, get a p/t job, etc....before long you'll be fine.

Good luck

IMO try to avoid calling home a lot...in a sense I think you need to experience withdrawl from home before you can move on.

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:01 PM

well i moved from Oakland,Ca to Walla Walla,Wa.I mean, that's a huge jump.I don't like the small city.The college is great but I am now realizing that i love cali and don't ever want to leave it again.u dig FF?

**P-funk** · 08-30-2003, 05:13 PM

Don't worry man.....just give your new environment time.....you'll adjust and eventually find things that you like about it....trust me.

When I went to college I moved from cleveland, oh to boston, MA without knowing anyone. Then after college I moved to New York City, again without knowing anyone else in the city.....It just works out.......just relax.

what do you plan on studying??

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:21 PM

history for now

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:21 PM

and the gym is closed the first week

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:24 PM

this leads to another question.Hwo do you which college is right for you?Right now I am at the point where i move back to cali and attend a college there just so i can be back home. california is great and i've really been questioning myself lately, especially when GR asked me why i was going from cali to washington?

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:25 PM

i don't know what the hell to do with my life.But I need answers fast.

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:27 PM

Would i be justified in going back home?Would that be wrong?

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:29 PM

well now i am raving maybe i'm going insane

**P-funk** · 08-30-2003, 05:36 PM

Dude, chill out......don't go back home...I know it is hard for you right now but you have to give your new environment a chance.....You are going to meet knew people, make new freinds, learn new things about people outside of the environment you are used to (california) and learn many new things about yourself...Let yourself grow and be young and exeperience as many different places as possible.......California will always be there.......During holiday break, summer break, and after graduation......Don't worry it isn't going anywhere......I often think about how easy it would be to move back to cleveland. But that is not what it is about.....Do things while you are young because once you are older you may not have the same opurtunities......That is why I live in NYC now.......I knew that if I didn't move here right after college I probably never would have....I graduated from college and moved home for the summer and then one day I woke up and told my parents "I am moving to NYC next month"....I just did it for the hell of it and I am glad that I did......Take time and experience life and enjoy yourself because once it is gone you will never get it back.

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:43 PM

that's true dawg But Walla Walla is different from Boston, a lot different.Cleveland to Boston is not bad because they are both relatively big cities.Walla Walla is shit.Not a big city at all Nothing compared to Oakland.This rant might sound like i'm disrespecting or whining, or maybe i'm doing both.But right now my comfort zone is shot to hell and I don't know how much longer i can take it.I've cried many times over the past several days.No one seems sad except me.I figure since im the one choosing the college i should be comfortable, correct?

oaktownboy · 08-30-2003, 05:44 PM

u don't have to answer that one P if u don't want to

**P-funk** · 08-30-2003, 05:56 PM

Yes, since you are the one chossing the college you should be comfortable....We always want to be comfortable and once something invades that "comfort zone" we freak out, everything goes to shit.....Until we figure out how to make that uncomfortable experience become comfortable......It is just like lifting weight right.......the first time you ever did a bench press or squat they were completly foreign to you right??? But, you kept at it and eventually got very comfortable with the proper movement pattern. Just think of this experience as something that you just need to "get comfortable with". I'm sure you will meet some great people there and eventually find WallaWalla to be an alright place.....Just give it time (just like the bench press and the squat) and eventually you'll come around.

BUSTINOUT · 08-30-2003, 07:23 PM

Don't make any decisions while you are freakin' out. That is the worse time to make hasty choices. School just started. It's normal to be acting a little "wierd". I too left a city and went to an ag college in a pretty small town. You'll get the hang of it though. As for finding the purpose for your life....whatever you do, do NOT let your professors try to tell you what it is. This can start a vicious chain of events that you may spend a good part of your life questioning. They can only teach you how to get a job, not get a life.

Rocco32 · 08-30-2003, 07:46 PM

I traveled Europe for a few years after High School oaktownboy. I HATED it for first few months. REALLY HATED IT!! Missed home and friends and would have done anything to come back. Then it happens all of a sudden, I started to enjoy where I was and what I was doing.

It's a new chapter in your life man, sometimes it's hard to leave what you know and start something new but in time you'll appreciate it!! Now is when life is really starting for you, don't fight it which is what you would be doing by going back home.

oaktownboy · 08-31-2003, 09:16 AM

i guess what's also unraveling my nerves is living in a dorm. and the gym at our school is closed the first week so i haven't been able to train..i'm starting to realize that Walla Walla, or any other city in any other state for that matter, may not be for me.Cali may be the only option that will satisfy my needs.

oaktownboy · 08-31-2003, 09:27 AM

when the state u have lived in ur entirely life has everything, u just din't want to leave.

OceanDude · 08-31-2003, 10:25 AM

College is less about education and more about starting your own life and becoming independent. I see 3 kinds of patterns from people going to college:
1) Party - time to get away from home and cut lose (most in this class become loosers or subpar in life)
2) Do nothing but study and hide from life (a lot make it in this group but you miss out of a lot of social things - but it will get you through the process)
3) Mostly study but cut lose and do other things 20% of the time (frats, clubs, sports etc.).

I recommend #3. For financial reasons if often makes more sense to stay home and go to an inexpensive junior college for 2 years to get preliminary courses out of the way - all the "bs" stuff like history, humanities, etc. (I am biased here as an engineer/scientist). Then go away for the last 2 years to a real college and get the real 2 years of the education when you are into the meat of the programs.

However, thus said, I think you need to get away from home and have to face living the reality of being on a limited budget and having to make friends to rent rooms, take on odd jobs etc. to get ready for real life.

Good Luck

**dg806** · 08-31-2003, 10:29 AM

Don't be a girly boy!!

Be a manly man!

oaktownboy · 08-31-2003, 12:24 PM

oh yeah I really needed to hear that.

oaktownboy · 08-31-2003, 01:15 PM

alright I'm cool now.I had a long talk with my Dad and I am staying.I had to take care of emotional problems, but I'm over that now.Also, being afraid or scared does not make u less of a man DG.

Rocco32 · 08-31-2003, 02:12 PM

Dg is just pulling your leg

Good to know your Dad could help!

**dg806** · 08-31-2003, 02:26 PM

Yeah I'm just picking. I've never been one to be homesick though.
OTB, the real life is getting ready to hit you!!!

oaktownboy · 08-31-2003, 02:51 PM

once i start lifting again Tuesday I'll be back to normal

**I Are Baboon** · 08-31-2003, 06:42 PM

I never had this "problem", Oakster. Appreciate what you've got. I went to a state university, lived with mom throughout college, commuted to my classes, and worked several part-time jobs at once to pay for the whole thing. Sure, the home cookin' every night was GREAT, but I never got the full "college experience." The four years will be over in a flash.

oaktownboy · 08-31-2003, 07:01 PM

so ur saying that going away from home and living on campus is part of the college experience?

**P-funk** · 08-31-2003, 07:04 PM

Yeah, going away to college and campus life are totally the college experience. Staying at home a going to school is just not the same.....I feel that I grew up a heck of a lot faster going to a college in another state from my home and from anyone that
knew me..............trust me man, you'll adapt.....just give it time.

08-30-2003, 12:25 PM	#1
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	college I just started college far away from home and i'm feeling really home sick.how did u guys deals with the college experience?
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 03:19 PM	#2
Fit Freak Fit Freak Elite Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Halifax Posts: 1,797 Photos: 6	Get out and try to meet lots of new people...once you do that you'll start to have soo much fun you'll forget all about home Meeting new people isn't the easiest....try the gym, go to varsity sport games, play intramurals, get a p/t job, etc....before long you'll be fine. Good luck IMO try to avoid calling home a lot...in a sense I think you need to experience withdrawl from home before you can move on.
	Searching for the right balance...

08-30-2003, 05:13 PM	#4
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,431	Don't worry man.....just give your new environment time.....you'll adjust and eventually find things that you like about it....trust me. When I went to college I moved from cleveland, oh to boston, MA without knowing anyone. Then after college I moved to New York City, again without knowing anyone else in the city.....It just works out.......just relax. what do you plan on studying??
	http://pwtraining.blogspot.com/.....come and see what is on my mind! http://ivonneberkowitz.blogspot.com/....check out Ivonne's new blog! Optimum Sports Performance "In the beginners mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few." -Buddha's Little Instruction Book

08-30-2003, 05:21 PM	#5
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	history for now
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:21 PM	#6
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	and the gym is closed the first week
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:01 PM	#3
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	well i moved from Oakland,Ca to Walla Walla,Wa.I mean, that's a huge jump.I don't like the small city.The college is great but I am now realizing that i love cali and don't ever want to leave it again.u dig FF?
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:24 PM	#7
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	this leads to another question.Hwo do you which college is right for you?Right now I am at the point where i move back to cali and attend a college there just so i can be back home. california is great and i've really been questioning myself lately, especially when GR asked me why i was going from cali to washington?
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:25 PM	#8
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	i don't know what the hell to do with my life.But I need answers fast.
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:27 PM	#9
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	Would i be justified in going back home?Would that be wrong?
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:29 PM	#10
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	well now i am raving maybe i'm going insane
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:36 PM	#11
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,431	Dude, chill out......don't go back home...I know it is hard for you right now but you have to give your new environment a chance.....You are going to meet knew people, make new freinds, learn new things about people outside of the environment you are used to (california) and learn many new things about yourself...Let yourself grow and be young and exeperience as many different places as possible.......California will always be there.......During holiday break, summer break, and after graduation......Don't worry it isn't going anywhere......I often think about how easy it would be to move back to cleveland. But that is not what it is about.....Do things while you are young because once you are older you may not have the same opurtunities......That is why I live in NYC now.......I knew that if I didn't move here right after college I probably never would have....I graduated from college and moved home for the summer and then one day I woke up and told my parents "I am moving to NYC next month"....I just did it for the hell of it and I am glad that I did......Take time and experience life and enjoy yourself because once it is gone you will never get it back.
	http://pwtraining.blogspot.com/.....come and see what is on my mind! http://ivonneberkowitz.blogspot.com/....check out Ivonne's new blog! Optimum Sports Performance "In the beginners mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few." -Buddha's Little Instruction Book

08-30-2003, 05:43 PM	#12
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	that's true dawg But Walla Walla is different from Boston, a lot different.Cleveland to Boston is not bad because they are both relatively big cities.Walla Walla is shit.Not a big city at all Nothing compared to Oakland.This rant might sound like i'm disrespecting or whining, or maybe i'm doing both.But right now my comfort zone is shot to hell and I don't know how much longer i can take it.I've cried many times over the past several days.No one seems sad except me.I figure since im the one choosing the college i should be comfortable, correct?
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:44 PM	#13
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	u don't have to answer that one P if u don't want to
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-30-2003, 05:56 PM	#14
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,431	Yes, since you are the one chossing the college you should be comfortable....We always want to be comfortable and once something invades that "comfort zone" we freak out, everything goes to shit.....Until we figure out how to make that uncomfortable experience become comfortable......It is just like lifting weight right.......the first time you ever did a bench press or squat they were completly foreign to you right??? But, you kept at it and eventually got very comfortable with the proper movement pattern. Just think of this experience as something that you just need to "get comfortable with". I'm sure you will meet some great people there and eventually find WallaWalla to be an alright place.....Just give it time (just like the bench press and the squat) and eventually you'll come around.
	http://pwtraining.blogspot.com/.....come and see what is on my mind! http://ivonneberkowitz.blogspot.com/....check out Ivonne's new blog! Optimum Sports Performance "In the beginners mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few." -Buddha's Little Instruction Book

08-30-2003, 07:23 PM	#15
BUSTINOUT Registered User Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 2,415	Don't make any decisions while you are freakin' out. That is the worse time to make hasty choices. School just started. It's normal to be acting a little "wierd". I too left a city and went to an ag college in a pretty small town. You'll get the hang of it though. As for finding the purpose for your life....whatever you do, do NOT let your professors try to tell you what it is. This can start a vicious chain of events that you may spend a good part of your life questioning. They can only teach you how to get a job, not get a life.

08-30-2003, 07:46 PM	#16
Rocco32 UNLEASH THE BEAST Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 22,316 Photos: 18	I traveled Europe for a few years after High School oaktownboy. I HATED it for first few months. REALLY HATED IT!! Missed home and friends and would have done anything to come back. Then it happens all of a sudden, I started to enjoy where I was and what I was doing. It's a new chapter in your life man, sometimes it's hard to leave what you know and start something new but in time you'll appreciate it!! Now is when life is really starting for you, don't fight it which is what you would be doing by going back home.

08-31-2003, 09:16 AM	#17
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	i guess what's also unraveling my nerves is living in a dorm. and the gym at our school is closed the first week so i haven't been able to train..i'm starting to realize that Walla Walla, or any other city in any other state for that matter, may not be for me.Cali may be the only option that will satisfy my needs.
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-31-2003, 09:27 AM	#18
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	when the state u have lived in ur entirely life has everything, u just din't want to leave.
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-31-2003, 10:25 AM	#19
OceanDude Well Read Elite Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Cape Canaveral, FL Posts: 1,853	College is less about education and more about starting your own life and becoming independent. I see 3 kinds of patterns from people going to college: 1) Party - time to get away from home and cut lose (most in this class become loosers or subpar in life) 2) Do nothing but study and hide from life (a lot make it in this group but you miss out of a lot of social things - but it will get you through the process) 3) Mostly study but cut lose and do other things 20% of the time (frats, clubs, sports etc.). I recommend #3. For financial reasons if often makes more sense to stay home and go to an inexpensive junior college for 2 years to get preliminary courses out of the way - all the "bs" stuff like history, humanities, etc. (I am biased here as an engineer/scientist). Then go away for the last 2 years to a real college and get the real 2 years of the education when you are into the meat of the programs. However, thus said, I think you need to get away from home and have to face living the reality of being on a limited budget and having to make friends to rent rooms, take on odd jobs etc. to get ready for real life. Good Luck
	"Doc, If I had known I was going to live this long I would have taken better care of myself..." Est unusquisque faber ipsae suae fortunae. We Americans scoff at the likes of African witch doctors yet spend 100's of millions of dollars on fake reducing systems. The only regular exercise he gets is stretching the truth. His intellect is not replenished, he is only an animal, only sensible in the duller parts...

08-31-2003, 10:29 AM	#20
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,266	Don't be a girly boy!! Be a manly man!
	www.sbmuscle.com

08-31-2003, 12:24 PM	#21
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	oh yeah I really needed to hear that.
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-31-2003, 01:15 PM	#22
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	alright I'm cool now.I had a long talk with my Dad and I am staying.I had to take care of emotional problems, but I'm over that now.Also, being afraid or scared does not make u less of a man DG.
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-31-2003, 02:12 PM	#23
Rocco32 UNLEASH THE BEAST Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 22,316 Photos: 18	Dg is just pulling your leg Good to know your Dad could help!

08-31-2003, 02:26 PM	#24
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 17,266	Yeah I'm just picking. I've never been one to be homesick though. OTB, the real life is getting ready to hit you!!!
	www.sbmuscle.com

08-31-2003, 02:51 PM	#25
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	once i start lifting again Tuesday I'll be back to normal
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-31-2003, 06:42 PM	#26
I Are Baboon pedal pedal pedal Moderator Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Beerville Posts: 10,916 Photos: 10	I never had this "problem", Oakster. Appreciate what you've got. I went to a state university, lived with mom throughout college, commuted to my classes, and worked several part-time jobs at once to pay for the whole thing. Sure, the home cookin' every night was GREAT, but I never got the full "college experience." The four years will be over in a flash.

08-31-2003, 07:01 PM	#27
oaktownboy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: smog and fog Posts: 4,387	so ur saying that going away from home and living on campus is part of the college experience?
	Chuck Norris once lost his keys and couldn't remember where he put them. So he tortured himself for half an hour until he gave up their location.

08-31-2003, 07:04 PM	#28
P-funk Patrick Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: AZ Posts: 30,431	Yeah, going away to college and campus life are totally the college experience. Staying at home a going to school is just not the same.....I feel that I grew up a heck of a lot faster going to a college in another state from my home and from anyone that knew me..............trust me man, you'll adapt.....just give it time.
	http://pwtraining.blogspot.com/.....come and see what is on my mind! http://ivonneberkowitz.blogspot.com/....check out Ivonne's new blog! Optimum Sports Performance "In the beginners mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few." -Buddha's Little Instruction Book