Thread: Another question about Women (again)..please help (again)

Depends on how long he has gone out with her man, because if it as really serious he is going to be really hurt/mad/sad/go crazy because maybe that feeling (jelousy) is still there. and plus how long was it ago anyway???? try to talk to him about her and see what kind of reaction you will het from him about her.....
otherwise i would say " Go hit that shiiii "

PS : dont tell him u wanna go with her, just see what he is going to say about her.......

no no listen man, I have the solution for ya my brotha. Rule of thumb, if HE was teh dumper then you have the green light to hit on her, but if he was the DUMPEE and he had feelins for her, then its a no no, that is if you are friends with him. You have to look at it that way b/c if he dumped hr, then what would he care if you are pickin up something he threw out? If he got dumped though than thats no good for the homie to swoop in relatively soon. Remeber bros before hoes man! Be correst bout that game and it will treat you right, remember that shit. make sense to ya F?

fuck it bro, just do casual.

thanks bros, i know i could count on my homies when it matters....

qguy-I think they went out for like 9 months.

gr-i'm pretty sure they just both agreed to break it off.

you guys gotta understand, he's not my boy. i mean he's an awesome kid, but i never hang out with him. AT MOST i see him one or two times per week while at school. like i said, if i do happen to see him, we bullshit for a few minutes, cuz we get along real well. but i mean i never call him or hang out with him and other such things that things you do with your good buddies.


personally, i would be PISSED if any kid i knew ever went out with my gf. i mean we went out for 2.5 yrs, so its a little different.

but i just don't know what to do. i mean like i said, she's such a cute girl. she has a great personality (from when i've talked to her). she lives and works 5min away while we are both home (not at school), so we could hang out whenever. PLUS, we're both on vaca. till almost the end of Jan., so i mean i could really get to know her better for a month ifyouknowwhatimean

from what you guys know now, would i be "stepping on his toes"?

if we ever were to be together, i'd feel maaad weird if i ever saw her ex.

anyone.......

Originally posted by A.B
fuck it bro, just do casual.

as in????

casual sex? sure haha

yeah buddy, your still young, dont waste colllege stuck in a relationship. lmao

I like GR81's advice. Made sense to me. But then coming from a girl, I've learned ya never date someone that your friends have gone out with or slept with. Sometimes there is no need to stir that shitpot.

Originally posted by A.B
yeah buddy, your still young, dont waste colllege stuck in a relationship. lmao

i know this trust me bro

but i mean i'm graduating this may, so i'd like to be with a chick for when i graduate (once the school stops, the poon drops).

its not like i'm lookin for a gf either. its just she's like beautiful. she has beautiful eyes (im such a sucker for eyes. they make or break a chick IMO), a very pretty face, and she has a great athletic build. she's not rail thin, she has like the perfect amount of meat on all of her (great legs let me tell ya). plus, like i said, she seems like a real great chick.

its just she happened to "wander" into my life, and i'm wondering if i should take a chance, w/o hurtin that kid.

Originally posted by JLB001
I've learned ya never date someone that your friends have gone out with or slept with.

i DEF. agree w/ you guys. but like i said, he's not my boy. he's more like an aquaintance. i see him at most like 2 or 3 times a week, if that. mos tof the time, not even that much.

but, like i said, he is a great kid. and i wouldnt want to hurt him or anything, cuz i know if ANYONE i remotely knew went out w/ my ex. while i was "around" them i'd be PISSED.

we both a mutual friend that i may ask if he knows anything.

but, should i just ask the kid. another shitkicker also is that he has been going to my home gym also once in a while (the one that i obviously go to, and the one that she has started going to). so that'd be a real pretty sight for me to be practically with her, then him to walk in the gym and be like "what the f#ck".

no need to ask the kid if you aren't even friends with him man, its all fair game. I thought he was the homie, which in that case it would necessitate asking. If he is just an aqaintence and you knwo her better than him, fuck sittin on that shit. ya feel me. dude, if you don't date her, then some other guy will and I would think if you guys have mutual respct for each other then he would be happier to see someone that is down hit on her than just some random sleezeball, right. Besides if it was mutual then its all fair game, if he has a problem wit it, fuck him, that shis problem. If he doesn't want anyone else to date her than he should've hung on to her. I say go for it, you gotta do what'chou gotta do.

Whether he is your boy or not, you seem to be the one preoccupied about feeling weird about bumping into him. Sounds like you are looking for validation to justify your rationalization. Good luck bro. These situations are never fun or easy. Do you know the circumstances under which they broke up? That may help shed some light. Many times people agree to go their separate ways but still have feelings for one another. Is she ready to start seeing someone too?

Why do you really care what he thinks? Even if he is pissed off at you when he finds out, it isn't like you're losing a friend, you just might have one less person to BS with once or twice a week like you have already said. Don't let him stand in the way of your potential happiness, bro.

I say go for it.

Even if you didn't talk to the guy anymore it would be worth it IMO. They are split so he has no 'right' to feel shitty towards you for it, especially if they both agreed anyway.

thanks guys...

i just talked to our "mutual" buddy, and our buddy thinks the guy broke up with her.

so i think next time i go to the gym, i'll just ask her out. but i'll update when it happens, i know you guys love this shit haha

Originally posted by ponyboy
Why do you really care what he thinks?

Maybe because he would hate having it done to him. It doesn't sound like he cares what he would think, but rather how would he feel. I know "Do unto others..." is a pretty damn foreign concept anymore. But that's just a guess...

Originally posted by ponyboy
Why do you really care what he thinks?

b/c of what B.O. said, and b/c he's a nice kid. i'd hate to be out with his ex. girl somewhere and run into him if it wasnt cool with him ya knwo?

Well...I do have an adult size Superman costume...you could approach her with that on....

After all, then you wouldn't be Flex, the guy in the gym who knows her ex-boyfriend....you'd be a superhero who just happened to fly by and noticed her captivating eyes.

Originally posted by kbm8795
Well...I do have an adult size Superman costume...you could approach her with that on....

After all, then you wouldn't be Flex, the guy in the gym who knows her ex-boyfriend....you'd be a superhero who just happened to fly by and noticed her captivating eyes.

haha good thought buddy

actually, i was Clark Kent for Halloween. I parted my hair, wore fake thick black rimmed glasses, dress pants, dress shoes, a white button shirt that was only buttoned halfway up.......and of course a Superman Tshirt underneath, with the Superman S very visible.

I should just show up to the gym dressed like Clark Kent, go to the lockerroom, and come out dressed in a full, and i mean FULL Superman costume, ready to train. that would probably be the funniest thing i'd ever see. that would SURELY get her attention haha

wow, this is my 1,000th post

Originally posted by Flex
i DEF. agree w/ you guys. but like i said, he's not my boy. he's more like an aquaintance. i see him at most like 2 or 3 times a week, if that. mos tof the time, not even that much.

but, like i said, he is a great kid. and i wouldnt want to hurt him or anything, cuz i know if ANYONE i remotely knew went out w/ my ex. while i was "around" them i'd be PISSED.

we both a mutual friend that i may ask if he knows anything.

but, should i just ask the kid. another shitkicker also is that he has been going to my home gym also once in a while (the one that i obviously go to, and the one that she has started going to). so that'd be a real pretty sight for me to be practically with her, then him to walk in the gym and be like "what the f#ck".

I think everything happens for a reason, and since she walked into your life, hey she could be your soulmate, go for it and if you see her ex, there are respectable ways of dealing with that, but I wouldn't bring it up to him, just let it happen if it does..........

"As far as my 1,000th post goes, first of all i'd like to thank God, cuz w/o his blessing, i woud'a never had the chance to type all those posts. Secondly, my fellow IM'ers, cuz w/o you the threads wouldnt be there for me to post in. Flex is only one man, but Flex is gonna do, what Flex is gonna do, and thats all Flex can do"

thanks guys for your help. hopefully i see her within the next 3 days (for some reason the Gym is closed on Christmas???), and have the balls to ask her out when i see her (college guys don't ask girls out on dates, we meet them at bars hahaha).

but i'll keep u guys posted, i'll probably have more questions about that weird subspecies of humans that no one can figure out that we call woman

Quit playin and put your mac hand down in the game homey, act like you know, cuz you are that deal believe that. PEACE

I think that means go for it because you are a good person.

lol @ ponyboy

Man , I gett'n real proud of you guys. You not only understand a brotha, but can define my flo!!!!!!!!!!! MUCH LUV HOMEYS!!!!!!!! PEACE

AHHHHHHHHHHHH!

I'm such a pussy. i see her at the gym today, talked to her 2 seperate times, and didnt ask her out either time..........

i'm not good at that shit haha. i'm actually very shy, so i don't know whaht to say. i mean i talk to her all fine. we have good conversations (did i mention she's soooo cute and cool as hell).

but i really don't know how to ask chicks out on dates hahaha. i had a gf for 2.5 yrs, so never needed to learn how. other than that, i'd just usually see chicks at the bar or at parties and end up fooling around with them, skipping all that dating shit hahaha

Man you outta quit! Go get that shorty if you really wanna get with her. Damn dawg all she can do is say "lets roll or step off". It ain't like she gonna bust a cap in your ass!But if you keep on punk'n out you'll never know. Now be bout it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE

Good point bro.

i just get mad shy when that shit comes up. i mean i'll b.s. w/ girls forever, but as soon as "going out sometime" comes up, for some reason i just get introverted. i'm not afraid of rejection, so i really don't know why i do this. whats the worst she could say, "no"?

growing up i used to be the shyest kid EVER w/girls. at least i'm 100x's better....

fuck it, next time i see her, i'm gonna ask her out. what do i got to lose?