The Relationship Problem Thread

[CRASHMAN]

Thanks. I wasn't expecting the answer. I should go consult my magic eight ball for reasuring answers... "Yes, No, Maybe So, It looks Certain"

Is the magic 8 ball named daddy too?

[gr81]

misery loves company.. thats the truth..

Hey Crash, how great does it feel to extend our hand out and be able to help the kids.. ha ha

[gr81]

Thanks. I wasn't expecting the answer. I should go consult my magic eight ball for reasuring answers... "Yes, No, Maybe So, It looks Certain"

..."ask again later.."

[CRASHMAN]

misery loves company.. thats the truth..

Hey Crash, how great does it feel to extend our hand out and be able to help the kids.. ha ha

Oh it's great, I can be a smartass and sincere at the same time

kids these days need our help

[BoneCrusher]

SNT I mean high maintance mentally not money wise. Your dream boy would have to constantly watch his toes to keep from stepping into one of those zones you don't like.

I am not trying to bag on ya ... but you have some conflicting needs there.

[gr81]

I am not trying to bag on ya ... but you have some conflicting needs there.

^^ thats what I am saying.. you can't have a serious bf that you never talk to. you can have a booty call that operates along those lines, but if you are uncomfortable with a guy calling you and being there, thats kindof what a bf does, and thats going to be confusing to most guys. sound slike you moreso wanna just casually date someone then having a relationship, correct?

[shutupntra1n]

Yall read way too far into it. You almost even have me convinced it's more complicated than it really is I was more venting than looking for a Dr. Ruth session. I'll be moving on. Thanks for the advice anyway.

[Muscle_Girl]

LOL, losers!! You scared her away.. pfft, men

[Jeanie]

Alright one thing could be, if your husband is overweight he's insecure of you being so pretty and now he wants you back to his level so that wouldn't happen(hey thats how a male mind works )

watch out for weight gainer being switched into your protien shake

see what you wrote? tell that to him. Tell him that it makes you happy and that he wants you happy right?

My protein WAS switched to a gainer!!!!!!!!! HE said it was a mistake!!!!!!!!
I will show you a picture of him....let me find one....i will be right back,

[Jeanie]

I see crash hit you up, so heres my take and its a little more blunt and to the point. I don't know the specifics of your relationship obviously, but If it really is a problem thats persisting and causing drama in your marriage, you need to be open and forthright with him. He needs to accept you the way you want to do it. too many women have the problem of gaining weight after marriage, and his problem with you is that your too lean?! please.. give him an ultimatum, your gonna do your thing b/c it makes you happy and if he is really gonna be upset and consider you unnattractive, then he can find another woman he is happy with. thats my take anyways. I have a great quote that says .."if you carve yourelf to fit a mold, you end up whittling yourself away.." good luck

It is not that easy. He is not attracted to me. Doesn't that mean (I ask you this because you are a man) that he may begin to look elsewhere for satisfaction? I can just see it now, him cheating on me with thick chick Woudn't that be ironic and moronic ? But on the flip side, I can't stand it when men expect a woman to be lean all of the time. Then it would be too much pressur to stay lean. By the way, how long do bodybuilers usually stay on the lean side? I was measured at 11% in my pictures.

[Jeanie]

Here is my hsband's back, Does he look fat to you guys?

[greekblondechic]

I can't make it bigger but your husband is HOT!!

Is there any way you can reach a compromise?

[Jeanie]

Yea, i will probably have to go back up about 5 pounds or so until the spring......then it is on. I am going to look so freaken good next summer!

[gr81]

Doesn't that mean (I ask you this because you are a man) that he may begin to look elsewhere for satisfaction

honestly I don't know enough about the situation to make an accurate comment, all I would be doing is hypothisizing, but anything is possible I guess. he just needs to accept your lifestyle, otherwise what the hell are you doing with him in the first place? GL

[CRASHMAN]

Here is my hsband's back, Does he look fat to you guys?

tell him you'll stop training if he does

[Jeanie]

you all make good points thanks

[CRASHMAN]

he's jelous you look better than him too

[Jeanie]

I think what it may be is that we are both very competitive and he doesn't want me to be leaner then him. He wants all the glory since he dropped about 25 pounds of fat over the last year. He gets compliments at the gym all of the time because he is very big (in a muscular way) and fairly lean.
Anyway, he was out of town all week and when he came home I told him that I ate about half a pound of chocolate everynight this week to try to gain some weight . I pinched some of the fat/water that I had gained and he replied with "Well, I don't want you to get fat either" I proceeded to mock him about his impossible goal for me . He then said, in a very honest and heart felt way, "Honey, I don't want you to gain weight just for me and then resent me for it" Okay. That is all he had to say because I was just trying to add a little carb/sugar to my diet to give the appearance of gaining weight. I really have not even gained any fat back. Like I would really do that.

[greekblondechic]

Men

[CRASHMAN]

Men

what were all not that bad i know i'm fat lol if i had a bodybuilder/girlfriend who worked i'd have her get me in shape lol i need motivation