Thread: Are Parents Proud of their children?

make me sound like a bad guy why dontcha

it's like i always say, we never shoulda had parents. If someone had told me when I was younger how much responcibility comes with having parents I never woulda done it, we make such bad decisions when we're young

it's just that with your parents in particular they want you do be perfect, and you can't be. We all make mistakes, we all have shortcomings and they can't accept that.

they want you to have a 4.0 gpa, they want you to be a doctor, but those are high ambitions if it's not something that you want to do. If it's something that you want to do I know you can do it, but anything less and they aren't going to be happy, and trying to find other means to make them happy when their already miserable people that are hard headed set in their ways and one sided, they will always be upset by it and you have to come to terms with their not coming to terms with it.

i just dont like them thinking that if i make a different decision it means i'm juvenille and uninformed... theyll always have this "you could have done so much more" attitude towards me... and i know i could have i just chose not to because my dreams were elsewhere... and even though i can accept that, it just bugs the hell out of me because i know they cant.... theyll never be proud of me because theyll always think "if she just tried a little harder..." and thats not how I want them to think of me but i dont think that i can change it

Im proud of my kid but he understands such "pride" from a father has to be earned. A mothers love, or her pride, cant be broken by anything and will always be there. But a fathers pride has to be worked. Its just as important that not only should a father say the words "I love you" and,m "Im proud of you" but he should also find ways to put the kid in situations where they can say that. Even if the kid plays a baseball game where he/she fucks up a little less then usual. A father then should not be afraid to say "Im proud of you".

Then again my kid brought home a few "C's" recently. And in important subjects. I wasnt "proud" of him then and I let him know it:also, He lost some privelages for it. Many of you are to young to have kids yet but personaly I dont believe in that "a father is his kids best friend" shit. Maybe you are when they are 21yo but when their kids a father is someone they have to answer to. Yes you have to show them love and pride, and yeah you have to say it to them, but the bottom line is a fathers love has to be earned.

In my opinion thats why so many kids turn to shit. Even if a father is in the house he's to much into this touchy feely crap and doesnt set limits for his kids. And just as bad is never telling them your proud of them. A kids self worth is like a house, you build it one brick at a time................Rich

Originally Posted by Titanya

i just dont like them thinking that if i make a different decision it means i'm juvenille and uninformed... theyll always have this "you could have done so much more" attitude towards me... and i know i could have i just chose not to because my dreams were elsewhere... and even though i can accept that, it just bugs the hell out of me because i know they cant.... theyll never be proud of me because theyll always think "if she just tried a little harder..." and thats not how I want them to think of me but i dont think that i can change it

Tit... welcome to my world. That is my ongoing battle with my dad.

Honestly, I think my parents are proud of me no matter what, because they came to this country unsure of what the future would hold for them (they're cuban immigrants) and worked hard to provide for their kids. My brothers and i could have so easily made all their hard work be in vain, but instead we all finished school, we are all smart (at least we think so!), self-sufficient, we don't do drugs, we've never been in jail. Seriously, my father lectures me all the time about how much more I could do with my life, and how I should go to law school, and about the lack of priority i place on money (because to him that's top priority), etc. But those are HIS dreams, not mine, and in the end he realizes that. He is proud of me for being fearless and working hard.

Unless you (speaking in general terms, not you personally) are a total f*ck up, I'd say your parents must have SOMETHING to be proud of. Raising a kid, and doing your best, and hoping they turn out ok... you know? If you do anything at all that gives them hope that they did a good job raising you, i'd say that's reason enough to be proud of you.

I know I'm proud of mine

Just kidding everybody, they're little shits

For real though, i dont' have any :/


ask me again in 10 years. I can't speak for my parents, they're too crazy

My dad will always be bitching about something. I don't really care anymore. You can imagine how proud he is of me now that I have a history major, associates in education, and working in a lumber mill.

my brother is the star child in my family. He majored in criminal justice, went to law school, and went straight on to be a... firefighter?

My parents have always put him on a throne for every thing he's ever done, but now that he's a firefighter I can't stand talking to them. "Every time I see a fireman I cry." "Oh I saw a fireman on TV and thought of your brother and cried."

I'm studying Psychology. What the hell are they gonna say then? "Every time I watch Frasier I cry!"

I get constant abuse and they realize it, and even make fun of me about it. I know parents will always say "I'm proud of you" but until I cure cancer and win the Nobel Peace Prize I'm not gonna get within a mile of his pedestal.