Uncomfortable with the Ex-wife

**Pitboss** · 02-12-2006, 09:55 PM

So something happened to me that I never really considered. Neer gave much thought to it so I hadn' a clue how I would or should have reacted.

On my kids 5th birthday party my ex-wife was snuggled up between her fiance arms. I saw them kiss. I saw them holding hands. I have known Tim for a couple of years now and like him alot. I think he's a great guy, going to be a great husband for her and a great "dad" for my kid ( he has a 7 year old girl)
But I had never seen them in this situation. I just remember looking but not feeling, nothing. The next day I kept thinking about it and it seems just weird. I know the love that I once had for her is long gone and I guess that is what really makes the difference. I know with my ex-girlfriend, some may remember the stories I have told in journal of Amanda, but with her I'd go nuts, explode, cry ???? who knows if I saw her doing that with another guy. Guess that just means I'm still not over her.. sigh.

Oh well just wondered if anyone else ever had been in this similiar situation with the ex and current bf/gf??

**gococksDJS** · 02-12-2006, 10:03 PM

Well this one time I was cheating on my girlfriend with this crazy hoe who was down for anything. This was the first time a girl had let me put it in her butt so needless to say I was excited. Well it was great, and when I shot my load in her ass I thought "hmmm, that's nice". Then my girlfriend found out and got mad and dumped me.

**min0 lee** · 02-12-2006, 10:04 PM

There's always that one person you can never get over with, they say time heals all wounds but it there are exceptions........

**maxpro2** · 02-12-2006, 10:48 PM

Originally Posted by gococksDJS

Well this one time I was cheating on my girlfriend with this crazy hoe who was down for anything. This was the first time a girl had let me put it in her butt so needless to say I was excited. Well it was great, and when I shot my load in her ass I thought "hmmm, that's nice". Then my girlfriend found out and got mad and dumped me.

lmao wtf!!

**wetnwild** · 02-12-2006, 11:45 PM

that's such a hard situation. I think it depends on the kind of love you have for someone. Some couples should never be together, but for some reason
they have a hard time seperating.

a little off subject:

I have a cousin 38 she has three children,

10,17,18, ok the two olders it's different for them but what about the 10 year old. She is with her third boyfriend in just under a year.
She is now seeing this guy who has one girl 7 years. they are thinking
of moving in together. What is the deal with that? I don't get how people
put kids in a situation for their own selfishness. I want to tell the guy to
run the other way. He is a great guy, now after my cousin he will be ruined.

**Mudge** · 02-13-2006, 01:05 AM

With kids, they should get married or stay living in seperate housing IMO. Dont fuck with your kids. They haven't even been dating a year?

Crazy people.

**TJ Cline** · 02-13-2006, 04:20 AM

Originally Posted by Pitboss

So something happened to me that I never really considered. Neer gave much thought to it so I hadn' a clue how I would or should have reacted.

On my kids 5th birthday party my ex-wife was snuggled up between her fiance arms. I saw them kiss. I saw them holding hands. I have known Tim for a couple of years now and like him alot. I think he's a great guy, going to be a great husband for her and a great "dad" for my kid ( he has a 7 year old girl)
But I had never seen them in this situation. I just remember looking but not feeling, nothing. The next day I kept thinking about it and it seems just weird. I know the love that I once had for her is long gone and I guess that is what really makes the difference. I know with my ex-girlfriend, some may remember the stories I have told in journal of Amanda, but with her I'd go nuts, explode, cry ???? who knows if I saw her doing that with another guy. Guess that just means I'm still not over her.. sigh.

Oh well just wondered if anyone else ever had been in this similiar situation with the ex and current bf/gf??

I think the kid part is what hurts, it's a shame that men have so little rights to their own kids that a stranger is allowed to live with them every day and the dad only gets to see them every other weekend....I feel for you bro......the system here in America is disgusting when it comes to the rights of Fathers!

**MyK** · 02-13-2006, 04:28 AM

Originally Posted by Pitboss

So something happened to me that I never really considered. Neer gave much thought to it so I hadn' a clue how I would or should have reacted.

On my kids 5th birthday party my ex-wife was snuggled up between her fiance arms. I saw them kiss. I saw them holding hands. I have known Tim for a couple of years now and like him alot. I think he's a great guy, going to be a great husband for her and a great "dad" for my kid ( he has a 7 year old girl)
But I had never seen them in this situation. I just remember looking but not feeling, nothing. The next day I kept thinking about it and it seems just weird. I know the love that I once had for her is long gone and I guess that is what really makes the difference. I know with my ex-girlfriend, some may remember the stories I have told in journal of Amanda, but with her I'd go nuts, explode, cry ???? who knows if I saw her doing that with another guy. Guess that just means I'm still not over her.. sigh.

Oh well just wondered if anyone else ever had been in this similiar situation with the ex and current bf/gf??

sounds like a case of the one-itis to me!

**The Monkey Man** · 02-13-2006, 06:57 AM

You guys should have called ADAM !

**Little Wing** · 02-13-2006, 10:36 AM

a guy i knew once told me he'd seen his ex that day and for the first time he didn't feel anything. the divorce was his idea but feelings are a funny thing. he was crying when he was telling me. it really surprised him that the feelings were gone.

**The Monkey Man** · 02-13-2006, 10:38 AM

Originally Posted by Little Wing

a guy i knew once told me he'd seen his ex that day and for the first time he didn't feel anything. the divorce was his idea but feelings are a funny thing. he was crying when he was telling me. it really surprised him that the feelings were gone.

Pshhh -

What a "MO"!!

**DOMS** · 02-13-2006, 10:42 AM

Originally Posted by ForemanRules

I think the kid part is what hurts, it's a shame that men have so little rights to their own kids that a stranger is allowed to live with them every day and the dad only gets to see them every other weekend....I feel for you bro......the system here in America is disgusting when it comes to the rights of Fathers!

It's gotten a bit better over the years, but it still sucks.

**DOMS** · 02-13-2006, 10:44 AM

If you love someone, set them free. It they don't come back, hunt 'em down and kill 'em.

**BigDyl** · 02-13-2006, 10:59 AM

Whenever I'm jealous, I just take that persons life.

So in the case, kill the guy. You can borrow my Katana blade.

**Pitboss** · 02-13-2006, 11:26 AM

Seems either I didn't quite get my point across.. I had no feeling, emotions, jealousy, etc seeing my ex-wife with her soon to be husband. I just thought that was a bit strange. Almost like I had never been where he is with her now.

Anyhow. As far as my kid

He's great!! This is the best thing for him. Sure he gets his "real dad" only for a few days a month but that's by my choice, my life and lack of time. Plus he is in school 5 days a week. Now he has another father figure in his life and a new sister.

Originally Posted by wetnwild

a little off subject:

I have a cousin 38 she has three children,

10,17,18, ok the two olders it's different for them but what about the 10 year old. She is with her third boyfriend in just under a year.
She is now seeing this guy who has one girl 7 years. they are thinking
of moving in together. What is the deal with that? I don't get how people
put kids in a situation for their own selfishness. I want to tell the guy to
run the other way. He is a great guy, now after my cousin he will be ruined.

In our divorce agreement. I wrote it out in detail regarding anything nd everything about my kid. I had 3 months she changed it to 6 months. We can not introduce our child to anyone we are dating until we have been in a committed relationship for a minimum of 6 months. Although I think she ad Tim around Carter well before that.. lol

I won't get involved with someone unless I know they will be good for and around my kid. If I don't see or feel this after the first couple of dates it's done.

**Tough Old Man** · 02-13-2006, 11:29 AM

Originally Posted by Pitboss

So something happened to me that I never really considered. Neer gave much thought to it so I hadn' a clue how I would or should have reacted.

On my kids 5th birthday party my ex-wife was snuggled up between her fiance arms. I saw them kiss. I saw them holding hands. I have known Tim for a couple of years now and like him alot. I think he's a great guy, going to be a great husband for her and a great "dad" for my kid ( he has a 7 year old girl)
But I had never seen them in this situation. I just remember looking but not feeling, nothing. The next day I kept thinking about it and it seems just weird. I know the love that I once had for her is long gone and I guess that is what really makes the difference. I know with my ex-girlfriend, some may remember the stories I have told in journal of Amanda, but with her I'd go nuts, explode, cry ???? who knows if I saw her doing that with another guy. Guess that just means I'm still not over her.. sigh.

Oh well just wondered if anyone else ever had been in this similiar situation with the ex and current bf/gf??

I've been there before. The first time it was a little awkward, but I soon got over it. It passes and don't let it bother you no more then if it were some friends doing the same thing. The last thing you want to do if your children are around is show some type of jealousy.

**Pitboss** · 02-13-2006, 11:40 AM

Originally Posted by Tough Old Man

I've been there before. The first time it was a little awkward, but I soon got over it. It passes and don't let it bother you no more then if it were some friends doing the same thing. The last thing you want to do if your children are around is show some type of jealousy.

No signs of jealousy from me or from Tim. Which I think in the log run will benefit both is daughter and son. Never been the jealous type, unless you had given me a reason to be. In that case the relationship would be over. Once I feel I can't trust you then I never will. Oh well

**NeilPearson** · 02-13-2006, 11:50 AM

Of course it is going to be weird.... that is a weird situation to be no matter what your feelings for her are now.

**Flex** · 02-13-2006, 12:42 PM

Originally Posted by DOMS

If you love someone, set them free. It they don't come back, hunt 'em down and kill 'em.

$50.

**Flex** · 02-13-2006, 12:43 PM

Originally Posted by BigDyl

Whenever I'm jealous, I just take that persons life.

So in the case, kill the guy. You can borrow my Katana blade.

(edit: sp)

Stop stealing my business or we're gonna have problems.
I've got the problem solver..........and his name is revolver.

**The Monkey Man** · 02-13-2006, 12:45 PM

Originally Posted by Flex

(edit: sp)

Stop stealing my business or we're gonna have problems.
I've got the problem solver..........and his name is revolver.

**ZECH** · 02-13-2006, 04:10 PM

PB, your a great guy. Not sure I could handle it as good as you are!

**LexusGS** · 02-13-2006, 05:42 PM

im with you on this pitboss.

**musclepump** · 02-13-2006, 05:53 PM

Originally Posted by Flex

(edit: sp)

Stop stealing my business or we're gonna have problems.
I've got the problem solver..........and his name is revolver.

I call my Kimber .45ACP "Peacemaker." Because after everyone else is gone, there's peace at last.

**musclepump** · 02-13-2006, 05:53 PM

And Pitboss, I think you're doing great man. Truly a stand up way to handle things.

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