Thread: chiro girlfriend

Dump his monkey ass.

brunette Welcome to IM!

You need to learn to be comfortable with general life and not be so desperate to "be loved."

When one person wants more than the other, there is pressure. The person under pressure, is going to want to run or in general be further away towards wanting you than they already are.

Originally Posted by brunette

i asked yall because i wanted a male perspective. now i feel stupid for asking for advice and alittle unpretty and unattractive.

If other people, that you dont even know, can have that much effect on your esteem it is clear you are setting yourself up for some major falls in life. You need to toughen up a little bit, and that is probably going to come from some hard experiences (not ruling out an early divorce).

Good luck (yes I mean that)

Originally Posted by brunette

i disagree about being too young to love. i grew up with basicially noone there for me and no parental love so my family loving me isnt an option and love from "friends" is most definitially not the same as a man loving me unconditionally...

And this makes you desperate, putting pressure on every relationship you've ever been in. Including the "once a month relationship because my fuckwad boyfriend wont drive more than 3 hours to see me except once a month and then he doesn't even want to be with me."

If a 200 mile drive reduces him down to only once a month, he isn't all that excited here IMO. I drove for 3.5 hours to and from a site just yesterday, I was gone from 6am to 1am in the morning. I was supposed to be back far sooner, but the point is driving is not that big of a deal and if its a barrier then he isn't nearly as excited and thinking about marriage doesn't sound like something on his brain right now.

Rest of your life until death versus once a month because 3 hours is too far, is a big difference in interest.

Originally Posted by brunette

i do pay all my own bills and do have a job thus i am ready to settle down and no im not hispanic im a white girl from southern florida

For how how long? Your only 19, take jodi advice we said basically
the same thing, however she was a little nicer about it.
Why are you offended with that question about being hispanic,
you're a white girl you say that as it's a good thing? Hispanic people can be from Florida. What do you love about this guy? What does he do for you?
Does he call you just to hear the sound of your voice or to see how he is doing?

I'm sorry I just get frustrated when I see people getting taken forgranted.
And at people that let themselves.

Bottom line..... If a guy likes you will know, he will call you even when he is
"busy" even doctors or whatever. They remeber things about you. And
most important they care. But remeber too, that just because they say they love doesn't give it more vaule. Good luck. I hope I am wrong and this is the man of your dreams.

You're a cute young women, I am sure you will not have a problem
finding a guy who you love and who will love you back for you.

True Story,

looks are all that matter.

Originally Posted by brunette

he is 28 and is like frat boy...

You answered this yourself.

And why are you even thinking about marriage and family?? You're 19 and haven't even started living your life!!!!

Originally Posted by brunette

oh yeah why didnt i think of that? i need a life. because working, staying positive and wanting marriage isnt having a life...ok that solved all my problems thanks...

I think your problem isn't your marriage, your looks, your boyfriend
your relationship history, your family, or any of these things....

Your problem is YOU!

You are only 19...

You won't know what you want out of life for 8-10 more years
so don't rush it!

If you were happy with yourself you wouldn't be asking these questions
Please don't get pregnant, it will not solve your issues...
You will only end up projecting this angst onto your kids

Your man sounds like he gets and does whatever he wants
so that will probably include infidelity...

You need to find a career, or graduate from college and start a career
this will give your life a foundatiion that you can grow from...

No one... I repeat NO ONE!!! can give this to you, but yourself.
Not your family, not your boyfriend, not any babys you give birth to...
These are only distractions...

You must first be happy with yourself and, what you've achieved...
All these feelings of self-doubt and anxiety will go away,
Then, and only then, you will be ready for a life-long relationship
and to possibly parent a child

Originally Posted by brunette

i do pay all my own bills and do have a job thus i am ready to settle down and no im not hispanic im a white girl from southern florida

No you don't
and your Racist!!

Originally Posted by ForemanRules

No you don't
and your Racist!!

Ask her what her religion is -

Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

Ask her what her religion is -

We don't like your kind around here, APE!

Originally Posted by BigDyl

We don't like your kind around here, APE!

Get a life, float-between!

Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

Ask her what her religion is -

She can't follow a real one.....she is having pre-marital sex and that is against all major religions.

I wont have sex till I am married.

Originally Posted by LexusGS

I wont have sex till I am married.

not that you have a choice over the matter!