Thread: Vacation Dilemma??

Take them camping...








(To Brokeback Mountain?)

Being completely cold hearted here. You're already doing the mom a favor by taking the kids in. She can step up to the plate for two weeks. You need to look out for your own kids FIRST. Then, if you can, take care of her kids. Charity begins at HOME.

Nah, the mother can't step up to the plate. Have you looked to other relatives of the mother? Any chance of grandparents, on either side of your family, or other adult relatives taking the kids for two weeks?

You can't leave them unsupervised, thats for sure. I also thought about church or youth camps, but the timing is doubtful and there is additional cost involved.

Do you have friends or family members on your other side who might pitch in and take the boys? Its a long shot, but you don't have many options.

Tough situation. Very cool that you're treating the family to the trip to Cancun. Additional bad news: the wife's cousin's boys are going to resent the hell out of you taking the family and leaving them behind.

There has to be a win-win angle here. The 17-yr old needs counseling, he's showing overt signs of behavioral issues (read: revolt down the road).

Originally Posted by Trouble

Tough situation. Very cool that you're treating the family to the trip to Cancun. Additional bad news: the wife's cousin's boys are going to resent the hell out of you taking the family and leaving them behind.

Yeah we do family vacations together every summer last year Hawaii the year before Vegas, San Diego, and 4 day cruise. We use that time to get away and do some family bonding.

You're right about the resentment thing that's one of the reasons I was looking for some other opinions. I'm going to either have to sacrifice our traditional family vacations if we somehow would involve the other 2, downsize were we are going, but the worst is making my own teenagers feel uncomfortable on the trip. Or go ahead and send them to their mom during that time and deal with whatever resentment comes from this.

Believe it or not these kids have 21 aunts and uncles, not one of them wanted them which is why we took them in. This has also cost me having my oldest son move back with his mom and distanced my relationship with him because of this. We receive no financial support from the mom or dad so everything has been tight financially now. I also have to deal with some of the established habits the 17 year has which is frustating as well.

This thread convinced me to go get a vasectomy

Originally Posted by ForemanRules

This thread convinced me to go get a vasectomy

I thought you had one.... oh wait that was a lobotomy.

Originally Posted by ForemanRules

This thread convinced me to go get a vasectomy

And you people think I'm weird for not wanting kids,
and promoting conscious population control

Send them to another relative or someone you trust dearly. I am sure your kids would hate to their vacation ruined by them. Mexico sounds superb ; I wish my parents hooked me up like that when I graduated high school.

The Emo Ninja'll keep an eye on em' for a few days.

Why dont they stay at your place?

Originally Posted by BigDyl

The Emo Ninja'll keep an eye on em' for a few days.

after the gay one are you! you do know he has bad hygene!!

Originally Posted by MyK

after the gay one are you! you do know he has bad hygene!!

Originally Posted by BigDyl

Tell your son to stay awya from the strip clubs down there you can pick up some nasty stuff you don't want to bring back.

Is this Bernie Mac?

Did the effeminate boy come downstairs "To get some milk an' cooookays!"?????

Originally Posted by Vieope

Why dont they stay at your place?

Honestly I'm not quite comfortable leaving them at my place while we are gone. Also I was thinking if I could get them with their mom that would take some of the "left out feeling" by them not going. They haven't seen her in 2 years so they both miss her. Just hope she's 100% stable at that time.....she supposedly quit hanging out with Tyrone Biggums.