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fletcher6490 · 05-19-2006, 04:17 AM

Ok, so I have this little predicament. I have a huge crush on this bartender, and I though she had a little thing for me as well. I think I was wrong. Anyway, i'm usually down at that bar 4 times a week and we are real flirty and whatnot. Sat night I asked her if she wanted to do something on her night off (which is wednsday) and she said sure, so I told her I would call her. Monday I tried calling her and no answer. Tuesday I sent her a text message, she eventually called me back but I missed the call, so I called her back and she didn't answer. Later that night I sent another text message basically saying, do you want to go out tomorrow. I got no answer, then wednsday she sent me a text message saying she went out tuesday so she was gonna stay in tonight. What a crock of shit, how hard is it to take a shower and put some clothes on. All I wanted to do was take her to dinner. So, just like every thursday night, I went to the bar. I talked to her a little bit, not about this bullshit, but fuck. I basically ignored her the whole night and she did the same. I'm usually real good at reading people and I honestly thought she was into me, unfortanetly I think i'm wrong on this one.

What do you guys think???

Should I keep trying or just give up?

TJ Cline · 05-19-2006, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by fletcher6490

Ok, so I have this little predicament. I have a huge crush on this bartender, and I though she had a little thing for me as well. I think I was wrong. Anyway, i'm usually down at that bar 4 times a week and we are real flirty and whatnot. Sat night I asked her if she wanted to do something on her night off (which is wednsday) and she said sure, so I told her I would call her. Monday I tried calling her and no answer. Tuesday I sent her a text message, she eventually called me back but I missed the call, so I called her back and she didn't answer. Later that night I sent another text message basically saying, do you want to go out tomorrow. I got no answer, then wednsday she sent me a text message saying she went out tuesday so she was gonna stay in tonight. What a crock of shit, how hard is it to take a shower and put some clothes on. All I wanted to do was take her to dinner. So, just like every thursday night, I went to the bar. I talked to her a little bit, not about this bullshit, but fuck. I basically ignored her the whole night and she did the same. I'm usually real good at reading people and I honestly thought she was into me, unfortanetly I think i'm wrong on this one.

What do you guys think???

Should I keep trying or just give up?

I think you should not call girls 4 days in a row. Also when I was young we had a rule, do not try to pick up bartenders ...if she wants you she will pick you up, you can bet she has 100-200 guys hitting on her a week. It is over, do not call or text her again...and when you see her do not mention anything about dating or why she didn't call you back or answer her phone.

The Monkey Man · 05-19-2006, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

I think you should not call girls 4 days in a row. Also when I was young we had a rule, do not try to pick up bartenders ...if she wants you she will pick you up, you can bet she has 100-200 guys hitting on her a week. It is over, do not call or text her again...and when you see her do not mention anything about dating or why she didn't call you back or answer her phone.

I agree with this logic...

Witmaster · 05-19-2006, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

I think you should not call girls 4 days in a row. Also when I was young we had a rule, do not try to pick up bartenders ...if she wants you she will pick you up, you can bet she has 100-200 guys hitting on her a week. It is over, do not call or text her again...and when you see her do not mention anything about dating or why she didn't call you back or answer her phone.

This could very well be the most accurate and insightful post Foreman has made to date.

AnnaDTX · 05-19-2006, 09:27 AM

yea too much calling/texting her. but dont ignore her, just be the same . . . .

cappo5150 · 05-19-2006, 10:08 AM

she has too many sanchos already

**Dale Mabry** · 05-19-2006, 10:50 AM

Bartender chicks do that, that is how they make money. It is stripper logic, the stripper that is sitting on your lap at the club doesn't like you, she likes your money. You will see this in the service industry when tips are involved.

shiznit2169 · 05-19-2006, 11:19 AM

Here's a good rule you should follow

Whenever you get a chick's number, wait 3 days before calling her. If you call her later that night or the next day after meeting her, you are desperate and insecure. If you call her the second day after that, you almost got by but not enough. If you wait three days, she will start to lose hope and think you're not interested but will be surprised to get a call from you unexpectedly.

This only works if she is into you .. and you have to know for sure. No ifs, ands or buts.

fletcher6490 · 05-19-2006, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

I think you should not call girls 4 days in a row. Also when I was young we had a rule, do not try to pick up bartenders ...if she wants you she will pick you up, you can bet she has 100-200 guys hitting on her a week. It is over, do not call or text her again...and when you see her do not mention anything about dating or why she didn't call you back or answer her phone.

I didn't call 4 days in a row. I only tried calling twice. It just pisses me off that she told me yes and then she blew me off. I don't think i'll give up, but I won't press the issue real hard. I seen her last night and didn't mention anything about it. The thing is I go to this bar all the time, so I have seen her a million times. I'm not just some random guy trying to hit on her, but fuck man. Now i'm all pissed off. I'm not one of those guys that is always hitting on girls, so the fact that I genuinely like this girl and i'm getting turned down is pretty shitty. This is the reason I hate trying to pick up chicks, I hate rejection.

skaterdude · 05-19-2006, 11:27 AM

pulling a bartender is pretty damn hard.

**Dale Mabry** · 05-19-2006, 11:28 AM

To add to shiznit's comments...Girls like guys that just don't give a fuck. the more you try, the more you get shotdown. You need a firm policy on how to handle these situations. I like Shiznit's start, but wold like to add to it...

1)Wait 3 days before you call her (Shiznit's)
2)Call once, if she doesn't call back, forget her.
3)If she texts you back it doesn't count as a call.
4)If the relationship you initially have with this girl involves the exchange of cash, don't bother trying to date her.
5)If her pussy stinks change your number.

Antyghin missing?

fletcher6490 · 05-19-2006, 11:34 AM

So basically don't ever try to ask her out again.

The problem is, i'm gonna get real drunk one night and say some shit I shouldn't. I can almost guarantee that.

TJ Cline · 05-19-2006, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by fletcher6490

I didn't call 4 days in a row. I only tried calling twice. It just pisses me off that she told me yes and then she blew me off. I don't think i'll give up, but I won't press the issue real hard. I seen her last night and didn't mention anything about it. The thing is I go to this bar all the time, so I have seen her a million times. I'm not just some random guy trying to hit on her, but fuck man. Now i'm all pissed off. I'm not one of those guys that is always hitting on girls, so the fact that I genuinely like this girl and i'm getting turned down is pretty shitty. This is the reason I hate trying to pick up chicks, I hate rejection.

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Originally Posted by fletcher6490

Monday I tried calling her and no answer. Tuesday I sent her a text message, she eventually called me back but I missed the call, so I called her back and she didn't answer. Later that night I sent another text message basically saying, do you want to go out tomorrow. I got no answer, then wednsday she sent me a text message saying she went out tuesday so she was gonna stay in tonight.

Ok so 4 calls/text messages in 2 days...that is even worse.

Give them one call and that is it. I don't like the juvenile 3 day rule but I do think you should never call them the next day...so get the number on Sunday then call them Tuesday for example.

Also never text message new pussy .

**Dale Mabry** · 05-19-2006, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by fletcher6490

So basically don't ever try to ask her out again.

The problem is, i'm gonna get real drunk one night and say some shit I shouldn't. I can almost guarantee that.

I would just ignore her, then give her crabs.

skaterdude · 05-19-2006, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by fletcher6490

So basically don't ever try to ask her out again.

The problem is, i'm gonna get real drunk one night and say some shit I shouldn't. I can almost guarantee that.

i always do this too.

TJ Cline · 05-19-2006, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

To add to shiznit's comments...Girls like guys that just don't give a fuck. the more you try, the more you get shotdown. You need a firm policy on how to handle these situations. I like Shiznit's start, but wold like to add to it...

1)Wait 3 days before you call her (Shiznit's)
2)Call once, if she doesn't call back, forget her.
3)If she texts you back it doesn't count as a call.
4)If the relationship you initially have with this girl involves the exchange of cash, don't bother trying to date her.
5)If her pussy stinks change your number.

Antyghin missing?

Yes, make her pay for the date or go Dutch.

**Dale Mabry** · 05-19-2006, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

Yes, make her pay for the date or go Dutch.

And she is responsible for protection, if she forgets it then it is her fault and the pull and pray method should be utilized.

fletcher6490 · 05-19-2006, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

Ok so 4 calls/text messages in 2 days...that is even worse.

Give them one call and that is it. I don't like the juvenile 3 day rule but I do think you should never call them the next day...so get the number on Sunday then call them Tuesday for example.

Also never text message new pussy .

I hate all these bullshit guidelines. I think they are all bs. Do you honestly think the amount of days in between a call will be the deciding factor of whether you get a date or not. If she's into you, she's into you. And it appears this chick is not into me.

I guess i'll just carry on at the bar as usuall.

fletcher6490 · 05-19-2006, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by skaterdude

i always do this too.

Yep, the power of alcohol. It's amazing how much trouble it can get you in.

shiznit2169 · 05-19-2006, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

To add to shiznit's comments...Girls like guys that just don't give a fuck. the more you try, the more you get shotdown. You need a firm policy on how to handle these situations. I like Shiznit's start, but wold like to add to it...

1)Wait 3 days before you call her (Shiznit's)
2)Call once, if she doesn't call back, forget her.
3)If she texts you back it doesn't count as a call.
4)If the relationship you initially have with this girl involves the exchange of cash, don't bother trying to date her.
5)If her pussy stinks change your number.

Antyghin missing?

Also, if she does call back, ask her if she wants to go out for fun as friends. I think it's best to act like a friend and pretend not to be interested in her and NEVER be predictable. Keep her guessing because she will start having second thoughts .. like "does this guy like me?", "am i beautiful?", "why isn't he interested like every other guy i have met?" .. get my point? Trust me, women are attracted to the novel .. the unusual .. the different.

Example: If she wants a kiss, say, “No.” But kiss her later when YOU feel like it. If she sits on your lap, push her off. But give her a hug later when YOU feel like it.

Just use your imagination but don't overdo it.

TJ Cline · 05-19-2006, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by fletcher6490

I hate all these bullshit guidelines. I think they are all bs. Do you honestly think the amount of days in between a call will be the deciding factor of whether you get a date or not. If she's into you, she's into you. And it appears this chick is not into me.

I guess i'll just carry on at the bar as usuall.

The guidelines are only for pussy hunting...if you are lookung for a wife then don't use the rules....but at 23 you better not be looking for more than meaningless disgusting preverted sex.

TJ Cline · 05-19-2006, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by shiznit2169

Also, if she does call back, ask her if she wants to go out for fun as friends.

I think it's best to act like a friend and pretend not to be interested in her and NEVER be predictable. Keep her guessing because she will start having second thoughts .. like "does this guy like me?", "am i beautiful?", "why isn't he interested like every other guy i have met?" .. get my point? Trust me, women are attracted to the novel .. the unusual .. the different.

Example: If she wants a kiss, say, “No.”

But kiss her later when YOU feel like it. If she sits on your lap, push her off. But give her a hug later when YOU feel like it.

Just use your imagination but don't overdo it.

Screw that, my bitches know I own them from day one and that they have only one purpose in life.....and that is to serve my preverted sexual needs.

**Dale Mabry** · 05-19-2006, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

The guidelines are only for pussy hunting...if you are lookung for a wife then don't use the rules....but at 23 you better not be looking for more than meaningless disgusting preverted sex.

If you are looking for a wife, perhaps this would be put to better use.

It's a trumpet, put your mouth on the end and push the buttons until something happens.

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Originally Posted by shiznit2169

Also, if she does call back, ask her if she wants to go out for fun as friends. I think it's best to act like a friend and pretend not to be interested in her and NEVER be predictable. Keep her guessing because she will start having second thoughts .. like "does this guy like me?", "am i beautiful?", "why isn't he interested like every other guy i have met?" .. get my point? Trust me, women are attracted to the novel .. the unusual .. the different.

Example: If she wants a kiss, say, “No.” But kiss her later when YOU feel like it. If she sits on your lap, push her off. But give her a hug later when YOU feel like it.

Just use your imagination but don't overdo it.

Stop being helpful.

DOMS · 05-19-2006, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by ForemanRules

The guidelines are only for pussy hunting...if you are lookung for a wife then don't use the rules....but at 23 you better not be looking for more than meaningless disgusting preverted sex.

All I've ever wanted was a women to share my time with, share my interests with, and who'll occasionally say, "Spank me!"

DOMS · 05-19-2006, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

If you are looking for a wife, perhaps this would be put to better use.

It's a trumpet, put your mouth on the end and push the buttons until something happens.

Stop being helpful.

05-19-2006, 04:17 AM	#1
fletcher6490 God has graced us again Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Chicagoland Posts: 2,220 Photos: 4	Question BODYBUILDING SUPPLEMENTS High Quality Supplements For Bodybuilders and Athletes. www.ironmaglabs.com Ok, so I have this little predicament. I have a huge crush on this bartender, and I though she had a little thing for me as well. I think I was wrong. Anyway, i'm usually down at that bar 4 times a week and we are real flirty and whatnot. Sat night I asked her if she wanted to do something on her night off (which is wednsday) and she said sure, so I told her I would call her. Monday I tried calling her and no answer. Tuesday I sent her a text message, she eventually called me back but I missed the call, so I called her back and she didn't answer. Later that night I sent another text message basically saying, do you want to go out tomorrow. I got no answer, then wednsday she sent me a text message saying she went out tuesday so she was gonna stay in tonight. What a crock of shit, how hard is it to take a shower and put some clothes on. All I wanted to do was take her to dinner. So, just like every thursday night, I went to the bar. I talked to her a little bit, not about this bullshit, but fuck. I basically ignored her the whole night and she did the same. I'm usually real good at reading people and I honestly thought she was into me, unfortanetly I think i'm wrong on this one. What do you guys think??? Should I keep trying or just give up?
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05-19-2006, 10:50 AM	#7
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05-19-2006, 11:19 AM	#8
shiznit2169 flawless Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 4,036 Photos: 3	Here's a good rule you should follow Whenever you get a chick's number, wait 3 days before calling her. If you call her later that night or the next day after meeting her, you are desperate and insecure. If you call her the second day after that, you almost got by but not enough. If you wait three days, she will start to lose hope and think you're not interested but will be surprised to get a call from you unexpectedly. This only works if she is into you .. and you have to know for sure. No ifs, ands or buts.
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05-19-2006, 11:28 AM	#11
Dale Mabry Moderator Moderator Join Date: May 2003 Location: Elsewhere Posts: 13,748 Photos: 10	To add to shiznit's comments...Girls like guys that just don't give a fuck. the more you try, the more you get shotdown. You need a firm policy on how to handle these situations. I like Shiznit's start, but wold like to add to it... 1)Wait 3 days before you call her (Shiznit's) 2)Call once, if she doesn't call back, forget her. 3)If she texts you back it doesn't count as a call. 4)If the relationship you initially have with this girl involves the exchange of cash, don't bother trying to date her. 5)If her pussy stinks change your number. Antyghin missing?
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05-19-2006, 09:27 AM	#5
AnnaDTX Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Houston Posts: 503	yea too much calling/texting her. but dont ignore her, just be the same . . . .

05-19-2006, 10:08 AM	#6
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05-19-2006, 11:34 AM	#12
fletcher6490 God has graced us again Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Chicagoland Posts: 2,220 Photos: 4	So basically don't ever try to ask her out again. The problem is, i'm gonna get real drunk one night and say some shit I shouldn't. I can almost guarantee that.
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