Thread: How do I keep my girlfriend from leaving?

Got to let it go son. I know it's hard, but you are young.

if she wants to go that bad and isn't asking you to come or isn't sensitive to the relationship that you have.....then it is over. let her go.

Is this the gf that cheated on you? How old are you? Where do you live?

She cheated on you. Let it go. You should be kicking her ass all the way back to Texas instead of begging for her back.

She cheated because she wasn't old enough or ready for the relationship you guys had. Nothing is going to change that. You will never trust her again and she will never respect you again if you take her back.

Be a man and dump that bitch.

If you love something, set it free; if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was.

You cannot stop her from leaving, although you could go with her.

If you manage to convince her to stay now, you have lost your manhood completely. She will never ever respect you and you will forever be her doormat little bitch whom she will continue to abuse until she finds someone that she can respect. Don't be pathetic.

Originally Posted by Pipboy

I honestly dont' want her to go. I want her to stay. I want to love her, I want to be loved by her. She's moving back to texas in order to be with her friends and family so she can get her life together....

She can do that here.
Her college would be paid for by me, she's got job offers, new friends, and she's got me.

I want her to stay, but I can't convince her when she's got everybody back in texas telling her to come back home.

And you wanted her to be faithful, but she didnt give that to you, did she..

Yeah dude, this is getting bad. You just have to man up and let her go.

Originally Posted by NeilPearson

If you manage to convince her to stay now, you have lost your manhood completely. She will never ever respect you and you will forever be her doormat little bitch whom she will continue to abuse until she finds someone that she can respect. Don't be pathetic.

What happened in your past with women? You seem to be very bitter towards them. Are you married?

Originally Posted by Doublebase

What happened in your past with women? You seem to be very bitter towards them. Are you married?

So what if he does? So he remembers what he felt at a time when a girl(s) was shitty to him. BFD!

Id say thats fantastic. Theres a difference between knowing and dwelling.

Arent you the guy who pays for his girlfriend and HER friends everytime you guys go out?

Ill never forget that shit.

Originally Posted by Robert DiMaggio

If you love something, set it free; if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was.

"If you love somethings, set it free; if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it."

Originally Posted by Doublebase

What happened in your past with women? You seem to be very bitter towards them. Are you married?

It funny how so many people wont call "a realist" by his name. They have to call him "bitter" or "cynical."

I've seen NeilPearson talk about other, pleasant, things. He doesn't dwell on negativity. He's simply being a realist.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

So what if he does? So he remembers what he felt at a time when a girl(s) was shitty to him. BFD!

Id say thats fantastic. Theres a difference between knowing and dwelling.

Arent you the guy who pays for his girlfriend and HER friends everytime you guys go out?

Ill never forget that shit.

WTF. Was I even talking to you? I was just wondering if he is partial or not. No I am not the guy who pays for his gf and friends EVERYTIME we go out. I occassionally will buy my gf's friend a drink at the bar. Sometimes I even buy my buddies drinks too. I'm not a poor fuck like you. Selfish prick. Nice name you girl.

Originally Posted by Pipboy

I honestly dont' want her to go. I want her to stay. I want to love her, I want to be loved by her. She's moving back to texas in order to be with her friends and family so she can get her life together....

She can do that here.
Her college would be paid for by me, she's got job offers, new friends, and she's got me.

I want her to stay, but I can't convince her when she's got everybody back in texas telling her to come back home.

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD..... LET HER GO!!!!

Get on with getting YOUR life back in order.

Originally Posted by DOMS

It funny how so many people wont call "a realist" by his name. They have to call him "bitter" or "cynical."

I've seen NeilPearson talk about other, pleasant, things. He doesn't dwell on negativity. He's simply being a realist.

I'm just recalling other posts from him when referring to women. Fine he is being real. I'm just wondering what happened to make him talk about women that way. I'm just curious.

Originally Posted by Doublebase

What happened in your past with women? You seem to be very bitter towards them. Are you married?

Yes I'm married. It will be 9 years this May. We lived together for 3 years before getting married. I am only bitter towards women that deserve it. There are no second chances when it comes to cheating. If a girl (including my wife) ever wanted to leave me, I would never, ever try and convince them otherwise. I was young once and made that mistake before. It never works. It just makes the girl lose respect for you and she just ends up being disgusted with you. It's pathetic. The truth is, there are plenty of girls out there. Most of them are now ready for a commited relationship until they hit at least their mid to late 20s. Before that, guys and girls should just be out having fun. That is what youth is for.

This girl wanted out of the relationship. She wants to have fun, party and get laid by a bunch of different guys like most girls that age want to do. She went out and cheated on him. Then she came back and didn't try to hide it. She came back and told him, expecting him to dump her. That was supposed to be her way out. That is why she did it. Now he is just being a big pussy trying to convince her to stay. This will just disgust her and make her want to get away from him as quick as possible. It is over, and anything he tries will just make her lose more respect for him. She is gone either way. He is much better off being a man and kicking her to the curb. At least that way she can go away knowing that he has a spine.

I was 22 once too. I made many of the same mistakes I hear the young guys making here... and I know how it turns out and what you get for it. The most important thing is your self respect... and that you respect others until they don't deserve it anymore. No girl will stay with and love a wimpy male that doesn't demand that both parties in the relationship respect one another... and that both parties act in a way that they deserve that respect. Once that respect is gone... the relationship is doomed.

How old are they? I don't think he is being a big pussy. It sounds like it's his first love and he's broken hearted.

Originally Posted by Doublebase

How old are they? I don't think he is being a big pussy. It sounds like it's his first love and he's broken hearted.

Still, he has to learn to man up and see the situation for what it is.... which is over. Save some dignity and move on.

Originally Posted by Doublebase

WTF. Was I even talking to you? I was just wondering if he is partial or not. No I am not the guy who pays for his gf and friends EVERYTIME we go out. I occassionally will buy my gf's friend a drink at the bar. Sometimes I even buy my buddies drinks too. I'm not a poor fuck like you. Selfish prick. Nice name you girl.

You ARE him!!! And AKIRA is a Japanese name. "prick"

I have never seen you get so hostile, so I mustve struck a nerve. And being a "poor fuck" is bliss compared to a naive, gullable shameful BOY.

Son.

Originally Posted by NeilPearson

Still, he has to learn to man up and see the situation for what it is.... which is over. Save some dignity and move on.

Even if a couple stays together after an act of infidelity, the memory of it will always be there. Hovering in the back of theirs minds.

Always.

Originally Posted by NeilPearson

Yes I'm married. It will be 9 years this May. We lived together for 3 years before getting married. I am only bitter towards women that deserve it. There are no second chances when it comes to cheating. If a girl (including my wife) ever wanted to leave me, I would never, ever try and convince them otherwise. I was young once and made that mistake before. It never works. It just makes the girl lose respect for you and she just ends up being disgusted with you. It's pathetic. The truth is, there are plenty of girls out there. Most of them are now ready for a commited relationship until they hit at least their mid to late 20s. Before that, guys and girls should just be out having fun. That is what youth is for.

This girl wanted out of the relationship. She wants to have fun, party and get laid by a bunch of different guys like most girls that age want to do. She went out and cheated on him. Then she came back and didn't try to hide it. She came back and told him, expecting him to dump her. That was supposed to be her way out. That is why she did it. Now he is just being a big pussy trying to convince her to stay. This will just disgust her and make her want to get away from him as quick as possible. It is over, and anything he tries will just make her lose more respect for him. She is gone either way. He is much better off being a man and kicking her to the curb. At least that way she can go away knowing that he has a spine.

I was 22 once too. I made many of the same mistakes I hear the young guys making here... and I know how it turns out and what you get for it. The most important thing is your self respect... and that you respect others until they don't deserve it anymore. No girl will stay with and love a wimpy male that doesn't demand that both parties in the relationship respect one another... and that both parties act in a way that they deserve that respect. Once that respect is gone... the relationship is doomed.

Thats the sad truth too!

Ive been out with my friends and have seen a girl or two weve run the train on or know of being a whore at one time or another. We see them being wined and dined by guys like Doublebitch, laughed out asses off and think "poor sucker," have a shot and leave.

Originally Posted by DOMS

Even if a couple stays together after an act of infidelity, the memory of it will always be there. Hovering in the back of theirs minds.

Always.

Fuck yea. Sucks too, but you just gotta write the relationship off.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

Thats the sad truth too!

Ive been out with my friends and have seen a girl or two weve run the train on or know of being a whore at one time or another. We see them being wined and dined by guys like Doublebitch, laughed out asses off and think "poor sucker," have a shot and leave.

So you're saying we should hang out with Crystal again?

Originally Posted by AKIRA

You ARE him!!! And AKIRA is a Japanese name. "prick"

I have never seen you get so hostile, so I mustve struck a nerve. And being a "poor fuck" is bliss compared to a naive, gullable shameful BOY.

Son.

I just got upset at your ignorance. W/e its fine.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

Thats the sad truth too!

Ive been out with my friends and have seen a girl or two weve run the train on or know of being a whore at one time or another. We see them being wined and dined by guys like Doublebitch, laughed out asses off and think "poor sucker," have a shot and leave.

Typical loser. So if a guy takes his girl out to dinner, he's a poor loser? You are an idiot.

Originally Posted by NeilPearson

Yes I'm married. It will be 9 years this May. We lived together for 3 years before getting married. I am only bitter towards women that deserve it. There are no second chances when it comes to cheating. If a girl (including my wife) ever wanted to leave me, I would never, ever try and convince them otherwise. I was young once and made that mistake before. It never works. It just makes the girl lose respect for you and she just ends up being disgusted with you. It's pathetic. The truth is, there are plenty of girls out there. Most of them are now ready for a commited relationship until they hit at least their mid to late 20s. Before that, guys and girls should just be out having fun. That is what youth is for.

This girl wanted out of the relationship. She wants to have fun, party and get laid by a bunch of different guys like most girls that age want to do. She went out and cheated on him. Then she came back and didn't try to hide it. She came back and told him, expecting him to dump her. That was supposed to be her way out. That is why she did it. Now he is just being a big pussy trying to convince her to stay. This will just disgust her and make her want to get away from him as quick as possible. It is over, and anything he tries will just make her lose more respect for him. She is gone either way. He is much better off being a man and kicking her to the curb. At least that way she can go away knowing that he has a spine.

I was 22 once too. I made many of the same mistakes I hear the young guys making here... and I know how it turns out and what you get for it. The most important thing is your self respect... and that you respect others until they don't deserve it anymore. No girl will stay with and love a wimpy male that doesn't demand that both parties in the relationship respect one another... and that both parties act in a way that they deserve that respect. Once that respect is gone... the relationship is doomed.

Amen to that. I mean I can't fault a girl for doing what she wants to do, but don't expect any sympathy from me...

Originally Posted by AKIRA

Fuck yea. Sucks too, but you just gotta write the relationship off.

This is a hard lesson for young people to learn. Love isn't always forever. It can, in fact, be killed.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

And AKIRA is a Japanese name. "prick"

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I know this.