Thread: Anyone not sure what they want to do?

Originally Posted by Squaggleboggin

I learned very early from my family that freaking out and becoming angry only makes problems worse. I'm actually somewhat thankful for this since I now realize never to lose my temper, or freak out, or be surprised by nearly anything. It's worked wonderfully so far.

Not to mention that when you get angry and try to make a decision, you're more like the wrong one.

I still lose my temper, but I only allow it at moments where it doesn't matter (such as when driving or dealing with a person that means nothing to me). There are no bad emotions, just bad timing and reactions.

Originally Posted by DOMS

Not to mention that when you get angry and try to make a decision, you're more like the wrong one.

I still lose my temper, but I only allow it at moments where it doesn't matter (such as when driving or dealing with a person that means nothing to me). There are no bad emotions, just bad timing and reactions.

Definitely agree about making a decision while emotional. I find that emotion clouds thought.

I do think that emotions which make you vulnerable (such as anger) could be classified as 'bad,' though.

Originally Posted by Squaggleboggin

Definitely agree about making a decision while emotional. I find that emotion clouds thought.

I do think that emotions which make you vulnerable (such as anger) could be classified as 'bad,' though.

Anger has saved the lives of many people.

I still think it's not the emotion that's bad, it the action you take that could be bad.

Originally Posted by Squaggleboggin

I'm just overwhelmed with college choices and how you must choose before you're 20 years of age what you'd like to do with the rest of your life.

kind of one of the reasons I chose to go into the Air Force. I still wasn't sure what I wanted to do..and was wasting my parents' and my money attending college...
after the military, I got out and got my associate's...now, 6 years after that...am thinking of going back and finishing my bachelors in a different major...

Originally Posted by AKIRA

My job and training has always been good, but theres a time when a person feels a need for self-improvement. This has made me feel down and Ive been experiencing a lot of anxiety lately because of it. Lots of negative thoughts, "nevers, all or nothings," slippery slopes, I hate it.

I am the kind of person that sees every negative thing down the line, that I cant stay focused on what could be positive. I fucking hate feeling like this. I have an ok life, a lot better than others, so why do I feel like this? I should be grateful for everyday I can get up and live.

For instance, I have an audition in Feb 10 that may enable me to get into Univeristy of Florida. Ive been worried about actually moving there to a school, not knowing anyone, having to find work, and hoping that my money going to classes is going to net me a future.

I know there are some college kids in here, so I know you guys have experienced this shit, but I am 26 years old turning 27 in Feb.. I am going to feel really fucking ODD...and I am going to feel ODD alone.

When you get started at school ... do something social with your time. I started a student group ... The Non-Traditional Student's Association ... and used it to get things we as older students needed. For example the cafeteria was geared up to deal with 20 year old students in a dorm living situation ... not someone driving in every day on a limited budget. Dorm residents used their student ID to purchase meals at a steep discount ... meals paid for at the beginning of the semester ... while us non-dorm peeps had to pay up at full price on a daily basis. Our student group effected a change so that anyone could buy the same kind of deal the dorm residents enjoyed instead of paying the full price on a meal by meal basis. Being the President of a student group also get me in to the student government ... that was a gas. Played rugby, got on the school riffle team, joined the debate team, lifted at the university gym, and joined every damn student group I could from The Young Republicans to NORML. I even joined NOW ... gave a self defense class for women.


Women ... lots of college women.

I started college at 29. Your choices are not at the slightest limited by your age ... only by your imagination and energy levels. Go have fun and kick some college ass!!!

Life is a tiger by the tail.

We are not the driving forces we think we are in making our destinies. We are molded by the unconscious, irrationality...forces beyond our understanding. The best we can do is to live strong and well and to say, "yes" and marvel at this rollercoaster ride.

Morality and ethics come and go. There is more to learn and appreciate in the horrible and tragic aspects of life than there is when everything's A-ok.

Become yourself. Find out what you like and don't like and run with it--spontaneously. Stop feeling guilty. Face challenges of your own choosing everyday. There is no silver bullet or recipe for success. Just little guides along the way.

Akira, there usually tends to be some (or a lot of) overlap for general education (GenEd) courses. You will likely have to backtrack some, but I doubt all of your classes will go to waste. I think most colleges give you x amount of years until your previous credits expire. I would call your community college and ask them. It is pretty normal to change your major several times during college; I have done this myself. Are you planning on getting a different AA degree from your community college then transferring to a university to complete a BA?

Originally Posted by KentDog

Akira, there usually tends to be some (or a lot of) overlap for general education (GenEd) courses. You will likely have to backtrack some, but I doubt all of your classes will go to waste. I think most colleges give you x amount of years until your previous credits expire. I would call your community college and ask them. It is pretty normal to change your major several times during college; I have done this myself. Are you planning on getting a different AA degree from your community college then transferring to a university to complete a BA?

Thats definetly something I want to avoid at all costs.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

This is prolly the BEST fucking thing Ive read about anxiety. Using it for fuel, so to speak. I am printing it.

viet, werent you depressed recently? I could of sworn there was a thread from you some time ago.

ya I was really depressed and anxious for a years time. I'm 95% back to normal now. It all started at a major turning point in my life. It's been hell, but If I had to do it again, I wouldn't change anything for this learning experience.

live n learn I guess. Failing is good.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

Thats definetly something I want to avoid at all costs.

So what's your plan? Were you hoping you could start at a university with a different major than your AA? How many different universities have you tried applying to so far? You may need to write a letter for consideration as an exception as well as provide letters of recommendation. I would call around universities to talk to an official about your plan. They will give you a better idea than any of us can.

Originally Posted by Squaggleboggin

Actually, I have two older siblings who went to a community college first. One regrets it and the other doesn't: The one who doesn't ended up transferring back after going to a private school that kind of screwed her over; the one who does ended up taking just as long to receive his four-year degree and doesn't think the community college helped him at all. Needless to say, I have some reservation in doing so. Not to mention the fact that my parents would probably not let me.

One unfortunate thing about me is that I want to learn so much about so many things. My problem of where to go and what to study wouldn't be a problem at all if I had a single interest. But I have too many to list, and my mindset at the moment is that there's not enough time in the world to learn them all (but in a good way).

I know college life will suit me, though. I'll have much more of my own schedule and I'll be able to actually stay awake according to my natural sleep cycle (I'm nocturnal). I'm just overwhelmed with college choices and how you must choose before you're 20 years of age what you'd like to do with the rest of your life. I don't like this aspect of society whatsoever, and I plan to move out of the country in eventuality; I'd rather not have my kids go through the same pressures. (I need to do a lot more research before I move out though, of course.)

I think you're misconstruing the idea of what community college is for.
It's the same as a university except:

It is much cheaper.
You can get an associate's degree.
You are not forced to live on campus.
You are not forced to pick a major.

That's pretty muchly it.
Of course, there are other minor differences, like they are smaller, etc etc.

But you get the idea.

CC just lets you get your basics done for much cheaper and gives your more freedom IMO.

Originally Posted by DOMS

Anger has saved the lives of many people.

I still think it's not the emotion that's bad, it the action you take that could be bad.

It's also gotten a lot of people killed or into situations they wouldn't be in had they not become angry.

Yes, it's the action you take, but that action is strongly influenced if you allow yourself to become too emotional. That's just how I look at it.

It never ceases to amaze me how life works when you just take a step back and give it a good, deep look. I mean, you could even ask yourself if it matters what you do as long as you don't dislike it. After all, your job doesn't have to be your whole life, either. Sometimes I can't decide whether it's best to stop looking and let ideas come my way as they inevitably will, or keep searching actively and drive myself crazy. The reason is that I don't believe a job exists that involves all of my interests, so what's the point of looking for one? Or why not make one? Or invent a new field? Hmm...