Need some serious advice.....please help!

Flex · 02-04-2007, 12:53 PM

First and foremost, hello to all my old friends.

I need some serious advice, guys and gals.

My girlfriend, who I was completely head over heels in love with, broke up with me a few weeks ago, and I am just SO freakin heartbroken.
It just so happens that she did it the week I was to start clomid for PCT (so test levels are way down, and estrogen is way up), so i literally feel like i'm depressed.

We dated for 4 months, but since we literally saw eachother and slept together 6 or 7 times/week, it wasn't a typical "only" 4 month relationship.

Things were absolutely great the first 3 and a half months, then she told me that she still had feelings for an ex-bf from a year ago that she never got over, and that she saw us as too different (she's a social butterfly and likes to go out drinking/dancing/clubbing.....whereas I'm out of that phase).

It's just so hard for me to accept that she could be so into me, and me into her, and then all of a sudden that's it.

The worst thing is, is that we started hanging out literally one week after I bought my new house, so every single thing in the house reminds me of her.
Not to mention, of ALL the girls i've ever slept with and/or fooled around with, she was the first one that I've ever truely been in love with.

Does anyone have ANY suggestions or advice?

I'm willing to listen to ANYthing guys and gals, I think i'm depressed and like on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
(I'm going to see a therapist in a few weeks.......but until then, what do i do???)

KelJu · 02-04-2007, 01:05 PM

Suck it up! This is just one girl, and you should be lucky that it happened now rather than later. It wasn't meant to be. Continue your PCT to the letter, and stay in the gym. Don't do like I have done so many times and mope around in self pity. Just pick your nuts off the floor and go back to the routine of being single again. Being single kicks ass, and you will remember that soon enough.

Good luck!

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 01:11 PM

Put it into perspective, man. This is how most relationships are, yet billions of people go on living every day.

You know what they say: There are more fish in the sea. Next time, just make sure to gut her if she leaves.

Pylon · 02-04-2007, 02:40 PM

Funnel your energy into the gym. Exercise is proven to combat depression. Get out in the sun as much as possible. That will also help.

And like Slick Rick would tell you, next time you hook up, treat her like a prostitute.

ABCs · 02-04-2007, 02:42 PM

When I get out of a relationship (I have been through 2 very serious 3 years relationships and still talk to and see both girls) I would go out, buy some new kicks and clothes, get a nice cut, and work my ass off in the gym. It works wonders for making them jealous and for picking up a new chick. Get over it and head to a club and find a nice new girl.

fUnc17 · 02-04-2007, 02:46 PM

Don't ruin your life over one woman dude. If shes not attracted to you anymore theres nothing you can do, best thing to do is get back out there and date new woman. More than one.

BigDyl · 02-04-2007, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Flex

First and foremost, hello to all my old friends.

I need some serious advice, guys and gals.

My girlfriend, who I was completely head over heels in love with, broke up with me a few weeks ago, and I am just SO freakin heartbroken.
It just so happens that she did it the week I was to start clomid for PCT (so test levels are way down, and estrogen is way up), so i literally feel like i'm depressed.

We dated for 4 months, but since we literally saw eachother and slept together 6 or 7 times/week, it wasn't a typical "only" 4 month relationship.

Things were absolutely great the first 3 and a half months, then she told me that she still had feelings for an ex-bf from a year ago that she never got over, and that she saw us as too different (she's a social butterfly and likes to go out drinking/dancing/clubbing.....whereas I'm out of that phase).

It's just so hard for me to accept that she could be so into me, and me into her, and then all of a sudden that's it.

The worst thing is, is that we started hanging out literally one week after I bought my new house, so every single thing in the house reminds me of her.
Not to mention, of ALL the girls i've ever slept with and/or fooled around with, she was the first one that I've ever truely been in love with.

Does anyone have ANY suggestions or advice?

I'm willing to listen to ANYthing guys and gals, I think i'm depressed and like on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
(I'm going to see a therapist in a few weeks.......but until then, what do i do???)

I feel you bro.

KentDog · 02-04-2007, 02:57 PM

Keep your head up, Flex. Focus on your career goals and lose the distractions. There will be other women out there. I just went through this exact thing myself. It's tough, man.. but don't let your other things slide downhill by wasting too much time crying over this girl. Hopefully you didn't let her hurt your relationships with your friends and/or family like I did with my girl.

KentDog · 02-04-2007, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ABCs

When I get out of a relationship (I have been through 2 very serious 3 years relationships and still talk to and see both girls) I would go out, buy some new kicks and clothes, get a nice cut, and work my ass off in the gym. It works wonders for making them jealous and for picking up a new chick. Get over it and head to a club and find a nice new girl.

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Originally Posted by fUnc17

Don't ruin your life over one woman dude. If shes not attracted to you anymore theres nothing you can do, best thing to do is get back out there and date new woman. More than one.

Excellent posts, although I would like to add my perspective to them.. I feel you are probably like me Flex.. kind of a nice guy or was willing to change for this girl because you thought she was the one. Maybe let her walk over you a little bit, maybe not. But the point is, you aren't the type that wants a clubrat. Maybe you're worried you won't find another girl as hot as her who isn't a clubrat, but you'd be wrong. There are plenty out there. Don't lose your relationships with your friends and family because both are good networks for meeting new ladies. Again, stay positive!

Pylon · 02-04-2007, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by MikesB

Wow all I can say is Pathetic! Get some balls son.

Dude, WTF?

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Pylon

Dude, WTF?

He's a 4-post piece of shit that needs to take a fucking hike.

**P-funk** · 02-04-2007, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by DOMS

He's a 4-post piece of shit that needs to take a fucking hike.

what do you expect? It was foremanrules.

An alcoholic who's wife leaves him is always bitter. What a loser.

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by P-funk

what do you expect? It was foremanrules.

An alcoholic who's wife leaves him is always bitter. What a loser.

He booted me from his forum for laughing at him.

**P-funk** · 02-04-2007, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by DOMS

He booted me from his forum for laughing at him.

BigDyl · 02-04-2007, 03:39 PM

Foreman doesn't like me anymore.

**P-funk** · 02-04-2007, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDyl

Foreman doesn't like me anymore.

don't feel so down. that guy is a loser.

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by P-funk

Sherlock Holmes figured that I'd given my login to the mods at IM.

He figured that because I log in from over 10 IP addresses.

artemis · 02-04-2007, 03:46 PM

Yeah my girlfriend just dumped me to, I say working out more is the best thing to do get a strict diet down and all that get ripped so ladies wont leave you alone. Not to be like spam or anything but this article is kinda inspirational after just having broken up
http://www.fastseduction.com/whatsne...6-10-24a.shtml

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDyl

Foreman doesn't like me anymore.

Yeah, I saw that. What did you do to him? Did you laugh at him too?

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Patyhat

You and I both know it was for giving your ID to other people and also saying I stole the work of Patrick and some other people. I called you on it and you could not come up with one example.

Sure I did. I told you that I work in the IT field and I often post from my clients, then I laughed at you and booted me.

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:50 PM

By booting me, you cut your membership down by 8%. There are more mods on that board than regular members.

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Patyhat

Sure you used 4 or 5 IP's in just a few hours.....think you should do your work and not post on BB sites when you are at work.

You are telling lies here as you did on AA, seems I made the right call.

Quite often my job is stop and go. I have time to post. My job is pretty flexible in both hours and workout.

But nice job there Sherlock.

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Patyhat

Not very nice Pat, I thought you had more class. Well I will not insult you here or on any site, for the most part you are a goodt person as far as I can see.

You're the one stealing his, and other's, hard work.

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Patyhat

And people wonder why America outsources

How's that third college degree coming along?

BigDyl · 02-04-2007, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Patyhat

He was not my friend, it is as simple as that. Dont need to know a person who is not truthfull.

How am I not truthfull?

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Patyhat

Nope, not once and you backed down when I called you on it.

I didn't back down, I gave you the benefit of the doubt. I admit it, I was wrong. You really are a thieving piece of shit.

DOMS · 02-04-2007, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by ForemanIsBanned

Cfs-3, you backed down quick, I lost all respedt when you diid

If it makes you feel better to think so.

You're also a bitch loser to forcing your way back onto IM. No one wants you here, get lost.

Little Wing · 02-04-2007, 04:29 PM

back on topic.... i'm sorry Flex, i know that's a tough one. if it's not something you can work out all you can do is do your best to accept it and move toward getting over it. i try to see disappointments as life moving me toward something better.

BigDyl · 02-04-2007, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ForemanIsBanned

Sorry, they keep banning me because they fear the truth.

Big......please you know what you did, but who cares

Cfs-3, you backed down quick, I lost all respedt when you diid

I didn't do anything, I tried to get people to get along and it didn't work.

KelJu · 02-04-2007, 04:40 PM

Everyone who isn't on topic, please shut the fuck up.

02-04-2007, 12:53 PM	#1
Flex FLEXecutioner Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Pomping Iyuhn Posts: 6,278 Photos: 2	Need some serious advice.....please help! First and foremost, hello to all my old friends. I need some serious advice, guys and gals. My girlfriend, who I was completely head over heels in love with, broke up with me a few weeks ago, and I am just SO freakin heartbroken. It just so happens that she did it the week I was to start clomid for PCT (so test levels are way down, and estrogen is way up), so i literally feel like i'm depressed. We dated for 4 months, but since we literally saw eachother and slept together 6 or 7 times/week, it wasn't a typical "only" 4 month relationship. Things were absolutely great the first 3 and a half months, then she told me that she still had feelings for an ex-bf from a year ago that she never got over, and that she saw us as too different (she's a social butterfly and likes to go out drinking/dancing/clubbing.....whereas I'm out of that phase). It's just so hard for me to accept that she could be so into me, and me into her, and then all of a sudden that's it. The worst thing is, is that we started hanging out literally one week after I bought my new house, so every single thing in the house reminds me of her. Not to mention, of ALL the girls i've ever slept with and/or fooled around with, she was the first one that I've ever truely been in love with. Does anyone have ANY suggestions or advice? I'm willing to listen to ANYthing guys and gals, I think i'm depressed and like on the verge of a nervous breakdown. (I'm going to see a therapist in a few weeks.......but until then, what do i do???) You're a funny guy, Sully, I like you. Dat's why I'm going to kill you lahst. * Got juice?Need Motivation?How to Train* Arnold vs. Ronnie vs. Haney vs. Sergio YEAH BUDDY...LIGHT WEIGHT!Ahhnold*

02-04-2007, 02:40 PM	#4
Pylon Squishy Elite Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Bottom of the hill Posts: 6,865 Photos: 1	Funnel your energy into the gym. Exercise is proven to combat depression. Get out in the sun as much as possible. That will also help. And like Slick Rick would tell you, next time you hook up, treat her like a prostitute. "The test of courage comes when we are in the minority. The test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority." - R. W. Sockman

02-04-2007, 02:42 PM	#5
ABCs Audios Envy Elite Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: My Mind Posts: 1,153	When I get out of a relationship (I have been through 2 very serious 3 years relationships and still talk to and see both girls) I would go out, buy some new kicks and clothes, get a nice cut, and work my ass off in the gym. It works wonders for making them jealous and for picking up a new chick. Get over it and head to a club and find a nice new girl. After almost 2 weeks... I am back and better than ever.

02-04-2007, 02:46 PM	#6
fUnc17 Drop and give me 100 Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Jersey Shore BJJ Posts: 1,872 Photos: 10	Don't ruin your life over one woman dude. If shes not attracted to you anymore theres nothing you can do, best thing to do is get back out there and date new woman. More than one. Heres how I train. Strength Edge

02-04-2007, 04:29 PM	#28
Little Wing Mommmmmm, turn it down!!! Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: United States Posts: 23,758 Photos: 191	back on topic.... i'm sorry Flex, i know that's a tough one. if it's not something you can work out all you can do is do your best to accept it and move toward getting over it. i try to see disappointments as life moving me toward something better. "MUSCLE IS TRULY GUARANTEED IF YOU WILL HONESTLY work out to BE YOUR VERY BEST - GO FOR IT!!! BECAUSE YOU CAN!!!!!! Take Care, John H."

02-04-2007, 01:05 PM	#2
KelJu Thats Dr. Keke to you! Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In my imagination. Posts: 10,160 Photos: 2	Suck it up! This is just one girl, and you should be lucky that it happened now rather than later. It wasn't meant to be. Continue your PCT to the letter, and stay in the gym. Don't do like I have done so many times and mope around in self pity. Just pick your nuts off the floor and go back to the routine of being single again. Being single kicks ass, and you will remember that soon enough. Good luck!

02-04-2007, 01:11 PM	#3
DOMS Metrosexual Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 22,092 Photos: 1	Put it into perspective, man. This is how most relationships are, yet billions of people go on living every day. You know what they say: There are more fish in the sea. Next time, just make sure to gut her if she leaves.

02-04-2007, 02:57 PM	#8
KentDog Yuppie Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: USA Posts: 2,961 Photos: 3	Keep your head up, Flex. Focus on your career goals and lose the distractions. There will be other women out there. I just went through this exact thing myself. It's tough, man.. but don't let your other things slide downhill by wasting too much time crying over this girl. Hopefully you didn't let her hurt your relationships with your friends and/or family like I did with my girl.

02-04-2007, 03:46 PM	#18
artemis Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 8	Yeah my girlfriend just dumped me to, I say working out more is the best thing to do get a strict diet down and all that get ripped so ladies wont leave you alone. Not to be like spam or anything but this article is kinda inspirational after just having broken up http://www.fastseduction.com/whatsne...6-10-24a.shtml

02-04-2007, 03:50 PM	#21
DOMS Metrosexual Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 22,092 Photos: 1	By booting me, you cut your membership down by 8%. There are more mods on that board than regular members.

02-04-2007, 04:40 PM	#30
KelJu Thats Dr. Keke to you! Elite Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In my imagination. Posts: 10,160 Photos: 2	Everyone who isn't on topic, please shut the fuck up.

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