Thread: Would you consider going to a sex/ swingers club?

Fo sho!

Been there done that ... lost my T-shirt out in the back yard somewhere.

no

I can just imagine, as a married man, going to one of these things, then getting stuck with the fat and gross wife but you can't say anything because it would imensely offend your friend/her husband.

Originally Posted by mrmark

I can just imagine, as a married man, going to one of these things, then getting stuck with the fat and gross wife but you can't say anything because it would imensely offend your friend/her husband.

It doesn't work like that. The ones I went to it's just a party where people meet and hook up openly. Rules are that you can't get pissed, forceful (uninvited), or rude. No means no with no hurt feelings.

Originally Posted by BoneCrusher

It doesn't work like that. The ones I went to it's just a party where people meet and hook up openly. Rules are that you can't get pissed, forceful (uninvited), or rude. No means no with no hurt feelings.

wow, i leant the above from tv. how'd you find it? was it easy and just fun or did it kinda of mess with people and their friendship etc..

Nah, never been into casual sex. Not for the lack of offers, just...just no.

Call me whatever, but sex without some sort of meaningful emotional connection there holds about as much enjoyment for me as putting a turtle into a box for the winter.

Still, all the more power to you if you can get a good fuck with no strings attached

Originally Posted by mrmark

wow, i leant the above from tv. how'd you find it? was it easy and just fun or did it kinda of mess with people and their friendship etc..

I wasn't looking it just kinda happened from the girl I was dating. Far as the mess with you part it's a personality issue. You have to be able to separate sex from emotions or forget about it. The female I went with had issues there ... worked for me though.

most often for women it's only going to work if you have no emotional investment in the guy you go there with. men, with the aid of porn, have been separating sex from emotion from the first time they wank to a magazine.

But women wank too ...

In my heavier drug days, I slept with a few women that I had known for less than a day. I always ended up having to go to the health clinic and get tested right after once I got my sense back. I am lucky to not have gotten an STD or knocked some skank up.

Never.

Originally Posted by BoneCrusher

But women wank too ...

usually you will find women romanticize their fantasies. they're about a lover or someone they desire for a lover not just writhing tits n ass on a screen. sex is emotional for most women even when we are alone. a guy told me porn makes wanking just another body function like taking a dump. no emotion or romance to it. i like porn but i see me n a lover in the scene not just parts...

Originally Posted by Little Wing

usually you will find women romanticize their fantasies. they're about a lover or someone they desire for a lover not just writhing tits n ass on a screen. sex is emotional for most women even when we are alone. a guy told me porn makes wanking just another body function like taking a dump. no emotion or romance to it. i like porn but i see me n a lover in the scene not just parts...

Hey, we need cuddle time too. I don't think it is as simple as that- we fantasize too- we have dreams and desires, wants and needs that are just as complex as women- we just are not culturally encouraged to show that side so most of us don't. A lot of men joke about sleeping around but when it comes down to it they would rather have someone special in their lives who would stand by them, laugh with them (not at them) and love them for who they are-not who the person thinks they should be. After you have done the casual sex thing for awhile you crave an intimacy that is deeper than just a roll in the hay. Saying that- I don't think self love and sex with another partner is in any way equatable - just different forms of survival- both are necessary but for different reasons- the first one is about loving who you are, the second one is about sharing that love with another person. But I'm getting older- and am running on fewer marbles these days so I may be the only left one who thinks that way...

Originally Posted by BoneCrusher

Thats an awesome picture

Originally Posted by BoneCrusher

yep

Originally Posted by Bakerboy

Hey, we need cuddle time too. I don't think it is as simple as that- we fantasize too- we have dreams and desires, wants and needs that are just as complex as women- we just are not culturally encouraged to show that side so most of us don't. A lot of men joke about sleeping around but when it comes down to it they would rather have someone special in their lives who would stand by them, laugh with them (not at them) and love them for who they are-not who the person thinks they should be. After you have done the casual sex thing for awhile you crave an intimacy that is deeper than just a roll in the hay. Saying that- I don't think self love and sex with another partner is in any way equatable - just different forms of survival- both are necessary but for different reasons- the first one is about loving who you are, the second one is about sharing that love with another person. But I'm getting older- and am running on fewer marbles these days so I may be the only left one who thinks that way...

a lot of guys are past the point where casual sex offers enough to them. and thank god for that but in general i think a threesome or group scene is way easier for a man to deal with than for a woman to.

I've had dozens of one night stands, being an ex-sailor it was pretty much required of me. I just couldn't see myself in a meaningful relationship while I was in the Navy, I saw too many married guys on my ship either cheating or being cheated on. Most of the girls I met weren't looking for a relationship either, they just wanted some good loving and move on. I've even had sex with girls in a hotel room I was sharing with friends while they were getting their groove on too... But after a while we all ended up finding that special someone and broke away from our swinging selves. The woman I'm with now had begun as a one night stand, but one night turned into 4 years of never being a part for not even one night...the first 3 months we would sleep at one anothers house and then I suddenly found myself moving in with her. Now it's going on 9 years of being together and hopefully will be many 9 more...