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I sometimes say no if I have jerked off prior to her asking. Lol. Seriously though. Like last night for instance. I know she wanted to but I had just relieved myself a few hours before. I wasn't in the mood. Internet porn is hurting a lot of marriages.

Oh, you think that's it? Is that always the answer?

if a female is not in the mood she can still perform, if a male is not in the mood he cannot, make sense?

Duly noted

Is your question directed toward married men? Because I rarely say no . I think the last time I said no was about 15 minutes after I had just had sex with her and she wanted to go again but I knew it wouldn't be any good so I said no. Only other times I can think of right now when I've said no is due to being really busy and need to get something done. Even when I'm not in the mood I will usually have sex if she wants to.. because she can help me get into the mood . Now, if she didn't do her part, I would prob have to give her the no.

Because the ratio of asking for sex is like ten to one (men to women) I want to have sex at least ten time for every one time that my wife wants to. So she should be giving in more often than I do. I also never turn her down unless she has been in a mood where she has pretty much drained the life out of my little man for the past few days.

Originally Posted by Fitgirl70

Why is it that when women ask for sex, you guys say no, for whatever reason.

I don't say no for whatever reason. I no because she's a nasty ho.

/me never turns down hot pussy

Originally Posted by Prince

if a female is not in the mood she can still perform, if a male is not in the mood he cannot, make sense?

well put

Originally Posted by Fitgirl70

please be serious with your answers...'cause I really want to know. This is actually causing real stress in a friend of mine's marriage!

Why is it that when women ask for sex, you guys say no, for whatever reason. You're tired, you're hungry...whatever the case may be. But then when you want it, we're just supposed to swoon and fall onto the bed.

I don't blame my friend for asking me this question bright and early this morning before I'd even had my coffee; to be honest with you I'd be happy if I got it a little more often too, but that's neither here nor there.

The way that you ask this question, it seems like a girl is trying to have sex with her husband, and first he doesn't want to when she wants it, but when it's the other way around he complaints that she's not into it, so what's the problem?
How can he complain about something when he is doing the same thing to her?

I think she has to grab her balls and stand up to him and tell him to chill the fuck out.
Or learn to communicate with him, witch may work a little beter

Originally Posted by Fitgirl70

please be serious with your answers...'cause I really want to know. This is actually causing real stress in a friend of mine's marriage!

Why is it that when women ask for sex, you guys say no, for whatever reason. You're tired, you're hungry...whatever the case may be. But then when you want it, we're just supposed to swoon and fall onto the bed.

I don't blame my friend for asking me this question bright and early this morning before I'd even had my coffee; to be honest with you I'd be happy if I got it a little more often too, but that's neither here nor there.

He might be having an affair? Maybe he dose'nt find her attractive anymore?

I'm not being very helpful.......

A man's willingness to have sex is based, almost entirely, on how attracted he is to the woman.

Keep in mind that "attraction" isn't just physical, it's also psychological. If he's been with the same woman for a long time, and had sex with her a lot, the attraction drops due to boredom. If the woman has lost some of her looks, the attraction drops, for obvious reasons.

Granted, it's a bit more complex than that, but not much more.

So, if a guy has been with the same woman for a long time and she's let herself go, the man's attraction, and thus his desire to have sex, will go down quite a bit and he'll say "no" more often.

And before anyone starts thinking that all of the problems lie with the man, consider how much the woman stops caring.

When a woman is fresh in a relationship, she plucks and tweazes to perfection. She eats well (salad, please!) and gets a bit of exercise. Going without makeup isn't even an option.

But what happens after time passes? She doesn't primp as often, she eats whatever shes wants (body fat be damned), and wearing makeup is now only for special events.

Like most things in relationships, it's a two-way street.

Originally Posted by DOMS

A man's willingness to have sex is based, almost entirely, on how attracted he is to the woman.

Keep in mind that "attraction" isn't just physical, it's also psychological. If he's been with the same woman for a long time, and had sex with her a lot, the attraction drops due to boredom. If the woman has lost some of her look, the attraction drops, for obvious reasons.

Granted, it's a bit more complex than that, but not much more.

So, if a guy has been with the same woman for a long time and she's let herself go, the man's attraction, and thus his desire to have sex, will go down quite a bit and he'll say "no" more often.

And before anyone starts thinking that all of the problems lie with the man, consider how much the woman stops caring.

When a woman is fresh in a relationship, she plucks and tweazes to perfection. She eats well (salad, please!) and gets a bit of exercise. Going without makeup isn't even an option.

But what happens after time passes? She doesn't primp as often, she eats whatever shes wants (body fat be damned), and wearing makeup is now only for special events.

Like most things in relationships, it's a two-way street.

Good post.

It's very likely that therin, may lie your answer.

It could be me, but her question was not why doens't he want to have sex, it's why does he expect something from her witch he doens't give back.

Why is it that when women ask for sex, you guys say no, for whatever reason. You're tired, you're hungry...whatever the case may be. But then when you want it, we're just supposed to swoon and fall onto the bed.

Men do it for the hunt, game or challenge however you may call it.

I had the same kind of issues with one of the women from my past. Her solution was to "please" me without allowing me to reciprocate. I was of course very happy about that and got motivated to do the same for her. People always like to cum, but the work it takes to get off mutually with a partner sometimes exceeds our energy levels. She made it easy for us to please each other. Sometimes before I left for work I'd break out her bob and have a lil muffin breakfast that took all of about 4 or 6 minutes finish ... after which she'd drift blissfully back to sleep. She'd catch me at different times and just get me off. It filled the between moments with something special and effortless but kept us both fulfilled and very close.

Originally Posted by DOMS

A man's willingness to have sex is based, almost entirely, on how attracted he is to the woman.

Keep in mind that "attraction" isn't just physical, it's also psychological. If he's been with the same woman for a long time, and had sex with her a lot, the attraction drops due to boredom. If the woman has lost some of her looks, the attraction drops, for obvious reasons.

Granted, it's a bit more complex than that, but not much more.

So, if a guy has been with the same woman for a long time and she's let herself go, the man's attraction, and thus his desire to have sex, will go down quite a bit and he'll say "no" more often.

And before anyone starts thinking that all of the problems lie with the man, consider how much the woman stops caring.

When a woman is fresh in a relationship, she plucks and tweazes to perfection. She eats well (salad, please!) and gets a bit of exercise. Going without makeup isn't even an option.

But what happens after time passes? She doesn't primp as often, she eats whatever shes wants (body fat be damned), and wearing makeup is now only for special events.

Like most things in relationships, it's a two-way street.

Great post. This is why I don't do many long relationships. I just get bored with the same girl for too long. The worst part about relationships.. when the girl gets too comfortable. It has me questioning if I could handle and be happy in a marriage.