How to Talk about Porn with Your 11-Year-Old Son

SYN · 03-11-2008, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by NeilPearson

Do guys really get so carried away with it that real life loses appeal? That doesn't make sense to me. Why would I want to look at a picture of a girl when I can touch the real thing?

Obviously you're not one of those porn freaks.

but to answer your question.....a picture can't reject you or make fun of your not so well endowed-ness.

NeilPearson · 03-11-2008, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by SYN

Obviously you're not one of those porn freaks.

but to answer your question.....a picture can't reject you or make fun of your not so well endowed-ness.

If someone is rejecting you or making fun of you for not being well endowed, they you obviously didn't develop a relationship with that person at all before you started to try and have sex with them.

NeilPearson · 03-11-2008, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by SYN

Obviously you're not one of those porn freaks

I guess I'm not then. I have never spent money on porn. I have visited some free sites but only rarely.

I don't really like strip clubs either. It just seems like a waste. Why spend money on a girl that you can't touch and doesn't really want to be around you when you can get a girl that you can do whatever you want with, wants to be there and is free?

It just seems like a silly waste of money.

danzik17 · 03-11-2008, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by NeilPearson

I guess I'm not then. I have never spent money on porn. I have visited some free sites but only rarely.

I don't really like strip clubs either. It just seems like a waste. Why spend money on a girl that you can't touch and doesn't really want to be around you when you can get a girl that you can do whatever you want with, wants to be there and is free?

It just seems like a silly waste of money.

+1......except for that whole "is free" thing. She just doesn't charge for the act.....sort of.

Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by NeilPearson

Do guys really get so carried away with it that real life loses appeal? That doesn't make sense to me. Why would I want to look at a picture of a girl when I can touch the real thing?

yes they do. and don't ask me why but i know some men who have absolutely no desire to even try to have sex with real women because they have settled into porn so completely and for so long they've lost any natural urges they may have once had.

NeilPearson · 03-11-2008, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by danzik17

+1......except for that whole "is free" thing. She just doesn't charge for the act.....sort of.

No it has to be free. I always offer to pay when I take a girl out. If she lets me pay the first time, okay. If by the second date she doesn't at least offer to part, I would be hesitant to have a third date.

I am not interested in being the guy that has to take care of a chick. I want a strong, independent girl that feels it is only right for her to pay her way.

NeilPearson · 03-11-2008, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

yes they do. and don't ask me why but i know some men who have absolutely no desire to even try to have sex with real women because they have settled into porn so completely and for so long they've lost any natural urges they may have once had.

That's just creepy. I need the real thing!

Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 04:09 PM

i think really insecure men are prone to taking to porn exclusively. why go out there and risk rejection or deal with any uncomfortable insecurities when you can just watch porn and feel like yea i'm the man she'd do me she's doing that fat fuck.

NeilPearson · 03-11-2008, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

i think really insecure men are prone to taking to porn exclusively. why go out there and risk rejection or deal with any uncomfortable insecurities when you can just watch porn and feel like yea i'm the man she'd do me she's doing that fat fuck.

Men are retarded

shiznit2169 · 03-11-2008, 04:20 PM

They should have included at the end HOW to socialize and treat women in real life. It would have been a nice conclusion.

As far as the article goes, i must admit i have been somewhat of a victim during my late teens. I set my expectations so high that i refused to have a relationship with any girl who wasn't very attractive. If she had a flat chest, a flat ass, some acne, too sporty, or any other minor flaw .. no matter how great she was as a person, i never would have dated her. Now, i have expanded my perspective and i have gotten close with a few girls that i never would have dated years ago because of my narrow-mindedness.

Also, i have gotten tired of porn. I used to get extremely aroused and get a sudden urge to release myself with pleasure but now it's boring and i often got depressed. It's nothing close to the real thing.

danzik17 · 03-11-2008, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

i think really insecure men are prone to taking to porn exclusively. why go out there and risk rejection or deal with any uncomfortable insecurities when you can just watch porn and feel like yea i'm the man she'd do me she's doing that fat fuck.

For some that might be true, but there are differing reasons. I'm not saying it's ok, but it's also not always as simple as you make it out to be.

Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by shiznit2169

I set my expectations so high that i refused to have a relationship with any girl who wasn't very attractive. If she had a flat chest, a flat ass, some acne, too sporty, or any other minor flaw .. no matter how great she was as a person, i never would have dated her.

that's very common, unfortunately.

Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by shiznit2169

They should have included at the end HOW to socialize and treat women in real life.

well for starters just seeing that we might be worth getting to know despite not being some airbrushed pornstar is good.

DOMS · 03-11-2008, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

I'd rather give my kids good advice than be cool

Your ability to jump to the wrong conclusion is impressive.

My mother raised me to respect women, which I do to this very day. But she also allowed me to be myself (with her subtle guidance).

Good parenting doesn't start when a complex issue comes up. It should have started long before that. My mother instilled the idea of chivalry and common decency long before my friend gave me the photo. So it was a simple matter for my mom to put it in a way that fit into that ideology. Which is why I turned her offer down.

Not every man on this planet is like your father.

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Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by DOMS

Your ability to jump to the wrong conclusion is impressive.

My mother raised me to respect women, which I do to this very day. But she also allowed me to be myself (with her subtle guidance).

Good parenting doesn't start when a complex issue comes up. It should have started long before that. My mother instilled the idea of chivalry and common decency long before my friend gave me the photo. So it was a simple matter for my mom to put it in a way that fit into that ideology. Which is why I turned her offer down.

Not every man on this planet is like your father.

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where did i say you're mom wasn't cool or didn't know you would refuse her offer to begin with? Tyler has been taught to treat girls with respect, not objectify women etc but he still googled porn. what i saw on the browser history was way worse than a playboy pic. i wouldn't lead Tyler to believe i'd approve of him subscribing to Playboy at 12, i wouldn't even pretend it's a viable option. it isn't. it's funny and you're mom handled it gracefully and i'm sure she did know you'd refuse, but when you overhear your sons 9 year old friend telling him about splooging on a girls face and how girls like that you'll realize we aren't dealing with Playboy anymore and it isn't funny.

Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by DOMS

Your ability to jump to the wrong conclusion is impressive.

My mother raised me to respect women, which I do to this very day. But she also allowed me to be myself (with her subtle guidance).

Good parenting doesn't start when a complex issue comes up. It should have started long before that. My mother instilled the idea of chivalry and common decency long before my friend gave me the photo. So it was a simple matter for my mom to put it in a way that fit into that ideology. Which is why I turned her offer down.

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when you were standing there being the nice moralistic little boy turning the magazine down while you had a dirty picture in your pocket tell me...

did she then suggest a career in politics?

Triple Threat · 03-11-2008, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

what i saw on the browser history was way worse than a playboy pic.

I do believe the problem isn't so much your son's interest in porn, but his lack of knowledge about the Clear History function in the browser.

Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 08:06 PM

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thumbnails of old playboy playmates from late 60's early 70's nsfw but not scandalous

wow. holy natural boobs fest batman. i never saw this many nudes with no ugly fake tatas

Little Wing · 03-11-2008, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Triple Threat

I do believe the problem isn't so much your son's interest in porn, but his lack of knowledge about the Clear History function in the browser.

lol. after i restricted his internet use he said to his friend right in front of me "now i can't look at porn again till i'm in 7th grade n they pass out laptops" i have no doubt he'll look he's human i just don't want him to end up like countless guys who don't know when to say when.

danzik17 · 03-11-2008, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Little Wing

lol. after i restricted his internet use he said to his friend right in front of me "now i can't look at porn again till i'm in 7th grade n they pass out laptops" i have no doubt he'll look he's human i just don't want him to end up like countless guys who don't know when to say when.

Seems like a good opportunity for him to learn about SSH tunneling to me

danzik17 · 03-12-2008, 01:07 AM

Just buy him one of these and everything will be fine.

Little Wing · 03-12-2008, 01:34 AM

i saw a guy, a biker motorcycle type biker, carrying around the top half to a mannequin once at a party like it was his girl. it was freaky.

Little Wing · 03-12-2008, 04:07 AM

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Originally Posted by DOMS

Not every man on this planet is like your father.

i was laying in bed thinking n got up n turned my pc back on because this is the weirdest irony. i know you don't like porn much and i know a lot of guys don't. i know a lot of guys aren't like my stepdad even remotely but you know the absolute hardest group of people to convince of that? guys that are. i'll say "a lot of guys don't get into porn much and a lot don't even like it". and i get this know it all smirk and "yea, they are just telling you what you want to hear to try n get in your pants".

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