My girlfriend... Honestly, what kind of person says this!?

CRASHMAN · 03-25-2008, 02:53 AM

First of all, hi everyone long time no speak! I am Crash for the rest of you who don't know. I've been gone for a while, but that was due to self-restraint. I decided not to have the internet in my apartment so I could focus on schoolwork and get good grades upon my transfer to university from community college. Furthermore, in the passing two quarters, I realized something; I have realized that university is MUCH easier than what I built it up to be, and in all reality, the community college I had attended prior was harder... In addition, it is not due to an easy university.

I attend a top ranking tier one school.

In sum, I do not care anymore. I worked myself up over nothing, and now, I am back.

Anyway, to the topic!

So, I may be over reacting and this is just displacement, or I may not be, and my girlfriend is a genuine bitch. Either way I seem to be really pist off about what my girlfriend said today. Thus, where do I turn for my morality? Here, of course - We can discuss that paradox at another time, but I digress. Earlier in the week, a close friend of mine past away. I used to call her my little sister; basically, she was as close as someone could be without actually being related by blood. At the last moment, I decided to give an off the cuff eulogy. As I finish in front of the 500 people, I thought it was rather good and so did everyone else. I had many compliments afterwards. No, I am not just tooting my own horn; this has a point. That is that I didn't say anything mean; rather, quite the inverse. However, my girlfriend was mad at me. Why? She was mad at me because I have never said, "those kinds of words" about her. Although in all reality, I had said everything that was in the eulogy to her. I just have not made a monologue based solely on her in front of a crowd of people mourning her death.

Thus, my contention: was she really justified in being envious of my dead friend's eulogy? Was that not just a little selfish, if not downright insensitive?

I refuted this statement by stating she was not dead, and clarifying that in all actuality, I had said those things. Then, I said to her, "if you really want me to, I will go write you a eulogy", while thinking "as long as you die so I can use it." Granted, my statement may have been perceived as "dick-ish" I really don't know, but she might be a bitch so it evens out.

However, that is not it. She further got mad at me because I was smiling in a picture they presented as part of a slide show. Her reasoning was, "you've never looked that happy in one of our pictures." I just kind of ignored her and thought, "You really wonder why?"

So, am I really overreacting by being pist at all this, or is she just as selfish of a bitch as I think right now? I really don't know; she may have had great justification, but today, of all days, was she really justified in saying it? Or should she have kept her mouth shut?

This might seem clear to some but I'm really caught up in many other emotions now and this stupid incident keeps plaguing my mind and making me madder each time.

...Just as a side note, I had originally named this thread "My Girlfriend... What kind of person would do this thing!?" But that just opened the door for way too many insults lol.

maniclion · 03-25-2008, 04:03 AM

Personally if it were my gf I would explain to her how actions speak louder than words and I show my love for her through actions while with her and not words while she is gone. Which would she rather have my words while shes not around or my actions with her....

The Monkey Man · 03-25-2008, 06:36 AM

WooHoo...

Thinking of driving up your way for some late season boarding next month...

Hows the Base @ Bear?

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BTW... Your GF "IS" upset about how close you were to the friend...

Talk to her and tell her you recognize that, and you fully acknowledge that she is upset... Let her know that You are also upset by what has happened and that yuo should be careful with words around each other for a few weeks untill all this passes...

It is her job to console you in your time of grief...
It is your job to support her and build her confidence about your feelings for her...

It will all wash out shortly... But DO NOT point fingers and say "you shoud'a", or "I should'a"...

communication is key

goob · 03-25-2008, 07:00 AM

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Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

BTW... Your GF "IS" upset about how close you were to the friend...

Talk to her and tell her you recognize that, and you fully acknowledge that she is upset... Let her know that You are also upset by what has happened and that yuo should be careful with words around each other for a few weeks untill all this passes...

It is her job to console you in your time of grief...
It is your job to support her and build her confidence about your feelings for her...

It will all wash out shortly... But DO NOT point fingers and say "you shoud'a", or "I should'a"...

communication is key

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Dale Mabry · 03-25-2008, 07:31 AM

Your girlfriend is an insecure bitch. Dump her. I will go into more detail later.

KelJu · 03-25-2008, 07:32 AM

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Originally Posted by goob

MODERATORS: Looks like someone has hacked the monkey man's account.

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I thought the same damn thing.

rantheman · 03-25-2008, 07:40 AM

She needs to learn the world is not all about her. She is extremely selfish.

Irons77 · 03-25-2008, 07:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

Your girlfriend is an insecure bitch. Dump her. I will go into more detail later.

agree

nadirmg · 03-25-2008, 08:06 AM

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Originally Posted by goob

MODERATORS: Looks like someone has hacked the monkey man's account.

A serious post, no mocking or insulting behaviour, and a helpful comment. Definately a fraud.

lol. i thought the same thing.

Mudge · 03-25-2008, 09:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

Your girlfriend is an insecure bitch. Dump her. I will go into more detail later.

JMO but I'm with Dale, how dare she say such a thing when some guy is now dead!

Wow, I think she sucks - again JMO from what I know. She may never grow out of it either.

captaincaberman · 03-25-2008, 09:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dale Mabry

Your girlfriend is an insecure bitch. Dump her. I will go into more detail later.

Agreed, that whole thing sounded really selfish on her part.

Nate K · 03-25-2008, 09:49 AM

How did your friend die?

dg806 · 03-25-2008, 09:57 AM

Agree with the insecurity thing. It will probably never change.

Little Wing · 03-25-2008, 10:45 AM

i agree with manic and monkey man. some really good advice there.

Little Wing · 03-25-2008, 10:46 AM

i'm sorry about your friend

NeilPearson · 03-25-2008, 10:51 AM

Run as fast as you can... She is a jealous, insecure, selfish little bitch. If you continue this relationship, she will be controlling and jealous forever. You will always have to explain what you are doing and who you are doing it with.

Dump her. She is crazy. Really, she's jealous over a friend who is dead??? Dump that bitch!

IceDragon · 03-25-2008, 01:32 PM

What the f*ck is WRONG with her? Get the hel away from her, that kind of behaviour is just disgusting.

When she should have been showing you empathy and supporting you through one of the worst things a human can experience, she instead throws a hissy fit because you aren't paying enough attention to her?

F*ck no! Get rid of that manipulative scheming selfish, self-centred bitch right f*cking now. You don't need that shit, you deserve someone much better.

How disrespectful can you get? Jeez...

Crono1000 · 03-25-2008, 03:05 PM

DaMayor · 03-25-2008, 03:13 PM

Sorry for your loss, Crash.

I think one thing to remember is that death effects people in many different ways. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, she just sounds a little insecure to me. I would like to think that she wasn't trying to be malicious....but who knows.

I think you need to deal with the issue of your friend's death first. If your girlfriend is still around after this, then address her issues. If she can't wait for this time, or otherwise doesn't understand your mourning...bunk it, she wasn't worth it in the first place.

Good luck, dude.

maniclion · 03-25-2008, 04:36 PM

A lot of you guys are being very vicious about a girl you barely know a thing about. How do you know she doesn't have some issues in her life that make her feel alienated when a situation like this pops up?

JonnyStead · 03-25-2008, 05:00 PM

Crash - sorry to hear about your loss - that's really tough - best wishes from over here in Blighty!

As for your GF - she does sound a bit "its all about me" and personally I think she should grow up a bit. Her priority right now should be you - not wondering why you dont make her feel better - so there you go. Hopefully that's helpful and again - all the best.

Mudge · 03-25-2008, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by maniclion

How do you know she doesn't have some issues in her life that make her feel alienated when a situation like this pops up?

Obviously she DOES whether there is a 'good' reason for it or not. Although at her age she should mostly be over it I would HOPE, and simply accept that her boyfriend is having an emotional outpouring for a deceased friend which is a big event in someones life. Yet she turns it around and whines that she doesn't get the same adoration on a constant basis.

That to me sounds very self centered and greedy. Almost as if she would rather have had him take her to a candlelight dinner instead of going to the wake/funeral. Yes I'm being serious, it sounds that bad.

clayu86 · 03-25-2008, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by CRASHMAN

First of all, hi everyone long time no speak! I am Crash for the rest of you who don't know. I've been gone for a while, but that was due to self-restraint. I decided not to have the internet in my apartment so I could focus on schoolwork and get good grades upon my transfer to university from community college. Furthermore, in the passing two quarters, I realized something; I have realized that university is MUCH easier than what I built it up to be, and in all reality, the community college I had attended prior was harder... In addition, it is not due to an easy university.

I attend a top ranking tier one school.

In sum, I do not care anymore. I worked myself up over nothing, and now, I am back.

Anyway, to the topic!

So, I may be over reacting and this is just displacement, or I may not be, and my girlfriend is a genuine bitch. Either way I seem to be really pist off about what my girlfriend said today. Thus, where do I turn for my morality? Here, of course - We can discuss that paradox at another time, but I digress. Earlier in the week, a close friend of mine past away. I used to call her my little sister; basically, she was as close as someone could be without actually being related by blood. At the last moment, I decided to give an off the cuff eulogy. As I finish in front of the 500 people, I thought it was rather good and so did everyone else. I had many compliments afterwards. No, I am not just tooting my own horn; this has a point. That is that I didn't say anything mean; rather, quite the inverse. However, my girlfriend was mad at me. Why? She was mad at me because I have never said, "those kinds of words"? about her. Although in all reality, I had said everything that was in the eulogy to her. I just have not made a monologue based solely on her in front of a crowd of people mourning her death.

Thus, my contention: was she really justified in being envious of my dead friend's eulogy? Was that not just a little selfish, if not downright insensitive?

I refuted this statement by stating she was not dead, and clarifying that in all actuality, I had said those things. Then, I said to her, "if you really want me to, I will go write you a eulogy"?, while thinking "as long as you die so I can use it."? Granted, my statement may have been perceived as "dick-ish"? I really don't know, but she might be a bitch so it evens out.

However, that is not it. She further got mad at me because I was smiling in a picture they presented as part of a slide show. Her reasoning was, "you've never looked that happy in one of our pictures."? I just kind of ignored her and thought, "You really wonder why?"

So, am I really overreacting by being pist at all this, or is she just as selfish of a bitch as I think right now? I really don't know; she may have had great justification, but today, of all days, was she really justified in saying it? Or should she have kept her mouth shut?

This might seem clear to some but I'm really caught up in many other emotions now and this stupid incident keeps plaguing my mind and making me madder each time.

...Just as a side note, I had originally named this thread "My Girlfriend... What kind of person would do this thing!?" But that just opened the door for way too many insults lol.

Yes shes a selfish dirty whore.....

clayu86 · 03-25-2008, 06:45 PM

just kidding...she is selfish though and she seems to be insecure...it would probably be a good idea to take a break or just flat out ask her why shes so insecure about things. Her being a female though will probably just go on like the bitch that she is and do what she wants. As my friend put it...women are scandalous bitches....that is somewhat true but not all of em...us men cant talk on the scandelizin either...but yeh..shes insecure...bring it up...if it doesnt work. As johnny cochran said...i think he said....if it doesnt fit, you must equit...whatever...have a good day...man and good luck.

03-25-2008, 02:53 AM	#1
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03-25-2008, 06:36 AM	#3
The Monkey Man Magical Apelikemenace Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: New Delhi, India Posts: 12,853 Photos: 4	WooHoo... Thinking of driving up your way for some late season boarding next month... Hows the Base @ Bear? ------------------------------------------------------------------- BTW... Your GF "IS" upset about how close you were to the friend... Talk to her and tell her you recognize that, and you fully acknowledge that she is upset... Let her know that You are also upset by what has happened and that yuo should be careful with words around each other for a few weeks untill all this passes... It is her job to console you in your time of grief... It is your job to support her and build her confidence about your feelings for her... It will all wash out shortly... But DO NOT point fingers and say "you shoud'a", or "I should'a"... communication is key
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03-25-2008, 07:31 AM	#5
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03-25-2008, 09:57 AM	#13
dg806 Guardian of The Homeland Super Moderator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Charlotte NC Posts: 16,583	Agree with the insecurity thing. It will probably never change.
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03-25-2008, 05:00 PM	#21
JonnyStead Good old English grit Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: England Posts: 374 Photos: 4	Crash - sorry to hear about your loss - that's really tough - best wishes from over here in Blighty! As for your GF - she does sound a bit "its all about me" and personally I think she should grow up a bit. Her priority right now should be you - not wondering why you dont make her feel better - so there you go. Hopefully that's helpful and again - all the best.
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03-25-2008, 07:40 AM	#7
rantheman Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: B.C. Canada Posts: 181	She needs to learn the world is not all about her. She is extremely selfish.

03-25-2008, 09:49 AM	#12
Nate K Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,584 Photos: 3	How did your friend die?

03-25-2008, 10:45 AM	#14
Little Wing SEMPER~FIDELIS Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: United States Posts: 20,338 Blog Entries: 1 Photos: 191	i agree with manic and monkey man. some really good advice there.

03-25-2008, 10:46 AM	#15
Little Wing SEMPER~FIDELIS Elite Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: United States Posts: 20,338 Blog Entries: 1 Photos: 191	i'm sorry about your friend

03-25-2008, 10:51 AM	#16
NeilPearson Registered User Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 1,996	Run as fast as you can... She is a jealous, insecure, selfish little bitch. If you continue this relationship, she will be controlling and jealous forever. You will always have to explain what you are doing and who you are doing it with. Dump her. She is crazy. Really, she's jealous over a friend who is dead??? Dump that bitch!

03-25-2008, 01:32 PM	#17
IceDragon Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: UK Posts: 99	What the fck is WRONG with her? Get the hel away from her, that kind of behaviour is just disgusting. When she should have been showing you empathy and supporting you through one of the worst things a human can experience, she instead throws a hissy fit because you aren't paying enough attention to her? Fck no! Get rid of that manipulative scheming selfish, self-centred bitch right f*cking now. You don't need that shit, you deserve someone much better. How disrespectful can you get? Jeez...

03-25-2008, 03:13 PM	#19
DaMayor Pants Up, Ho's Down Elite Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Here. Posts: 4,813	Sorry for your loss, Crash. I think one thing to remember is that death effects people in many different ways. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, she just sounds a little insecure to me. I would like to think that she wasn't trying to be malicious....but who knows. I think you need to deal with the issue of your friend's death first. If your girlfriend is still around after this, then address her issues. If she can't wait for this time, or otherwise doesn't understand your mourning...bunk it, she wasn't worth it in the first place. Good luck, dude.

03-25-2008, 06:45 PM	#24
clayu86 on your face fuckinclown Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: adsasdf Posts: 269	just kidding...she is selfish though and she seems to be insecure...it would probably be a good idea to take a break or just flat out ask her why shes so insecure about things. Her being a female though will probably just go on like the bitch that she is and do what she wants. As my friend put it...women are scandalous bitches....that is somewhat true but not all of em...us men cant talk on the scandelizin either...but yeh..shes insecure...bring it up...if it doesnt work. As johnny cochran said...i think he said....if it doesnt fit, you must equit...whatever...have a good day...man and good luck.

03-25-2008, 06:47 PM	#25
clayu86 on your face fuckinclown Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: adsasdf Posts: 269