Thread: what is it like to be a dad?

at 18 years old? oh boy.

It's great!! : ) It makes you feel very responsible and needed. You are ready for that???

Originally Posted by Prince

at 18 years old? oh boy.

yea i know

Originally Posted by Hoglander

It's great it it makes you feel very responsible and needed. You are ready for that???

i was pretty much the dad to my nephew untill my brother inlaw came along...im sure i can handle it.

you will (or hopefully) be growing up very quickly.

i already have a place for us to live and a job

you no longer live for yourself, however you will find fullfilment in the children and watching them grow and learn new things
Its a long hard road, welcome to adulthood.

it's tough, but quite honestly the single greatest thing in my life.
you'll love it

I can't wait to have kids. We plan on trying Sept. 28th.

Originally Posted by Doublebase

I can't wait to have kids. We plan on trying Sept. 28th.

You marked the date that you are going to lose your virginity...

18? So what. You're taking on responsibility before others do..no big deal.

Hey Rubes, it doesn't matter what anybody tells you, because being a Dad is already there, its already in ya, buddy.
Being a Dad is more than I can put into words here.....it is something that you will figure out for yourself as time passes, there is no absolute plan beforehand. I suspect you'll feel a little frightened before your children are born, then maybe a little excited....then you'll have a moment of "Holy shit! I can't do this!!" But DON'T EVER DOUBT YOURSELF. Because parental responses are inherent....they are there whether we realize it or not.
And the kicker.....when you have children, your life changes...it is no longer about YOU. Since my son was born, eveything I do is for HIM. The reason I work eighty-plus hours a week is for HIM. The reason I go without anything is for HIM. I could go on, but you get the idea.

When you create a life, it is your responsibility to guide that life in the best direction possible......whether your direction has been perfect or not.

I thinbk you'll be a great Dad.....just don't freak out.



If you ever need a hand....shoot me a PM.

Originally Posted by P-funk

You marked the date that you are going to lose your virginity...

I think most poeple know the date of their own wedding.

So then at 20 years of age when you're supposed to be doing the twin hotties down the street you will instead being doing twin diaper duty. Just make sure you keep the lil fireman covered up while on duty or you'll be the one getting the face shot.

Go to college. Now is good. With children at home you qualify for mucho financial aid. Take it all and get the degree in w/e will get you a big happy paycheck. Robbing banks is also good, but the retirement package is a bummer.

When your kids are 3ish and start to really communicate with you in words ... it is sooo intense. At 5 when complex conversations take place you get to live in a very unique world of child/adult perspective as you see things their way.

Of all the things I've done, being a dad is the best. I like the time I took my son out into the woods when he was 11 and shot him right between the eyes. He shot me after we refilled our paintball guns from about 8' away, in the back ... sneaky lil dude. Didn't even hear him coming ...

When he was 13 years old the kid stole my work van and I was called by the police to come get him/it ... that was fun too. Of course I had the pleasure of paying off the tickets for that one. Cost him his Summer vacation working with me to pay them off. Coolest thing is though, we wound up with some serious quality time that we would not have otherwise had. The art of taking lemons and making lemon aid is a good parenting skill to develop.

So yeah ... being a dad is my most favorite job/accomplishment/experience to date.

Originally Posted by vader

you no longer live for yourself, however you will find fullfilment in the children and watching them grow and learn new things
Its a long hard road, welcome to adulthood.

Basically this is it.

And twins, oh man. Reality is going to hit hard.

very nice thread.

Sounds like a nightmare to me. All I can say is good luck,.

Be a good father. It is going to mean a lot of sacrifice.

Originally Posted by Doublebase

I think most poeple know the date of their own wedding.

congrats!

I agree with whom ever said go to college! Snatch up some financial aid money and get to the local university (or knock out a ton of pre-req's at the community college and then transfer them in). Even if you just get a BA in general studies....it will get you further along.

Good for you...

Now don't forget to immediately go and get snipped after the kids are born.

Originally Posted by P-funk

I agree with whom ever said go to college! Snatch up some financial aid money and get to the local university (or knock out a ton of pre-req's at the community college and then transfer them in). Even if you just get a BA in general studies....it will get you further along.

His Funkyness is right. Add that all the newly united grandparents should be willing to kick in on the familial support fund while you get edumacated. You are in the very special process of bringing up the next gen of combined familial DNA.

Being a dad kicks ass, my third will be here shortly.

From the other side of this, the lawyer that does custody cases, get something in writing with her now. Get a parenting plan, and child support amount should you ever break up and not live together.

Dont be stupid and think that you will be together forever. The chances of that are slim to none at your age. You need to take care of this now or you will pay for it later. Even if you stay with her, there is no harm in planning for it if it doesnt happen. I see this every day. The guy comes in after they had a fight and she moved out with the kids and says "She wont let me see the kids" Now she turns crazy and it takes two months to get into court for anything. Dont assume that the agreements you have now are bdinging if your break up.

In many states, until there is a court order, the woman has sole legal custody. I dont care if you are on the birth certificate or not. Go get a court order for custody, support and parenting time should you ever break up. This will also prevent her, in most cases, from being able to leave the state with the kids.

That or don't listen to me and 3 years down the road you can spend 20K fighting about this with a lawyer like me. Lawyers make a lot of money off of other's stupidity.

lansing community college is right down the road from where im moving into and michigan state univeristy is as well. and shes going to go to MSU after the twins are here. im going to get a degree in criminal justice shes going for some ultrasound thing

Well I got three little girl. Trust me life has definitly changd in the past 6 years! Instead of wanting to go the bar, I'd much rather get some movies and hang out with my 3 little girls for the night. Its what alot of people would call unlucky, I call it a miracle! It was funny I had a buddy who called me and was scared to death once his new one arrived. He said am I really going to love this kid like I should? I told him it all comes in time, don't worry things always fall into place. 6 months later he says he couldnt be happier.

Originally Posted by Rubes

lansing community college is right down the road from where im moving into and michigan state univeristy is as well. and shes going to go to MSU after the twins are here. im going to get a degree in criminal justice shes going for some ultrasound thing

go into nursing

why would i go into nursing when i have connections to get into the police force in michigan?

$$$$$$$$$

oh dont worry im fine on the money part...