Thread: Buying a birthday present for your girlfriend

Fragrance has always been a winner for me. HOT by Ralph Lauren is pretty sweet. Often overlooked items are shoes and handbags. They take some thought and chicks dig that.

Thanks for the reply.

The fragrance isn't a bad idea, neither are the shoes or handbags.

Thing is: I wouldn't want to get her a pair of shoes and then have them not fit. The handbag idea is great but when she's walking around with Michael Kors $300+ dollar handbags, I'm not going to be able to "beat" that in a sense.

an extravagant pair of shoes or handbag is a good idea. something she wouldn't normally treat herself to. you could take her shopping for shoes it'd be very hard to choose them for her n have her be wowed.

LW,

can you maybe list a few pairs of shoes and a couple handbags that you like so I can some ideas/get the ball rolling.

A handbag would be perfect because having been with her for only two months, I'm not entirely sure I want to get her something as personal as an extravagant piece of jewelry.

For the record, I'm leaning towards getting her a nice pair of pearl earrings.

Maybe shell out for a pair of black pearls.

We'll see, Hmm..

Handbags and shoes are good, IF you know what she likes or wants. It would always be an easy win cuz women never have enough of either, but theyre picky about them.

hrm, granted this is on the side of "playing games," but 2 months seems a bit too early for extravegant jewelry/bags/etc., but if yall are there then for all means do it. My gut feeling though early

My girl's b-day is coming up and I dont know what to get her either. She lives 5 hours away now too.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

Handbags and shoes are good, IF you know what she likes or wants. It would always be an easy win cuz women never have enough of either, but theyre picky about them.

I know what she likes but not even that seems like enough.

I'll go to a store with her and be eyeing a pair (with her in mind) that I'm about to suggest to her and then she'll pick them up and I'll crack a huge smile and she'll turn to me and go "these might be the ugliest shoes I've ever seen."

"Picky" is an understatement.

Originally Posted by Crono1000

hrm, granted this is on the side of "playing games," but 2 months seems a bit too early for extravegant jewelry/bags/etc., but if yall are there then for all means do it. My gut feeling though early

Exactly.

I'm at that point where I'd rather get her a nice outfit or something that isn't "personal," but I'm not confident enough/don't know her well enough to get her something like that.

These pearl earrings I'm seeing look really nice.

i'd have to say go with the earrings..

Originally Posted by AKIRA

My girl's b-day is coming up and I dont know what to get her either. She lives 5 hours away now too.

Buying presents for girls sucks.

I wish you well.

Fuck that shit. Back hand that bitch and say "Bitch, what you get me for your Bday!" JK!!! I'm cheap id go with a stuffed animal and take her out to dinner.

Taking her out to dinner, spending $100+ dollars on a gift, going out and buying her drinks for her 21st.

No jew here.

Selfless quality time where you devote yourself to her, followed by shopping is a big winner. Breakfast in bed, and not the kind that ends up with you getting laid, the kind where she gets pampered in the way that she wants. That means you keep your pecker in your pants and maybe just work out your oral skills. After you've sufficiently spoiled her rotten then present her the gift she has already told you to buy. She has btw ... she has already left you some hints somewhere somehow over the last few weeks of what she wants. If you don't know, you somehow didn't get her memo ... then just grab the plastic and go adventuring to the kinds of shops we men always avoid and just stand around patiently as she shops. Smile a lot, don't wander off to the electronics stores ... just WAIT on her. Make her buy the good stuff too, not the cheap shit. Now comes the hard part. End it in a way that doesn't get you laid (unless she has the need to get thoroughly pounded then of course you must make the lil lady happy, but she gets off a bunch and you only a little). You need her to know that it was all about her, not some grand scam to get you your yayahs.

If she's a good girl, you will see the results of this investment in your relationship pay off hugely brother. You get a happy contented female wandering around yor life lovin' on ya for putting her needs above yours.

Good times

Good post, BC.

You could break up with her until after the birthday... At 20 you shouldn't have a girlfriend anyway. You should be out banging everything under the sun and not ever buying them anything

Originally Posted by NeilPearson

You could break up with her until after the birthday... At 20 you shouldn't have a girlfriend anyway. You should be out banging everything under the sun and not ever buying them anything

Well aware, my friend

hmm yea 2 months might be kinda early for extravagant shoes because it'd be $300 n up... earrings sound nice but jewelry is so hard to pick out too. a good perfume is a nice gift...

even 2 women shopping together will have very different tastes so maybe taking her shopping is a good idea. you could just tell her you want to get her something she really loves for her birthday and figure the best way to do that is to ask her.

BoneCrushers post is really good but follow her lead with the sex. she might feel hurt and disappointed if she thinks you don't want to make love to her.

Originally Posted by Little Wing

hmm yea 2 months might be kinda early for extravagant shoes because it'd be $300 n up... earrings sound nice but jewelry is so hard to pick out too. a good perfume is a nice gift...

even 2 women shopping together will have very different tastes so maybe taking her shopping is a good idea. you could just tell her you want to get her something she really loves for her birthday and figure the best way to do that is to ask her.

BoneCrushers post is really good but follow her lead with the sex. she might feel hurt and disappointed if she thinks you don't want to make love to her.

So what do you do for a girl that IMPLORES me not to get her shit? I got to get her something.

I wanted to get her 2-3 big things or a bunch of little things.

She loves fashion in general, but I wouldnt know what to get personally. I know where she lives (Miami), but I dont know what stores she likes. I know where she lives, but I dont have her address (cant send her anything). Not to mention, the moment I start asking questions, she picks up on it and doesnt tell me anything she wants.

Shes concerned about me spending money on her...being a college student and all.

Fucking her is no problem. I know she wants ME for her birthday, but her schedule gets in the way with mine.

Does she have a home or an apartment???

Get her something practical that she needs, but would never buy like tools or something.

I think $100+ is too much to be spending on a single gift after only two months. You must really like her. I would say the dinner and the drinks at her party is a good idea and make good "gifts." That alone sounds like it'll run over $100 easily for just her since you are in Chicago.

If you haven't cooked for her yet (or haven't cooked much), maybe learn how to make a new dish and cook it for her. Get some wine and some cheesecake to go with, perhaps some grapes as well which you could feed to her before you take her to bed. Just do something different, she'll be surprised and love it.

Originally Posted by AKIRA

So what do you do for a girl that IMPLORES me not to get her shit? I got to get her something.

I wanted to get her 2-3 big things or a bunch of little things.

She loves fashion in general, but I wouldnt know what to get personally. I know where she lives (Miami), but I dont know what stores she likes. I know where she lives, but I dont have her address (cant send her anything). Not to mention, the moment I start asking questions, she picks up on it and doesnt tell me anything she wants.

Shes concerned about me spending money on her...being a college student and all.

Fucking her is no problem. I know she wants ME for her birthday, but her schedule gets in the way with mine.

making giving yourself to her a big event. find out a night she has completely free and spring for a night in a nice hotel with a spa maybe, no interruptions, a goody bag full of things like massage oil and some fluffy little handcuffs or something you can have fun with but won't be too shocking. a really good champagne if she likes it. if she says "oh you shouldn't have..." let her know it's as much a treat to yourself as to her. take some pics of the two of you n later frame a good one and send it to her.

a good memory is better than a good "thing". for me i'd like something like a candlelight night on an otherwise deserted beach or a fire out in the desert. a dark place away from the city where you can look at the stars n talk.

Pay in cash when you buy for your girlfriend.

Originally Posted by Little Wing

bag full of things like massage oil and some fluffy little handcuffs or something you can have fun with

Two months and LW is already breaking out the handcuffs!?

Originally Posted by The Monkey Man

Does she have a home or an apartment???

Get her something practical that she needs, but would never buy like tools or something.

... dude not even. Women do not like man stuff for their special days. Get her the tools on some off the wall day like presidents day, but on the big ones don't get her kitchen ware (I did that on our 5th anniversary ... like $500 worth of microwave shit), tools, or lawn implements.

It's got to be special, sexy, sparkly, or make her moan and quiver. Anything less might send you back to the unemployment line.

If your sex life is wide open then look at some killer toys. By her a new B.O.B, then sneak into play while you go down on her. If you haven't already done this to her, you'll shoot right to the top of her A list for next to nothing.

A Spa Day is something any girl would love.