Thread: Is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal?

Heh - just like we always thought. So great when research confirms what we have observed.

So many gay guys start out in the closet with some amount of internalized homophobia. It's really pretty sad.

I've always suspected most cases were like this....

My cousin is a great example. He used to go overboard with his trying to be macho, he listened to Rush Limbaugh, volunteered for any Republican candidate he could and tried to pretend he was rugged good ole country boy. He drove his jacked up four by four truck and used to always complain about fags amd "niggras"(thats how they say "niggers" in Texas. He even used to make jokes about taking his lasso down to Montrose, the gay part of Houston, TX and roping a queer(like roping a steer) and dragging him down the road until his dress tore off..... Then Halloween of '99 he dressed as a woman with his new black buddy he'd met at work and from that day forward he continued wearing dresses, he also broke up with his GF of 12 years and moved in with the "niggra" friend he dressed up with on Halloween......Now he is a Democrat, with another black man and stopped doing drag but is proudly gay.....I am totally happy for him now I couldn't stand who he was before that......

bloody homos

Originally Posted by maniclion

......Now he is a Democrat, with another black man and stopped doing drag but is proudly gay.....

Am I the only one that finds this funny?

Yes

Generalizations...
Who cares anyway?

Originally Posted by maniclion

I've always suspected most cases were like this....

My cousin is a great example. He used to go overboard with his trying to be macho, he listened to Rush Limbaugh, volunteered for any Republican candidate he could and tried to pretend he was rugged good ole country boy. He drove his jacked up four by four truck and used to always complain about fags amd "niggras"(thats how they say "niggers" in Texas. He even used to make jokes about taking his lasso down to Montrose, the gay part of Houston, TX and roping a queer(like roping a steer) and dragging him down the road until his dress tore off..... Then Halloween of '99 he dressed as a woman with his new black buddy he'd met at work and from that day forward he continued wearing dresses, he also broke up with his GF of 12 years and moved in with the "niggra" friend he dressed up with on Halloween......Now he is a Democrat, with another black man and stopped doing drag but is proudly gay.....I am totally happy for him now I couldn't stand who he was before that......

Your cousin is TexanTa?

I suspect this guy at work is gay....that's all he ever talks about all day...how he hates them...

Originally Posted by min0 lee

I suspect this guy at work is gay....that's all he ever talks about all day...how he hates them...

Or he's just an idiot.

Seriously, who cares? Who would spend their energy all day
just downing other people? Sounds like he's depressed.

We all tell him this all the time.

Those who constantly complain about things most are usually guilty of it themselves.

Originally Posted by min0 lee

Yes

Originally Posted by min0 lee

I suspect this guy at work is gay....that's all he ever talks about all day...how he hates them...

Print the study and drop it on his desk, or slip it in his locker or where ever he's most likely to find it and then see if he tones down his homophobia.......

Originally Posted by bio-chem

Your homophoobic?
I thought you just disagreed with things..

Originally Posted by min0 lee

Your homophoobic?
I thought you just disagreed with things..

i'm not homophobic. i was sad that im the only one that found that funny. it's funny to me that the guy is happier because he is a gay democrat.

what if someone is trannyphobic?

Originally Posted by bio-chem

i'm not homophobic. i was sad that im the only one that found that funny. it's funny to me that the guy is happier because he is a gay democrat.

Personally I think you found it funny that hes become a democrat since coming out. But since no one else took the bait your back peddling.

Originally Posted by Little Wing

what if someone is trannyphobic?

There just a stupid as someone who is homophobic.

Originally Posted by Moondogg

Personally I think you found it funny that hes become a democrat since coming out. But since no one else took the bait your back peddling.

no i'm not back peddling. that is exactly what i found funny. thanks for putting it so accurately. the idea that someone who is gay should be a democrat is funny to me.

Originally Posted by bio-chem

no i'm not back peddling. that is exactly what i found funny. thanks for putting it so accurately. the idea that someone who is gay should be a democrat is funny to me.

I find it funny as well, if I lived in the states I would probably have voted democrate. (if anything just because I hated GWB, espically his international policies and im also pro choice. My opinion on Obama is still to be formed) But I would say a lot of americans just follow what society feels they should do, i.e. religious/conservative morals = republican less religious/black/inner city/ lower class/gay = democrates What I mean is they dont follow logic or pay attention to the policies of the respective candidate, which is why im still waiting to see if Obama was a lot of hot air and hype or can actually get the job done.

Originally Posted by Moondogg

But I would say a lot of americans just follow what society feels they should do, i.e. religious/conservative morals = republican less religious/black/inner city/ lower class/gay = democrates What I mean is they dont follow logic or pay attention to the policies of the respective candidate,.

the united kingdom doesn't have this same problem?

Originally Posted by Moondogg

I find it funny as well, if I lived in the states I would probably have voted democrate. (if anything just because I hated GWB, espically his international policies and im also pro choice. My opinion on Obama is still to be formed) But I would say a lot of americans just follow what society feels they should do, i.e. religious/conservative morals = republican less religious/black/inner city/ lower class/gay = democrates What I mean is they dont follow logic or pay attention to the policies of the respective candidate, which is why im still waiting to see if Obama was a lot of hot air and hype or can actually get the job done.

In every society, most people are just concerned with fitting in...no matter what that entails.

it's called being weak.

And it's surely not just an American trait.

Originally Posted by bio-chem

the united kingdom doesn't have this same problem?

In the UK the parties arnt as segretated as in the US, i.e. you dont vote for one party or another based on your religious beliefs/morals/values/upper or lower class, basically there all shit and everyone thinks so. Its like someone asking you which leg you want to be shot in, neithers very appealing.

Although at least in the US they make attempt to help the voting public understand their polocies, what plans they have and what direction they want to take the country. Over here they spend the entire time making mistakes, claiming HUGE expense bills for second homes(which they then rent out, big scandal atm) and calling each other incompetitant.(which is true to be fair)

You guys have actually got it pretty good. Although, even though the general public is less informed, they normally dont bother to vote. So at least they dont voice their ignorance.

Originally Posted by Moondogg

There just a stupid as someone is homophobic.

i was implying that secretly trannys give my trannyphobic friend wood. stupid but also telling. he seems to like pornstars that other men think look like trannys too, for example vanessa vidal 2 and laura angel 2 3 who both have those big painted on horror brows like devine... um his online name is even that of a famous tranny.

I have a few friends who are obsessed with calling people 'gay' or 'fag' (I'm in my early 20s). I think they might be closet homosexuals or at least bisexual. I have a lot of gay friends from being in a design related major and they always try to give me hell for it. They're really just jealous because I get to meet so many of my gay friends' female friends. I don't see what the big deal is - aside from occasional 'queen' esq attitude when they're pissed and trendier clothing, they're not really different. I can hang with pretty much anybody. I like having diverse friends. The homophobia thing is getting tired. I hate having political conversations with my conservative friends. "Gays shouldn't be able to marry, next thing you know people are going to want to marry calculators". Yeah, and next thing you know, those d@mn women will want voting rights too!

"Homophobic" is a term that is misused more often than it is used correctly.

Originally Posted by flashinglights

I have a few friends who are obsessed with calling people 'gay' or 'fag' (I'm in my early 20s). I think they might be closet homosexuals or at least bisexual. I have a lot of gay friends from being in a design related major and they always try to give me hell for it. They're really just jealous because I get to meet so many of my gay friends' female friends. I don't see what the big deal is - aside from occasional 'queen' esq attitude when they're pissed and trendier clothing, they're not really different. I can hang with pretty much anybody. I like having diverse friends. The homophobia thing is getting tired. I hate having political conversations with my conservative friends. "Gays shouldn't be able to marry, next thing you know people are going to want to marry calculators". Yeah, and next thing you know, those d@mn women will want voting rights too!

Nice guys who have gay friends can always get a date, gay men love to play match maker with their fag hag girlfriends, and they always choose the marriage material nice guys....I think it's because they love to go to weddings....