Thread: Insight into the Female Orgasm

Heh. So it's true. I AM a guy.

Unless... ? <places feet in cold water, prepares to test the "cold feet" conjecture>

Originally Posted by Muscle_Girl

I am not an expert, I am simply going based on my own experiences and research.

I would have to say that 70% of men have no clue how to get a woman off, and those of you saying "I damn well do know, this chick screamed for hours," she was probably faking it. Nearly just as many women have no clue how to get themselves off. Every woman has faked it at one point or another, whether the reason was to end a terrible encounter, or simply give a guy trying so damn hard a pat on the back, it has happened. Here are a few things to take into consideration if you are genuinely trying to please a woman:

- It takes a guy roughly 2-10 minutes of stimulation to reach an orgasm; women require up to 30 minutes of stimulation to be in a position to achieve an orgasm. **Note that stimulation is defined as foreplay, keep in mind that constant direct clitoral/vaginal contact doesn't count (imagine rubbing the same spot on your arm with sand paper for 30 minutes, thats what it feels like for a woman when her clit is over-stimulated), foreplay in the form of kissing, massaging, rubbing various body parts is most likely to arouse her to the point of being able to achieve an orgasm once stimulated properly (clitorally).

- The female areola/nipple is the complete opposite of the male, it has almost no feeling, and is often not an arousal point for women. If you want to play around up top, caress her breasts, gently, if you are rough, it can cause great pain.

- Women can only feel about 2 inches into their vagina, the rest is senseless, though if the top wall (towards her head) is hit, it can cause pain.

- Just because she is wet, doesn't mean she is ready. There is a process in which the female body goes into when stimulated sexually, muscles relax in preparation for the penis, which is why foreplay is very important. If you go in dry, you will only cause her pain and damage.

- The female vagina often can only support 3-6 inches of length, this is after she is stimulated enough. If you are larger, you are most likely causing her pain by going too far.

- Almost all women are self-conscious of their smell down there, this can distract us from actually achieving an orgasm.

- Women are easily distracted from the task at hand, they can often end up thinking about how their day was, appointments in the future, you name it, if she isn't into it, her mind is elsewhere. Try to keep her on task by reminding her to control her breathing, focusing on breathing will allow her to clear her mind, and hopefully have a better chance at achieving an orgasm.

- When sleeping with a guy for the first few times, women rarely achieve orgasms, mostly because they are not fully comfortable and are greatly self-conscious of how you view them, how they smell, whether they are doing things right, etc.

- A woman will almost never achieve an orgasm if her feet are cold.

- The female orgasm can last anywhere from 10 seconds to several minutes, also, several orgasms can be achieved over a short period of time.

- The female sexual fluid is actually sweat produced during arousal, the only way she could end up "squirting" is if she produces a significant amount and this is released from muscles contracting.



As with anything, there are always exceptions, but for the most part, these facts apply to the majority of women. Hopefully, with a little insight, there will be a few more pleased women out there. Knowledge is power!

good post muscle, now thats why my wife wouldnt talk to me these past 20 yrs, ok now i get it. lol.

Originally Posted by Built

Heh. So it's true. I AM a guy.

Unless... ? <places feet in cold water, prepares to test the "cold feet" conjecture>

As I said, there are exceptions

Feel free to post what works for you.

Originally Posted by Muscle_Girl

- The female areola/nipple is the complete opposite of the male, it has almost no feeling, and is often not an arousal point for women.

Everything sounds good except for this. I've seen too many women get off on playing with their nipples. If the arousal is not physical in origin, it's probably psychological. Either way, it works.

I've never had a problem getting a girl to orgasm. Mostly because I like to do it orally. I go down so long that I need a snorkel and a lunch.

I could tell you a very good way to give most women orgasm but I wont say it. You may think I am joking but it is not for everyone to know.

"Come on V, if you knew anything.."

"V, you dont know anyhing about it!"

I do but I really wont say it.

Why do I care what she feels. . . . .

[QUOTE=Muscle_Girl;2026024]I am not an expert, I am simply going based on my own experiences and research.


- The female areola/nipple is the complete opposite of the male, it has almost no feeling, and is often not an arousal point for women. If you want to play around up top, caress her breasts, gently, if you are rough, it can cause great pain.


This is entirely opposite my experience. Indeed, I have been with women who come close to orgasm, simply through persistent attention to their breasts. This includes one woman who had implants -- granted, very good ones, not the cheap plastic models. Which may explain the difference in sensitivity. Something I find interesting is that a few women -- very few -- orgasm so intensely that they seem completely disoriented afterward, as if in a fog, and very vulnerable. Particularly true of the one woman I was with who squirted convulsively during orgasm. Which was really fun. Anyone else experienced this?

At my age I just cut to the chase and ask her: What gets you off?
Saves a whole bunch of time getting there. Then it's just perfecting things.

Originally Posted by 2tomlinson

Something I find interesting is that a few women -- very few -- orgasm so intensely that they seem completely disoriented afterward, as if in a fog, and very vulnerable. Particularly true of the one woman I was with who squirted convulsively during orgasm.

I really like what you wrote above.

it's hard for me to get off if a guy ignores my nipples. they are very sensitive and a key factor for me anyway in sexual arousal. i also think i may be a guy. it takes me 3 minutes to get off. and i don't think pussy juice is anything at all like sweat. sweat is like salty water but pussy juice is clear and thicker like hmmm lube. it's more than sweat.

My ex wife was a squirter. The first time she was laying on top of me, with me on my back, and her facing away from me. With me in her and rubbing the sweet spot. Suddenly she sprayed my toes. All action ceased.

"Did you just pee on me?"

"I dont know...I dont think so"

"If you peed on me I'm going to be pissed".

Anyway, after a few rounds of this, she was concerned enough to go to her gyno who told her that it was normal and can happen to some women when they orgasm, and to (and I quote) just enjoy it. Which we did. Unfortunately, so did every other guy in town while I was at work, but thats another story.

Anyway, definately not sweat. I am talking about a fairly substantial amount of liquid. Not as extreme as Cytheria, but not all that far off either.

Great post!

This is very interesting. What I gather from this is, the original poster probably did very little research. Her post was based mostly on her own physiology and experience, so not very telling or inclusive.

speaking as a male, so i should know, my nipples are not sensitive at all. female nipples have all sorts of nerves in their, that is why you see so many females with hard nipples all the time that have had breast implants, it usually makes them more sensitive. now, sometimes the nerves get damaged during the implant procedure and they do loose their sensitivety. some females just have more sensitive nipples than others. everybody is different. i have also seen females get to the point of an orgasm by playing with thier nipples. i have been told more than once to just rub the nipple. lol pussy juice is just mucus, no sweat glands down there that i am aware of. no offense but it sounds like you copied your post from a book about how to please a woman and not personnal experience. as a male i get distracted easily, dam headboard banging against the wall is the worst. women and men both will have better sex with each other the more they do it. i have heard of a few women that have a hard time with orgasm. it sounds like you maybe one of them.

if it feels like sand paper when a man rubbs your clit, you need some lube. ky jelly works great. skip the heat ky as it burns sensitive people sometimes. nothing killin the mood worse than a pussy on fire. lmao

Originally Posted by airtime

if it feels like sand paper when a man rubbs your clit, you need some lube. lmao

Airtime, are you male, female or sharing a computer?

Originally Posted by Muscle_Girl

I am not an expert, I am simply going based on my own experiences and research.

I would have to say that 70% of men have no clue how to get a woman off, and those of you saying "I damn well do know, this chick screamed for hours," she was probably faking it. Nearly just as many women have no clue how to get themselves off. Every woman has faked it at one point or another, whether the reason was to end a terrible encounter, or simply give a guy trying so damn hard a pat on the back, it has happened. Here are a few things to take into consideration if you are genuinely trying to please a woman:

- It takes a guy roughly 2-10 minutes of stimulation to reach an orgasm; women require up to 30 minutes of stimulation to be in a position to achieve an orgasm. **Note that stimulation is defined as foreplay, keep in mind that constant direct clitoral/vaginal contact doesn't count (imagine rubbing the same spot on your arm with sand paper for 30 minutes, thats what it feels like for a woman when her clit is over-stimulated), foreplay in the form of kissing, massaging, rubbing various body parts is most likely to arouse her to the point of being able to achieve an orgasm once stimulated properly (clitorally).

- The female areola/nipple is the complete opposite of the male, it has almost no feeling, and is often not an arousal point for women. If you want to play around up top, caress her breasts, gently, if you are rough, it can cause great pain.

- Women can only feel about 2 inches into their vagina, the rest is senseless, though if the top wall (towards her head) is hit, it can cause pain.

- Just because she is wet, doesn't mean she is ready. There is a process in which the female body goes into when stimulated sexually, muscles relax in preparation for the penis, which is why foreplay is very important. If you go in dry, you will only cause her pain and damage.

- The female vagina often can only support 3-6 inches of length, this is after she is stimulated enough. If you are larger, you are most likely causing her pain by going too far.

- Almost all women are self-conscious of their smell down there, this can distract us from actually achieving an orgasm.

- Women are easily distracted from the task at hand, they can often end up thinking about how their day was, appointments in the future, you name it, if she isn't into it, her mind is elsewhere. Try to keep her on task by reminding her to control her breathing, focusing on breathing will allow her to clear her mind, and hopefully have a better chance at achieving an orgasm.

- When sleeping with a guy for the first few times, women rarely achieve orgasms, mostly because they are not fully comfortable and are greatly self-conscious of how you view them, how they smell, whether they are doing things right, etc.

- A woman will almost never achieve an orgasm if her feet are cold.

- The female orgasm can last anywhere from 10 seconds to several minutes, also, several orgasms can be achieved over a short period of time.

- The female sexual fluid is actually sweat produced during arousal, the only way she could end up "squirting" is if she produces a significant amount and this is released from muscles contracting.



As with anything, there are always exceptions, but for the most part, these facts apply to the majority of women. Hopefully, with a little insight, there will be a few more pleased women out there. Knowledge is power!

id have to say its the other way around for me, gf usually done in 10-15min and cums hard most of time for about 20-40sec and me usualy 20-40min.
thats IF shes in the mood wich is 99% of time or we ant doing it :-(

i am male, i was just exploring my feminine side. lol been married along time, wife has no problem telling me what to do.

Originally Posted by 2tomlinson

Airtime, are you male, female or sharing a computer?

Originally Posted by Muscle_Girl

- It takes a guy roughly 2-10 minutes of stimulation to reach an orgasm; women require up to 30 minutes of stimulation to be in a position to achieve an orgasm. **Note that stimulation is defined as foreplay, keep in mind that constant direct clitoral/vaginal contact doesn't count (imagine rubbing the same spot on your arm with sand paper for 30 minutes, thats what it feels like for a woman when her clit is over-stimulated), foreplay in the form of kissing, massaging, rubbing various body parts is most likely to arouse her to the point of being able to achieve an orgasm once stimulated properly (clitorally).

True (with my wife), lots of foreplay, no directly going to breast/downstairs. Lots of warmup in whatever ways possible, working closer to aforementioned bodyparts o' pleasure. Eventually I get to gently running fingers on either side of the vag, and tongue as well, she loves it.

- Women can only feel about 2 inches into their vagina, the rest is senseless, though if the top wall (towards her head) is hit, it can cause pain.

I'll have to ask her specifics, because she LOVES it deep. I have heard some women like being punched in the cervix.

- Almost all women are self-conscious of their smell down there, this can distract us from actually achieving an orgasm.

Yes, she doesn't like me going down if she hasn't showered, I usually do anyway, but with initial resistance Anything to break the mood, i.e. telling jokes, breaks a woman from going to O Town.

- Women are easily distracted from the task at hand, they can often end up thinking about how their day was, appointments in the future, you name it, if she isn't into it, her mind is elsewhere. Try to keep her on task by reminding her to control her breathing, focusing on breathing will allow her to clear her mind, and hopefully have a better chance at achieving an orgasm.

Guess you covered that, yep.

- When sleeping with a guy for the first few times, women rarely achieve orgasms, mostly because they are not fully comfortable and are greatly self-conscious of how you view them, how they smell, whether they are doing things right, etc.

Early on we'd go at it for an hour or so, now its usually 20-30 minutes. A woman has to be comfortable, and they have to know each others preferences somewhat.

- A woman will almost never achieve an orgasm if her feet are cold.

I believe it, but I'm glad to hear it because she is cold a lot. I'm on the other hand always wearing shorts/tanks, so I'm the hot one. Note to self, more thick night socks!

Originally Posted by DOMS

Everything sounds good except for this. I've seen too many women get off on playing with their nipples.

Its a must with my wife, so I make sure to get some kind of action going each and every time RIGHT before O if not frequently during the rest of the session. Guess I skipped this one somehow. An absolute must.

guess what fellas? The GF's coming round for Steak and Blowjob night!

Originally Posted by jmorrison

"Did you just pee on me?"

"I dont know...I dont think so"

"If you peed on me I'm going to be pissed".

Obviously.

Originally Posted by jmorrison

My ex wife was a squirter. The first time she was laying on top of me, with me on my back, and her facing away from me. With me in her and rubbing the sweet spot. Suddenly she sprayed my toes. All action ceased.

"Did you just pee on me?"

"I dont know...I dont think so"

"If you peed on me I'm going to be pissed".

Anyway, after a few rounds of this, she was concerned enough to go to her gyno who told her that it was normal and can happen to some women when they orgasm, and to (and I quote) just enjoy it. Which we did. Unfortunately, so did every other guy in town while I was at work, but thats another story.

Anyway, definately not sweat. I am talking about a fairly substantial amount of liquid. Not as extreme as Cytheria, but not all that far off either.

This part comes from my research, and it makes perfect sense. The vagina needs this fluid to be able to function properly BEFORE the guy goes at it. The wall lining secretes this fluid upon arousal and due to the intense contraction of muscles during an orgasm, there is only one way for it to go, out

I have heard some stories about women who were so relaxed that they peed on their partner, apparently its also a fairly common thing.

Originally Posted by Mudge

I believe it, but I'm glad to hear it because she is cold a lot. I'm on the other hand always wearing shorts/tanks, so I'm the hot one. Note to self, more thick night socks!

Or, perhaps, a nice foot massage? Works both ways, gets her feet warm and is also likely to arouse her if you do it the right way

Originally Posted by airtime

speaking as a male, so i should know, my nipples are not sensitive at all. female nipples have all sorts of nerves in their, that is why you see so many females with hard nipples all the time that have had breast implants, it usually makes them more sensitive. now, sometimes the nerves get damaged during the implant procedure and they do loose their sensitivety. some females just have more sensitive nipples than others. everybody is different. i have also seen females get to the point of an orgasm by playing with thier nipples. i have been told more than once to just rub the nipple. lol pussy juice is just mucus, no sweat glands down there that i am aware of. no offense but it sounds like you copied your post from a book about how to please a woman and not personnal experience. as a male i get distracted easily, dam headboard banging against the wall is the worst. women and men both will have better sex with each other the more they do it. i have heard of a few women that have a hard time with orgasm. it sounds like you maybe one of them.

I will agree with you, there are probably plenty of women who have sensitve nipples. But, the female body is made for child birth and nurturing, so the majority of women have limited sensitivity. The breast is a completely different thing, it is very sensitive.

I should have specified that the fluid produced was like sweat, in which it is produced throughout arousal, rather than ejaculated. Thats all I was meaning.

I had a lot of trouble when it came down to achieving an orgasm when I was younger. It wasn't until I researched all of this before I could actually make it happen. Probably was a partial cause to a break up between myself and my ex, I resented him most of the time for not being able to please me the way I wanted. I learned from my mistakes in all of that though

i think a woman worrying she won't orgasm is kin to a man fearing he won't get hard. the worry will make sex not very enjoyable. stay in the moment and speak up. tell your lover what you'd like. say "touch my breast, my nipples don't feel as much" if that's true for you... and don't make it happen let it happen. take the pressure off yourself and you'll get there faster. concentrate on finding out what brings you the most intense pleasure not the big o.